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Table of ContentsEditor’s Note . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

The buzz about antioxidants . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7

A Weigh of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9

Tailgating . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10, 11

The many faces of breast cancer . . . . . .16, 17

Where to get help . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18

Images Woven In Silk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19

Scarves . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20, 21

Ask A Man . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24

Covered In Silk . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .25-30

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Every morning when I pull out of my driveway I take a look back at

my house. It’s a modest brick home that sits in a quiet neighborhood

where the only exciting thing that happens is the occasional dog escap-

ing from its perfectly manicured yard.

During that last glance before I drive off to the office I look at the

rose bush that sits in my front yard. I’d like to take credit for the vitality

of the roses but I can’t. The roses came with the house. The former

owner is the green thumb that planted the bush and made sure it had

the nutrients it needs to stay alive all these years. Right now the red

blooms invade your mind with their beauty. So red. So fragrant. I swear

if I could bottle up that smell and sell it to a perfume counter I’d put

Calvin Klein out of business.

One morning I decided to clip a few roses and take them to the

office with me. Why should I enjoy nature’s beauty only when I’m

pulling in and out of my driveway? Thinking that my desk was in desper-

ate need of some sprucing, I went into the garage and got my shears.

From there I went into the house to get a vase. I was on a mission.

Admiring the beauty of the roses, I totally was oblivious to the fact

there were thorns waiting to bite my fingers. When that first thorn

reached out and grabbed me, it was a reminder to me that life is beauti-

ful but sometimes we are surprised by the pain we encounter.

After I had a few moments to think about my morning quest for the

perfect rose I was reminded of how life imitates nature.

For years, all forms of cancer have been an uninvited dinner guest in

many homes. Showing up, scaring the dickens out of those diagnosed.

Recently I was asked why is the issue of breast cancer heard about

more than prostate cancer or colon cancer. That was an answer I didn’t

have. The only thing I could think of was, as women, we take care of our

families and our homes and we do it with style, class and determination.

So when it comes to fighting breast cancer we stand together as one.

We stand strong. And we fight hard for our families, our homes and for

our lives.

When I left for work that morning, the morning I had a vase and two

roses in my car, I still turned back to look at the rose bush. Even though

I had been reminded that life can be painful, I still admired the beauti-

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It shouts at you from the colorful packag-ing: “With powerful antioxidants!” With the vaguepromise of health and well-being, you itch to pick itup and put it in your grocery cart. But wait — whatexactly are antioxidants? With so many products nowtouting antioxidants, many people understand thatthey’re good for you, but most still don’t know exactlywhat they are.

According to the American Dietetic Association,antioxidants can help prevent certain kinds of diseaseas well as prevent the signs of aging. During theprocess in which our bodies use oxygen, some oxygenparticles are created that can be harmful to the body,damaging cells and possibly leading to chronic disease.The particles, called free radicals, can be naturally cre-ated or caused by external forces such as pollution.Antioxidants, however, bind to the free radicals, reduc-ing their power for destruction.

Keri Hale, community dietitian with NormanRegional Health System, gave a more easily understoodexample to explain antioxidants. If you cut an apple,she said, oxygen will turn the apple brown in a shortamount of time. However, if

you dip an apple in orange juice right after you cut it,the Vitamin C (an antioxidant) will prevent the applefrom browning, Hale said.

There are many different antioxidants and they canbe found a in a variety of fruits, vegetables and healthyfats. Some examples include: Beta carotene that can befound in carrots, sweet potatoes, apricots, broccoli andspinach. Lycopene is found in tomatoes, watermelonand grapefruit. Vitamin C is available in citrus fruits,spinach and broccoli. Vitamin E can be found in foodswith healthy fats such as nuts, avocados and canola oil.The difference between antioxidants and other nutri-ents, Hale said, is that these are necessary vitamins“that our body doesn’t make. It’s dependent on us eat-ing them.”

