Self awareness

Meaning- Knowing one’s ownAttitudes- opinionFeelings- emotionMotives- purposeDesires- needs

Self awareness

Why self awareness?To know our strengths and limitationsTo reinforce the strengths To challenge the limitationsTo grow

How to create self awareness?

• Seeking feedback from others

• Taking self scoring tests

• Reflecting on one’s own feelings and behaviours

Self analysis

Think for a moment and identify• the areas you normally excel• the areas you normally face difficulties• Kind of people, events, and things you like the most and those you

dislike• The people, events that bring you happiness/sadness• The nature and extent of openness you have with others • The people you want to control and want to be controlled• The people you want to include and those you want to be included • The people you consider as significant and those you want them to

consider as significant

Self analysis

• Ask people who know you well about

• Your strengths

• Your limitations

• Your behaviours needing modifications

• The behaviours to be improved

• The behaviours to discontinued

• The behaviours to be learned.

Self Concept

• The totality of a complex, organized, and dynamic system of learned beliefs, attitudes and opinions that each person holds to be true about his or her personal existence"

Self concept

• It is my individual sense of how I perceive myself.

• Self concept is the basis for self awareness.

• This is the foundation to opt for change.

• Matching what I want to be and what I perceive myself creates positive self concept.

People with Strong and Weak self concept are characterized by

• Strong self concept• Flexibility• Courage • Trust • Initiative taking• Confidence • Positive thinking

• Weak self concept• Rigidity• Fearfulness• Suspicion • Lack of initiative• Lack of confidence• Negative thinking

Components of self-concept

• Physical aspect of self-concept relates to that which is concrete: what we look like, our sex, height, weight, kind of our cloth, car, home, etc.

• Performance aspects of self concept, how we perform, accomplish, and grow.

• Social self-concept describes how we relate to other people

• Transpersonal self-concept describes how we relate to the supernatural or unknowns.

Coping with threats to self concept

• I hold my position rigidly• Do not listen to people• Misinterpret what other people say• Stop talking and begin withholding• Feel that no one understands me• Don’t want to negotiate• Easily irritated• Do not want to probe the causes

Defence mechanisms

• Denial- to avoid the feeling of inadequacy• Projection- behaving myself as a victim• Displacement – blaming others and disowning • Masochism- blaming the self to avoid others

accusations• Identification- help others to avoid dealing with

own inadequacies• Compensation- demand from others that you are

OK

Self esteem

• It is the feeling I have about my self concept.

• A subjective appraisal of himself as intrinsically positive or negative to some degree

• Example: I perceive I am an introvert and I feel proud of it.

Self esteem is based on your attitudes like

• Your value as a person • The job you do • Your achievements • How you think others see you • Your purpose in life • Your place in the world • Your potential for success • Your strengths and weaknesses • Your social status and how you relate to others • Your independence or ability to stand on your own feet

High and low self esteem

• High- feeling of worth, happy, good, confident, courage- results in motivation and drive to excel

• Low- feeling of helplessness, lack of motivation, depressed, fear, meaninglessness

How can we have high self esteem?

Some suggestions – Forgive yourself for your mistakes. – Celebrate your strengths and achievements. – We are so used to negative feedback that we are

more aware of our weaknesses. – Set achievable targets and get regular feedback. – Change the way you talk to yourself - stop putting

yourself down. – Be sure that you are not judging yourself against

unreasonable standards. – Beating yourself for your weaknesses is self-

defeating.

Realistic View of self esteem

• do not think of yourself more highly than you should (no superiority attitude).

• have a sober view of your strengths.• do not exaggerate your weaknesses and

look down on yourself. • do not excuse or rationalise your

weaknesses. • Have a realistic view of both strengths and

weaknesses

Student Assignments

• Locus of control

• Self efficacy

• Johari window

• Emotional intelligence

• FIRO-B

• MBTI

• Transaction analysis

JoHari Window

Known to self Not known to self

Known to others

OPEN- Known to me and known to others

BLIND- Known to others but Not known to me

Not known to others

HIDDEN- Known to Me but not known to others

UNKNOWN- Neither known to me nor known to others.

