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1 Hannah Holbrook
Taylor Holbrook
2 Paul Ehrlich
3 Martin Rodriguez
5 Daniel Branyon
6 Al Snyder
Sophia Myers
12 Becky Walker
14 Joyce Williford
15 Judy Wilson
16 Bradley Smith
17 Erin Carver
19 Mike McCollum
Mandy Little
Jessy Raxter
20 Jerry Wilson
23 Allison Covert
Madelyn Merck
24 Sherrill Martin
Corbin Gillespie
25 Kathy Byce
26 Deloris Hill
27 Aleya Brown
29 Dana Manley
30 Nancy Kroll
Mike Starnes
Billy Galloway
7 Matt George
14 *Palm Sunday ~ Matt White
21 *Easter ~ Mike McCollum
28 BJ Sharp
5/5 Deacons Meeting
April Deacons
Greeters
January, May
Judy Bailey, Marti Compton
February, July
Lillie Smith, Bobbie Williams
March, October
Carla Riddle, Sonya King
April, August
JoAnn Stephens, Carl Wells
June, November
Judy Harris, Nan Stephens
September, December
Mary Ann Ball, Lisa Corn
Welcome Center Before SS Mandy Riendeau, Youth
Substitute: Carolyn Bailey 224-7884.
If you can’t be here on a scheduled Sunday please
call Carolyn.
Phone: 864-225-2575 Fax: 864-225-8785
Web site: www.northandersonbaptist.com
Church Staff
Pastor …………..………Rev. Bill Rigsby
Administrator &
Educator………..………..Dennis Walker
Minister of Music
& Youth …………....Rev. Kiley Waldrop
Administrative Assistant…...Diana Beall
Be sure to visit our new and improved web
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Sunday Morning messages, information on our Deaf Ministry and to view the Sunday
message signed by ASL interpreters.
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North Anderson Baptist Church
2308 N Main St
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Volume 20 Issue 4 April 2019
North Anderson Baptist Church
“A Light of God’s Love”
A small Church, In a small Town, Serving a Big GOD.
God’s Revelation to North Anderson Baptist is…”To honor and glorify God through
worship, prayer, teaching, community service and mission opportunities.”
Easter morning the 21st. We will also
have a Sonrise Service at 7 am on that
Sunday hoping each of you will be there to
rejoice in our Savior’s resurrection. Reaf-
firm your salvation when you read Romans
10:9-13, 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is
Lord,” and believe in your heart that God
raised him from the dead, you will be
saved. 10 For it is with your heart that you
believe and are justified, and it is with
your mouth that you profess your faith
and are saved. 11 As Scripture says,
“Anyone who believes in him will never be
put to shame.” 12 For there is no difference
between Jew and Gentile—the same Lord
is Lord of al land richly blesses all who
call on him, 13 for, “Everyone who calls on
the name of the Lord will be saved.”
Pastor
The Lighthouse Page 2 Volume 20 Issue 4
From Your Pastor…
Dear Family of Believers,
Each spring we have the privilege to see the
creation of God in the birth of a new season.
Flowers, trees, new babies being born to the
animals of the earth and of course the pollen!
Spring brings great things and then it brings
that horrible pollen which chokes so many of
us.
But God reminds us in this season of new
things, that Jesus Christ, Son of God, who,
one afternoon on a hillside outside of the city
of Jerusalem, was crucified on a cross for us.
This Jesus was unjustly condemned to death
but He went willingly to pay the price for all
humanity’s sin. “…for all have sinned and
fall short of the glory of God…”
When they placed Him in the tomb, He had
told His disciples that He would rise from
the dead on the third day, and His word was
true, He arose from the dead like He said, to
live forevermore. We celebrate that resur-
rection day as Easter! On the Sunday be-
fore that special day, we call it “Palm Sun-
day” which tells of His triumphant entrance
into Jerusalem. Knowing that He would die
later that week, He spoke with power
throughout that week and prepared Himself
for the cross.