Hale agreed that most people don’t understand whatantioxidants are, but she said it’s a smart marketingploy anyway. “I don’t think most people understand atall what that means, they just think, ‘Oh, antioxidants’”and think the product will be good for them. Hale saidpeople need to understand that the best way to ingestantioxidants is in foods where it occurs naturally.However, if you don’t consume those foods regularly,supplements or food that’s had antioxidants added to itwill be better than nothing.

An easy way to include antioxidants in your diet isto make sure you’re eating lots of colors, Hale said.

“The deeper the color, the brighter the color, iswhere a lot of those nutrients are stored,” she said.

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On a recent flight, I was seated beside a couple who conversedin fits and starts. Though they did not once appear to be frus-trated with one another or irritated in any way shape or form,when they talked, they spurted. She repeated herself a lot andhe began to respond to her original statement in the middle ofher restatement and for literally moments on end the two wouldtalk simultaneously like the cacophony of birds playing chase inthe trees. The moments following such abrasion were swollenin pregnant silence. Then another fit would be born, and thecrippled exchange would jolt along again like a stick shift in thehands of a virgin driver, the abruptness of which never ceased tostartle me. And though it was none of my business or concern,I ached for them and their limp.

In an awkward kind of way, I felt imprisoned by the uncomfort-able nature of this verbal gait. I kept wanting them to find apace, to feel a flow. I was a voyeur (a voyeur with little choicein the matter, but a voyeur still). And yet I could not let theirdissonance go. It grated on my mind like the sand in the heelof my right shoe.

Perhaps the discordant spattering of words pained me sobecause I find real talk to be intoxicating. I believe conversingis an art. And it’s almost as beautiful to witness as it is to beinvolved in. Think “Driving Miss Daisy” or “Twelve Angry Men”.Spaceships and bloodbaths sell movies but quintessentiallythrough the years nothing sells quite like words and the actorswho deliver them. Conversation has at its core the exchange ofthoughts, ideas, concepts, feelings….but real talk is more thanthat. It moves beyond what is said into the subtle delicacy ofhow it’s said and when it is said. Real talk is timing and spac-ing personified. And it can take your breath away when it’sdone well.

Unfortunately, artful conversations are rare. For example, I havea friend whom I adore, butI can’t talk to on thephone. We have no tim-ing. Were we to dance ourtoes would be bruised. We know each other well, yet try as wemay we have no modus operandi. So when she calls, weexchange information and we hang up And I always feel theneed to gargle. I love her but we have conversational arrhyth-mia. And it’s painful. At least for one of us.

On the other hand, I have friends with whom I can exchangewords and ideas like a Wimbledon volley. We seem to possessan innate sense of when the other is finished and it is our turn.There is a cadence and a pitch pipe and the melody is clear. It’sas mindless as spoon to mouth. We don’t have to try; there isno conscientious shifting of gears. We just go.

In the sport of basketball nothing is more beautiful or moreessential to purposeful offense than the perfect execution of the‘give and go’. The ball goes there, then the passer cuts here anda rhythm is born. It’s a deadly offense, impossible to defend.

And it’s breathtaking to observe. Conversation is no dif-ferent. Unfortunately, it’s almost as extinct.

I ache for ramblers and non-listeners and jagged inter-rupters, in the same way I ache for point guards who

can’t decidewhen to pass orwhere to cut. Iwish for them

clarity of thought, a booming drumbeat in their headand a partner who can be their foil. Yet I often wonderif I am aching for pains they do not have. Perhaps thosewho speak offbeat are like the tone deaf, happy to singalong at the top of their lungs because it all sounds likeheaven to them.

Good conversation is the glue of long, lusty marriagesand the lifeblood of thriving companies and nations.Real talk can heal a wound. It can tear down a wall. Itcan find a way out when there is none. It can re-starta heart.

But you won’t find it on every street corner or in everyrow on American Airlines. It is an art, an art to betreasured and enjoyed. And for those who can feel itspoetic ebb and flow, there is little finer.

