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Welcome to Fruition, The show

that helps you to discover Godsunique purpose for you, and

achieve through each of the fiveareas of life: faith, health,relationships, career and

finances.


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The topic of todays show is howto incorporate your purpose into

the relationship area of your life.


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Proverbs 16:4 says that The Lord

made all things for himself, eventhe wicked for the day of evil.

Everything and everyone increation has a unique purpose

designed by the mind and handof God.


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Purpose is the result or impactyou are meant to have on the

people or situations you come incontact with or that come intocontact with the work of your

hands.


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That being said, each relationshipyou choose to have is meant toachieve some godly purpose in

you and the one you are inrelationship with.


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s we scuss re at ons p,today, we are not speaking

simply of the people you knowof, but of those you are

connected or bonded to. Thosethat know you and that you

know. People whose advice you

respect and accept, and those yougive advice to. Those you

depend on and those who depend


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Relationships take many forms.

There are family relations,spousal relations, parental

relations, close friendships,acquaintances and work

relationships. Each one of these

relationships has a purpose inyour life.


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We are all connected. Consider

the body of Christ. Ephesians4:16 basically tells us that from

Christ which is the head, the restof the body is fitly joined

together and secured by every

joint supplying what it has beenapportioned or assigned to

provide. . .


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And that by doing so, the body

grows, even as every part workstogether in love. Paul basicallylets us know that the body of Christ is properly built wheneach joint is connected in the

right spot and supplies what itssupposed to supply.


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This is precisely why knowingyour purpose and pursuing it isso vitally important. Consider thehuman body. Every joint, organand vessel is perfectly connected

allowing the blood to flowthroughout the entire system.


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As the blood flows, it depositsnutrients that keep the body alive.Think it not strange that Christ isthe head and it is by the shedding

of His blood that we have theopportunity to be saved. It is

through the blood of Christ thatwe have life in Him and arereconciled to God.


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It is by the Holy Spirit that weare instructed and inspired to

supply others and to be supplied by others. When your life is not

focused on pursuing purpose youinterrupt the blood supply to the

body of Christ. Relationship isthe word we use to describe our connections in the body.


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Relationship is your being rightly

connected to the right parts, whoare, likewise, rightly connected toother parts of the body. When

everything is properly connected,life, that is the nutrients the blood

delivers, can circulate throughoutthe entire system.


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When the body is rightly joinedtogether, and every joint is doing

its part, then the spirit and

purposes of God can manifest,uninterrupted. However,

damaged connections hinder theflow, broken connections stop the

flow.


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The natural body automaticallyresponds to broken or damaged parts. The head immediatelynotices that a part is in trouble

and it dispatches other body partsto support it until it is healed or

until outside help arrives.


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you s ump your oe, wonyour hand quickly move to

comfort it? If you cut your finger, wont your other handapply pressure to prevent the loss

of blood, and then cleanse and bandage it? Your brain is

constantly moving in rapidmotion to dispatch help to ailing

parts.


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So it is in the body of

Christ. God immediately knowsof your trouble if you are

connected to Him, and Heimmediately dispatches help toyou until you are restored.


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You might say that does notseem to be the case, or you mayhave personal experience whichyou may want to offer to dispute

this fact. What I said is true, buthere is the problem in the

manifestation.


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1. The parts that are supposed tohelp have not positionedthemselves to respond.

God perfectly prepares each one

us to fulfill His purpose throughexperiences He allows and

wisdom He imparts.


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However, when we allowourselves to be distracted with

circumstances and fires that flare

up in our lives, we often missGod nudging us to address Hisneeds which often involves the

needs of others.


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This is in part, why we are totrust the Lord with all our heartand mind, and not lean to our own understanding (Proverbs

3:5). The scripture also tells usthat in everything we are to givethanks unto God for this is the

will of God in Christ Jesusconcerning each of us (I Thess.

5:18).


