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We may give lip service to gender equality and tell our children they can do or become anything theyd like, but we still give our sons Matchbox cars and our daughters Barbie dolls.

When my daughter, Kari, was two I made her a dollhouse. It had five rooms, two attic closets, a sec-ond floor deck and two wide storage drawers for a base. It filled her childhood days with traditional feminine play.

Now Kari has a two-year-old son who is captivated by vehicles of all styles and sizes, from his suitcase full of Matchbox cars to his grandpas 66 Corvette. Ben

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When Kari was about four, I had made her a table with benches and a cupboard for a ceramic tea set that was scaled to her Ginny dolls. Table linens and tiny plastic foods completed the room. Since the dollhouse was a big hit with Ben, I got out the dining set and asked him to a tea party. I showed him how his mother had played with it: arranging the dishes on the table, in the cup-board and seating a Ginny on the bench. Ben invited his own guests: his teddy bear, a bunny, Elmo and a bobble-head Albert Einstein. Then he added special guests: his remote control Corvette, Lightning McQueen, and Mater.

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As students return to classrooms this fall, the Wisconsin Arts Board (WAB) has its doors

open with opportunities for learn-ing through the arts. The WAB connects people with resources to activate networks that create op-portunities in the arts, says George Tzougros, executive director. Our organization can help with funding, contacts and information sharing for those planning arts classes and performances and so much more.

WAB is the state arts agen-cy responsible for the support and development of the arts. It has an especially strong history uphold-ing traditional arts to preserve the heritage and multiplicity of artis-tic standards of the states cultural groups which students, teachers, schools, families and communities can benefit from WAB, is based in Madison and reaches its work throughout the entire state.

Its a good time to go back to school and to incorporate the arts

in all its forms, Tzougros says. The arts can spark imagination, innovation and creativity.

Its no secret how important arts is in education; and its well-known that in many areas of the state stu-dents arent meeting standards for math, reading, science and other core subjects. One effective way to improve education is through the arts. By offering students activities they enjoy in the arts, music, dance and theater they can develop a love for learning, which is critical for success throughout ones life, he says.

The future is on us now, Tzou-gros says. We cant wait for school transformation. The arts can help us now to enhance learning and to help bridge gaps among students. All schools should have access to art, music, dance and theater. Those opportunities build self-es-teem and a love for learning.

Its been long established that sports encourage team building skills. The arts also promote team building, Tzougros says. Students in choir, band and drama learn to

work together for the common goal of a successful performance, just as sports teams do to win a game.

Memorizing facts and taking tests to spit back that knowledge shouldnt be as important as en-couraging students to thrive in to-days creative economy, which requires team building, creative thinking and other skills, Tzougros says. Its more important for stu-dents to take information, synthe-size it and to make something new out of it. This is one way to demon-strate their learning.

Its challenging to give children the same opportunities. Some stu-dents take music and dance outside of school, for instance, while others are unable to afford such instruc-tion. Bringing the arts into the schools offers all children a chance to enjoy the arts. The arts may be the area where a child shines, Tzo-ugros says.

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work with students and teachers across the curricu-lum. Having an artist in the schools shows children that artists are real people, Tzougros says. Artists are not only those who created famous paintings hundreds of years ago. Artists are alive and thriving right now with us.

Wisconsin Folks. The Wisconsin Folks website features folk artists, their work and related cultural traditions. It also offers teacher resources to link the content to state academic standards and provides ex-tension materials as well.

With hiring information on more than 70 in-dividual artists and performing groups, schools can directly contact them for programs. Its a treasure trove of talent, Tzougros says, including musicians, dancers, visual artists, cooks and regional specialists.

As a great example, Queens of Harmony, wom-en that perform African-American Gospel Music from Milwaukee, have been appearing in schools and events throughout the city and state.

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The beginning of the school year is a great time to make sure your chil-drens vaccinations are up-to-date.

Informed parents know that immunizations save lives. But even those who have vaccinated their babies and toddlers dutifully may

not be aware that the recommended vaccination schedule continues through the later teen years.

Research published by the American Medical As-sociation found that teenagers age 14 and older were much less likely to see a pediatrician than their young-er-adolescent counterparts. But threats to health dont go away just because children are older.

We live in a busy world and its easy to forget to make appointments for an annual check-up, says Dr. Robert W. Block, MD, of the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). Let the new school season be your annual reminder to protect the health of your kids.