Talk is cheap. Conversation: Priceless

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In the early 90s, former police chief Dan Cary and his wife,Bernetta, wanted to tailgate at the University of Oklahoma foot-ball game. They called a couple of friends, packed some foodand erected a canopy.

This fall, they and many other friends will set up fourcanopies and the “Fifth Quarter” will be open.

Although the Carys did not attendOU, they have three daughters and aniece they helped raise who are allSooners.

Tailgating for the Carys first startedon Lincoln Street behind O’Connells,“maybe the Louisville game,” Dan Carysaid.

“Someone had UPS deliver fresh lob-ster and we cooked it on the grass infront of the day care center,” Cary said.“The people from Louisville were reallyimpressed.”

The Carys, their daughters and agroup of friends from Ada tailgate notonly “football games but basketball,softball and everything.”

“My wife and daughter cook a lot ofstuff Friday night before the games,”Dan said. “We put up the canopies assoon as it is legal to get the spot youlike. There is a tremendous amount ofcanopies between Asp and Jenkins.We have moved to different groupsand different locations, and some-times different groups merge togeth-er. Everybody brings different fooditems. We bring in a charcoaler, satellite and TV, generator,table and chairs.”

“Everybody is really courteous,” Bernetta said. “We havenever had any issues. Sometimes we will have people staythere because they don’t have a ticket because we have thesatellite and they will watch TV. We’re just like one big family.

You try to get there and get your spot because you getacquainted with your neighbors.

“We tailgated with the softball women last year,” Bernettasaid. “Talk about tailgaters. We will do a little more next year.

They have lots of games.”The Carys travel to some away foot-

ball games, especially OU-Texas. “We’re anxious to see the new sta-

dium in Arlington,” she said. “It’sfun.”

Bernetta and her daughter, Danna,begin “power cooking” Fridayevening. Danna makes the pizzabread.“We make the brownie sheet cakemomma made but now it has cof-fee in it,” Bernetta said. “A lot ofpeople come around and grabthose.”

They make homemade salsa and“food you just pick up and eat,”Bernetta said. “Finger food.”They cook all kinds of barbecue. “TheAda group comes in 7 a.m. Saturdaywith brauts and all kinds of stuff on thegrill,” Bernetta said. Chicken, after thegame, depending on game time. Withthe traffic, you want to hang out for awhile anyway.”

“We make twice baked potatoes, babyback ribs, burgers, hot dogs, about every-thing you can think of that’s bad for youbut really good,” Bernetta said.

She makes the potatoes at home andlays them on the grill game day to melt the cheese. All thedesserts also are made at home.

One daughter, Brittney Stone, graduated this spring and willattend law school. However, she enrolled in a class this fall soshe “could have one more football tailgate season,” she said.

The art of tailgatingBy Peggy Laizure

Left: Steve Wright grills

up some meat and

vegetables as he and some

friends tailgate on the east

side of the OU stadium.

Right: Sooner fans tailgate

on the east side of the

OU stadium before the

start of a Sooners' game.

Photos by Kevin Ellis

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The many faces fEach year countless Oklahomans are affected by breast can-

cer. Whether you’re a family member, a friend or a survivoryourself, chances are your life has been touched by this diseaseas well. And beyond the screenings and the treatments is a dif-ficult, emotional struggle — one that impacts loved ones ofthose diagnosed almost as much as survivors themselves.

To learn more about the psychological side of breast cancer,Silk talked to survivors and their families about their personalbattles and what coping strategies helped them stay positive.

When Anne Austin was diagnosed with stage II breast cancerin 2003 she knew it was a fight she would win.

“It’s weird, but I don’t remember being afraid. I just thought‘I’m not going to die from this’… it was my gut reaction.”

Although she felt no fear for her own well-being, she wor-ried about how to tell her children.

“That was the worst part. I just didn’t know what to say tothem.”

Just two months ago Mary Khanghahi learned what it waslike to be on the receiving end of that conversation. DiagnosedJune 18, Khanghahi’s mother Zahra Khalili was hesitant tospeak about her breast cancer.