Friends, we will celebrate His death on
April 14th and then His resurrection on
Pastor Rigsby
From our Administrator & Educator Dennis Walker
This is an article by Dr. Kathy Koch from
Focus on the Family. I thought it to be a
good article.
Miranda is tired of nagging her preteen
daughter to do her chores. Jack doesn’t
know how to motivate his son to turn off
the video games and tackle his schoolwork.
Amanda struggles to help her sensitive kin-
dergartener deal with his big emotions.
What do these parents have in common?
They need to discover how to encourage
their children to help them be more suc-
cessful.
If you take a close look at the
word encourage, you will notice the root
Volume 20 Issue 4
September 1, 2018 - August 31, 2019
Family’s Assigned Deacon
September 1, 2018 - August 31, 2019
Family’s Assigned Deacon
James Bramlett (2020)
Brian & Cynthia Adams, Corey,
Zoe, Zane
Erik & Kim Aiken, Jessy, Des-
tiny, Maranda
Jessie Alexander (UNK)
Madalyn Alston James Anderson (D)
Michael & Teresa Applewhite,
Dillon, Connor (I)
Janice Ash (NR) (UNK) Roy & Kim Ash, Kaitlyn (I)
Morgan Ash (I)
Carolyn Bailey
Judy Bailey
Matt & Mary Ann Ball
Jim & Sara Barnes
Jodi Barnes (NR)
Karen Barnhardt
Diana Beall
NEW DEACON
Matt George (2021)
Mary Bickers (N)
Waldron Blackman, Jr. (D)
Doris Blackwood (NR) (N)
Millie Boatman
Linda Bowman
Sallie Bowman (NR) (UNK)
Maston & Carole Boyd
Dewey & Julia Bramlett
James & Barbara Bramlett
Daniel Branyon, Rylee (I)
Hugh & Orene Brinson (H)
Jim Broome
Alan & Sylvia Brown, Rachel (I)
Bruce & Judy Brown
Jake Brown (I)
Jeremy Brown, Eli
Wendal & Latoya Brown, Omari
& Markel Hatten, Aleya (D)
Tamara “Tami” V. Brownlee (I)
Virginia Buchanan
Robert Reeves (2020)
Joan Burriss (H)
Joe & Lisa Burden, Kylie
(granddaughter) (I)
Braylon Byce
*Matt & Chelsea Byce, Bailey
Bruce & Kathy Byce
Cain Cantrell (I) (UNK)
Caroline Cantrell
Tina Cantrell, Anna Gilliland,
Jackson Cantrell (I)
Derrell Capell
Chuck & Julia Carver, Zackery,
Erika, Erin
Frank Clark
Judy Cockrell (N)
Mary Coker, Cruz Jonathan & Marie Coley, Julia
Rose
Dick Lark (2020)
Marti Compton
Johnny & Lisa Corn
Heather Covert, Chuck, Allison, Aiden
Harry Craft (N)
Craig & Tish Crittendon, Tommy,
Kelly, Michael (I)
Joe & Avernell Cromer
Tim & Nancy Danyels
Gordon & Gladys Davis
John & Nancy Dill
Anita Donley, Ron
Katarina Doolittle (UNK)
Margie Duncan (N)
Heather (Slaton) Ebernickle,
Garrett, Case, Charlotte (I)
Connie Ehrlich (H)
Paul & Pam Ehrlich
Josh Stamps (2020)
Duane Elrod (I)
Jim Elrod
Randy & Bobbie Elrod
Helen Emerson
Roy Ethridge
Sandra (Potter) Fincannon (NR)
John Floyd (NR)
Lina Fonseca (NR)
Cathy Freeman
King & Jackie Fulton
Joyce Garrett, Kimber
Matt & Robin George, Caleb, Eli,
& Josie
Steve & Mickie Gibson
Greg & Carol Gillespie, Bryson,
Abbey, Corbin (I)
NEW DEACON
Mike McCollum (2021)
Kellie Gillespie, Rick, Jacob, Lydia,
Mollie, Madison Jones Bob & Marilyn Glanowski, Lau-
ren
Judy Harris, Jack
Charlie Harter (NR) (UNK)
Caroline Haynes, Brianna, Bray-
den, & London (I)
Kay Herbster
Bob & Betty Herring
Kevin Herrington
Deloris Hill (D)
Jim & Anne Holbrook,
Hannah Summer Holbrook
Taylor Holbrook
Bob & Susan Holcombe
Gene & Paula Holland
Didi Humphries
Tim Hunt (NR)
Don & Linda Johnson
Rich & Debra Johnson
NEW DEACON
BJ Sharp (2021)
Tom & Joyce Johnson, Jr.
