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1Lessons for Teaching Skills to Develop Empathy and Resiliency • Presented by Becky Kirby, M.Ed

AOCC 2015 SESSION 49

Lessons for Teaching Skills to Develop

Empathy and Resiliency

PRESENTED BY:

Becky Kirby, M.Ed.Retired School Counselor

AUTHOR FOR MARCO PRODUCTS, INC. 1-800-448-2197


PART IIntroduction

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Why is it important to teach empathy to students?�

Key skills to teach �

Some activities that you might use �

Handouts

PART IIWhy teach skills to build resiliency?

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Seven areas to emphasize when teaching resiliency skills�

Pre- and Post-tests �

Some activities that you might use �

Handouts �

Conclusion


IntroductionBecky Kirby is a retired educator and school counselor. She spent 41 years working with the youth in the Ravenna School District in Ravenna, OH. She was an instructor at Kent State University where she taught college students who were completing their school counseling practicum requirements.

Books written by Becky Kirby:

Grab Bag Guidance

Classroom Guidance from A-Z

Ways to Amaze and Engage Middle School Students

Activities for Developing Empathy

Resiliency: Skills to Rebound & Recover


Why Teach Skills to Develop Empathy

➤ Social problems in our world

KEY POINTS TO TEACH

➤ Help students to understand their own feelings and others’ feelings

➤ Teach them to reflect back to someone what they see or hear

➤ Learn to give supportive statements

➤ Have them try picturing themselves in someone else’s situation

➤ Challenge and encourage students to volunteer to help others

EMPATHYThe ability to understand and share the feelings of another.


Practical Activities to Use toHelp Students Develop Empathy

➤ ROLE PLAYS AND SCENARIOS

➤ EMPATHETIC LISTENING KeysforEmpatheticListening Activities for Developing Empathy – Activity #11, page 41

➤ CIRCLE INSIDE A CIRCLE TOPICS

➤ WORDS AND DEFINITIONS THAT RELATE TO EMPATHY

➤ DEMONSTRATING EMPATHY ADozenWaystoShowYouCare Activities for Developing Empathy – Activity #18, page 75

➤ EMPATHY APP EmpathyWebsiteandApp Activities for Developing Empathy – Activity #32, page 118

➤ LEFT/RIGHT GROUP ACTIVITY

SAMPLE PAGES FROM TAKEN FROM ACTIVITIES FOR DEVELOPING EMPATHY © 2014 MAR*CO PRODUCTS 1-800-448-2197


41ACTIVITIES FOR DEVELOPING EMPATHY © 2014 MAR*CO PRODUCTS 1-800-448-2197

Keys for Empathetic Listening

KEYS TO EMPATHETIC LISTENING

LISTENLISTEN!

OBSERVE HOW THEPERSON IS FEELING

LISTEN

SAY A SUPPORTIVESTATEMENT

REFLECT THAT FEELING BACK TO THE PERSON

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75ACTIVITIES FOR DEVELOPING EMPATHY © 2014 MAR*CO PRODUCTS 1-800-448-2197

A Dozen Ways to Show You CareThis month I was:

friendly by: __________________________________________________________________________________________kind by: ____________________________________________________________________________________________compassionate by: ____________________________________________________________________________________caring by: ___________________________________________________________________________________________understanding by: ____________________________________________________________________________________unselfish by: _________________________________________________________________________________________respectful by: ________________________________________________________________________________________honest by: __________________________________________________________________________________________patient by: __________________________________________________________________________________________accepting by: ________________________________________________________________________________________trustworthy by: _______________________________________________________________________________________concerned by: _______________________________________________________________________________________

This month someone was:

friendly by: __________________________________________________________________________________________kind by: ____________________________________________________________________________________________compassionate by: ____________________________________________________________________________________caring by: ___________________________________________________________________________________________understanding by: ____________________________________________________________________________________unselfish by: _________________________________________________________________________________________respectful by: ________________________________________________________________________________________honest by: __________________________________________________________________________________________patient by: __________________________________________________________________________________________accepting by: ________________________________________________________________________________________trustworthy by: _______________________________________________________________________________________concerned by: _______________________________________________________________________________________


118 ACTIVITIES FOR DEVELOPING EMPATHY © 2014 MAR*CO PRODUCTS 1-800-448-2197

PURPOSE:

To have students design a web page and App for empathy

MATERIALS NEEDED:

For the leader: None

For each student or student group:☐ Construction paper☐ Pencil☐ Markers/colored pencils

PREPARATION:

Gather the necessary materials.

ACTIVITY:

If you choose to do the activity in groups, di-vide the students into groups of three or four.

