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EMPATHY. October 2, 2006 Charles Nesson. serve chocolates. be living not dying. one cannot play this game. Battle of Algiers. facts in context. Context is crucial to how we see facts. The meaning we give to facts often varies with our point of view. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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EMPATHY
October 2, 2006
Charles Nesson
serve chocolates
be livingnot dying
onecannot
play this
game
Battle of Algiers
facts in context
Context is crucial to how we see facts. The meaning we give to facts often varies with our point of view.
There may be multiple ways to see facts, depending on what (or whose) viewpoint we take.
A BIG guy chasing a little guy?
Look again. Context is crucial.
CyberOnefirst stone – daniel gilbert
our reasons and our pains are more palpable, more obvious and real, than are the reasons
and pains of others
this leads to escalation of mutual harm
to the illusion that others are solely responsible for it
to the belief that our actions are justifiable responses to theirs
EMPATHIZE it means to sense the hurt or the
pleasure of another as s/he senses it
and to perceive the causes thereof as s/he perceives them
- carl rogers
but without ever losing the recognition that it is *as if* you were hurt or pleased
empathy To perceive the internal frame of
reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings which pertain thereto as if one were the person,
but never losing the "as if"
condition.
empathy in dispute resolution
wooing the undecided
[[homework food for thought: discuss the “as if” condition]]
to court• chose your client’s best story • start where your client’s story
starts.
empathy in issue identification
• exams• interviewing client
empathy in dispute resolution
wooing the other
to other• serve chocolates• start with the other’s story• draw the other’s attention in• empathize so that the other
understands that you understand
break• serve chocolates
form groups