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Your giving thanks in everysituation and circumstance is

your expression of faith. It is anacknowledgement that God holds

all power and authority in Hishands, He has imparted that

power and authority to you byHis spirit and that the

circumstances you face arecontrolled by God


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By giving thanks youacknowledge that whatever

happens in your life is for your good and your making as long as

you are a part of the body. Thisacknowledgement should becomplemented by action that

prevents you from missing thevoice of God

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instead of worrying about theissues that may be present in your

life. A mind stayed on God, andnot yourself, should keep you

from being self-absorbed either with the lack of confidence or

arrogance, for these things prevent God from circulating

healing and deliverance through

you.


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2. The second thing that couldhappen when it seems you dont

receive immediate help from Godwhen you are in need is, The

parts of the body respond but youdont recognize or want to

receive the help that is beingoffered.


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any mes we oo a our circumstances and we mis-

diagnose what is happening.Many of us get upset over whatwe see going on with our naturaleyes instead of seeing the bigger

picture through our spiritual eyes.


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Because we mis-diagnose, we pre-suppose what the solutionshould be so that when we praywe ask God for the cure that we

want instead of the cure Healready knows we need.

B G d l d h


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Because God loves us and has patience with us He provides the

cure we need instead of what wewant. As it is when we deal withour own children, we sometimesget upset at His solution or we

think He did not answer us,leading us to feel as though Hedoesnt care for us or hear us

when we call.


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The solution here is the same.By keeping your mind on God

and remaining prayerful through

difficult times, you will better recognize Gods answers to your

dilemmas.

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If you dont do so now, when atroubling situation arises, practice

going immediately to God first. Not to the telephone to call a

friend or complaining to theclosest body you can find. Step back and ask God, What is thissituation all about? and He willgive you the peace and direction

to deal with it appropriately.


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3. The third thing that can happenwhen you need help but dont

seem to get it right away is that,the responding parts are sitting in

judgment instead of aiding theailing parts.


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God is always directing our every

step. He leads us to be in certain places at given times and to docertain things when we get there.Strangely, though, when some of us see a brother or sister caught

in a fault we think twice aboutwhether or not to help them.


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Think about it. How many timeshave you seen people come tochurch for deliverance, acceptsalvation, attend service a few

times and then you never seethem again? Many of us just

assume that they werent seriousabout making a commitment to

God or that


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But it is vitally important thatthat person feels wanted first of all by God, and then by you.

Your motives toward them needto be pure. Your desire for them

should be to help them becomereconciled to God.

Yo r ppro ch sho ld l s be


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Your approach should always beone of love and compassion, not

of condemnation. Matthew 7:1-5. This familiar scripture tells us

to judge not lest we be judged bythe same measure. So what is judgment? It is a criticism or

formed opinion


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But God created uniqueindividuals to work in His

vineyard called the earth. Notwo grapes are ever the same. So

what you might say to encourageone may greatly discourageanother. This is what I love

about Matthew 7:3 which says,

Wh l ki g t th k


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Why are you looking at the speck of dust in your brothers eye

when you have a large plank inyour own? This particular verse

makes it plain that yes your brother may be caught in a fault, but your judgment of him is far

worse than the sin he may becommitting.


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Why is this the case?Remember, the overall purpose

of God is to have his peoplereconciled back to Him through

Christ. That reconciliationhappens through the building up

of the body of Christ. And the body is built up by the laborerswho are bringing in the harvest.


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God is fiercely protective of His

purpose in you and in those thathave yet to be reconciled to Him.God goes through the careful

strategic effort of putting peoplethrough the experiences of life

that leads them to the placewhere they decide after suffering

enough brokeness, confusion,

and/or strife that her rightf l


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and/or strife that her rightful place is in Christ. They come to

you or your ministry for help.They did not come for you, but

they came because they thoughtyou could help them find God.So God gets them to you,

because He trusts you to wiselywin their soul to Christ,


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Then they turn around and watchyour lifestyle and your conversation with others, thenthey observe whos in the in-

crowd and whos not,


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and just about the time they

realize that they are not a part of the in-crowd and will probablynever be is when you start seeing

less and less of them until theygo back to where they came

from.