Here are some crucial vaccination tips and facts for parents of older children and teens: Check your calendar. When was the last time your child saw

a pediatrician? If its been over a year, make an appointment as soon

as possible. In advance of the appoint-ment, talk with your child and draw up a list of any concerns or questions to dis-cuss with the doctor.

Store immunization and other medical re-cords in an easily accessible place and be sure to keep the records current. Bring this information to the appointment. When you see your pediatrician, ask directly, What vaccines does my child need at this time?

Be sure to ask about the HPV vaccine, which is recommended for both boys and girls. While protection is most effective for adolescents ages 11 to 13, older teens who havent yet received the vaccine will safeguard your teens health in the future.

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immunizations, talk with your pediatri-cian. He or she may be able to point you toward resources that can offset the costs.

All children ages 11 to 18 should be pro-tected against meningitis, a deadly bac-terial infection thats spread easily in close living quarters. If teens are going to boarding school, college or the military, do not delay giving them the vaccine.

Every year, more than 200,000 Americans are hospitalized because of the flu and its complications, and 36,000 die. An annual influenza vaccine is an important part of protecting your children. Health authori-ties including the AAP and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recom-mend an annual flu vaccine for everyone starting at six months of age.

Your childrens health plays an important role in their academic success. Make sure you take steps to keep them safe from life-threatening dangers and prepare for a healthy school year.

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Entering preschool or kindergarten is a huge milestone for kids and one for which they should be well-prepared. For some, its the first time they will ever have been in a classroom setting, and it can be an overwhelming expe-rience for them if theyre not ready

for it. Here are some ways parents can help their kids get a jump-start on their education and make their transition to school a success.

For many kids, youre it; youre their first teach-er, she says. Everything is new and scary. School is big. Some (of the kids) are actually runners. They end up escaping and want to run after their parents.

You can make this transition of your child being away from you easier by leaving him or her with other caregivers, such as grandparents, relatives and friends. Start by leaving your child for short periods of time, like a hour to go shopping, and build to a longer peri-od of time.

Some ways parents can help their children with separation anxiety, according to an article written by

Dr. Lisa Medoff for Education.com, include making kindergarten something to look forward to. Prepare for the big day a few weeks ahead of time, Medoff writes. Post a calendar, and mark off the days as if you are excited about an upcoming holiday or birthday. Pick out a new lunch or backpack together, and save it for the big day. Plan a special, celebratory breakfast for the first morning.

Another way parents can help their child transi-tion to school is by building his or her social confi-dence by having your child socialize with other chil-dren. Socialization is a skill that has to be gradually learned. If you can introduce your child to the idea of sharing and taking turns before he or she starts school the whole experience will be more enjoyable for all.

Medoff also writes that parents can find out who will be in their childrens classes and arrange for the kids to play together a few times before school starts.


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So when your child begins the school year, he or she will already know someone else in the class. Then, after school begins, plan get-togethers with children from your childs class after school and on the week-ends. Another suggestion is to take your child to visit the school a few times before the first day. Arrange to meet the teacher. Look around the classroom and the school so that your child knows where the bath-room is, where his/her belongings will go, what the playground looks like, etc.

Medoff writes that children pick up cues about how to act from their parents, and if you are positive, calm and optimistic about your childs going to preschool or kindergarten, then your child will be just fine. So to help keep everyone calm on the first day, you should:

Allow plenty of time. More than likely, your child is not going to want you to just drop him or her off and leave on the first day, especially at preschool, so be prepared to stay until your child is settled.

Explain to your child that you will be back to pick him or her up after the last activity of the day. To make this more understandable for your child, ask the teacher what the last activity of the day will be.

If your child cries and wont let you leave, ask the staff for advice. After all, the staff is trained to deal with these types of circumstances.

Borrow some books to help. The library has several books you can share with your child about the first day of school. Your librarian can help with suggestions.

Salter says she enjoys the process of watching her students grow and become independent, not only ac-ademically but also socially. Theres something en-dearing about the children, she says. At that age, theyre just like sponges. The amount of growth they show from day one until the end is just tremendous. Ive had students who didnt know how to use a pencil or scissors, and just to see them blossom at the end of the school year is really rewarding. Its a lot of hard work but so worth it.

