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QUIZFind out how you measure up by taking your first quiz. No studying involved. It should reveal a predominant leadership style you possess naturally.
TYPES OF LEADERSOnce you figure out the type you are most like, read some more information on that style. You may find something new about yourself.
YOUR ASSIGNMENTIncorporate what you’ve learned in a real environment among younger youth. Your youth leader or other adult should be able to notice these traits in action.JR
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Lesson 1
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Capturing their attentionIt takes knowing your strong points and your weaknesses in leadership. Sometimes youth will spot it before you do.
LEADERWhat kind of leader are you?
Leadership:“process of social influence in which one person is able to enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task”
LEADER ASSESSMENT: WHAT KIND OF LEADER ARE YOU?Find out what style of leadership you most often use by answering what you would do in various hypothetical situations.
Before you get started, a couple reminders.
Number one, be honest with yourself. Don’t
answer the questions with what you think is the
right answer or what we would want you to do.
You are the only one who will see this.
Also, it is important for you to know that
any answer (and any combination) is an
acceptable response to the hypothetical
(possible) situation that you may face. So, in the
future, refer to these answers for the best way to
handle a problem.
We can’t think of every problem that may
arise, but from this you should be able to tell
what kind of leader you are. Yes, there are
variables-- who the kids are, the type of
seriousness of the activity at hand, and where
you are. But once again, just go with your first
gut reaction to the situations in the following
examples:
Leader Assessment Quiz1. You notice that a 10-year old boy will not
sit still during a devotional. What do you do?a. Without making much of a ruckus,
you whisper into his ear that we should listen and see what God has for us to learn this morning.
b. You stand up and make an announcement to the whole group that we need to get up and shake out all our wiggles!
c. You leave him alone for the moment until devotions are over, and talk to him about how maybe he can stand in the back, sit next to you, or even draw pictures of some good points during the lesson.
d. Call out to him, “Hey man, I know it’s hard to sit for long, but this stuff is really good! Sit tight for a little bit longer, alright?”
“A man’s gift makes room for
him, And brings him before great men.”
Proverbs 18:16
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...Continued2. As mealtime is coming to a close, the
tables are a mess! What do you do?a. Go round up some of the other kids
that made the mess and ask that they help pitch in to clean up.
b.Go ahead and clean up the mess yourself with a positive attitude setting a good example of servitude.
c. Clean it up for now, but come up with a clever way to get them to remember next time that they should help clean up after themselves.
d.Clap and sing loudly a clean up song encouraging everyone to join.
3. Before you know it, two girls are starting to fight. What do you do?
a. Separate the two girls and talk to each of them by themselves, then try to get them to find a way to get along.
b.Have someone go and get the youth leader in charge and try your best to calm everyone down.
c. Try to distract everyone’s attention to something else and light comment, “Yoo hoo... What’s a leader gotta do to get some listeners around here?”
d.Call a time out for everyone to gather and let them know that this really isn’t the time or place for that.
4. It’s time to get ready for the next activity. But it’s chaos with everyone (including fellow leaders) and no one is on the same page. What do you do?
a. Stand up on a chair, whistle loudly, and remind everyone of what’s going on.
b.Call an emergency meeting with all counselors to get everyone back on track.
c. Go to the director or main leader and ask them to make an announcement.
d.Reorganize the group by calling everyone together to refocus their attention, and re-explain what we are doing and why but in a different way than before.
5. A 15-year old girl comes up to you and wants to know more about Christ. Unfortunately, it’s time to leave. What do you do?
a. Thank her for asking, letting her know that that question is very important, but have a leader talk to her.
b.Have her accompany you out (or to the next location) and talk a little bit about her questions. Try to find time later to talk to her (or get her number).
c. Have a leader know you are going to stay and talk with someone for a few minutes, and if it continues for too long, make time to get with her again.
d.Tell her how excited you are that she wants to more and give her some great scriptures, websites, and some more quick goodies.
