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Keynote: Strategies for Transforming Stress Into ResilienceThe Psychology of Coping with Change
Presented by Dr. Larry Richard, Founder & Principal Consultant, LawyerBrain LLC
Working Mother/Flex-Time Lawyers2016 Best Law Firms for Women Gala LunchThe Peninsula • Chicago • September 21st, 2016
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Introduction
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“Change”
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We don’t like change
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Change has serious psychological consequences
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Psychological Effects of Change
• Mood disturbances & increased negative emotions (anxiety, depression, fear, irritability, etc.)
• Increased distractibility
• Increase in errors of omission• Pushes people to behave at the lesser end
of their normal spectrum of behavior
• Passivity• Disconnection
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Change has an even stronger adverse impact
on lawyers. WHY?
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SKEPTICISM
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Negativity• Negativity is built into the job description
ü“What’s wrong?”ü“What could go wrong in the future?”ü“Who’s at fault?” “Who made a
mistake?”ü“What exceptions are there to the
proposition?”
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Negativity• Negativity is built into the job description
ü“What’s wrong?”ü“What could go wrong in the future?”ü“Who’s at fault?” “Who made a
mistake?”ü“What exceptions are there to the
proposition?”
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HighLow RESILIENCE
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Average forLawyers
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You can’t control change.But you can control your
response to change
And that makes all the difference.
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Things You Can Do To Build Psychological
Resilience
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Principle #1:Increase Positivity
(the mega-principle)
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The most significant breakthrough in
psychology in the past 100 years . . .
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Thoughts à Feelings à Behavior
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If you change your thoughts . . .
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You change your feelings
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Positive Emotions• Strategy: Reduce negative emotions.
Increase positive emotions.• Offsets lawyer negativity• 3:1 (and 5:1)• Dosage effect• Negative is essential—it’s just that we
need to offset it with even more positive
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Three Good Things• Same time each night• Write down 3 good things• Need not be things you caused to happen• 60 seconds to savor• Repeat, but with new items the next day• Do for at least two weeks . . . or longer
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Principle #2:Focus on Strengths
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Payoffs for Focusing on Strengths• Higher levels of employee engagement• Reduces “active disengagement” from
21% to < 1% ! ! !• Lower turnover, greater longevity
• Consistent increases in productivity & profitability
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1. Just knowing your strengths matters2. Aligning one’s strengths with the task that one does
at work—especially one’s greatest strengths—produces high levels of work satisfaction
3. Leveraging strengths—getting better at the stuff you already do well– produces high levels of work satisfaction and a sense of mastery
4. Using your strengths in a new way on a regular basis provides increased levels of work satisfaction and a reduction in depressive thinking
Research on Using Strengths
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Principle #3:Foster Social Connection
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“Presence”:Attention Matters
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The Champion
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The Challenger
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De-Brief
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Increase Social Connection• Dr. Shelly Gable: • How you respond to the good news of others is
the single best predictor of an effective long-term relationship – “Presence” is the key
• “Will you be there for me when things go right?”• Constructive vs. Destructive• Active vs. Passive• 4 response styles to good news—only one of
them builds the relationship
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Active-Constructive Responding:It’s all about “Presence”(Shelly Gable)
Active Passive
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Destructive
“I just won my first case!”
Enthusiastic, authentic support (“the joy multiplier”)
Quiet, understated support(“the conversation killer”)
Quashing the event (“They are the parade and you are the rain.”)
Ignoring the event or taking over the conversation (“the conversation hijacker”)
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Principle #4:Foster This Emotion
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Here’s something that can . . .• Reduce physical symptoms (fewer colds, headaches) (plus lower
levels of biomarkers for inflammation)
• Produce greater life satisfaction
• Make people more optimistic about the coming week
• Create higher states of alertness, attentiveness, determination and energy, and reports of sustained better moods
• Result in fewer absences
• Cause people to be more helpful to others
• Lead people to report fewer hassles in their lives
• Foster better sleep quality
• Create an increased feeling of being connected to others
• Generate higher productivity
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Power of Words Video
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Words matter
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Thank You
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Takeaway Tips: 1• The practice of law encourages problem-
spotting and other forms of negative thinking• A steady diet of this can have harmful
psychological effects• In a time of great change, the negative mindset
can amplify some of the deleterious effects of change
• Luckily, recent scientific breakthroughs have resulted in a number of simple yet powerful steps that lawyers can take to counteract these effects
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Takeaway Tips: 21. Your mindset is powerful. Changing how you
think can change how you feel and behave.2. The core principle: Bad is stronger than
Good. Consequently, your best strategy is to consciously “hunt for the good stuff” in order to balance out and counteract any negativity.
3. Do the “3 Good Things” activity every day at the same time.
4. Go to www.positivityratio.com and check your positivity ratio daily. Strive to improve your weekly average to better than 3:1.
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Takeaway Tips: 35. Use Active-Constructive Listening regularly
with the significant people in your life.6. When you run into criticism, rejection, or
other adverse events, listen to your “mind chatter” and program it towards short duration, limited scope, and think of what you can control going forward.
7. In your work, routinely ask yourself what impact and meaning your actions are having. Do the same when you give work to others.
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Takeaway Tips: 48. Focus not just on fixing deficiencies, but also
on using your strengths—try to do work that plays to your strengths; try to get better at what you already do well; and try to use your strengths in new ways regularly.
9. Exercise gratitude—At least twice a week, make a list of things you are grateful for. When someone does something helpful that they didn’t have to do, thank them in a sincere way. Relax more about things you may think you’re “entitled” to.
10. Be a role model
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Recommended Books• The Resilience Factor by Karen Reivich & Andre
Shatte. Describes 7 steps, based on cognitive psychology, that can enable an individual to increase his/her Resilience. The basis for the “mental toughness” component of the U.S. Army program that I mentioned.
• Flourish by Martin Seligman. His most recent book. A good introduction to positive psychology.
• Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman. One of his earlier books, but a very important one. Describes his original model of “optimism” or “explanatory style”, and how it can be learned.
• Positive Leadership by Kim Cameron. A synopsis of the empirical research in positive psychology as applied to organizations, as of 2008.
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Recommended Books, cont’d• Positivity by Barbara Frederickson. Describes her
original research on the “positivity” model and why we need a 3:1 ratio of positive to negative communication.
• StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath. Tom is a psychologist with the Gallup Organization. This book describes the 34 strengths that they measure. If you purchase the hardbound version of the book, it comes with one free coupon to take the StrengthsFinder test online. Find out your top 5 strengths.
• The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor. A very readable summary of the latest principles of positive psychology.
• Drive by Daniel Pink. A good summary of the latest research on motivation, including why “if-then rewards” and “incentivizing” are not great ways to motivate knowledge workers.
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Contact InfoLarry Richard, J.D., Ph.D.LawyerBrain LLC303 W. Lancaster Ave., #332Wayne, PA 19087 USAT: 610.688.7400 | M: 610.304.2966E: [email protected]: www.lawyerbrain.comB: www.lawyerbrainblog.com
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Improving Lawyer Performance Through Personality Science
Our Services for Law Firms• Designing programs to build lawyer Resilience• Designing & teaching leadership skills• Training or coaching leaders• Associate retention/engagement programs• Keynotes and retreat presentations• Guidance in managing organizational change• Motivating lawyers• Providing 360-degree or personality feedback• Facilitating important conversations• Repairing dysfunctional behavior• Selecting talent• Building teamwork