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As a parent, you may remember your own childhood as being full of bike rides, playing games with the neighborhood kids and afternoons filled with outdoor fun. And yet, when it comes to our own chil-dren, we tend to fill their days with

activity after activity, making their childhood more hec-tic and stress-filled. Perhaps we should question whether or not we are putting too much pressure on our children

and are they truly enjoying what they are doing?According to research, our children are under

stress sooner than we think. Infants often have to adjust to having different caretakers throughout the day, while toddlers become over-stimulated or frustrated by well-intentioned parents who want to teach them as much as possible. The stress just increases from there.

When children enter school, there is the pres-sure to perform well academically, especially with the government-mandated standardized testing. Several studies have shown that at least a quarter of all children suffer from test-related anxiety se-rious enough to make them physically sick.

Then, after school there is the juggling of homework and activities and sports, which are also becoming more demanding and competitive. While children used to play basketball or hockey for a few months a year and were able to compete in several sports, todays athletes concentrate on a single sport year-round and spend hours in the off-season working out in weight rooms, attend-ing camps and playing in summer leagues. The same demand can also be placed in music and the arts. If you want to participate in these activities, especially in high school, you should have been active in these activities throughout your child-hood because of the competition is so intense.

All of this pressure and stress are a result of our children not having any time to relax. And while we dont want to discourage them from

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be concerned about them burning out or missing out on imagination, curiosity and simple fun.

What it comes down to is that the new American norm for our children is daily stress. And according to Georgia Witkin, PhD, director of The Stress Program at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York City, when 724 ad-olescents, ages nine to 12, were asked what they wor-ried about, one-third of them said school, family and world events, and nearly half had trouble sleeping due to stress.

Why is this reason to be concerned? Because living with constant stress can affect a persons health. In fact, the Surgeon General has reported that 13 percent of children suffer from stress-related anxiety disorders. The threat is so serious that some experts want to see stress-management programs to be offered in schools.

Besides busy schedules and the increased pressure to do well in school, our children are also affected by a culture where theres too much artificial stimulation and too little interaction with parents and siblings. To complicate things even further, kids have a 24-7 life-style that precludes any rest or relaxation.

So when children do have time to de-stress, they are turning to electronic diversions such as playing computer or video games and watching action movies that end up stimulating them even more, rather than helping them relax. Unless kids are in an organized or family activity, theyre doing these things alone, says Dr. Witkin. The human connectedness that used to mediate stress isnt there anymore.

The other factor is that parents are also running on all cylinders, feeling stress and not finding time to re-lax. This only worsens the problem for the children. In other words, children are spending less time with their parents, and when they do spend time with them, the kids never get to see their parents relax. The result is that children dont have good role models for de-stress-ing, said Dr. Witkin.

How do you know if your child may be too stressed? The warning signs can vary with age. Infants may re-sist eating, toddlers may have intense temper tantrums and kindergarten and grade-school kids develop in-somnia. There may also be other physical consequenc-es of stress, such as the early onset of headaches and stress-induced asthma attacks.

Research has also suggested that stress causes the body to produce chemicals that lead to crav-ings for sugar and fat, which would increase a childs risk for diabetes as well as greater risk for becoming overweight. Perhaps this is why the percentage of

overweight American children has risen from five to 15 percent in the past three decades. Health experts believe this connection of stress, diabetes and obesity is more than just a coincidence.

And as children age and the challenges become more daunting, some studies have suggested there is an increased risk of abusing alcohol or drugs, suffering from depression or attempting suicide. Some family therapists even worry that todays stressed-out kids, who have grown up being pressured to overachieve, will grow into confused, alienated young adults whose sense of self-worth only comes from what they do, rather than from who they are.

Parents can help their children by enrolling them in a stress management class that teaches breathing techniques and by making time for their children to relax. In fact, the whole family can relax during the evening and weekends by walking with the dog before or after dinner, playing a board game or simply talking with each other.


Middle school can be a difficult time for most students, as it is a time of transition and many changes. It can also be a time of fear for students, especially that first year as they adjust to a new school. So what might

your middle school student possibly be worried about and how can you help? Here is a list of the most com-mon fears:

Combination Locks. Most students have not had a locker with a combination lock until middle school, so their greatest fear is not being able to open their locker to get the materials they need for class.

Buy a combination lock over the summer so your child can practice using it before the school year begins. Also, if possible, see if the school will allow your child to come and try his or her locker.being Late for Class. One of the biggest fears is being punished for being late to class, so stu-dents worry about not having enough time between classes to get where they need to be before the bell rings.