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And so now, instead of helpinganother lost soul find their proper position in the body, you have

actually helped to throw them outof the body. You have actuallyworked against the ultimate

purpose of God.


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There is a reason, Christ refers to

the lost souls as a harvest. If youve ever picked fruits or

vegetables, you know that youhave to handle the fruit carefully.If you rip it off the branch, beat

it down with a stick or squeeze ittoo tightly, you will bruise it.


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God wants us to handle lost soulswith the greatest of care so thatonce theyre picked they can be

put to His good use.


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This is what drives you to your knees. You pray for things and

dont get them, you confessthings and your testimony gets

muddied because it does notcome to pass. You say God can

and God will but no one, noteven you can see themanifestation of it.


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All because the devil used your witness to prove that your motives are not pure, that is

aligned with Gods purpose.

Why do you think the enemyfights you and not the sinner?

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Because he knows that if he canmess up the conduit to Christ, being you as the laborer, the

harvest will dry up and sour on

the vine, and eventually fallaway. If he spent all his time onthe sinner, the saints would grow

strong enough to defeat himevery time.

But if he can mislead some of the


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But if he can mislead some of thesaints, weaken their faith or puff

them up so that they judgeinstead of producing healing, he

can keep more lost souls and gainsome of the saints as well.

Judging others is one of the worstthings you could ever do. Its

better to keep silent, and its best

to pray


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If things are not going like you

planned, the first question to ask is, God, is it me? and be open

to hear His answer. Sometimes itwill be no, but sometimes Hemay just bring a moment or

circumstance to your remembrance.

Ask Him for understanding of


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Ask Him for understanding of what you should have done

differently, and repent of your wrong. That means, dont do itagain. Being able to converse

honestly, reverently andconsistently with God, and being

open to receive whatever He saysis the very essence of good

relationship with Him


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So, when you are called to

support a broken or damaged partof the body, do you do it in love

or must you first judge the broken part? These now aresaints who are already a part of the body, but are facing someobvious and visible issues.


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Our connection in the body of Christ is such that if the broken

part is not fixed, it willeventually impact the entire body

in some way. Remember, Paultaught us that the body builds

itself up in love, not judgment.Judgment tears down.

The harvest of souls is those that


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The harvest of souls is those thathave a place in the body but are

not in position yet. These arethose that are currently living in

sin. Each of us has some rolethrough our purpose in helping to

get those parts in place, and inhelping to keep those that arealready in place, the saints, in

good working condition


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Every relationship you choose to

have should have a purpose thatyou are aware of. Once youknow your purpose, you can judge your relationships by

whether or not they fit with what

it is you know you are to do withyour life.


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Your relationships can supplyyou with the information andencouragement to accomplish

your purpose. They are often the

doors to experiences that sharpenand build in you the knowledge

and maturity needed for your purpose.


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Finally, as I have alreadyimplied, your relationships are

often the targets of your purpose,

as God positions you to providevalue, encouragement,knowledge and support to others.

But how can you rightly evaluate


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But how can you rightly evaluatewhether or not you are to be incertain relationships? The first

and most important step is having

a secure, not just a passing,relationship with God. Becausefrom this relationship flows thewisdom to have and to manageevery other relationship in your

life


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From God, and only God, flowsthe wisdom to know what a

particular relationship is for,

what type of relationship itshould be, how long you should be in it and whether or not you

should be in it at all.


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Until you get into this position


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Until you get into this position,you should wear your

relationships lightly. In other words, dont come into covenant,

which is strong and lastingcommitment, with anyone, unlessyou know what your purpose isand how that person fits into it.


