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Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! The 21‐Day Program for Partners Expanded Orgasm Report

Report 1: How Expanded Orgasm Can Take Your Love Life to the Next Level—and Beyond!

With “Dr. Patti” (Patricia Taylor, PhD)Author of Expanded Orgasm

Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! 21‐Day Program Expanded Orgasm Report 1

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What is Expanded Orgasm and How Will I Benefit from Learning It?

I’m very glad you asked! Expanded Orgasm has changed my life, and I’ve

delighted in watching it change the lives of many, many individuals and

couples—for the (way) better.

I’d like to give you a sense of how Expanded Orgasm can change your life

for the better, too. As you might expect, Expanded Orgasm can

supercharge your erotic (sexual energy) experience. In fact, Expanded

Orgasm has the potential to infuse your erotic life with a level of pleasure

and passion that you may only have dreamed of, or perhaps that you have

found only for fleeting moments.

But Expanded Orgasm can infuse all aspects of your life with energy and

delight. Imagine what having pleasurable energy and delight “on tap”

could do for your love‐relationship, your health and well‐being, and even

your work!

In this three‐part series of Expanded Orgasm Reports, I’ll share with you

just what Expanded Orgasm is, how it relates to (yet is different from)

other kinds of orgasm (yes, there are several kinds of orgasm—how

wonderful!) and a bit of how you can get a taste of Expanded Orgasm

yourself.

In your first Report, How Expanded Orgasm Can Take Your Love Life to

the Next Level—and Beyond, you’ll learn that there are many

(wonderful!) kinds of orgasms, and what makes each special. That will

prepare you to learn about Expanded Orgasm!


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When you learn Expanded Orgasm, you’ll quickly discover that you and

your partner enter the realm of Expanded Orgasm together, even if (in

manual play, our focus in this course) you are the “giver” and she is the

“receiver.” You both take the ride! My partner loves bringing me into

Expanded Orgasm because he gets to go there too. He feels me feeling

him! Can you imagine how much he loves that? In your second Report,

you’ll learn about Touching for Rapture—the surest kind of touch to

transport you both into Expanded Orgasm bliss.

In your third Report, I’ll introduce you to one of the most powerful

techniques for bringing your partner into Expanded Orgasm, and keeping

her there. We call this technique The Power and Pleasure of Orgasmic

Peaking.

I’ll bet you’re ready to get started!


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REPORT 1: HOW EXPANDED ORGASM CAN TAKE YOUR

LOVE LIFE TO THE NEXT LEVEL—AND BEYOND!

What is Expanded Orgasm?

It will be easier for you to understand Expanded Orgasm if I first contrast it

with other kinds of orgasm. Let’s start with “Regular Orgasm”—the type

you’re probably most familiar with.

Okay, What is a Regular Orgasm?

Regular Orgasm is the “typical” male orgasm, though most women

experience this type of orgasm, too, though it may take longer than it does

for a man, and women often like to experience a longer climb with more

plateaus.

In Regular Orgasm, the experience is focused in the genitals, ending with a

kind of explosion or intense climax with 8 to 10 contractions of the pelvic

muscles. These contractions are about a second apart, and are usually

intensely pleasurable.

The famous sex researches from the 60s, Masters and Johnson, described

four stages of Regular Orgasm.

These four stages have some interesting names:

- Excitement

- Plateau

- Orgasm

- Resolution


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Here’s a diagram to help you visualize these phases.

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You can see that the amount (level) of arousal (sexual pleasure and

interest) increases with stimulation (time), climbs to a plateau, then

climaxes, and finally declines (usually pretty quickly, especially in men).

In the excitement phase, you see signs of arousal starting to happen, like

increasing vaginal lubrication – that’s when she starts getting wet! This is

when a man becomes hard (engorged). The pleasure can build slowly at

first, and then accelerates.

In the plateau phase, you see changes in heart rate and respiration—so

that’s where all the breathing intensifies…. The woman becomes engorged

(her vaginal lips and those deeper places become swollen with blood.

Some men start to “leak” clear somewhat sticky fluid at this point. In


Regular Orgasm, the arousal keeps building, reaching a “point of

inevitability”—a point of no return….

Then there’s the orgasm phase which is self‐explanatory and I’ve already

described the typical 8 to 10 second climax. Sometimes (especially if

there’s been lots of foreplay and time to build arousal) this kind of climax

can seem to fill the whole body with massive and pleasurable release.

And in the resolution phase you have rapid relaxation and a drop in blood

pressure, slowing breathing, and other signs of decreasing arousal. The

engorgement fades quickly (more quickly, usually for men). People differ

in their responses to this phase—some like to cuddle, some prefer quiet

time by themselves, or to drift into a reverie or sleep.

Picture a Regular Orgasm like climbing a mountain… you climb, enjoy the

peak briefly, and then come down the other side.

Multiple Orgasms and Extended Orgasms

In a Multiple Orgasm, the woman receives genital stimulation, has a

Regular Orgasm, mmmm, it feels really good, too! Then, she starts down

the other side of the mountain … but not all the way, and then she starts

climbing up again. She can then experience another climax, or peak. Yum!

She will have two or more peaks and when she is done coming, she’ll

return all the way down the other side of the mountain (the resolution

phase). Some men can experience Multiple Orgasms, too, but usually

when they’re young ‘n horny (though many men can learn Multiple

Orgasm with proper training).

On the following page is a diagram of Multiple Orgasm.