“When she called to tell me, she just kept saying ‘it’s notgood.’ It was really difficult for her to say the word ‘cancer.’”

Eventually Khalili opened up to her daughter, and Khanghahiis now actively involved in her mother’s recovery. Austin alsochose to be honest with her children about her diagnosis.

“Everyone said to go ahead and tell the kids, so I did… but Itried to always talk to them about it in a positive way.”

But no matter how a person learns of their loved one’s diag-nosis, the news is hard to take… and the subsequent fight toovercome the cancer can be even harder.

When Jack Willis, former Norman resident and OU professor,learned he was part of the 1 percent of men who have breastcancer, he was shocked to say the least. But the struggle to fol-low was even more trying, especially for wife Becky Willis.

“When they said cancer, to me that was like adeath sentence,” she says.

Hearing of her husband’s illness was not theworst of it, though. Following his mastectomy itwas decided that Jack would receive chemothera-py, and news of this treatment plan caused Beckyunderstandable concern.

“What worried me most about Jack wasthe chemo, and then to have to watch himgo through it was so hard,” she says. “Themedicine made him really emotional. It’shard for a wife to watch her husbandcry.”

For relief from the stress ofJack’s illness, Becky kept her-self busy. She worked part-time so she could attend allof Jack’s treatments andshe assumed the house-

hold chores Jack wasaccustomed to doing

when in better health. “Jack and I used to split

everything 50-50, andwhen he got sick Idid it all.”

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of breast cancerkeep hers and her mother’s minds offcancer.

“From morning till night we keepbusy. We go to dinners, movies, whatev-er we can to keep her occupied andkeep her from dwelling on it.”

Though the process has been difficultfor Khanghahi and her family, they tryconstantly to look on the bright side andnot let Khalili’s diagnosis become thecenter of attention.

“At first we were shocked and justbroke down… our minds immediatelywent to the worst scenario. My dad wasin denial and very upset about it, butonce we knew it was real and it was

happening westopped. We real-ized gettingupset wouldn’thelp anything,

and welearned tohope forthe best.”

Khanghahi cites her exten-sive family as her soundingboard and source of comfort

during her mother’s battle withbreast cancer, while Jack andBecky Willis say they were eachother’s best support groups.

“For six months ofchemotherapy it was just thetwo of us in our own world,”Becky says.

Austin says her friends andhusband, Jim, helped her getthrough the toughest times.

“Jim is a rock, so I could talkto him. When I’d start worrying

about having a mastectomy, he’d make ajoke about how I’d always wanted a boobjob. He could handle what I was going

through.” Austin says letters and words of

support from friends were vital

in keeping her spirits up.“My girlfriends were invaluable. So many sent me notes and

I’ve saved all of them. They were just incredible letters.”Whether you’re currently battling breast cancer or love some-

one who is, there are many outlets for the emotional uncertain-ties associated with this kind of trauma.

Austin kept her spirits high by never allowing herself to feardeath.

“I didn’t want to go through it, but I didn’t feel sorry formyself either.” She says.

Khanghahi handles the stress by surrounding herself with herclose-knit family.

“We focus on how lucky we are, and we don’t spend timethinking, ‘why me?’ My family firmly believes in the power of apositive attitude.”

Jack and Becky learned to appreciate the simple things toget them through Jack’s treatment process.

“During the chemo when I’d still be going to work, I’d focuson getting well more than anything.” Jack says.Becky agrees.

“We learned that health is more important than work ormoney. It gave us a new perspective.”