6. Three older boys decide they’d rather not participate. They think what the group is doing is stupid (and they are too cool to do it). What do you do?
a. Not too much at the moment, but encourage them to hang around a good influence for them. Less words, more action.
b.Go up to them, throw your arm around them, and say, “Hey, how about a game of horse?”
c. Ask them nicely to stay a bit after the activity is over and have a discussion with them about what we could do to get them to participate more.
d.Have them lead the next game or activity, giving them some responsibility.
7. The youngest participant is sitting down in a corner by themselves. They tell you that no one will hang out with them. What do you do?
a. Tell them nicely that sometimes when you want a good friend, you have to be a good friend. Go with them to help try this out on some other kids.
b.Go ask a popular, kind, and accepting older youth to get together with the shy one on a special task, having them work together.
c. Have her/she be your special helper by giving them a small task to do. And mention to some other kids some common interests they may have with the shy one.
d.Sit with them for a bit, sparking up some conversation. Then ask if they’d like to play with you.
8. When working together on an activity with the younger kids, you and another Junior Counselor each want to take it in another direction causing tension. What do you do?
a. Say, “Whoops! You go ahead, we’ll do what I was going to suggest another time.”
b.Don’t say anything for now, telling them to go ahead. But later see if you both can come up with a solution for when that happens again and try to be more organized next time.
c. Say, “Wait a minute. We both have different ideas of what we should do next. Maybe we could take turns? You go first.”
d.Don’t say anything for now, but ask them later if you could suggest something the next time.
9. Some youth (the same gender as you) walk in wearing clothes that are inappropriate. What do you do?
a. As you pass by them, very discretely mention that we probably shouldn’t wear that here, as accepting as we are.
b.Discretely go up to them and ask if what they are wearing is appropriate. Have them fix whatever the problem may be.
c. Go up to them and discretely make a joke concerning whatever the problem
is. (For example, if a guy’s pants are too low, “We reeeallly don’t want to see your underwear. C’mon, pull ‘em up.”)
d.Pull them aside and see if you can find them some alternative clothing, then help find a good reference point for other outfits. (For example, if a girl’s shirt is too short, give her the shirt around your waist and tell her, if you bend over and you can see skin, it’s too short!”)
10.A bunch of kids are having a great time during free time playing basketball. The youth leader asked if you could clean up the conference room, but you really want to shoot some hoops with everyone else. What do you do?
a. See if the group wouldn’t mind helping you out to make the cleaning go faster, then everyone can play together.
b.Ask the leader if you can play for 5 minutes, then you will make the room spotless after that.
c. Yell out as you run towards the conference room, “Duty calls! Score one for me!”
d.Go ahead and clean up and just catch everyone later.
11.You caught one of the kids smoking a cigarette by him/herself behind the building. What do you do?
a. Go up to them and ask them to put it out. After talking with them for awhile about not smoking, see if you two can figure out some plans to quit smoking and find a good influence for them.
b.Go up to them and ask them to put it out. Take some time to talk with them, inquiring how long they have been smoking and why. Gain their trust and resect, hoping to help them.
c. Go find the leader and tell them of your concern. Later, tell the kid that you felt it necessary to tell someone who was capable of dealing with that situation because you only want what’s best for them.
d.Go up to them and ask them to put it out. Tell them, “I know exactly what works for this! How about we pray about it? Whatever got you smoking in the first place, God can take it out and replace it. He can fill the void!”
12. Within just a few minutes, you can already tell that you and one of the younger kids are not going to get along. What do you do?
a. Confront them about it. Let them know that you really want to get along with everyone, including them.
b.Say, “Girl, you are trouble, I can tell. What are we going to do with you?” and just laugh it off.
c. Being reminded of what the Bible says, you put that behind you and try your best to be a good leader to them.
d.To try to avoid any arguments, get a different counselor/leader to work with them (without making it a big ordeal).
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Time to check your score...Hopefully it was the hardest quiz you’ve ever taken. And hopefully
you were able to answer each situation honestly. Now that you are
finished let’s look back at your answers. In the table below, you’ll
notice there are 4 types of leaders and their answers. Go
through each type and circle every number you answered the
same. For example, if you search through Passive, Loving
and discover that you answered question 2 by choosing
“b”, circle number 2 in Passive, Loving’s column.