Bill & Melissa Jones, David,
Zachary, Brielle
Erica (Rigsby) Kent, Ian (NR)
Theresa Kegerreis (I)
Connie King
Sonya King, Beth Rosser (mother)
Chuck & Nancy Kroll
Lona Lacour (NR)
Dick & Lo Larke, London Wil-
banks
Fredda Lee (N)
Lisa (NR)
Sean & Elinor Lister, Millie,
Maggie, Andy
David & Mandy Little, Hampton,
Campbell (I)
Louise Looney (N)
Michael Lopez (I)
NEW DEACON
Jerry Wilson (2021)
Kaitlin Manley, Liam Colin White
Ray & Dana Manley, Taylor
Laura B. Martin (N)
Sherrill Martin, Dakota
Kim Matthews, Taylor & Jordan
(I) (UNK)
Mike & Stephanie McCollum
Luke McCollum Sam McCollum
Sandi McCoy (I)
Garrett McCullough
Angela McLeskey (I)
John McLeskey, Morgan
Anne Mehaffey (H)
Mike & Kim Merck, Isaac, Made-
lyn Claire
Jonathan & Wendi Merrell (I)
Jesse Moon, Landon, Kaydence,
Sidney (NR)
Butch & Elaine Moore
Matt White (2019)
Steve Morgan, Brenda
Michael Morris (D)
Henry & Judy Morrison (D)
Michael & Katherine Myers,
Sophia Marie & Sally Kate (I)
Juanita “Sadie” Nash (H)
Christina Nixon (D) (UNK)
Russell & Amanda O’Dell (H)
Pam Owens
Rhonda Page, Aidan, & Sarah
Brown (I)
Willadean Parales (N)
Bob & Pam Parker
Marcie Pippin Hannah Polan
Bud & Marianne Rager
Justin Rager Tuma “Skip” Recklaw (I)
Robert & Elza Reeves
Linda Richey, Justin &Jack Cann
(I)
Carla Riddle, Randy
Jim Barnes (2019)
Bill & Lynda Rigsby
Eunice Robertson
Renee Robertson
Justin, Austin Armstrong
Martin Rodriguez (NR)
Craig Saxon (I)
Jennifer Saxon, Zachary Durkee,
Nicholas Cartee, Rayna Saxon
Nick & Vanessa Seaver, Trenton,
Kiley
Margaret Segers
BJ & Aimee Sharp, Addison, Davis
Kaye Sharpe
Bob & Mary Simmons
Billy Sistrunk, Elisabeth, Will,
Ethan (D)
Jeanelle Sistrunk (D) (NR)
Lisa Skelton (D)
Angela Slaton, Gabriel, Malachi,
Moses (D)
Jimmy White (2019)
Jerry & Brenda Slaton (I)
Jacob Smith
JD & Stacie Smith, Bradley
Kirk & Sharon Smith,
Kelsey
Lillie Smith
Matt Smith, Kelly, Holly, Hannah,
Sara-Grace, & Mattie Yon (I)
Al Snyder, Evelyn
Mike Spearman
Joshua & Jennifer Stamps, Joslyn
Leigh, Juliana Lyn
Mike & Debra Starnes Joann Staton
Ronald & Gayle Staton
JoAnn Stephens
Nan Stephens
Michael & Kerri Stone, Lillian,
Lauren, Luke, Levi
Rocco Versace, Troy, Lily
Jim Holbrook (2019)
Kiley & Marlee Waldrop
Dennis & Becky Walker, Maria,
Daniel
Carl & Tammie Wells
Earl & Kimberly Wells, Jesse, Nicholas, Gage, Kira (I)
Jimmy & Jane White
Matt & Taylor White, Micah, Amelia
Rex & Kim Whitehead
George Whitfield, Kimberly (D)
(UNK)
John & Teresa Whitfield
Sharon Whitlock, Kristina
Carolyn Whitworth (I)
Bobbie Williams
Joyce Williford (D)
Katey Yon (I)
Special indicators listed after families name (s): D)-deaf (I)-inactive (N)-nursing home (H)-homebound
