LOVING OTHERS TO ACTIONAnswering before listening is both stupid and rude. Proverbs 18:19

HOW TO LOVE OTHERS TO ACTION

Be a spiritual leader. Be a loveable leader. Be a constructive leader.

SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP IS LOVING

Fair Loving Humble

He has shown all you people what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.

Micah 6:8

But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:18

If you can keep your head when everyone around is losing theirs, then you can actually help. R. Kipling

FAIR LEADERSHIP

“He had to be made like his brothers in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people.” Heb.2.17

LoaTzu (tao) “The evolved leader only leads when completely identified with the people, when their concerns become his.”

Maxwell “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

LOVING LEADERSHIP

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He came to Simon Peter who said to him, “Lord, are you going wash my feet?” John 13:16

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Communicating that people matter!

Turn around moments in your life – who was involved?

What you say and do matters.

CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK

When you see good work.

When you see poor work.

When you see a dead end.

NEVER LET GOOD WORK GO UNNOTICED

Encourage one another daily and build each other up, just as you are doing. 1Thes.5:11

Be immediate. Be specific.

NEVER LET POOR WORK GO UNNOTICED

“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” 2Tim.3.16

Keep it private. Keep it positive.

Proceed with caring. Attitude checks needed.

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Let the employee choose own path…

How do you think it could have gone better?

What can be done different next time?

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Practical guidance.

Sometimes I’ll say something like…

What works for me is . . . What has worked for you?

MISTAKES MEAN THEY ARE TRYING!

NEVER LET BAD HABITS GO UNNOTICED

“Slack habits and sloppy work are as bad as vandalism.” Pr.18:9 (Message)

Keep it private. Keep it positive.

Set the tone for a difficult personal conversation.

Be direct but gentle.

“Be completely humble and gentle. Be patient, bearing with one another in love.” Eph.4.2

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Personal Feedback.

I feel awkward about this…

Sometimes your body odor is too noticeable.

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Avoid Sidetracks!

I don’t mean to offend, but we need to go forward. I need you to show up without noticible body odor. I brought it up because it’s my job, and I want you to succeed.

NEVER LET BAD HABIT GO UNNOTICED

“Better is an open rebuke than hidden love.” Pr.27:5

Constructive leadership means you CARE! Caring means you NOTICE! What people do really matters.

CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK

When you see good work. When you see poor work. When you see a dead end.

TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD

“Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.” Rev.3:19

THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE

State what you observe. Wait for a response. Remind them of the goal. Ask for simple solution. Agree together.

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State.

“You have missed three meetings in a row.”

No editorial

Just behavior.

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Wait.

Do not be sidetracked.

Your relationship is not the issue, it’s the behavior.

Do not fill in a silent gap with your own material.

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Remind.

“We work together as a team, you need to be at the meetings.”

Opportunity for more sidetracks.

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Ask.

“So how will you make it to the next meeting?”

Everyone has a complex life. Stay true to goal.

Sorry to hear that but we depend on you too.

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Agree.

Mutual clear statement.

“So, next Friday, you will be at the meeting.”

“I’ll be at the meeting on Friday.”

“I hope things work out at …”

TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD

“Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.” Rev.3:19

THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE

State what you observe. Wait for a response. Remind them of the goal. Ask for simple solution. Agree together.

CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK

When you see good work. Immediate Specific

When you see poor work. Keep it private Keep it positive

When you see a poor habit. Set the tone. Be direct but gentle.

When you see a dead end. Two Minute Drill. State. Wait. Remind. Ask.

Agree.

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Be a spiritual leader.

Be a loveable leader.

Be a construc-tive leader.