When you’re finished you should be able to see which
type you answered the same the most often. Maybe you have
6 total in Silly, Cheerful; 3 in Problem Solver; 2 in Passive, Loving;
and 1 in Honest, Assertive. It may be safe to say that you are
predominantly a silly and cheerful leader. It is to be expected that you will
have answered responses in each type. We are complex creatures and
are rarely just one type of person. However, by answering one type
more than the others, you can get a sense of the type of leader
you are. Any one of these is an excellent type of leader.
Now that you have figured out what type of leader you
are (and even the other types you may possess), read on to
find out how this affects your leading, especially in the youth
ministry. Regardless of what you are, embrace it! God has
made all kinds of different leaders for a specific purpose. We
may need your honest assertiveness or your problem solving this
year!
Key PointIt’s not just about the rules...It’s why we have the rules. And when it comes down to it, we have them because we care!
TYPE OF LEADER PASSIVE, LOVING
SILLY, CHEERFUL PROBLEM SOLVER
HONEST, ASSERTIVE
Answers1)a, 2)b, 3)b, 4)c, 5)a, 6)a,7)c, 8)d, 9)a,10)d, 11)b, 12)c
Answers1)b, 2)d, 3)c, 4)a, 5)d, 6)b,7)d, 8)a, 9)c,10)c, 11)d, 12)b
Answers1)c, 2)c, 3)a, 4)d, 5)b, 6)c,7)b, 8)b, 9)d,10)a, 11)a, 12)d
Answers1)d, 2)a, 3)d, 4)b, 5)c, 6)d,7)a, 8)c, 9)b,10)b, 11)c, 12)a
Circle the letters you
chose for each number
WHAT KIND OF LEADER ARE YOU?
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Passive, LovingWhat’s Really Good About This: What’s
not to like about someone who is passive and
loving? The thing about this type of leader is
that they can lead with a sort of calm, peaceful
type of authority. They don’t have to yell or
make a big scene when it comes to laying down
the law. They want everyone to know that they
care and that they are loved in a gentle way.
And this message comes out loud and clear.
What to Be Careful For: Many times this
type of leader will be able to command
everyone’s attention and respect, but be careful
not to be too passive. In other words, your
gentleness should not be mistaken for
weakness. You mean business, too. There will
be some children (and maybe even adults) that
consider you unable to control the situation. But
just remember, the Bible speaks very highly of
both gentle and loving people.
What the Bible Says: Speaking of the
Bible, lets see what it says:
Perhaps the undertone in every scripture is
love. Not only do we have several acts of love
from God’s most trusted leaders, but from God
Himself. And it was Jesus who again and again
reminded the disciples, Pharisees, and the
public to love your neighbor, your enemy even.
More than, He never displayed any except love--
even the greatest love, dying on the cross for
our sins. And refer to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 13.
But Christ was also very often passive.
The world tells us that we must fight for
ourselves, be in someone’s face about an issue.
But Christ has more power and respect because
of the times he turned the other cheek or when
he spoke softly to the children and to the
sinners.
In the Ministry: Very often there are
sensitive souls out there that need a kind and
loving person such as you. Don’t be fooled;
sometimes it’s not just the “little guys” that cry
easily. Sometimes that 15-year old boy who
picks fights is really just a hurting, soft-hearted
guy. Both types need you. Not everyone can
take blunt criticism or the lightness of a joke.
They need your kind words and most
importantly, your love through Christ.
Your Passive, Loving Leaders Jesus Christ
Deaconess Lisa Wright
You?
QUICK LOOK
It’s about sharing the love
of Christ ?
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Silly, CheerfulWhat’s Really Good About This: Can you
imagine camp or a youth event without this type
of leader, or even life for that matter? Silly and
cheerful leaders are awesome at making any
situation fun and funny. Just when something
looks like it is going to get ugly, they can turn it
into a game, a joke, or just better. They make
you feel good because they always have a smile
on their face.
What to Be Careful For: Like anything,
you should be aware of appropriateness. It’s
OK to be silly and cheerful, but depending on
where you are, depends on the degree of
craziness. At a silly softball game, anything
goes. And at church, a simple wink may do.