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This is because once you knowyour God-given purpose, it mayrequire that you to shift out of

some relationships and join incovenant with others that are not

compatible with relationshipsyou may already have.


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If you have strong emotional or

soul-ties with people you are notsupposed to be in covenant with,you may suffer great emotional

conflict between what you knowGod wants you to do and what

your flesh or soul man wants youto keep.


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Because time is of the essence inthe kingdom of God right now,

you dont want to waste valuable

time trying to decide whether or not to obey God in letting go of some of the people in your life,or spend valuable time trying toget over having to let them go.


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Well, this is all fine if we all are

starting with a clean slate. Butsince we are not, we need to

know how to transition from awrong relationship into rightrelationship with as minimal an

impact as possible.

It takes a mind open to receive


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pthe word of God to understand

His purpose in relationships.Matthew 9:9-13 tells us how

Jesus joined Himself to Matthew.Out of His relationship withMatthew, He went to His house

for dinner.


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But because Matthew was

already connected to taxcollectors and sinners, Jesus and

the disciples He was connected tofound themselves at dinner with

the sinners that Matthew wasconnected to.

Outside religious observers


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Outside religious observers judged the circumstance wrongly,

criticizing Jesus for associatingHimself with sinners. But Jesus

let them know that it was not thehealthy but the sick that needed a physician, then He told them to

step off and go learn what itmeant in Hosea 6:6 when God

said I desire merc not sacrifice What He was saying was God


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What He was saying was Goddesires a person with a right heart

towards Him and not religioussacrifices which can be done

outwardly without a sincereheart.

Finally, in this passage Jesus


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y, p gsaid, that He came not to call the

righteous but rather sinners torepentance. You see, the

Pharisees felt they had alreadyarrived. And those that had

arrived should not associate withthose, who in their minds, couldnever be as righteous as they.

But Jesus always stayed focused


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But Jesus always stayed focusedon purpose. He knew the job hadonly just begun and that this lifewas not to be compared to life in

Him after the resurrection. So itdid not matter to Him how otherscriticized His actions, because Heknew they did not understand His

purpose.


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Even if He wanted to be moved by their criticism, He would not.Because He recognized who Godreally is and His responsibility toGod according to His covenant

and high relationship with Him.


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There are people on your job

today, who you are supposed to be an effective witness to but

youre losing that battle becauseyou cant hold a basic casualconversation with them for being

so holy and afraid.


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But yet you wonder why you arestagnant in the same job working

with the same people you just

cant stand to work with. Whenyou learn how to be a wise

witness your life will be more peaceful and satisfying

The first part of that is living the


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p glife you say you are to live. And

as Jesus told the disciples its notabout your religious sacrifices

and performances but its aboutexhibiting the heart and character of God towards everyone. Many

of us have no real experiencewith this because we are too busy

keeping the sacrifices burning So our witness, gets tainted and


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So our witness, gets tainted andnothing about our life looks

attractive to the sinners we arearound. The second part of

having an effective witness is being touchable. You cant shunthe kindness or friendship of

sinners.

If you know your purpose, and


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y y p p ,keep purpose in mind you should

look for opportunities to sharethe love of Christ with others

without condemning,intimidating or repulsing your hearers. He who wins souls is

wise. Proverbs 11:30


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So, how do you evaluate the

rightness of your relationshipswith both the people in the bodyof Christ and with those that havethe potential to be in the body?

As I said earlier, you have to first

have a right relationship withGod.

Once that covenant relationship


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pis in place with Him, then you

can rightly judge your other relationships. When evaluating

your relationships one of the keyquestions to ask yourself iswhether or not that relationshipthreatens your relationship with

God.

Amos 3:1-3 says can two walk


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Amos 3:1 3 says can two walk together except they be agreed?

This means of the same heart andsimilar motive and with

complimentary purposes. Thequestion is raised in this passage

because the Israelites have begunto serve other gods and pursue

their own desires.