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Now, in Extended Orgasm when a woman reaches the peak of the

experience, she stays there, having a prolonged orgasmic climax. She is

literally “hanging out at the edge.”

Think of Extended Orgasm as an orgasm in which a woman stays in the

over‐the‐edge state for longer than the typical 8 or 10 seconds. There may

be some fluctuation in intensity and/or sensation... an Extended Orgasm

can last for 20 seconds, a minute, or even several minutes.

Now let’s look at a diagram of Extended Orgasm on the next page.



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EXTENDED ORGASMEXTENDED ORGASM

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It’s a little challenging to do Extended Orgasm justice with a diagram.

Imagine that plateau wavering, maybe climbing to a new plateau before

going “over the edge.”

I’m sure you will agree, these are all wonderful types of orgasm. By the

way, you can learn more about these types of orgasm in the video tutorials

in my Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! The 21‐Day Program for Partners.

OK, I’m Ready to Learn About Expanded Orgasm!

An Expanded Orgasm will often include one (or more) of the above types

of orgasms, but… it has both profound and delicious characteristics that go

far beyond.

First, in these non‐expanded orgasms that I just described, the main

dimension is time.


An Expanded Orgasm is an experience that happens in both time and

space. In Expanded Orgasm, you are expanding the pleasure you feel in

your genitals into the entire space of your body, through your mind, into

the dimension of your emotions, and into the expanding of your

awareness.

These mounting feelings of bliss spill out into your partner, into the space

around you, and into your very spirit.

In Expanded Orgasm, you have the sense of a cup filling up, and at the very

same time, the cup is growing to the size of a coliseum … with energy

currents running from head to toe. It’s as if your very body has enlarged

enormously, and all of it is filled to spill‐over with profound erotic

pleasure.

Here is a diagram of Expanded Orgasm:

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The climbing thick wavy line conveys how arousal keeps getting higher and

higher—much higher in fact than in Regular Orgasm. There are many

plateaus followed by more climbing. But as I said, Expanded Orgasm

happens not only in time, but also in space! The dotted wavy lines are

intended to illustrate the Expanded Orgasm experience of expanding way

out in space. In Expanded Orgasm you have a sense of not only filling your

body with great pleasure, but of making a larger body to fill.

I’d like to give you a sense of what it takes to create these mind blowing

orgasms. As your partner stimulates you—puts pleasurable attention on

you—you can spread the rising pleasure energy through your body. One

way to do this is to breathe it up and through your whole body, as you

relax more and more into the feeling. I call this “falling into climbing.” It’s a

kind of surrender to pleasure.

You can also learn to spread orgasmic sensations through your emotional

being, opening your heart to feelings as they arise, as you relax into them.

Not only is this incredibly pleasurable, but it’s a wonderful and powerful

way for you to connect with each other.

Your awareness goes very deeply into the richness of the current moment,

and then expands to the deepest reaches of the galaxy. In this state,

people report moving and profound experiences.

Something Else I want You to Know About Expanded Orgasm

Let’s begin by looking at the generally accepted definition of orgasm—

developed by the pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson.

I call the Masters and Johnson's model “The male model of orgasm”,

because they patterned their definition of orgasm on the standard male

experience.


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That experience is the climb, plateau, climax, and come down again

model. For years both men and women have been defining and judging

their orgasmic experiences by this standard. While this is a valid and

sometimes useful model of orgasm… it can also be constraining … if it's the

only model you have.

Expanded Orgasms begin by making a choice… a choice to start noticing

and approving of the first good sensation that you feel in your crotch. You

then notice and approve of all the pleasurable sensations that follow.

When you do this, you relax; you open up the feeling channels in your

body, and start a delicious feedback cycle. I encourage everyone to let go

of their prejudices that say orgasm has to be or look a certain way. Begin

expanding your mind… and body… as to how it can look and feel for you

and your partner.

What Is The Cost of Clinging to the Standard Definition of Orgasm?

When a woman’s orgasms aren’t distinguished properly, and therefore not

validated, she could be having profound orgasms, and just not

acknowledging them! Now, please don’t get me wrong. I am not saying

she is not enjoying these orgasms! But, I have had many women (and their

partners) come to me with this kind of needless “orgasm performance

anxiety”. What's equally troubling is that by not approving and validating

what you actually perceive (though under the surface of awareness), your

orgasms cannot start getting better.


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Approving of the pleasurable sensation you feel in your body is the first

step in creating, and having, mind blowing orgasms.

Since it's possible that you can have an Expanded Orgasm from the

moment you are touched, doesn’t it make sense to allow yourself to feel

pleasure right away? And isn’t it great to know there’s no limit to how high

you can get?

Learn this practice with a beginner’s mind… and don’t ever stop learning.

This is the very attitude I take into my own practice… curiosity and true

openness to how can I do this as a truly great art? And what new

technique can I learn today? As well as how much fun can I have and how

good can it feel?

With practice, you can enter an Expanded Orgasm state almost

immediately. And it does take practice. Fortunately the practice is a lot of

fun. In the second and third parts of this Report, I’ll give you two very

enjoyable practices you can do right away.

Now, when you’re ready, please turn to your second Expanded Orgasm

Report: Touching for Rapture!

Happy exploring!

Dr. Patti

P. S. If you’re ready for the entire Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! 21‐Day

Program for Partners, just click here: www.ExpandHerOrgasmTonight.com.

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