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September 1, 2018 - August 31, 2019
Family’s Assigned Deacon
September 1, 2018 - August 31, 2019
Family’s Assigned Deacon
James Bramlett (2020)
Brian & Cynthia Adams, Corey,
Zoe, Zane
Erik & Kim Aiken, Jessy, Des-
tiny, Maranda
Jessie Alexander (UNK)
Madalyn Alston James Anderson (D)
Michael & Teresa Applewhite,
Dillon, Connor (I)
Janice Ash (NR) (UNK) Roy & Kim Ash, Kaitlyn (I)
Morgan Ash (I)
Carolyn Bailey
Judy Bailey
Matt & Mary Ann Ball
Jim & Sara Barnes
Jodi Barnes (NR)
Karen Barnhardt
Diana Beall
NEW DEACON
Matt George (2021)
Mary Bickers (N)
Waldron Blackman, Jr. (D)
Doris Blackwood (NR) (N)
Millie Boatman
Linda Bowman
Sallie Bowman (NR) (UNK)
Maston & Carole Boyd
Dewey & Julia Bramlett
James & Barbara Bramlett
Daniel Branyon, Rylee (I)
Hugh & Orene Brinson (H)
Jim Broome
Alan & Sylvia Brown, Rachel (I)
Bruce & Judy Brown
Jake Brown (I)
Jeremy Brown, Eli
Wendal & Latoya Brown, Omari
& Markel Hatten, Aleya (D)
Tamara “Tami” V. Brownlee (I)
Virginia Buchanan
Robert Reeves (2020)
Joan Burriss (H)
Joe & Lisa Burden, Kylie
(granddaughter) (I)
Braylon Byce
*Matt & Chelsea Byce, Bailey
Bruce & Kathy Byce
Cain Cantrell (I) (UNK)
Caroline Cantrell
Tina Cantrell, Anna Gilliland,
Jackson Cantrell (I)
Derrell Capell
Chuck & Julia Carver, Zackery,
Erika, Erin
Frank Clark
Judy Cockrell (N)
Mary Coker, Cruz Jonathan & Marie Coley, Julia
Rose
Dick Lark (2020)
Marti Compton
Johnny & Lisa Corn
Heather Covert, Chuck, Allison, Aiden
Harry Craft (N)
Craig & Tish Crittendon, Tommy,
Kelly, Michael (I)
Joe & Avernell Cromer
Tim & Nancy Danyels
Gordon & Gladys Davis
John & Nancy Dill
Anita Donley, Ron
Katarina Doolittle (UNK)
Margie Duncan (N)
Heather (Slaton) Ebernickle,
Garrett, Case, Charlotte (I)
Connie Ehrlich (H)
Paul & Pam Ehrlich
Josh Stamps (2020)
Duane Elrod (I)
Jim Elrod
Randy & Bobbie Elrod
Helen Emerson
Roy Ethridge
Sandra (Potter) Fincannon (NR)
John Floyd (NR)
Lina Fonseca (NR)
Cathy Freeman
King & Jackie Fulton
Joyce Garrett, Kimber
Matt & Robin George, Caleb, Eli,
& Josie
Steve & Mickie Gibson
Greg & Carol Gillespie, Bryson,
Abbey, Corbin (I)
NEW DEACON
Mike McCollum (2021)
Kellie Gillespie, Rick, Jacob, Lydia,
Mollie, Madison Jones Bob & Marilyn Glanowski, Lau-
ren
Judy Harris, Jack
Charlie Harter (NR) (UNK)
Caroline Haynes, Brianna, Bray-
den, & London (I)
Kay Herbster
Bob & Betty Herring
Kevin Herrington
Deloris Hill (D)
Jim & Anne Holbrook,
Hannah Summer Holbrook
Taylor Holbrook
Bob & Susan Holcombe
Gene & Paula Holland
Didi Humphries
Tim Hunt (NR)
Don & Linda Johnson
Rich & Debra Johnson
NEW DEACON
BJ Sharp (2021)
Tom & Joyce Johnson, Jr.