Minimum openness- Ineffective personality

Open Blind

Hidden Dark

More openness- Effective personality

Open Blind

Hidden Dark

How to widen the OPEN corner

Open Seeking Feedback

Self Disclosure

Practice New Behaviours

Blind

Hidden Dark

Self efficacy

• Advocated by Albert Bandura

• Meaning • Belief in one’s own

capability for accomplishment

• It is a “Can do” attitude

What does Self Efficacy theory say?

Individuals who believe they can cause an eventCan have more active and self-determined life course.Are not threatened by environmentTake adaptive actionWithstand stress

Individuals with high and low self efficacy are

• High self efficacy• Active • Courageous • Competent• High self esteem• Optimism• High social integration• High motivation• More effort• Longer persistence of goals• Higher goals• Great results

• Low self efficacy• Inactive • Fearful • Inefficient • Low self-esteem• Pessimism• Isolation • Low motivation• Low effort• Shorter persistence• Lower goals• Low results

Questions to think ???

Is your self efficacy domain specific? OrIs it a general self confidence

Test your self efficacy (on a scale of 1(low) to 5 (high)

1) I can always manage to solve difficult problems if I try hard enough.

2) If someone opposes me, I can find means and ways to get what I want.

3) It is easy for me to stick to my aims and accomplish my goals.

4) I am confident that I could deal efficiently with unexpected events.

5) Thanks to my resourcefulness, I know how to handle unforeseen situations.

6) I can solve most problems if I invest the necessary effort.

7) I can remain calm when facing difficulties because I can rely on my coping abilities.

8) When I am confronted with a problem, I can usually find several solutions.

9) If I am in trouble, I can usually think of something to do.

10) No matter what comes my way, I'm usually able to handle it.

Emotional intelligence

• Daniel Goleman

Emotional IntelligenceKnowing one's emotions ... is fundamental to emotional intelligence.

People who know their feelings are better pilots of their lives.

Managing emotions ... people who are effective in managing their emotions can cope better with life's adversities and can bounce back faster than those who are poor in managing their feelings.

Motivating oneself ... people without emotional intelligence lack self-restraint and would just do whatever their impulses suggest. In Goleman’s words, they "suffer a moral deficiency". Emotional self-control, delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness underlies accomplishment of every sort.

Recognizing emotions in others ... emotional self-awareness is the first step to empathic sensitivity. In other words, if we are in touch with our own feelings, then we can empathise with others and sense their needs.

Handling relationships ... the art of relating to others includes the skill in managing emotions in others. For example, the ability to calm distressing emotions in others can help resolve many conflicts.

Test your emotional intelligence

Assess your emotional quotient using this form. Respond to all the statements given below.

SCALE 1 2 3 4Not at all Little bit To some extent To a great extent

Awareness of self emotion

I am aware of my feelings

I am aware of the reasons for my feelings

I am aware of my emotions

I am aware of the causes of my emotions

Understanding others’ emotions

I understand the feelings of people with whom I interact

I value the feelings of people with whom interact

I understand the emotions of people with whom I interact

I respond empathetically to the emotions of people with whom I interact

Use of emotions

I motivate myself to attain success

I feel I am a competent person

I set goals for myself to attain success

I attain success in life by using emotions appropriately

Self regulation

I don’t allow my desires for self gratification by ignoring the imminent risks

I control my emotions at times of crises to think and act objectively

I don’t invite trouble for myself by provoking others

I remain calm even in a provocative situation

Total scores

Locus of controlAnswer the following question

• The events in my life are the outcome of-- – - - -------

• (a) My own action/behaviour which can be controlled by me

• (b) Others’ action, my fate, supernatural forces, or chance, which I cannot control

• Chose one of the two statements above as your answer

Locus of Control

Julian Ratter (1916-)

the extent to which individuals believe

that they can control events that affect them.

Types of locus of control

• Internal locus of control

• External locus of control

Locus of Control

• Internals• events or outcomes

result primarily from their own behaviour and actions.

• Confident of their capabilities

• Work hard to get outcomes

• Externals• Events/ outcomes

result from powerful others, fate, or chance.

• Low self confidence• Expect others to help

them.

Role efficacy