First, let your child know that everyone feels this way. Then brainstorm ways to make the process from going from class to class easier by discussing what to do if he or she doesnt know where a class is, such as asking for help. You may also want to remind your child to save socializing with friends for lunch and af-ter school.

Not Having Friends. This may seem like a ridiculous fear to some, but for a middle school stu-dent making such a big transition that fear is real. This fear of not being part of the same group as el-ementary school is based on feelings of insecurity. It should be noted that middle school is a difficult time especially with the shifting of the so-called so-cial order and the constant rotation of friendships.As a parent, the best solution to this situation is to

be a good listener as your child voices his or her fears. You may also want to remind your child of the friends he or she does have and how those friends have been there and probably feel the same way.

being too Different. The last thing a middle school student wants to do is to stand out from the crowd. The boys and girls dont want to be too tall or too short; they want to have the right clothes, shoes and backpack.

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Remember, this is the age when your child is searching for an identity, so whatever you do, do not minimize your childs fears. Your childs self-esteem is in question at this time in his or her life due to a combination of hormone activity and brain development. Try to emphasize your childs positive qualities whenever possible to boost his or her confidence instead.tough Classes. Another big fear of middle school students is not being able to keep up aca-demically. They get nervous about the increased

workload and are concerned their grades may slip. Yes, there may be an increased workload; howev-

er, encourage your child that he or she will be able to handle it. Then, remind your child that if extra help is needed to tell you or the teacher so steps to address the problem can be taken early on to get the extra help he or she needs.

Middle school can be difficult, but with the right encouragement and support, your child will be able to find success.


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It has been observed that life in general has become more complicated, but this is es-pecially true when it comes to applying for college. This process, which can get compli-cated and nerve-racking, should begin with the high school student sitting down with his or her parents to clarify objectives, according

to Steven Roy Goodman, an educational consultant and the author of College Admissions Together: It Takes a Family.

This is a very important step, he says. You, the student, cant assume that your parents will agree with you about what you should study or what col-leges you should apply to. In fact, your parents may not agree with each other on these points.

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Topics that should be discussed include possible majors and career interests, whether a liberal arts or career-oriented institution is more appropriate, whether the student will choose a college close to home or across the country and how to maximize financial aid. You need to flesh out these details before starting the admissions process. For example, one parent may not believe in womens colleges, while the other may refuse to pay for a liberal arts education, Goodman says.

The student and parents should determine what issues they can agree on and what, if anything, is a deal breaker. However, the student must assume the leading role in the college search. Someone must be the quarterback. Ultimately, the student needs to accept the responsibility for his or her educa-tion, Goodman believes.

Ana Homayoun, founder of Green Ivy Educational Consult-ing, advises students and parents to work together to develop a list of institutions to which the student will apply. Make a list in Sep-tember and the student should be thrilled in April when the admis-sions letters come out, she says.

When it comes to completing college applications, many stu-dents include long lists of extracur-ricular and community activities to impress the admissions officer or committee. This, various experts agree, often isnt as effective as the applicants may think.

It is a mistake for a student to try to present him or herself to the college as a well-rounded individ-ual, Goodman says. Its a lopsided world. The days of students dab-bling in a long list of clubs so they

can be put on an application are gone, he says. I advise students to do what you want to do and do a lot of it.

A student is better served by exploring a passion or special in-terest in depth and detailing that on the application, according to former college admissions coun-selor Whitney Bruce of Accepted.com. Students miss a valuable opportunity to tell the admissions staff what makes them tick, she says.

Homayoun cites the example of a student who liked to explore the outdoors and was involved with an Outward Bound program, eventually winning a leadership award.

Homayoun and other consul-tants also advise students not to overlook work experience. Stu-dents sometimes forget the value of work and what it can provide, Bruce says. Someone who mowed lawns during the summer probably learned a lot about running his own business and dealing with people. This experience could be a good topic for an admissions essay. I ad-vise students to think about what happens outside the classroom.

Academic performance re-mains the most important factor when it comes to college admis-sions, according to Goodman. The number one thing that counts is academic performance. You have to keep up your academ-ic standards, he says. The rule of thumb is to take the most rigorous academic load possible without killing yourself.