Bill & Melissa Jones, David,
Zachary, Brielle
Erica (Rigsby) Kent, Ian (NR)
Theresa Kegerreis (I)
Connie King
Sonya King, Beth Rosser (mother)
Chuck & Nancy Kroll
Lona Lacour (NR)
Dick & Lo Larke, London Wil-
banks
Fredda Lee (N)
Lisa (NR)
Sean & Elinor Lister, Millie,
Maggie, Andy
David & Mandy Little, Hampton,
Campbell (I)
Louise Looney (N)
Michael Lopez (I)
NEW DEACON
Jerry Wilson (2021)
Kaitlin Manley, Liam Colin White
Ray & Dana Manley, Taylor
Laura B. Martin (N)
Sherrill Martin, Dakota
Kim Matthews, Taylor & Jordan
(I) (UNK)
Mike & Stephanie McCollum
Luke McCollum Sam McCollum
Sandi McCoy (I)
Garrett McCullough
Angela McLeskey (I)
John McLeskey, Morgan
Anne Mehaffey (H)
Mike & Kim Merck, Isaac, Made-
lyn Claire
Jonathan & Wendi Merrell (I)
Jesse Moon, Landon, Kaydence,
Sidney (NR)
Butch & Elaine Moore
Matt White (2019)
Steve Morgan, Brenda
Michael Morris (D)
Henry & Judy Morrison (D)
Michael & Katherine Myers,
Sophia Marie & Sally Kate (I)
Juanita “Sadie” Nash (H)
Christina Nixon (D) (UNK)
Russell & Amanda O’Dell (H)
Pam Owens
Rhonda Page, Aidan, & Sarah
Brown (I)
Willadean Parales (N)
Bob & Pam Parker
Marcie Pippin Hannah Polan
Bud & Marianne Rager
Justin Rager Tuma “Skip” Recklaw (I)
Robert & Elza Reeves
Linda Richey, Justin &Jack Cann
(I)
Carla Riddle, Randy
Jim Barnes (2019)
Bill & Lynda Rigsby
Eunice Robertson
Renee Robertson
Justin, Austin Armstrong
Martin Rodriguez (NR)
Craig Saxon (I)
Jennifer Saxon, Zachary Durkee,
Nicholas Cartee, Rayna Saxon
Nick & Vanessa Seaver, Trenton,
Kiley
Margaret Segers
BJ & Aimee Sharp, Addison, Davis
Kaye Sharpe
Bob & Mary Simmons
Billy Sistrunk, Elisabeth, Will,
Ethan (D)
Jeanelle Sistrunk (D) (NR)
Lisa Skelton (D)
Angela Slaton, Gabriel, Malachi,
Moses (D)
Jimmy White (2019)
Jerry & Brenda Slaton (I)
Jacob Smith
JD & Stacie Smith, Bradley
Kirk & Sharon Smith,
Kelsey
Lillie Smith
Matt Smith, Kelly, Holly, Hannah,
Sara-Grace, & Mattie Yon (I)
Al Snyder, Evelyn
Mike Spearman
Joshua & Jennifer Stamps, Joslyn
Leigh, Juliana Lyn
Mike & Debra Starnes Joann Staton
Ronald & Gayle Staton
JoAnn Stephens
Nan Stephens
Michael & Kerri Stone, Lillian,
Lauren, Luke, Levi
Rocco Versace, Troy, Lily
Jim Holbrook (2019)
Kiley & Marlee Waldrop
Dennis & Becky Walker, Maria,
Daniel
Carl & Tammie Wells
Earl & Kimberly Wells, Jesse, Nicholas, Gage, Kira (I)
Jimmy & Jane White
Matt & Taylor White, Micah, Amelia
Rex & Kim Whitehead
George Whitfield, Kimberly (D)
(UNK)
John & Teresa Whitfield
Sharon Whitlock, Kristina
Carolyn Whitworth (I)
Bobbie Williams
Joyce Williford (D)
Katey Yon (I)
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(NR)-non-resident member (UNK)-address unknown
CHURCH OFFICE HOURS MONDAY - THURSDAY
8:30 am - 4:20 pm Diana monitors email and voice mail
on Friday’s for emergencies.
