Secret Social Spy Academy

Secret Social Spy AcademyParent Workshop 2013Afternoon Session 2, Week 2

1Lessons/Concepts of the WeekTransition Group: (Ms. Coppla)

Continue Big/Medium/Small Problems, Smart/Wacky Guesses, & Zones of Regulation, Reading someones Plan

Thought Bubbles

Jr. Crime time- Learning to solve problems

Friendship unitContinuing to discriminate between friend and non friend (DNEIRF)Role playing expected/unexpected friendship behaviorsFriendship Jeopardy

Lies

Adolecent Group: (Ms. Erhart/Pacha)

Continue Zones of Regulation & Crime Time

Thought bubbles

Lies

Friendship UnitContinue to discriminate between fFriend and DNEIRFContinue Friendship PEER-A-MIDContinue Friendship files

Goin Fishing, Keeping them Hooked,Magnet communication

2Thought Bubbles

3Thought Bubbles

4Thought Bubbles

5Thought Bubbles

6Thought Bubbles

7CRIME TIME

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The SituationRob and Kate were going to play a video. Rob had the remote control. Kate got mad and yelled , Give it to me NOW! I WANT to go first! ROBKate9

THE CRIME SCENE

RobKate10THE CRIME SCENE cont

Give it to me NOW! I WANT to go first! 11THE CRIME SCENE cont WHAT SIZE WAS s KATES REACTION? What is the actual level of the problem?

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THE CRIME SCENE cont WHAT DO YOU THINK THEY ARE THINKING?13

FACE

******14What tone of voice?

Happy toneSad toneAngry tone

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BODY LANGUAGE

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16VERDICT

GUILTYINNOCENT17How could the problem be solved?

LETS ROLE-PLAY!

18Liar Liar

19WHITE LIESA lie that is told to avoid hurting someone elses feelings.It is a partial lie and it does not hurt people. This type of lie usually does not have consequences.

GRAY LIESA lie that is told to be funny or sarcastic . This type of liedoes not hurt people. This type of lie has moderate consequences.

Black LiesA lie that is told to hurt people (blatant lie). This type of lie has severe consequences.

20What type of Lie?WHITE LIESBlack LiesI think your hair looks cool!

21What type of Lie?WHITE LIESBlack LiesI didnt take your toy.

22What type of Lie?Uhyeah mom, this looks yummy

WHITE LIESBlack Lies23When you might use a white lie?

Your friend Tom asks you if you like his new shirt. You think it is pretty ugly.?24When would you might use a white lie?Your Uncle Joe is singing a song and his voice sounds terrible. He asks you whatYou think.

?25When you might use a white lie?Your friend gets a new hairstyle and asks you what you think.

?26What do you say?

What do you think about myHair?Looks terrible,Get a haircut.I love the color!It is totallyuneven!27What do you say?Aunt Beth,It is totally burnt!No way am I eating that Aunt Beth.Looks great, thanks Aunt Beth.

Doesnt this lookDelicious?28What do you say?You did that on purpose!!!!You JERK!Thats ok.

OOPS!!! Sorry Kathy, I wasnt looking where I was going29GRAY LIESTYPE 1: IDIOMSIdioms are words, phrases, or expressions that cannot be taken literally. In other words, when used in everyday language, they have a meaning other than the basic one you would find in the dictionary. 30GRAY LIESTYPE 1: IDIOMSExample:

Break a LegGood luck?31GRAY LIESTYPE 2: SLANG (sometimes referred to as a type of idiom)An informal use of vocabulary

A kind of language occurring in casual and playful speech, deliberately used in place of standard terms for added humor.32GRAY LIESTYPE 2: SlangExample:

Chill outRelax, take it easy?33Goin Fishin

34Goin FishinHaving a conversation with someone is like goin fishin. We want to think about the person. We need to be able to bait the person by using our words. You have to find the right location, have the right bait and line, patience, and be aware of how the fish is responding.

35Choosing Your Words Carefully!Its not that you can never talk about certain topics. Its that you have to talk about them carefully. You have to monitor your comments while other people think about what you might be saying. This means you have to self-monitor your behavior and watch what you say.What you say can be a:Bait and BragBait and CommentBait and SupportBait and LieBait and Getting Flung Overboard36Bait and BragThis is NOT highly recommended as a strategy to encourage success.This is where you introduce a topic and then tell people how wonderful you are.Example:I go so many new clothes this weekend and they were all from really nice, expensive stores.

37Bait and CommentThis strategy helps you to introduce a topic to others.This is where you introduce the topic, but then you just talk about it. You provide information that does not make you look fabulous.Example:I went shopping this weekend at the mall.

38Bait and SupportThis strategy is usually pretty successful.This is where you introduce the topic, but then you want to find out about how other people think.Example:I went shopping this weekend at the Stanford Mall. Do you like to go there?

39Bait and LieNot recommended!!When you introduce a topic and then lie about what happened or didnt happen to make yourself look better to that person.Example:I went to the library over the summer and read every fiction book in the whole place.

40Bait and Getting Flung OverboardWhen you introduce a topic and give too much information at one time.Example:I went to the mall and I went into Old Navy and got some jeans, then I went to the food court and got a slice of pizza. The pizza had pepperoni and tomato sauce and sausage. It was really hot

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I got an A+ on my test! I am so excited! I didnt even study for it. What did you get?

B

Bait and Brag

Bait and Comment

Bait and Support

Bait and Lie

Bait and Get Flung Overboard

42Keepin em Hooked

43Keepin em HookedPick a topic you think the other person would be interested in or a topic you know both of you like to talk about.Dont bore the person by doing an all me all the time conversation (like talking for too long or only talking about what you want to talk about). Make 2 or 3 comments and ask the other person about whatever youre talking about.Every time you ask the person a question, you hook him and bring him back to the conversation.Watch the persons face and expression to see if he is still interested.If he is not, hook him in again with a new topic.

44Keepin em Hooked(Think of a topic you think your partner is interested in and write itit in the first box. Then place a hook picture in the second box for each hook you make.)

Topic

Hook

45Magnet Communication

46Magnet CommunicationWe are like magnetsWe can do and say things with our body, eyes, and words, that make people want to be around us (to attract them)We can do and say things with our body, eyes, and words, that push people away (repel them)You have the power to be like a magnet and bring people close to you!

47Magnet CommunicationRULESATTRACT people in a conversationSay things that show that you know what your peers like or are interested inLook at your peers when you are in a conversation with themKeep your brain thinking about themPoint your body towards themREPEL people in a conversationBeing critical or negativeNot agreeingArguingInterruptingBeing TOO sarcasticMean tone and attitudeSaying nothing as a responseRolling your eyesIgnoring peopleBeing too serious all the timePoking peopleTiming of humorRepeating what everyone saysTalking about only what YOU want to talk about.

48Friend File ReportRead the fact and determine who the friend fact belongs to. Some might have more than one choice if people have something in common.

49MAP IT OUT- Social Behavior Map

50MAP IT OUT- Social Behavior Map

51MAP IT OUT- on the fly52THOUGHTSThoughts are words that are in your head. They have not yet been said. They can be questions or statements.

Im getting hungry.

What do they want me to say?

I think my dog is the best.2Thoughts Come FirstWhere am I?

Then they can go in a talking bubble.Where are we?4Talking Comes Next

He seems nice.5

What do you have behind your back?Talking can be questions or statementsIs she asking a question or making a statement?6

I think they are really mean.We get to go to Islands of Adventure and you dont.Sometimes we think and sometimes we talk. 8