Most consultants advise that an individual apply to between sev-en and 12 colleges. I suggest that a student put together a balanced

list of institutions. This might be three of the most selective insti-tutions or those that it would be a stretch for the student to get into, Bruce says. Students should apply to three colleges where they have a good chance of being admitted, as well as three safe choices where they are fairly certain of getting in.

The essay remains an import-ant part of any college application. According to Bruce, the best essays tell a story and give the admissions committee a better look at the ap-plicant. The essay is the opportu-nity to fill a hole. Look at your ap-plication and see what information about you might be missing, she says.

Homayoun recommends that, beginning in September, students devote two hours a day to working on their college applications. If they set aside a block of time each day and keep to the schedule, they should be done with their applica-tions by Thanksgiving, she says. It also helps decrease the stress involved with the whole process.

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Leaving for college can be an exciting time in your childs life, but it can also be difficult and challenging as well. And as parents, you, too, are probably going to be experiencing some mixed emotions. While you are proud of your childs move toward achieving his or

her dreams, you are also sad to see your child leave.

the First YearWhen students to go away to college, they go

through a variety of feelings and emotions during their first year. The experience typically goes from ex-citement, to frustration, to homesickness and loneli-ness. Despite these phases, most students are able to adapt to the new environment.

the parents roleWhile some parents leave their student at the front

door of college and let their child fend for him or her-self, other parents hover and continue to take care of their childs every need, including filling out housing forms and running interference whenever the student faces a problem. Whatever your parenting style or choice is, studies show the best way to help your stu-dent is to find common ground in the middle of those two different parenting styles.

New students need the continued love and support of their parents. They also need to be able to turn to their parents when they struggle or when a problem occurs. However, with that said, students also need to make decisions for themselves and struggle with the complexities of living within a community away from home.

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From tiny closets to rude roommates, dormitory living can have its pitfalls. But students can get a handle on some dorm room dilemmas even before setting foot on campus this fall by:

1. Avoiding the purchase of items the school provides or prohibits. Check with your college or university as to what and what is not allowed in the dormitories.

2. Maximizing space. Because space is limited in the dorms, create space un-der the bed, over the door and in the clos-et. Bed risers, storage cubes and rolling drawer carts are simple ways to cram all that stuff in small spaces. You can also use double hanging rods and ultra slim hang-ers with accessory bars to help maximize closets.

3. Preparing for the lines in the com-munity bathroom. Students should never keep showering until the last minute. Use a shower caddy to easily transport toilet-ries down the hall. Remember, this isnt a private spa, bring a bathrobe and flip flops for trips to the shower.

4. Creating a warm, comfortable place to sleep and study. A great nights sleep is crucial to a young scholar. Night owls and morning larks alike will find a friend in earplugs and sleep masks to shut out light and sound from roommates. You can also upgrade a drab room and the school-issued bed by layering on a styl-ish comforter set and adding support to a standard six-inch mattress with a memory foam topper or featherbed.

5. Remembering your technology needs. The number of outlets is limited in most dorm rooms, so consider streamlin-ing with multi-purpose gadgets. You can create your own multiple outlet access with an adjustable surge protector.

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Tips To Solve Dorm Room Dilemmas

The truth is, your child may get frustrated and stum-ble along the way as he or she makes academic and per-sonal decisions, but that is just part of growing up and becoming an adult. And although it will not be easy, sometimes, as a parent, you will need to let your child work through these decisions using college resources in-stead of family resources. Your new role is to listen, be attentive and supportive; it is not your job to fix it. Let-ting go will enable your child to grow and develop into the mature adult you want him or her to become.

things You Can Do to Help prepare Your Student

The best thing you can do as a parent is to make sure your child is able to manage the daily and longer-term tasks of college life and beyond. Hopefully, you have al-ready taught your child some of these skills; if not, en-courage your child to learn to:

Do laundry and clean their living space. Manage financial affairs. This includes budget-

ing, keeping track of credit card spending and ATM withdrawals, balancing his or her check-book and comparison-shopping for personal ne-cessities.

Make his or her own appointments, complete own paperwork and contact offices for informa-tion.

Manage personal affairs, such as getting up in the morning, managing time, taking care of his or her health and well-being.

Make his or her own decisions and manage the consequences.

What You, as a parent, may be experiencing

Parenting is challenging work, and the role of parent is constantly changing as your children grow. However, probably the biggest adjustment for parents of college students is parenting at a distance. After reviewing sev-eral sources, the issues that seem to be the most chal-lenging for parents of college students are:

Missing their child. Deciding what the right level of response should

be from a distance when a problem occurs (In other words, does the issue require me to act be-yond simply being a good listener and offering supportive advice?).