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FRIDAY’S
continued from page 2…
word within: courage. To encourage our
kids means to give them courage. Every day
our children need courage to stand up for
what is right and make good choices at
home, at school and with their friends.
Encouragement shouldn’t be confused with
discipline. Parents are called to discipline
their children (Proverbs 19:18), but disci-
pline is not the same as encourage-
ment. Disciplining is something we do;
encouraging is something we are.
I like to think of encouragement as being in
the air we breathe. It’s the atmosphere of
our home. It’s in the sparkle in our eyes and
the lilt of our voices. When utilized prop-
erly, encouragement invites excellence and
obedience. It opens doors for optimism and
a positive approach to even challenging
tasks and assignments. Encouragement al-
lows for risk, a necessary quality for growth
and obedience.
Wear the right hat
I used to coach a girls junior high basketball
team. Like other athletes, the players on my
team experienced teaching, coaching,
cheering and refereeing. Over the years, I
observed how each role provided its own
form of encouragement and motivation —
and each was vital to the success of the
team.
As you seek to provide your children with
motivation, you’ll be most successful when
you play the role that works best for the
struggles they’re having. But you’ll need to
be attentive and flexible to figure it out.
Be a teacher
The best motivational strategies and all the
stickers in the world won’t increase chil-
dren’s short-term and long-term motivation
if they’re legitimately confused and uncer-
tain. They have to know what to do in order
to be successful. And parents can be the
ones to teach them.
Parents must explain and demonstrate the
right ways of doing things, while also con-
trasting those actions with the wrong ways.
For example, when someone is unkind to
you, seeking revenge is the wrong way to
deal with that situation (Romans 12:19).
Be a coach
Coaches break complex tasks into bite-size
pieces, teach each one, and have children
practice them one at a time. This helps chil-
dren get started, stay on task and learn more
efficiently. When I coached basketball, my
girls needed to dribble well standing still
before they could dribble while walking.
Then they’d run. Then they’d run and drib-
ble with another girl trying to steal the ball.
Think about the simple request: “Clean
your room.” A parent who coaches will talk
to his or her child about the various pieces
(e.g., make your bed, put clothes where they
belong, find a place for all the toys) and
even walk the child through the process. As
your child grows and develops, some of
these processes will become more complex,
but you will have established a precedent of
coaching them through multistep decisions
and tasks.
Be a cheerleader
Some children know what to do and how to
do it, but they’re hesitant, insecure and fear-
ful because of past failures or reactions
from parents or others. They need mom and
dad to be cheerleaders who stay involved
during the “whole game.”
The best cheerleaders know when to change
their cheers. If a football team is losing by
28 points in the fourth quarter, their cheer-
leaders are not yelling, “V-I-C-T-O-R-Y!”
They’re still there, but they’ve changed the
cheer to something along the lines
of finishing strong. If they didn’t, the fans,
players and coaches would know the cheer
squad isn’t paying attention. Cheering par-
ents need to observe closely, know their
children and cheer appropriately.
