BUILDING A CHILDS

SELF-CONCEPT

Building yours, too.

STAND UP FROM THE INSIDE!

Resiliency = the capacity to bounce back after

disappointment or tragedy.

Self-Concept = The total picture of who we are.

Our looks and traits, how we feel, what we think, who

we see when we look in the mirror

A childs self-concept is in place by age 5.

Write your name on the card

Children are born with 100%

Self-Concept

Why is this important for them to have?

Do you still have the 100% you were born with?

Why not? Imagine what you could do if you did!

High Self Concept vs. Low Self-Concept(eyes, posture, words, actions, friends, successes)

Celebrate the AWESOME name on that 3x5 card Tie Dye Name Child Activity

WHAT INFLUENCES THIS?

1. SELF - PERCEPTION

2. Verbal and Non-verbal Communication

Communication We hear, say, or See.

We believe it and may even become it.

10 positive words for every negative word or action might alter

the affects of the negative.

3. Positive and Negative

Interactions

Why do we continue to hang

around with or do that which

brings us or others down?

Self Concept Circle The person I think I am.

The person others think I am.

The person others think I think I am.

My Actions

Others Reactions

To Me

As Others See Me

As I See Myself

Plan successes

Point out successes

Help the child perceive him/herself as successful

Provide practice to improve skills

If they have more failures than successes, back up to where success is achieved, and then move ahead gradually

As long as there are more

successes than failures,

children learn to not let a few

failures get them down.

A child who is over-protected

and not allowed to fail will

learn to try only if success is

guaranteed.

Provide more successes than

failures for the child.

Give the freedom to fail with

acceptance.

Recognize the effort and improvement, not just the final accomplishment.

Support as they do new things.

I know you can do it

You handled that really well

You will make it next time

Show appreciation.

Thanks, you were a big help

Let child know that even if you

do not approve of their

behavior, you still love them.

Accept children as they are,

not as they could be.

Respect your child.

Show them how much you care

about them.

Give lots of encouragement. Give unconditional love.

Let them do things for

themselves.

Let them work through a

problem.

Give them choices as

early as possible.

Tell children what they

can do, not what they

cannot do.

Catch them doing

something good more

often than what they

are doing wrong.

Allow independence. Eliminate the negative.

They dont have to be 100% all the time.

Know their abilities and work within those abilities.

Children are not miniature adults.

Do not over-estimate their maturity.

Development if child

Be careful of

nicknames.

Do not make fun of

them, especially in

front of others.

Do not set standards unreasonably

high.Avoid ridicule.

Let them explore their environment.

Give them a chance to see cause and effect, such as what happens when a rock is dropped in water. . .

Play, get messy, touch

Set limits (boundaries

and rules)

It helps them to feel

security, protected,

valued, and loved.

Allow exploration and encourage

questions.Set limits.

Every child needs to feel that they are good at something.

Give them encouragement and opportunities to try new things.

Encourage their talents, not the ones you wish they had.

Do not belittle them

That is nothing to cry over, or Youll get over it.

Ask them for their advice and opinions.

Listen to them and act on their thoughts.

Help your child develop their

talents.

Take their ideas, emotions and

feelings seriously.

Improve your own self-image. Let your children see that you value yourself.

Let your children see you make mistakes, learn from them, and try again.

Give them chores that

are appropriate for

their age.

Give them family jobs

so that they feel

valued and important

to the family.

Be a good role model. Give your children responsibility.

Give them support

when they need it.

Spend time together.

Work, talk, and share

activities together.

Point out when they

are meeting your

expectations and

requests.

Be available.Let children know when their

behavior is appropriate

I got two As, the small boy said, his voice was filled with

glee.

His father bluntly asked, Why didnt you get three?

Mom, Ive got the dishes done, the girl called from the door.

Her mother very calmly said, Did you sweep the floor?

I mowed the grass, the tall boy said, and put the mower

away.

His father asked him with a shrug, "Did you clean off the clay?

The children in the house next door seemed happy and content.

The same things happened over there, but this is how it went.

Ive got two As, the small boy said. His voice was filled with

glee.

His father proudly said, "That's great, Im glad that you belong

to me.

Mom, Ive got the dishes done, the girl called from the door.

Her mother smiled and softly said, Each day I love you more.

Ive mowed the grass, the tall boy said, and put the mower

away.

His father answered with much joy, Youve made my happy

day.

Children deserve a little praise for tasks theyre asked to do. If

theyre to lead a happy life, so much depends on you.

Study guide scenarios

A Haiku Poem about you

on back of 3x5 Card

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Your Name

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2 adjectives describing you

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3 Verbs that relate to you

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A 4 word phrase about you

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1 word that explains who you are