Genesis 32:1-24a

I’ve Done You Wrong!

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20 years earlier Jacob:Had previously purchased his brother’s birthrightHad Stolen his brother’s blessingHad run for fear of his brother’s anger

For the past 20 years: Jacob had to live under the selfish, deceptive practices

of his uncle Laban. He received a taste of his own medicine.

Now, Jacob: Is 60 years oldHas 11 children under 12 years of age by two wives

and the their two handmaids Is wealthy and has servants

Jacob is going home

Before going home, and entering into fellowship with God, Jacob had to make an attempt to set things right with his

brother whom he had wronged.

We can never have complete fellowship with God unless we make an attempt to reconcile with those we have wronged.

Seek to make things right with the one you’ve wronged

God’s Messengers give comfortGenesis 32:1–21

(NET) 1 So Jacob went on his way and the angels of God met him. 2 When Jacob saw them, he exclaimed, “This is the camp of God!” So he named that place Mahanaim.

God’s messengers comfort JacobWhen he ran from

homeAs he returns homeBoth were at the

borders of CanaanBoth were when he was

afraid of his brotherJacob perceived

conflict. The angelic presence must have encouraged him.

Two Camps

Initiate Contact!3 Jacob sent messengers on ahead to his brother Esau in the land of Seir, the region of Edom. 4 He commanded them, “This is what you must say to my lord Esau: ‘This is what your servant Jacob says: I have been staying with Laban until now. 5 I have oxen, donkeys, sheep, and male and female servants. I have sent this message to inform my lord, so that I may find favor in your sight.’”

God’s messengers brought to Jacob’s awareness of his need to initiate contact with Esau.

Jacob sends messengers to Esau.

Message:Humility – “your servant

Jacob” “my lord” It has been so long and

distant I have plenty – “I’m not

out for the inheritance”Matthew 5:23–24 (NET) 23 So then, if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother and then come and present your gift.

Old wounds are not easily healed!6 The messengers returned to Jacob and said, “We went to your brother Esau. He is coming to meet you and has four hundred men with him.” 7 Jacob was very afraid and upset. So he divided the people who were with him into two camps, as well as the flocks, herds, and camels. 8 “If Esau attacks one camp,” he thought, “then the other camp will be able to escape.”

Don’t expect your initial contact to be met with open arms.

There maybe reasons to be afraid.

Initial contact after a wrong may result in conflict.

Jacob prepared for the worst and planned so there would be survivors.

Pray humbly before God 9 Then Jacob prayed, “O God of my father Abraham, God of my father Isaac, O LORD, you said to me, ‘Return to your land and to your relatives and I will make you prosper.’ 10 I am not worthy of all the faithful love you have shown your servant. With only my walking stick I crossed the Jordan, but now I have become two camps.

Show that you know who you’re praying to:The one faithful to

Abraham and IsaacBase the prayer on his

word, “you said to me…”

Be humble, “I am not worthy…” a turning point for Jacob.

Know you are weak and helpless.

Pray specifically!11 Rescue me, I pray, from the hand of my brother Esau, for I am afraid he will come and attack me, as well as the mothers with their children. 12 But you said, ‘I will certainly make you prosper and will make your descendants like the sand on the seashore, too numerous to count.’”

Jacob can’t save himself from Esau – only God can save him.

Humbly recognize that your past wrongs can cause harm to present loved ones “afraid … mothers with their children.”

Lean on God’s promise.

Jacob prayed in the midst of interpersonal conflict. So should we.Strained relationships can drive us to our kneesPrayer brings the power of God into our lives and the

lives of those we are praying forIt softens our heart and can prepare the heart of those we

pray forIt changes our attitude of bitternessIt reveals our wrongs and humbles us to receive God’s

instructions.

Jacob should have prayed soonerHe turned to prayer and dependence on God as a last

resort.He worried first, and when worry failed him, he prayed.

About Prayer

Restoration may cost you!13 Jacob stayed there that

night. Then he sent as a gift to his brother Esau 14 two hundred female goats and twenty male goats, two hundred ewes and twenty rams, 15 thirty female camels with their young, forty cows and ten bulls, and twenty female donkeys and ten male donkeys.