Be a referee
Sometimes parents will need to tell their
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children when they’re out of bounds, over
the line or need to keep their hands to them-
selves. If parents fail to do this, children
won’t know what weaknesses to work on or
won’t anticipate how they might hurt oth-
ers. The more effort parents put into teach-
ing and coaching, the less they’ll need to
spend on refereeing. The more you cheer
appropriately, the better children will han-
dle it when you need to blow the whistle.
As you observe your children, you can as-
certain which of these four roles will en-
courage them in their particular circum-
stances. The highly emotional kindergartner
may need a full-time cheerleader, while a
teenager may need a coach or referee.
You may also find that your child responds
better to one role than another. I prefer be-
ing coached; whereas a little bit of cheering
goes a long way for me. Just remember that
for a team to win a game, teaching, coach-
ing, cheering and reffing will all need to
occur at some point.
Taking the right tone
As you think about these four roles of en-
couragement, also consider the tone you use
to communicate with them. If you’re dis-
couraged or overwhelmed, you may be
communicating in demotivating ways —
such as criticism, complaining or nagging
— without even realizing it.
Changing your communication style can
encourage your children to want to listen to
you. These three styles of communication
can help:
Be optimistic
Optimists willingly explain things, believ-
ing children will learn and improve. They
expect things to go well and believe the best
about their kids. Optimists see what’s right
before they see what’s wrong, and they only
see the negative when it’s necessary. Opti-
mists won’t panic when children make mis-
takes or expect them to continue making
mistakes. An optimist won’t say, “You
never learn” or “How many times do I have
to tell you this?”
Be positive
Positive parents talk more about what they
want than about the current behavior they
see. For instance, if you’re frustrated that
your children are constantly forgetting as-
signments or supplies, you might say,
“Don’t forget.” This reminds them of what
they’re doing wrong. Instead, you can try
saying, “Be sure to remember.” You can
say, “Be on time,” instead of “Don’t be
late,” and “Please be quiet because your
sister is napping,” instead of “I wish you
would stop all that yelling.” Do you see the
positive nature of these messages? A simple
switch in language can convey an encourag-
ing tone.
Be enthusiastic
Indifference might be one of the most pain-
ful feelings children receive from parents
and other adults. The opposite is enthusi-
asm, defined as “lively interest.” When your
children know you’re sincerely interested in
them, what they’re doing and how they’re
doing, they’ll be more apt to trust you, care
what you think and listen to what you have
to say.
As you seek to be positive and enthusiastic,
you will discover that your children will be
more motivated, more likely to ask for your
help and more willing to admit when
they’re confused and in need of teaching or
coaching.
Encouragement motivates because it’s
about progress, not perfection. As you cheer
on your kids by looking for the best in them
and responding to their mistakes with com-
passion, they’ll have the courage to take
healthy risks because they trust you’re on
their side.
Dr. Kathy Koch is the founder of Celebrate
Kids Inc. and the author of Start with the
Heart.
Dennis Walker
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son Baptist Church. There are programs and ministries for every member of your family. Do you
know “How To Get To Heaven” from Anderson, SC? Join us at one of the below service times
and we will introduce you to Jesus, the only way to heaven.
SUNDAY
Choir Practice …………………... 8:45 am
Sunday School …………………... 9:15 am
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Deaf Ministry Sunday School…….9:15 am
Pastor’s Prayer Meeting……….....10:20 am
Morning Worship .………...…....10:30 am
Sunday Nights
Bible Drill & Bible Buddies ……..5:00 pm
Small Groups…………………….. 6:00 pm
WEDNESDAY
Choir Practice ………..…….......5:30 pm
Deaf Ministry Bible Study….….6:30 pm
Youth Bible Study …….….…….6:30 pm
Adult Prayer Meeting &
Bible Study ……..…………..… 6:30 pm
Preschool Mission Friends …..... 6:30 pm RA’s & GA’s ………………….. 6:30 pm
Small Group..…………..………. 6:30 pm
THURSDAY
Men’s Bible Study……………...6:30 am
(Mama Penn’s)
***For more information on church events please visit one of the bulletin boards located in the church.
The Lighthouse Volume 20 Issue 4
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Volume 20 Issue 4
