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“Learning doesn’t take place in isolation from kids’ feelings. Being emotionally literate is as important for learning as instruction in math and reading.”
Karen Stone McCown
“Stress makes people stupid, i.e when emotionally upset, people cannot remember, attend, learn, or make decisions clearly.”
Daniel Goleman
Kindergarten• Insecurity/anxiety• Jealousy• Feeling left out/unloved• Teasing• Fears• Pride• Confidence
Comparing self with others
Puberty
• Not being asked out on a date• Being left out of the group• Being picked on/bullied• Self-esteem issues• Anger management• Impulse and mood control• Lack of empathy from peers & family
Defensive forms of the Group Dynamic
SUBMISSION FLIGHT ATTACK
Acceptance Acceptance anxietyanxiety
Orientation Orientation anxietyanxiety
Performance Performance anxietyanxiety
Repressed grief
Repressed fear
Repressed anger
John Heron The Facilitator’s Handbook Kogan Page 1989
What is Emotional Intelligence?
“It is the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships.”
Daniel Goleman Emotional Intelligence Bantam Books 1995
EQ Activities while you work
• Feelings Register• Problem mailbox• Feelings Cube• Stoplight Poster
1. Stop, calm down, and think before you act
6. Go ahead and try the best plan
2. Say the problem and how you feel3. Set a positive goal4. Think of lots of solutions5. Think ahead to the consequences
How often do you..................?
• Brush your teeth• Take a shower• Change your socks• Play football with your friends at
school• Chat on MSN • Watch TV
Self Disclosure
How often do you: Very often often sometimes rarely never
Cry
Laugh
Quarrel with your sister/ brother
Feel sad for no reason
Feel happy for no reason
Daydream
Forget things
Wish you were someone else
Get angry
Do silly things
Make mistakes
Really enjoy yourself
Change your mind
EmpathyImagine you are your partner and complete Imagine you are your partner and complete the sentences.the sentences.
1. I like the colour_________because__________________2. I sometimes worry about__________________________3. My biggest fear is________________________________4. My ambition is to________________________________5. I like people who________________________________6. People like me because___________________________
IF I WERE YOU
1. If I found some money, I would..........................
2. If I saw a snake, I would.................
3. If I could be anyone else, I would be.........
4. My perfect day would be ...............................
Empathy
PREDICTING SIMILARITIES
• We are both...• We both have...• We both like...• When we were younger we both
used to...• In the future both of us will
probably...
Communication, Disclosure, Insight, Empathy
CLASS RECORDSFind out how many times people in the group have broken their legs
Find out how many people in the group have owned pets who have
died or run away. What kind of pets?
Find out how many times people in the group have fallen in love
Find out what objects people in the group have lost which were
important to them
Find out how many people in the group have had an operation
Find out how many people in the group have single parents
AS A GROUP WE HAVE:
Broken our legs 3 times Owned 5 goldfish, 2 cats, a dog, a snake
Fallen in love 21 times Lost 2 mobiles and a pair of Converse
Had 5 operations 2 single parents