Pamela J. Merten MS, LPC

Life Coach, Licensed Counselor

License #3499-125

Living Your Design Life Coaching & Counseling

13035 W. Bluemound Rd. Suite 100

Brookfield, WI 53005

Phone: 414-430-3122

Fax: 877-885-9906

“I don’t hate or neglect myself . . . or do I ?”

When we are living in any one of the following and doing nothing to transition out of them, we

are on the continuum of neglecting and hating ourselves! Live YOUR Design: LOVE yourself

for you are truly LOVED. (List is comprised of the “weaknesses” of each of the 9 Enneagram types.)

seeking vengeance doing things for others to make myself needed

relying on fantasy so as not to take responsibility

for reality

flattering others to make them feel good about me

perfectionism depending on emotions as reality

Competitiveness – MUST win avoiding my life by escaping into my mind

being driven to obtain power and control wanting to protect myself by withdrawing from

others

grandiose expectations dwelling on the past to prolong my feelings

being suspicious and thinking the worst of people needing to be treated differently – “terminal

uniqueness”

jealousy neglecting physical health and appearance

believing that sabotaging others will make things

better for me

agitation and restlessness of my mind

closing down my feelings in order to function taking out fears and anxieties on others

betraying my own integrity to get the admiration

of others

overreacting and exaggerating my problems

attempting to misrepresent myself and my

abilities

being negative and complaining

using arrogance to compensate for my own

insecurity

reckless and destructive impulses

craving constant attention and affirmation sacrificing health and happiness for instant

gratification

rationalizing my own behavior fearing that there won’t be enough

obsessing about things I cannot change fearing others will take control of me

fearing being condemned for being wrong burning out by trying to satisfy all desires

attachment to feeling victimized and abused running away from consequences of actions

resentment and rage toward others dehumanizing myself by violating myself or others

in any way

giving up too soon fear of being humiliated and failing