Less communicating with their son or daughter. Seeing the child struggle in a new life.


By CynDi STrayer

As a new school year begins, many parents dread the battle over h o m e w o r k . Parents know

that if left to their own devices, their children would not do their homework. They would rather be playing video games, texting their friends or doing something outside; and so, you, as a parent, feel like you have to negotiate and nag your child to do his or her homework. Unfortunately, in the eyes of your child, you look like the homework police.

My own philosophy on the sub-ject has been to ask my children if they have homework and later ask whether or not it is done, but I nev-

er push or watch over their shoul-ders because I believe this is their responsibility. And if they do not complete their work, then they will have to deal with the consequences at school.

While some of you just cringed at this thought, I believe that ap-proaching homework in this man-ner helps my children become more responsible and independent. And besides, when they receive good grades, they know they accom-plished those grades on their own.

But no matter what your ap-proach to homework may be, home-work is a serious concern for both you and your child. And when they need help, we should be there to support and encourage our children in any way we can.

You can do this by helping your child develop good study habits, which is probably the most im-portant skill your child can learn. To study effectively, your child should be encouraged to take notes in class, to read for content, listen actively and to study for exams. These are skills that will help your child in school and beyond.

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However, what do you do if homework is ending in tears every night? This may mean it is time to take further steps to help your child figure out why this is happening. You may want to ask other parents and teachers if your child is the only one having trouble? Is this just a temporary problem because your child does not understanding the math this week?

Teachers can be especially helpful when it comes to troubleshooting problems. Your childs teacher may be able to recommend an individualized educational plan for your child, which may include scaled down assignments, longer deadlines or alternative assign-ments suited to your childs learning style. Of course, this will depend on the teacher and the schools pol-icies.

If the homework battles become too much for you to handle on your own, consider finding a tutor for your child. A tutor can also help your child develop good study habits by teaching them the best study methods for him or her.

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National Panini Month

Get Ready for Kindergarten Month

Happiness Happens Month

National Immunization Awareness Month

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August 20Mitchell Park Domes - Free to all Milwaukee County Residents with proof of res-idency on Mondays 9 a.m.-noon, excluding major holidays and celebrations of major holidays. (414) 257-5611.

August 21Ponding FeverSchlitz Audubon Nature CenterGet outside and explore the awesome wet-lands. (414) 352-2880 ext. O to register.

August 22Road Trip AmericaBetty Brinn Childrens MuseumMove to the music across America! Find adven-ture through stories, music and movement activi-ties that highlight geography, history and fun facts from coast to coast. (414) 390-KIDS (5437).

August 25Take your kids to the beach. Brad-ford Beach is free and open to all.

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August 26Adventure Dinosaur!Special Exhibit - Milwau-kee County ZooVisit a tropical, outdoor habitat and see more than 20 realistic, life-size robotic recreations of the dinosaurs that roamed the earth 150 million years ago. $2.50 exhibit fee. Through September 3.

August 27Mitchell Park Domes - Free to all Milwaukee County Residents with proof of residency on Mondays 9 a.m.-noon, exclud-ing major holidays and celebrations of major holidays. (414) 257-5611

September 1-2Revolutionary War EventPioneer Village, 4880 Hwy County I, SaukvilleRe-enactment and Encampment. Battles on Saturday and Sunday at 11am and 4pm. Food and bever-ages available. (262) 377-4510 or www.co.ozaukee.wi.us/OCHS.

September 3Labor Day!

September 8 & 9Family Farm WeekendMilwaukee County Zoo Inspired by Wisconsins rich farming heritage, this festival includes a childrens tractor-pull contest, cook-

ing demonstrations and down-home entertainment! milwaukeezoo.org.

September 9Milwaukee Public Museum - free for Grandparents - be pre-pared to show proof of County residency. www.mpm.edu.

September 10Mitchell Park DomesFree to all Milwaukee County Residents with proof of residency on Mondays 9 a.m.-noon, exclud-ing major holidays and celebrations of major holidays. (414) 257-5611.

September 14 - 16North Prairie Harvest FestVeterans Park, Hwy 59, North PrairieFood, music, carnival rides, fireworks (Sept. 15) parade on Sept. 16. www.northprairie.net.

