Life Coaching

Success cycleSuccess cycle

• 1. Planning1. Planning

• 2. Taking action2. Taking action

• 3. Receiving feedback3. Receiving feedback

• 4. Learning from the feedback4. Learning from the feedback

Accept your mistakesAccept your mistakes

• You cannot tackle your goals without errors, foul-You cannot tackle your goals without errors, foul-ups and some fumbling along the way. ups and some fumbling along the way.

• It is important to have the right strategy and be It is important to have the right strategy and be willing to live with some mistakes.willing to live with some mistakes.

• Your biggest mistake would be to wait until you Your biggest mistake would be to wait until you believe you can take action without any believe you can take action without any problems.problems.

Goal achievementGoal achievement

1.1. Diagnose the present situation.Diagnose the present situation.

2.2. Build a vision for the future.Build a vision for the future.

3.3. Develop an action plan to move from 1 to Develop an action plan to move from 1 to 2.2.

Now you are ready to take action.Now you are ready to take action.

It’s up to youIt’s up to you

Only you can take action so:Only you can take action so:

• ‘‘Just do it!’Just do it!’

• When you take action it will involve When you take action it will involve change.change.

The change cycleThe change cycle

• UnfreezingUnfreezing

• ChangeChange

• FreezingFreezing

Reducing resistance to Reducing resistance to changechange• Be flexibleBe flexible

• Be confidentBe confident

• Recognise negative feelingsRecognise negative feelings

• Be awareBe aware

• Find supportFind support

Find more productive ways to spend your energy!Find more productive ways to spend your energy!

Tactics for implementing Tactics for implementing changechange• Manage your thinkingManage your thinking

• Enlist helpEnlist help

• Demonstrate success Demonstrate success

• Chunk itChunk it

Force field analysisForce field analysis

• The term ‘force field’ comes from research by The term ‘force field’ comes from research by social scientist Kurt Lewin. social scientist Kurt Lewin.

• Any present state is in equilibrium between forces Any present state is in equilibrium between forces pushing for, and forces resisting, change.pushing for, and forces resisting, change.

• Concentrate on understanding and influencing Concentrate on understanding and influencing the ‘restraining forces’. the ‘restraining forces’.

• Only then can you implement the change.Only then can you implement the change.

Kubler-Ross change curveKubler-Ross change curve

Shock

Denial

Anger/ Frustration

Loss of self-confidence/Depression

Experiment/ Testing new behaviours

Decisions/Planning

Integration/ Acceptance

Managing changeManaging change

• The curve focuses on the effect of change on you.The curve focuses on the effect of change on you.

• Change is continuous, the end of one curve is the Change is continuous, the end of one curve is the start of another.start of another.

• When you experience change you will go through When you experience change you will go through a series of phrases.a series of phrases.

Kubler-Ross change curve Kubler-Ross change curve phasesphases• Phase 1 – ShockPhase 1 – Shock

Things seem unpredictable and uncontrollableThings seem unpredictable and uncontrollable

• Phase 2 – DenialPhase 2 – DenialYou retreat into the past, giving a temporary feeling of You retreat into the past, giving a temporary feeling of being back in controlbeing back in control

• Phase 3 – Anger/frustrationPhase 3 – Anger/frustrationGradual realisation of change makes you feel confused Gradual realisation of change makes you feel confused about what to do/how to copeabout what to do/how to cope

• Phase 4 – Loss of self-confidence/depressionPhase 4 – Loss of self-confidence/depressionThe realisation of change hits homeThe realisation of change hits home

Kubler-Ross change curve Kubler-Ross change curve phases (continued)phases (continued)• Phase 4 – Loss of self-confidence/depressionPhase 4 – Loss of self-confidence/depression

If this phase is prolonged, your feeling of self-worth could be If this phase is prolonged, your feeling of self-worth could be seriously impairedseriously impaired