Give each student or student group construction paper, markers and/or colored pencils, and a pencil(s). Then introduce the activity by saying:

Today you will design on paper a web page about empathy. Give your web page a title that relates to empathy. Include information like:

• The definition of empathy.• Tips on how to be more empathetic.• Words that relate to empathy.• Slogans.• A question and answer section.

You may also include pictures.

Think of what you have learned about em-pathy, and include it on your web page.

When you have finished designing your web page, design an empathy App that comple-ments your web page.

Have students share their completed web pag-es and Apps with the group/class. Display their projects.

CONCLUSION:

Say:

Today you made web pages and Apps to show what you think is important for others to know about empathy.

Then conclude the activity by asking:

Who had an original idea that no one else thought of?

Looking at the Apps that were designed, which ones catch your eye?

How could a web page like this be benefi-cial to others?

ACTIVITY 32 Empathy Website and App


Why Teach Skills to Develop Resiliency?The June 1st , 2015, edition of Time Magazine has an article titled: Bounce Back. In the article, the author explored why some people rebound from set-backs and how the rest of us can develop more resiliency.

This reinforced my belief, that we as school counselors, can help students de-velop skills to be better able to rebound from setbacks.

Expert Tips for Resilience from TimeMagazine, June 1, 2015

1. Develop a core set of beliefs that nothing can shake2. Try to find meaning in whatever stressful or traumatic thing has happened3. Try to maintain a positive outlook4. Take cues from someone who is especially resilient5. Don’t run from things that scare you: face them6. Be quick to reach out for support when things go haywire7. Learn new things as often as you can8. Find an exercise regimen you’ll stick to9. Don’t beat yourself up or dwell on the past

10. Recognize what makes you uniquely strong and own it


My List of Important Skills to Help Build Resiliency in Students

➤ Self awareness and emotions

➤ Impulse control and changing thoughts

➤ Stress management and mindfulness

➤ Communication and problem solving

➤ Believing in yourself and embracing change

➤ Knowing how and when to ask for help

➤ Knowing where to look for support and resources


92Resiliency: Skills to Rebound & Recover © 2015 Marco Products, Inc. 1-800-448-2197

Name: ____________________________________ Date: ____________________

Part 4: Communication and Problem Solving Pre- and Post-Test

1. Name one effective way to communicate verbally and one effective way to com-municate non-verbally.

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2. What is paraphrasing?

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3. Name one thing you can do when being assertive and one thing you should not do when being assertive.

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4. List two ways to politely say, “No.”

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5. List the six steps to use when solving a problem.

1. ______________________________________________________________

2. ______________________________________________________________

3. ______________________________________________________________

4. ______________________________________________________________

5. ______________________________________________________________

6. ______________________________________________________________


Practical Activities to Develop Resiliency Skills

➤ SELF-AWARENESS ACTIVITIES

➤ CHANGING THOUGHTS TurningNegativeMessagesintoPositiveMessages Resiliency: Skills to Rebound & Recover – Activity #14, page 54

➤ ACTIVITIES TO PRACTICE MANAGING STRESS RelaxBingo(review) Resiliency: Skills to Rebound & Recover – Activity #29, page 90

➤ COMMUNICATION SKILLS Activities to teach communication skills, assertiveness, ways to say, “no,”

how to give and accept constructive criticism, how to give and accept compliments, and problem solving

➤ FINDING SUPPORT HowtoAskForHelp Resiliency: Skills to Rebound & Recover – Activity #49, page 157

➤ REVIEW GAMES

SAMPLE PAGES FROM TAKEN FROM RESILIENCY: SKILLS TO REBOUND & RECOVER © 2014 MAR*CO PRODUCTS 1-800-448-2197



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Name: ____________________________________ Date: ____________________

How to Ask for

HELP

You missed a week of school due to illness,

and you need the assigned homework.

You’re a new student, and you can’t find a specific classroom.

You are on crutches, and you need to bring your

books to class.

You want to try out for basketball,

but need help with the drills.

You are totally confused on how

to solve the assigned math problems.



The activity pages incuded in this handout are courtesy of Mar*co Products, Inc.

COPYRIGHT © 2015 MAR*CO PRODUCTS, INC.214 Kale Road

New Bern, NC 285621-800-448-2197

www.marcoproducts.com

PERMISSION TO REPRODUCE: The presentation attend-ee may reproduce the presentation activity pages free and without special permission, for participant use for a particu-lar group or class. Reproduction of these materials for col-leagues, an entire school or school system, or for commercial sale is strictly prohibited.

If you have any questions for Becky Kirby, please feel free to contact her at:

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