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It Takes More Than a Carrot and a Stick
Practical ways for getting along with people you can’t avoid at work
Wess Roberts
IMPERIOUS JERKSIMPERIOUS JERKS
“The Masters of the Universe”
What is an Imperious Jerk?
Domineering and overbearing; driven by a sense of self-importance
Conceited, arrogant authoritarians who take extreme measures to protect their fragile self-esteem
Extraordinarily self-disciplined, methodical, intelligent & competitive
If You Work for an Imperious Jerk
Understand who’s in charge
Learn to separate tactless putdowns from constructive criticism
Don’t be a wimp
Be useful
If You Have a Peer Who Is an Imperious Jerk
Refrain from getting into ego battles
Stand your ground
Choose your friends wisely
Collaborate, cooperate, and communicate
If You Manage an Imperious Jerk
Give them tough assignments
Help them play nice
Manage rewards justly
EMPTY SUITSEMPTY SUITS
“The Fashion Models”
What is an Empty Suit?
Superficial and deceptive; often believing in the illusions they create
High-strung, glib, clever, insincere & manipulative
Optimistic, cheerful, and amusing; uses their resources efficiently
If You Work for an Empty Suit
Raise your antiseduction shield
Expect to be micromanaged
Avoid jargon
Be adult
If You Have a Peer Who Is an Empty Suit
Put your job first
Keep others informed
If You Manage an Empty Suit
Fill their empty suits
Give credit where credit is due
Watch for red flags
LONE WOLVESLONE WOLVES
“The Fiercely Independent”
What is a Lone Wolf?
Impulsive, fearless, self-assured and in constant need to prove themselves
Adventurous, impatient, confrontational
Persuasive, self-confident & manipulative with a desire to help others and the organization succeed
If You Work for a Lone Wolf
Take initiative
Don’t make excuses
Leave your hypersensitivity at home
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Lone Wolf
If you can’t assist, stay out of their way
Establish boundaries
If You Manage a Lone Wolf
Load them up with assignments
Expect candor
Keep intent in perspective
ANDROIDSANDROIDS
“The Blindly Obedient”
What is an Android?
Mindless, compliant, & insecure people pleasers
Unimaginative, self-conscious, submissive worriers
Passive, deliberate, & dependent
If You Work for an Android
Take them solutions, not problems
Make reasonable requests
If You Have a Peer Who Is an Android
Include them in your activities
Assure them
If You Manage an Android
Help them succeed
Teach self-reliance
Communicate clearly
Ask for their opinions
Don’t exploit vulnerability
WORKAHOLICSWORKAHOLICS
“The Power-Starved”
What is a Workaholic?
Compelled, tenacious, & driven by an insatiable need to feel powerful
Tense, unsociable, competitive, & overly domineering
Exceptionally productive, work well under pressure, & pay attention to details
If You Work for a Workaholic
Set limits on your availability
Put important things in writing
Don’t let their personal stress be your problem
Meet your deadlines
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Workaholic
Concentrate on progress, not process
Involve them only where they belong
Set reasonable limits on your availability
If You Manage a Workaholic
Establish their priorities for them
Reward output, not input
Monitor their progress
When the day is over, send them home
SLOUGHERSSLOUGHERS
“The Responsibility-Challenged”
What is a Slougher?
Unhurried, indifferent, & dillydallying through each day
Bright people who are uninspired by their work assignments
Unassuming, harmonious, with finely tuned social skills
If You Work for a Slougher
Don’t ask permission
Report frequently, but not everyday
Solve problems yourself
Lighten their load
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Slougher
Don’t let them dump their work on you
Be forthright
Take the high road
If You Manage a Slougher
Distinguish ability from motivation
Keep them in the spotlight
Tell other staff members not to do a Slougher’s work
Promote them to their level of competence
GATEKEEPERSGATEKEEPERS
“The Empowerment Police”
What is a Gatekeeper?
Guarded, vigilant, & fixated on procedure
Obsessive rule followers who strictly abide by the letter of the law
Careful, accurate, stable, & generally trustworthy
If You Work for a Gatekeeper
Make the rules fit the situation
Outmaneuver an unyielding Gatekeeper
Go out of your way to be friendly
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Gatekeeper
Don’t allow them to have power over you
Don’t validate their moral judgments
If You Manage a Gatekeeper
Hold them personally accountable
Force them to take initiative
Keep them from becoming obstacles to others
FAULTFINDERSFAULTFINDERS
“The Self-Righteous”
What is a Faultfinder?
Sanctimonious, inflexible, & secretive members of the morality police
Reserved, inflexible, easily offended & hypocritical
Dedicated to their jobs & quite productive when placed under close supervision
If You Work for a Faultfinder
Refuse to spy
Be discrete
Don’t sweat the boss stuff
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Faultfinder
Show some grit
Avoid retaliation
If You Manage a Faultfinder
Expect them to tell on you
Don’t encourage tattletales
Put an end to the problem quickly
Be circumspect
BUNGEE JUMPERSBUNGEE JUMPERS
“The Thrill Seekers”
What is a Bungee Jumper?