• Phase 5 – Experiment/testing new behavioursPhase 5 – Experiment/testing new behavioursYou accept the situation and are determined to see it throughYou accept the situation and are determined to see it through

• Phase 6 – Decisions/planningPhase 6 – Decisions/planningYou try to make sense of what has happened, balancing past You try to make sense of what has happened, balancing past experiences with new thoughtsexperiences with new thoughts

• Phase 7 – Integration/AcceptancePhase 7 – Integration/AcceptanceThings now appear more stableThings now appear more stable

Not everyone will flow though Not everyone will flow though the curve smoothlythe curve smoothly

• Some will fast forwardSome will fast forward

• Some will backtrackSome will backtrack

• Some will get stuck in the early stagesSome will get stuck in the early stages

• Some will ignore their past experiencesSome will ignore their past experiences

• Some will get confused and locked inSome will get confused and locked in

FeedbackFeedback

• Good planning and a positive attitude will not Good planning and a positive attitude will not always prevent things from going wrong.always prevent things from going wrong.

• When they do go wrong, do you laugh or cry?When they do go wrong, do you laugh or cry?

- Crying is cleansing – laughter is healing.Crying is cleansing – laughter is healing.- Laughter will prevent you from blowing the Laughter will prevent you from blowing the

problem out of all proportion.problem out of all proportion.- Anger and resentment offer no benefitAnger and resentment offer no benefit

FailureFailure

• Unsuccessful feedback is not failure. Unsuccessful feedback is not failure.

• It is your reaction to feedback that will determine It is your reaction to feedback that will determine your success or failure. your success or failure.

• Changing the goal, redefining success or not Changing the goal, redefining success or not taking any corrective action is failure.taking any corrective action is failure.

• We learn from feedback.We learn from feedback.

When things go wrongWhen things go wrong

Was it due to:Was it due to:

• Poor planning?Poor planning?• A lack of commitment?A lack of commitment?• A lack of support?A lack of support?• A lack of time?A lack of time?• Self-doubt?Self-doubt?

Adjust your plan, overcome the problem and Adjust your plan, overcome the problem and forge ahead.forge ahead.

When things go rightWhen things go right

Focus on the causes, not the symptoms. Focus on the causes, not the symptoms. Was it due to:Was it due to:

• Good planning?Good planning?• Commitment?Commitment?• Support of a mentor?Support of a mentor?• Time invested?Time invested?• Self-belief?Self-belief?

Adjust your plan, maintain and build on your Adjust your plan, maintain and build on your success and forge ahead.success and forge ahead.

PersistencePersistence

The success cycle revolves around your persistence:The success cycle revolves around your persistence:

• Persistence in planning your actions.Persistence in planning your actions.

• Persistence in carrying through those actions.Persistence in carrying through those actions.

• Persistence to learn from the feedback your actions bring.Persistence to learn from the feedback your actions bring.

• The persistence to keep going when family/friends highlight The persistence to keep going when family/friends highlight your ‘failures’.your ‘failures’.

Famous failures? But for Famous failures? But for persistence…persistence…

• Chest Carlson took four years and rejections from IBM, GE Chest Carlson took four years and rejections from IBM, GE and RCA before the Haloid Company took his invention and and RCA before the Haloid Company took his invention and renamed their company Xerox after it.renamed their company Xerox after it.

• James Dyson took five years and 5,127 prototypes to invent James Dyson took five years and 5,127 prototypes to invent the world’s first bag-less vacuum cleaner. Before he the world’s first bag-less vacuum cleaner. Before he manufactured it he nearly became bankrupt, due to the manufactured it he nearly became bankrupt, due to the worldwide patent fees.worldwide patent fees.

• Thomas Edison had 7,000 failed attempts to design a latex Thomas Edison had 7,000 failed attempts to design a latex rubber plant and 11,000 failed experiments before he rubber plant and 11,000 failed experiments before he invented the electric light bulb.invented the electric light bulb.