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RELATI
ONSHIPS,
HOW D
O YOU K
NOW IF
IT’S
GOOD?
Chris Warren, M.Ed.
Director of Community
Engagement,
Domestic Violence Network
• Differences between healthy relationships and not-so healthy ones
• Myths and facts about dating abuse
• Helping friends experiencing dating abuse
GOALS
Complete the handout
Using the post-it,
Write
Why is this important to you?
Place post-it under the trait
TAKE FIVE
Take five minutes to read through the
handout and circle any
“new-to-you” information or
anything that is interesting
TAKE FIVE
Violence is just physical
Manipulation/emotional control
Threats to harm you or him/herself
Looking through your phone
Excessive texting/communication
Encouraging fights between you and
friends/family
MYTHS ABOUT TEEN DATING ABUSE
Teen Dating Abuse Rarely Happens
Nearly half of domestic violence occurs between the
ages of 16-24
(Herman 2009).
MYTHS ABOUT TEEN DATING ABUSE
HOW COMMON IS TEEN DATING ABUSE?
Of youth in the U.S.
is a victim of
physical, sexual, or
emotional abuse
from a dating partnerCDC, 2014
35
%
9th-12th grade girls in the United States have been
Raped
HOW COMMON IS TEEN DATING ABUSE?
St. Mary’s College, 2013
9th-12th grade girls in Indiana have been
Raped
HOW COMMON IS TEEN DATING ABUSE?
St. Mary’s College, 2013
15
%
Almost 70%
of youth in
abusive
relationships will
not
tell their parents
(Claiborne, 2009)
HOW COMMON IS TEEN DATING ABUSE?
• Withdrawal from social activities that do not include partner
• Chronic illness such as gastrointestinal problems
• Significant changes in appearance/behavior
• Change in academic performance
• Social isolation unless accompanied by partner
• Disconnected from family
BEHAVIOR OF THOSE BEING ABUSED
(CDC, 2009)
These behaviors are signs of abuse when they are done out of
fear from the person they are romantically involved with.
•Jealous outbursts at partner’s friends/family
•Withdrawal from activities based on time commitment
•Public shaming or humiliation of partner (no matter how minor)
•Need to be center of attention in social settings
•Typically charming/respectful to authority figures to avoid
suspicion or questioning (CDC 2009)
BEHAVIORS OF THOSE ABUSING
(CDC, 2009)
• ALWAYS together, but rarely happy
• Constant texting and anxiety over missing a message
• Anxious, sad, or upset when having to separate
• Changing appearance to appear more alike (matching tattoos, piercings, etc.)
• One partner is living with the other’s family (or permitted to sleep over frequently)
BEHAVIORS OF COUPLES IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS
(CDC 2009)
These behaviors are signs of abuse when they are done out of
fear from the person they are romantically involved with.
• Violence is an option in the relationship now
• Violence is usually periodic
• Perpetrators usually make themselves the
victims
• Victims carefully try to keep the peace
IT HAPPENED ONCE,NOW WHAT???
• Talk to someone you trust
• Get help from professionals-call or text!
• Keep a record of the abuse
You may need it as evidence if you have
to take legal action
HOW DO PEOPLEGET OUT OF THIS???
• Do not meet the abuser alone
• Don’t get even, just get away!
What if they won’t stay away?
• Develop a plan and rehearse what you will do
if abuse continues
If it is at this level, talk to a professional
either in person, on the phone, or
text
HOW DO PEOPLEGET OUT OF THIS???
1. What is the best course of action for this person?
2. Possible responses/barriers?
3. What are the next steps?
READ THROUGH THE SCENARIO
Look out for your friends
Don’t allow people to make sexist or homophobic
comments
See something, say something
Know the signs of control that lead to abuse
Start a “No More” Club!
HOW DO WE PREVENT ABUSE?
The Indiana Lifeline Law provides immunity
from underage and public intoxication laws
for individuals or groups who call the police
in response to a crime,
sexual offense,
or health emergency.
LIFELINE LAW
REFERENCESAmerican Institute for Research (2014). Get Smart Get Safe. from
AIR website.
Avon Foundation for Women (2013). No More Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, Survey of Attitudes and Experiences of Teens and Adults. from Avon Foundation for Women website.
Black MC, Basile KC, Breiding MJ, Smith SG, Walters ML, Merrick MT, Chen J, Stevens MR. (2011). The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Summary Report. Atlanta, GA: National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (20114. Understanding Teen Dating Violence-United States.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (2011). Youth Risk Behavioral Surveillance—United States. MMWR 2012;61(No.SS-4).
Impact of the Economy and Parent/Teen Dialogue on Dating Relationships and Abuse. (2009). Conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited for the Family Violence Prevention Fund and Liz Claiborne.
Davis, Antoinette, MPH. (2008). Interpersonal and Physical Dating Violence among Teens. The National Council on Crime and Delinquency Focus
Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice and Statistics (2006). Intimate Partner Violence in the United States, 1993-2004.
Draucker, C. B., & Martsolf, D. S. (2010). The Role of Electronic Communication Technology. Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing, 133-142.
Simon, T. R., Miller, S.,Gorman-Smith, D., Orpinas, P., Sullivan, T. (2010). Physical dating violence norms and behavior among sixth-grade students from four U.S. sites. The Journal of Early Adolescence, 30(3), 395-409, first published on March 30,
2009.
St. Mary of the Wood College, (2013). “Status of Girls in Indiana.”
The NO MORE Project . "Dating Abuse Statistics." www.loveisrespect.org. Accessed April 22, 2014. .