Jack and Becky Willis Photo by Abigail Hess


If you or your loved one is battling breast cancer andwould like to participate in a support group, there aremany to choose from in the Norman/OklahomaCity areas. Below is a list of groups recommendedto Silk by the Susan G. Komen Foundation (anda few we found for the internet-savvy reader). • Norman Regional Hospital Breast Cancer Support GroupBegins Sept. 1 and meets 7 to 8:30 p.m.For more information, call 307-3174

• Midwest Regional Hospital BreastCare CenterMonday’s FriendsMeets the second Monday of themonthFor more information, call 610-8872

• OU Health Science CenterSOS-Support Our SurvivorsMeets the third Thursday of themonthFor more information, call 271-8001x48592• Saint Anthony Hospital Love CancerInstituteBreast Cancer Wellness Support GroupMeets 5 to 6 p.m. the fourth Thursday ofthe monthFor more information, call 231-3002

• University of OklahomaBreast FriendsFor more information, call 271-4514

• National Breast Cancer Foundation Inc.Breast Cancer SupportVisit them online athttp://community.nationalbreastcancer.org/

• Breastcancer.orgBreast Cancer Support andCommunityVisit them online at www.breast-cancer.org/community/

Where to get help

The Susan G. Komen Foundation is paving the way forbreast cancer research and awareness. Below are

some fast facts to familiarize you with theorganization whose vision is a world with-

out breast cancer.

• Established in 1982, Nancy Brinkerstarted the foundation in honor of hersister, Susan G. Komen. Komen losther battle with breast cancer in 1978

at the age of 36.• Executive director of the centralOklahoma affiliate Lorna Palmersays, “Our organization is look-ing for the cure, but we’re alsogoing to take care of survivorsand their families until thatday comes.”• The Susan G. KomenFoundation offers collegescholarships for students whohave lost a parent to breast

cancer.• Last year alone, the organiza-

tion’s central Oklahoma affiliategave $653,000 in local grants to

increase awareness and offer breastcancer screenings for underprivi-

leged men and women.• Central Oklahoma’s SGK also raised

$250,000 for breast cancer research. • The Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure

began in Dallas in 1983, and is now thelargest 5K series in the world.

• Every year, 1 million people participatenationally in the Race for the Cure.

• Oklahoma City’s Race for the Cure isscheduled for Oct. 10 and is open to

the public. Palmer said the event isintended to “help remember

those who lost their battles andcelebrate those who are stillhere.” • To sign up for the Racefor the Cure or to make adonation, visit Susan G.

Komen’s centralOklahoma Web site at

komencentralok.org orcall 526-RACE.By Abigail Hess

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Scarves have made a big splash in the world of accessories this year.And they’re the perfect fall accessory, because theyeasily add a touch of warmth to a breezy outfit. Scarves are fun and versatile, but it can be a little daunting trying to fig-ure out how to wear them. They can be worn as headbands and belts, but here we’ll show ways to wear neckscarves. Remember, though, that these are just suggestions. The possibilities are limited only by your imagination (and the amountof moxie with which you wear them).

The SlipknotThis is a pretty basic scarf

style that works well on colddays with a coat or jacket.

Simply fold a rectangle scarfin half and hang it behindyour neck with the fold on

one side in front and theends hanging down the

other. Then open the fold soit’s like a loop and feed theends through. Pull as tight

or loose as you like.

The Wrap AroundThis style works great with long,skinny scarves. It jazzes up anoutfit similar to a bold necklace,but with a lot more bang. Toachieve this look, simply wrapthe scarf around your neckonce, leaving both ends to hangdown your front. You can makethe loop tighter around yourneck with delicate scarves orlooser for bulkier fabrics.

The Loose TieThis one’s almost so simple you

wouldn’t have thought about it. Itworks great with just about any fabric

and style of scarf. Drape the scarfover your neck then tie it just aboveyour bra cups like the first step to

making a bow. Then arrange the endsof the scarf so they’re on top of each

other, not side by side.

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The Draped ShawlThis one adds a touch of sophistication to yourwardrobe. It also has an added bonus of doing whatno other scarf style does: It keeps your shoulders andarms warm. To achieve this style, drape an oblongscarf across your back and pull one side around yourfront to tuck on your shoulder. Pull the other sideover that shoulder and drape over the other shoulder.Pull, fold and gather as desired.