Jacob was willing to pay the cost.

True repentance is more than saying I’m sorry.

He sends 500 animals.

Don’t expect restitution without paying the cost.

Luke 19:8–9 (NET) 8 But Zacchaeus stopped and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord, half of my possessions I now give to the poor, and if I have cheated anyone of anything, I am paying back four times as much!” 9 Then Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this household, because he too is a son of Abraham!

Expect trust to come in stages16 He entrusted them to his servants, who divided them into herds. He told his servants, “Pass over before me, and keep some distance between one herd and the next.” 17 He instructed the servant leading the first herd, “When my brother Esau meets you and asks, ‘To whom do you belong? Where are you going? Whose herds are you driving?’ 18 then you must say, ‘They belong to your servant Jacob. They have been sent as a gift to my lord Esau. In fact Jacob himself is behind us.’”

A wound isn’t often healed with one application of medicine. You must keep applying it.

Jacob uses gifts as medicine to heal the wounds he has caused.

The servants communicate Jacob’s humility, “your servant Jacob”, “my lord Esau”.

It’s not a guarantee!19 He also gave these instructions to the second and third servants, as well as all those who were following the herds, saying, “You must say the same thing to Esau when you meet him. 20 You must also say, ‘In fact your servant Jacob is behind us.’” Jacob thought, “I will first appease him by sending a gift ahead of me. After that I will meet him. Perhaps he will accept me.” 21 So the gifts were sent on ahead of him while he spent that night in the camp.

To appease the anger of one wounded: Requires sincerity. Requires time. Requires a repentant heart

on the part of the one that wounded

Requires Humility Requires economic cost

They can still reject you, “Perhaps he will accept me.”

Appease is the word Atone (kaphor). It literally means to cover over.

Spend Time Alone, and with God22 During the night

Jacob quickly took his two wives, his two female servants, and his eleven sons and crossed the ford of the Jabbok. 23 He took them and sent them across the stream along with all his possessions. 24a So Jacob was left alone.

Like Jacob, you may loose sleep.

He got his family away from him for their protection during the night.

Jacob was alone.Only after making the

attempt to set things right with Esau does God come to Jacob.

Maybe it’s because he is waiting for you to reach out to someone and reconcile a wrong.Matthew 5:23–24 (NET) 23 So then, if you bring your

gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother and then come and present your gift.

The result of not obeying God to reconcile a wrong is:Living for years in guilt and separation from loved ones.Living for years separated from the blessing God wants

you to have.All your gifts to God are valueless until you obey.Living in broken relationship with God and men.

Do you sometimes feel God is distant?

If it is resent Matthew 5:25 Reach agreement quickly with your accuser while on the

way to court, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge hand you over to the warden, and you will be thrown into prison.

If it interferes with worshipIf it interferes with other relationshipsIf it is on your conscious – maybe the angels are

speaking to you.

When you shouldn’t – When attempting resolution will cause greater damage to the injured party than the original injury. If it’s only because it’s on your conscious.

When should I make the attempt?

Pride : I’m justified with the wrong I’ve done. It requires humility to admit a wrong.

Insensitivity – To God’s word, His Spirit or the instructions of God’s angels (his messengers).

Fear:Of the one that has been wronged. He/she can

never forgive me. It’s just going to be more rejection.

Of the cost: in resources, in time, reputation

What stops us?

We have wronged GodThe most we can do is:

Confess it to GodSay we are sorry and humbly admit we are helpless to fix it

We cannot appease God with our giftsWe cannot appease God by doing goodWe owe a debt we cannot pay

Accept his Son as the payment He made on behalf of our offenses. He paid a debt he did not owe.

Receive his GIFT of forgiveness which he offers to us through His Son.

We owe it to God to Seek forgiveness from those we’ve wronged.

We owe it to God to Forgive those that have wronged us.

God paid a huge cost for our offense

For Jacob, it wasn’t an issue of forgiving others for wrongs they did to him.

Jacob needed to seek forgiveness for the wrongs he did to others.

Once he did that, as we will see next week, He had an encounter with God that changed the essence

of his being.

What about you?