Theatrical, easily distracted, with an incessant need to try something new
Attracted to activities that are exciting & stimulating, but have no real purpose
Perform best in structured environments with minimal distractions
If You Work for a Bungee Jumper
Fill in the gaps in their managerial observations
Lend a basic management hand
Be diplomatic
Attend their social gatherings
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Bungee Jumper
Teach them how to solve problems
Don’t put up with a nuisance
Enjoy the show
If You Manage a Bungee Jumper
Train and retrain
Structure their environment
Demand attention to detail
Keep an open mind
PERPETUAL VICTIMSPERPETUAL VICTIMS
“The Whiners and Bitchers”
What is a Perpetual Victim?
Peevish & bitter with an inability to cope with the least bit of adversity
Extremely high-strung, impatient, & emotionally erratic
Self-disciplined, thorough, & organized hard workers
If You Work for a Perpetual Victim
Carry an emotional umbrella
Reject undue criticism
Be cheerful and proactive
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Perpetual Victim
Avoid complaint sessions
Don’t be a scapegoat
You don’t have to like them
If You Manage a Perpetual Victim
Team them up with positive peers
Don’t confuse attitude with aptitude
Redirect their complaints
Teach them how to deal with adversity
COLLEAGUE SLAYERSCOLLEAGUE SLAYERS
“The Backbiters, the Rumormongers, and the
Saboteurs”
What is a Colleague Slayer?
Predatory, venomous, & relentless snoops who destroy their coworkers’ reputations
Self-centered, ruthless, methodical villains
Polite, pleasant toward their allies, & protective of close associates
If You Work for a Colleague Slayer
Do your best
Keep your distance
Be discrete
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Colleague Slayer
Interact on a need-to-know basis
Keep your small talk small
Safeguard sensitive information
Expose them
If You Manage a Colleague Slayer
Keep them productively occupied
Be decisive
Discipline justly
Keep your personal thoughts positive
PRODUCTIVITY PRODUCTIVITY REBELSREBELS
“The Secretly Defiant”
What is a Productivity Rebel?
Cynical, sullen, & intentionally ineffective
Deep-seated sense of anger toward authority figures
Skillful in gaining others’ sympathy & they escape accountability by masking their intentional impediments to progress
If You Work for a Productivity Rebel
Be proactive
Remain independent
Be optimistic
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Productivity Rebel
Practice proactive damage control
Don’t rub your success in their face
Be generous with appreciation
If You Manage a Productivity Rebel
Teach them to be responsible, not self-defeating
Put it in writing
Supervise them closely
Don’t tolerate sulking behavior
TEMPERAMENTAL TEMPERAMENTAL TYRANTTYRANT
“The Happiness-Impaired”
What is a Temperamental Tyrant?
Unstable & disgruntled; always appearing to be mad at the world in general
Cantankerous, volatile, truly unhappy; extremely difficult for them to form healthy interpersonal relationships
Technically competent, conscientious; excellent mentors
If You Work for a Temperamental Tyrant
Show some courage
Refuse to be abused
Try to sense their mood
Take the opportunity to learn something new
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Temperamental Tyrant
Avoid needless conflict
Recognize normal mood swings
Let them save face
Sometimes it’s best to turn the other cheek
If You Manage a Temperamental Tyrant
Discipline maladaptive behavior
Help them become self-aware
Use their skills wisely
Be of good cheer
TOUCHY-FEELIESTOUCHY-FEELIES
“The Social Workers”
What is a Touchy-Feelie?
Hypersensitive, meddlesome, & fanatical members of the self-esteem police
Fussy, stubborn, terribly insecure, & often affectionate for the wrong reasons
Perfectionists who perform best when working jobs with a high degree of freedom & scrutinized accountability
If You Work for a Touchy-Feelie
Help them stay focused
Be generous with appreciation
Feed their need to control
Mind your manners
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Touchy-Feelie
Keep your private life private
Keep them uninvited to your business
Encourage them to be responsible
If You Manage a Touchy-Feelie
Establish expectations and deadlines
Watch your back
Praise results
Don’t excuse them from reality
FREQUENT FLIERSFREQUENT FLIERS
“The Entitlement Chasers”
What is a Frequent Flier?
Shortsighted & self-justifying; often use their organization’s resources as their own
Situational ethics; believe the rules they break don’t apply to them
Individualistic, shallow, & greedy with a relentless pattern of serving their own needs first & foremost
If You Work for a Frequent Flier
Sidestep doing personal favors
Take the ball and run
Wear your ethics
If You Have a Peer Who Is a Frequent Flier
Be cautious about reporting misuse of resources
Refuse to be an accomplice
Refrain from becoming petty
If You Manage a Frequent Flier
Set a proper example
Teach them to exercise good judgment
Accept nothing less than their best performance
Decide where to draw the line
SUCCESS – As a Manager
Communicate
Stand by your associates
Forgive honest mistakes
Show appreciation
SUCCESS – As a Peer
Be an ally
Don’t quibble
Be objective
Compete fairly
SUCCESS – As a Subordinate
Do your job
Be cheerful
Don’t be a burden
Abide by rules meant to be obeyed