The Bandana WrapThis works best with large, square

scarves and is basically a varia-tion of the Wrap Around. Foldthe square in half. Grab thefolded corners and wrap themaround the back of your neckand pull them down in front.With smaller square scarves,fold in half and tie the foldedends behind your neck with-out pulling the ends to thefront.

The Tied WrapThis style of

wearing a scarfworks best

with silkscarves orthose with

more texture to the fabric. Anyshape will do, as long as it’s not

too long. For square scarves, foldthem in half before attempting this

style. To wear, start off like theWrap Around style, but instead of

leaving the ends loose in the front,tie them beneath the loop.

Chain 22, turn, double crochet in the second chain from hook.Double crochet in each chain across (20 dc). Chain 2 and turndouble crochet in each chain across. Repeat 98 more times.To make tassles (optional), cut 40 strands of yarn 10 incheslong. Make a loop and place through each chain and pull yarnthrough to make a knot.

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Question: My husband spends hours preparing for his tail-gate party. I thought that tailgating was just a couple of frostydrinks in a cooler. Why is tailgating so important?

Answer: According to Wisegeek.com “A tailgate party is asocial gathering held in parking lots before and often after anevent. The event might be a concert, football game, baseballgame or other attraction. Participants use open tailgates forimpromptu seating and access to ice chests, food, folding chairsand other tailgate party necessities. A tailgate party is a way forpeople with similar interests to socializeand celebrate the event they’re attending.The tailgate party might be localized in acertain area of the parking lot wherepeople spontaneously gather around vehicles that are tailgating.At other events, the tailgate party virtually encompasses theentire parking lot.”

Now, that is a clean description. It encompasses almosteverything positive about tailgating.

But if you ask any man walking around the parking lot ofany Oklahoma home football game, you will get the explana-tion but in far less words. It would probably go something likethis.

“Tailgating is the greatest invention since football itself.” That is how important tailgating has become to athletic events.In fact, I know many men, and a few women, who will showup at 6 a.m. for an afternoon game and never actually enter thestadium. Their entire day is spent outside with the fellow tail-gating society. No matter the weather.

Prime example, last season’s Big 12 Championship gametook place on one of the coldest nights of the year atArrowhead Stadium in Kansas City, Mo. It was so frigid, theplayers wore long thermals and had their faces covered withmasks.

But outside the stadium, tailgaters could be seen hoveringaround their portable televisions and radios enjoying them-selves even as the temperature dipped below freezing. Somesported T-shirt and shorts like a badge of honor.

This may seem foreign and you are having a hard time wrap-ping your brain around the attraction to tailgating. That isunderstandable. Tailgating is not just a social gathering. It’s notjust a party. Not only is it a competition of the highest order,it’s a community with its own hierarchy and rules. First, you want to be known as the top tailgater in town. It’s

like being king of the community with-out a crown. As your legend spreads,fans and other tailgaters will make apoint to come by your spread every

weekend to see what type of amenities you bring to the table,such as HDTV, big screen plasma televisions with surroundsound, a barbecue pit that can roast 10 pigs at once, leatherrecliners for 20 or more friends, etc. Others will seek advice onhow to improve their own party. It’s an important position inthe tailgating clan.

If you are unable to be King of the Tailgaters, the next bestthing is be known for a unique element that no other personwill have in the parking lot. Maybe it’s best tasting smoked ribs,gumbo directly from New Orleans or a portable Direct-TV satel-lite that picks up games featuring The Philadelphia Passion, alingerie football team.

There are too many other layers that make up the tailgatingsandwich to get into in just one column. As of now, you reallyonly need to know one thing to enjoy the experience of tailgat-ing. Since its inception, tailgating has matured from just a gath-ering of like-minded fans to an art form. For those who plan toenter this world for the first time, if you want to be welcomedinto the tribe, you had better treat it with respect or risk beingtreated like an outcast on “Survivor.”

By Michael Kinney

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