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4. Listening and Responding to Others. Listening and Responding to Others. Communication in a Changing World The Listening Process Active and Passive Listening Obstacles to Effective Listening Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener. Communication in a Changing World. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Bethami A. DobkinRoger C. Pace
Communication in a Changing World, 2006 Edition
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Listening and Responding to Others
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Listening and Responding to Others
• Communication in a Changing World• The Listening Process• Active and Passive Listening• Obstacles to Effective Listening• Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good
Listener
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Communication in a Changing World
• Listening is a major part of communication that many of us take for granted
• Good listening skills are important in both our professional and personal lives
• Improving your listening skills will make you a better communicator, assist you in your professional life, and enrich your interpersonal relationships
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Communication in a Changing World
“The most called-upon prerequisite of a friend is an accessible ear.”
—Maya Angelou, poet
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Communication in a Changing World
• Hearing and Listening– Hearing refers to the act of perceiving sounds
or other related stimuli– Listening is the process of perceiving,
constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken or nonverbal messages
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Communication in a Changing WorldFigure 4-1. Communication Time Spent Listening
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The Listening Process
• Attending, the first stage in the listening process, involves making the conscious choice to listen
• Interpreting, the second stage, involves giving meaning to sounds or related stimuli
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The Listening Process
Figure 4-2. Stages of the Listening Process
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The Listening Process
• Responding, the third stage of the listening process, involves any discernable reaction including both verbal and nonverbal feedback
• Remembering, the final stage, involves the retention and recall of messages
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The Listening Process
“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked what I thought, and attended to my answer.”
—Henry David Thoreau, author and philosopher
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Active and Passive Listening
• Active listeners focus on the moment, are aware of interactions as they unfold, respond appropriately, and are aware of distractions
• Passive listeners expend little or no energy in the listening process
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Obstacles to Effective Listening
• Overcoming External Distractions– Physical Environment
• Ask speaker to pause or repeat a statement• Sit closer to the speaker• Turn down the volume on electronic devices
– Message Context• Understand and pay attention to the context in which
we listen to messages– Media Noise
• Think about the influence that medium will have on the listeners ability to understand you
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Obstacles to Effective Listening
• Overcoming Attitudinal Obstacles– Preoccupation with the Self
• Communicators who are consistently thinking about what they are going to say instead of listening to others miss much of the meaning in messages
– Preconceived Attitudes and Beliefs• Often interfere with our listening effectiveness by
leading us to categorize messages before fully understanding them
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Obstacles to Effective Listening
• Overcoming Attitudinal Obstacles (continued)– Personal Investment
• Personal investment can lead to selective attention, ambushing, and avoidance of threatening information
• Can be triggered by semantic noise, a barrier to listening triggered by a particular word or phrase used by a speaker, or indifference, a lack of interest in listening
• Indifference often results in pseudolistening, or pretending to listen
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Identifying Listening Goals
– Appreciation is the goal of listening for pleasure or enjoyment
– Comprehension is the goal for listening for understanding
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener“Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.”
—Jimi Hendrix, rock musician
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Identifying Listening Goals
– Empathy is the goal of establishing common ground between people by acknowledging the legitimacy of feelings and giving support to others
• Expressive communicators verbally acknowledge how others feel and share experience
• Instrumental communication is listening or responding to help other solve problems or goals
– Evaluation is the goal of listening to render an opinion or judgment
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Preparing to Listen
– Clear your mind– Eliminate distractions– Set goals– Take notes when listening to presentations
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Improving Comprehension
– Maintaining an Open Mind1. Recognize your own interests and biases2. Separate the message from its source3. Identify key points in the message4. Listen for unanticipated information
– Using Perception Checks• Paraphrase in your own words what the speaker
said• Ask questions• Identify areas of agreement with the speaker
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Choosing Your Response
– The response you make will influence what happens next in the interaction1. Make active choices about your feedback2. Be careful about using negative feedback3. Validate the speaker
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Making Communication Memorable
– Staying Involved While Listening• The best way to remember an interaction is to make
an investment in it– Organizing Information
• To be effective, the listener must often identify key points and regroup material
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Communicating Responsibly: Being a Good Listener• Applying Communication Concepts
– Listening and Responding During Interviews• Are your questions clear and direct?• How might you rephrase your questions if the
respondent has difficulty understanding you?• Have you thought of follow-up questions that will
allow the speaker to stress points more clearly?
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Summary
• By improving our listening skills, we strengthen the foundation for shared meaning in communication and increase satisfaction with our interpersonal relationships
• The four stages of the listening process are (1) attending, (2) interpreting, (3) responding, and (4) remembering
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• Active listeners frequently remember more information than passive listeners
• There are many obstacles, both internal and external, to effective listening in every communication situation
• The four listening goals are (1) appreciation, (2) comprehension, (3) empathy, and (4) evaluation
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Summary
• Some of the ways to listen responsibly and effectively include– Preparing physically and mentally to listen– Taking notes– Being open-minded– Using perception checks– Actively providing feedback– Demonstrating comprehension– Staying involved– Organizing material and information