Also, be careful that no one mistakes your
silliness for not listening or not caring. A silly,
cheerful leader doesn’t mean you won’t take
their problems seriously.
What the Bible Says: “A happy heart
makes a cheerful face.” The Bible makes it clear
that you are cheerful, because you have the joy
of the Lord in your heart. Don’t be afraid to
share it!
Ecclesiastes 3 also makes it clear that
there is a definite time in which we are to laugh
and dance. But likewise, there is a time to cry
and mourn. Be careful to clue in on the right
time to exhibit your enthusiasm.
And lastly, take a look a Romans 12:8 with
special attention to the last part. We are to
show mercy with cheerfulness. Now how could
a youth not benefit from cheerful mercy?
In the Ministry: It wouldn’t be youth
ministry if it didn’t involve some type of fun. We
need your spunk to keep things light and
comical. You’ll be surprised how quickly you
can change the outcome of someone’s day, just
because you cared enough to hug them or give
an enthusiastic high-five. Or how you can
change their habits by making even the
mundane an exciting thing to do. The youth
definitely need you.
QUICK LOOK
Your Silly, Cheerful Leaders Sister Jaclyn Grant
You?
It’s about
showing how relatable you
are
?
?
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Problem SolverWhat’s Really Good About This: Oh boy.
This type of leader really knows what being a
leader is really about-- well, leading. As a
leader, you can never forsake “leading” others
the correct way. Our problem-solvers have
incredible, creative mind power to think of the
best way to handle situations--for the present
moment and for the times in the future. They
don’t just try to make your day better, they really
try to make your life better...and more enjoyable.
What to Be Careful For: At first glance,
being a problem-solver seems to solve all
problems. But be careful you don’t become too
cerebral. In other words, there will be times you
need to think with your heart instead of your
brain. And don’t forget to have fun, too. You
won’t be able to solve all problems, so take time
to enjoy your day as well.
What the Bible Says: Firstly, it cannot go
without saying that God is the ultimate problem-
solver. We refer to Him first for all our matters.
But He can use you. David was just a young
boy when he shot a stone at Goliath. But the
brain power it took to think of such a clever way
to deal with such a big problem (literally), made
him a fantastic problem-solver and leader. But
David also realized He must always seek God
for life’s problems. God has already equipped
you with creative thinking skills and kindness,
but His solutions never fail.
And lastly, take time to read through the
book of Proverbs. Solomon talks on the
importance of wisdom (the ability to live life
skillfully) over and over again. And this is
coming from a man who received wisdom
straight from God Himself.
In the Ministry: What would we do
without you? The life of a kid is extremely
tough, problems arising every day. With all that
clogging their heads, it’s tough to worship God,
or learn about the Bible, or even play a game of
tag. We need your help to release some of their
burden with solutions. Someone forgot
something? You have an idea. Someone isn’t
listening? You know just the trick to not only get
them to listen this time, but to become a good
listener for life.
Your Problem-Solving Leaders Mother Iris Grant
Minister Ivan Grant, Jr.
Elder Sarah Brown
QUICK LOOK
It’s about working to enrich their
lives
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Honest, AssertiveWhat’s Really Good About This: When it
comes down to it, sometimes we just need
someone to tell it to us straight. And the honest,
assertive leader does just that. They don’t
sugar-coat or pretend-- they simply care and
want you to do what’s right. Sure sounds like an
attribute of God.
What to Be Careful For: This one can be
tricky. Although always meaning well, as an
honest, assertive leader, you can be mistaken
for many things: blunt, insensitive, aggressive,
offensive, or even scary. Never let it get there by
making sure the other person knows your good
intentions. Be careful not to be too rough along
the edges and always let love guide your
actions. Be sure to ease up on some children--
some just don’t mesh well with an overly
assertive leader.
What the Bible Says: Being honest is
highly regarded in the Bible. God has placed
“Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy
neighbor” (or do not lie) as one of the Ten
Commandments. Lies can definitely hurt--hurt
you, someone else, and even God. But it’s one
thing to not lie and another to be an honest
leader.