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God lets them know that of allthe families of the earth, He

chose to make a covenant with

them. He reminds them that Hekept His part of the covenant, but

they did not keep theirs. All theyhad to do was serve Him onlyand follow His decrees.

But instead they connected


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themselves with foul, unholy and

lifeless gods. Because there iscirculation when there is

connection and God will notcontaminate Himself, God, in Hisanger cuts them off. Thats why

He rhetorically says two cantwalk together if they dont agree.

This new connection threatened


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This new connection threatenedthe very purpose of God through

Israel. Since they came out of agreement, God severes their

connection and leaves them opento disaster. Today, if you truly

have a heart for God and you arein a relationship that threatens

His purpose through you,

You can count that relationship


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You can count that relationshipas good as gone. Especially atthis time in the earth, God is

shaking out the junk and pulling

His people out of relationshipsthat are distracting them from

purpose.

Its better if you stop and take


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It s better if you stop and takesome time here in the near futureto evaluate every relationship that

you have. Prayerfully consider

whether or not that relationship isassisting you in purpose or working to destroy Gods

purpose through you.


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But if one does all the supplying


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and never receives anything

beneficial from the other, theagreement has been breached and

the covenant is ineffective. Moreobvious is when one person isobviously receiving great benefitand the other person is actually

weakened through the

relationship

The bottom line is we need to


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The bottom line is we need toguard the purposes that God has put in us. Wrong relationships,

whether they be with people

inside the body or out, threatenyour purpose. God has investedtime and resources to make you

ready for His purpose.


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Dont throw it away on worthless

and temporary pleasures, whichwork against His plans. Solomon

is a great example. He startedout right. He had a heart for thethings of God and fulfilled the

word of God by building thetemple.

But slowly, over time, he was


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deceived and pulled away by one

thing. Wrong relationship. Hisdesire for strange women as

the Bible calls them, caused Himto break His end of the covenantwith God because these women

led him to start serving false godsand practicing abominable

practices Again, because of the circulation


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involved in covenant, God had to

disassociate Himself fromSolomon. But because Solomon

was the head, His sin, rooted inwrong relationship, adverselyaffected everyone He was

connected to which was theentire kingdom of Israel.


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This is why you, as a believer,cant come into covenant with just anybody and you cant lay

your hands on just anything,whether it seems to be of God or

not. When you do, it isimperative that you repent,

meaning to turn away and not do


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it again, so that you will not lose

your secure position with Christand so that your purpose will not

be thwarted.

So, what do you do if you find


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that you are already in wrong

relationships? How do you getout of them? The way to get outof them with the least amount of

pain is to ask God for His divineguidance in cutting off those

things you recognize are not of Him and that go against His

purpose in your life

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It sounds simple, but it works.

Your willingness to align your will with the will of God makeslife a lot easier for you. He

supports those who have a heartfor Him and are willing to work

with their hands. God will go outof His way to make severing

those relationships easy if He knows youre doing it to

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please Him. You have to be

determined enough to say no tocontinuing the bad relationship,and God works to make sure theresponse to your no is receivedwith little to no negative impact

on you. The key thing isknowing His timing and Hisapproach. Pray for wisdom.


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But you have to make up your mind to let it go. Better you

decide to move forward than tohave God yank you forward.


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God flows through the body from


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God flows through the body from

heart to heart as each partsupplies its fruit and thus fulfillsits purpose. Having right

relationships is vitally important.Ensure you have the right

relationships not just thetraditional or expected ones.


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Right relationships supply youwith what you need to pursueyour purpose and allow you tosupply them towards fulfilling

your purpose. Wrong

relationships threaten your relationship with God,

so evaluate your relationshipsd d k


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today and make sure you are

found in the will of God.Join us next time as we talk abouthow to incorporate your purposeinto the career area of your life.Until then, be blessed and may

you prosper in all thingsaccording to your purpose in

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