September 15-1640th Annual Wine & Harvest FestivalDowntown CedarburgQuilts & Fiber Arts and activ-ities for kids make this a must for a beautiful fall getaway.


September 20Betty Brinn Childrens Museum929 E. Wisconsin Avenue Free admission for all visitors, courtesy of US Bank & FOX 6, along with free program, Back-to-School Resource Fair, 5 - 8 p.m. (414) 390-KIDS (5437).


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OctoberAdopt a Shelter Dog MonthDyslexia Awareness MonthStone-Opal Flower-Snapdragon

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Cinnamon Roll DayNational Chess DayStop Bullying DayFrankenstein FridayNational Chocolates DayBeggars Night

September 28The Racine Art MuseumFree First Fridays - Free admis-sion to everyone the first Friday of every month! ramart.org.

October 1Mitchell Park DomesFree admission to all Milwaukee Coun-ty Residents with proof of residency on Mondays 9 a.m.-noon, excluding major holidays and celebrations of major holidays. (414) 257-5611.

October 6 - 7Civil War EncampmentTrimborn Farm, 8881 West Grange Ave., GreendaleStep into the world of Confederate and Union soldiers, artillery, caval-ry, sutlers and civilians. 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m., (414) 273-8288.

October 8Milwaukee County MuseumFree Mondays for Milwaukee County residents. Be prepared to show proof of County residency. mpm.edu.

October 13 & 14OktoberfestCedar Creek Park, CedarburgActivities for the kids will keep the youngsters happy. Delicious German foods, desserts and specialty beers will be featured throughout the park.

October 15 Milwaukee County MuseumFree Mondays for Milwaukee County residents be prepared to show proof of County residency. mpm.edu.

October 18Betty Brinn Childrens MuseumUS Bank & Fox 6 Neighborhood Night Enjoy FREE admission for all visitors. 5 - 8 p.m. www.bbcmkids.org.

October 19Big the MusicalFirst Stage Childrens TheaterCome see this new version of the To-ny-award nominated musical comedy, created just for our family audiences. For everyone ages 7 & up. Through November 11. www.firststage.org.

Oct 19 & 20 Boo at the ZooMilwaukee County ZooTiny ghosts and goblins are invited to enjoy a host of Halloween festivi-ties including a Halloween maze and colorful crafts, 6 p.m. to 9 p.m.

October 22Mitchell Park DomesFree to all Milwaukee County Res-idents with proof of residency on Mondays 9 a.m.-noon, excluding ma-jor holidays and celebrations of ma-jor holidays. (414) 257-5611.

October 25 & 26Not-So-Scary HalloweenBetty Brinn Childrens Museum 4:00 - 8:00 p.m. For de-tails, visit bbcmkids.org.

October 26 & 27Halloween Trick-or-Treat SpooktacularMilwaukee County ZooTrick-or-treat at the Zoo! Ride the Ra-vens Rail, march in the costume parade and catch the light show. Oct. 26, 6 p.m. to 9 p.m.; Oct. 27, 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.

October 27Halloween AdventureSchlitz Audubon Nature CenterGames, crafts, a movie, live birds of prey, hikes and more. 4 - 8 p.m. (414) 352-2880.

October 29Milwaukee County Museum Mondays Free for Milwaukee County residents be prepared to show proof of County residency. mpm.edu.

October 31Have a safe & scary Halloween!

including an annual cultural tour of the state. Wisconsin culture is happening right now its not something that occurred in the past or were waiting for in the future, Tzougros says.

Creative Communities Program (CCP). The Creative Communities Program (CCP) en-courages art education and commu-nity arts development. It provides support for projects that further the WABs goals in arts education, folk and traditional arts and local arts.

Wisconsin Weather Stories. This project provides units for stu-dents in kindergarten through grade 12 on the science and stories of lo-cal weather. Its an interdisciplin-ary curriculum produced through a variety of sources, including atmo-spheric scientists, folklorists and teachers.

If we are going to have a better future than the one we have now, Tzougros says. We need to be at the top of our game in imagination. The key to this success is in our children. Kids are our renewable resource.

WAB programs and contacts can be found at the organizations website: http://artsboard.wisconsin.gov.

Kim K. Seidel is an award-winning writer and editor, wife, and mother of two daughters in Wisconsin. For more information, visit www.seidelink.com.

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