One fantastic example of honest,
assertiveness is God Himself. Because He
loves us so and because He is perfect, He
requires holiness very clearly. He does not
dodge around sinful behavior, but shows us our
wrong-doing and expects us to make a change.
In the Ministry: There are times that a soft
voice, a hyper voice, or even a thoughtful voice
won’t sink in to some youth. We need that
honest, assertive voice that speaks holiness to
our youth. Maybe no one has told it to them so
clearly as you can. Maybe others have been too
easy on them and they slip between the cracks.
We need you to bring them back to reality, back
into a state of respect, honor, and integrity.
QUICK LOOK
Your Honest, Assertive Leaders Minister Iris Simmons
You?It’s about
establishing trust and Holiness
?
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Why you need to know...We encourage each individual of Uth4Christ
to know themselves and know what role they play
in kingdom-building. There will be times in your
life and in ministry that knowing the type of leader
you are will save you from discouragement and
disappointment.
For example, if you are trying to reach others
by being silly and it isn’t truly what God has
designed for your life, you will find most often a lot
of resistance. And this resistance isn’t because
you are a bad person or because people don’t like
you or even because God doesn’t approve of
what you are doing. Instead, it’s simply not
working under the plan God has for your life.
By taking this assessment and really defining
the type of leader you are, you can use that
information to your advantage. You may progress
in one area throughout your life or morph into a
different type of leadership. However, to get the
most of who you are now, apply what you have
just learned or confirmed.
At CampThroughout your training, we
will zoom in to how each lesson
applies to camp. If you wish to
become a counselor at camp,
read here for some vital, specific
information.
Camp counseling requires
leadership. Period. Whether you are
passive, loving; honest, assertive; silly, cheerful; or
a problem solver, we need you at camp as well.
As many different types of leaders there are,
there are as many different types of campers.
Some campers will respond best to a certain type
of leader. Knowing who you are and what works
best for you, will only help when it comes to
counseling others.
If, for example, Jane cannot get through to
Betty, perhaps you can with you loving, soft
nature. Now Betty is all the better because you
realized in that situation what would work best.
Remember, for now you are a training for Junior
Counselor. Trust and listen to those placed in
higher leadership. Mistakes happen in all walks of
life, but the great thing about a christian
community (and specifically at a christian camp) is
that much praying and fasting and scripture
searching has gone forth in order to stay in with
God’s will.
We don’t just allow anyone to represent
Christ to our tweens and teens. Instead, we allow
God to use those who He sees fit for this
particular time. Trust God and the God that is in
you.
WHAT NOW?
All Done?Once you have completed both the quiz
and the challenge, you are now ready to cut
this page in have and send us the top
portion.
We need to see your pastor’s
signature and your youth leader’s signature
in order to accept your submission. This
will tell us that you are following course and
qualified to graduate.
The better your communication and
participation is with your leaders--pastor,
youth leader, parents, director--the greater
your likelihood to succeed. Each one cares
about you a great deal and wants you to be
a part of something so huge as this. To be
a world-changer.
Signatures and Dates• Pastor• Youth Leader
1.
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2.
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We need a balance of all
four types.
YOUR CHALLENGEEvery lesson will come with its unique
challenge in which you are to go out and apply
what you have just learned. With this, our
prayer is that you are able to decide for yourself
truth, get out and practice being a leader, and
add to your growth as a junior counselor and as
an individual.
This Lesson’s ChallengeThe next time your youth
group gets together (or you are in
the midst of christian friends),
incorporate what you’ve learned
this lesson.
In other words, concentrate on
leading with your specific leading
style, whether it be passive and
loving, silly and cheerful, problem-
solving, or honest and assertive.
Concentrate on what you are best
at and try to use that with
perfection.
Also, learn to strengthen
those areas where you lack.
Previously in this lesson you
learned that all four types are
awesome skills that we should all have.
So if you lack in being silly and cheerful, try to
loosen up a bit. Step out a little bit, but not to
the point where you are no longer effective in
leading.
To Your Leaders:Please do not sign the opposite page unless you absolutely feel they have completed this challenge with excellence. That is not our requirement, but God’s.
Perfect where you
excel; improve where you
lack
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Orange Park, FL 32003