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Attraction and Intimacy: Attraction and Intimacy: Liking and Loving OthersLiking and Loving Others
Chapter ElevenChapter Eleven
Friendships
• Proximity– Interaction
• Anticipation of interaction
– Mere exposure• “the tendency for novel stimuli to be liked more or
rated more positively after the rater has been repeatedly exposed to them”
Friendships
• Physical attractiveness– Attractiveness and dating– The matching phenomenon
Friendships
• Physical attractiveness (cont.)
– The physical-attractiveness stereotype• What is Beautiful is Good
– Who is attractive?• Social comparison• Those we love
Friendships
• Similarity versus complementarity– Do birds of a feather flock together?– Do opposites attract?
• The complementarity notion
Friendships
• Liking those who like us– Attribution
• Ingratiation
– Self-esteem and attraction– Gaining another’s esteem
Friendships
• Reward Theory of Attraction:– “We like those whose behavior is rewarding to
us or whom we associate with rewarding events” (p. 444)
– Lewicki (1985) - Liking by association
Love
• Common elements– Mutual understanding– Giving and receiving support– Enjoying the loved one’s company
Love
• Passionate love– Styles of love– A theory of passionate love
• The Two-Factor Theory of Emotion (Schacter and Singer , 1962) “Adrenaline make the heart grow fonder.”
– Variations in love• Time and culture
• Gender
Love
• Companionate love– “The affection we feel for those with whom our
lives are deeply intertwined”– Disillusion with passionate love
Maintaining close relationships
• Attachment– Secure– Avoidant– Insecure
• Equity
• Self-disclosure– The Disclosure Reciprocity effect
Ending relationships
• Who divorces?
• The detachment process
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