Embed Size (px)
Citation preview
DOCUMENT RESUME
ED 425 792 PS 024 841
AUTHOR Woodworth, Renee S., Comp.; Fron, Mary, Comp.TITLE I Like Being Safe and Loved: Words and Pictures on Life with
Grandma and Grandpa from Children Being Raised by TheirGrandparents.
INSTITUTION . American Association of Retired Persons, Washington, DC.PUB DATE 1996-00-00NOTE 69p.; Supported in part by a grant from the Freddie Mac
Foundation.PUB TYPE Opinion Papers (120)EDRS PRICE MF01/PC03 Plus Postage.DESCRIPTORS *Childhood Attitudes; Family Environment; *Grandchildren;
*Grandparents; *Personal NarrativesIDENTIFIERS *Grandparent Grandchild Relationship; *Grandparents as
Parents
ABSTRACTNearly 1.5 million children are living with and being raised
by their grandparents. The AARP Grandparent Information Center met with fivegroups of children in the spring of 1996 to gather their thoughts andquotations on what it feels like to live with their grandparents. Fifteendrawings were also selected for inclusion. The children's quotations andpictures are presented in these sections: (1) "What Grandchildren Have to Sayabout Living with My Grandparents"; (2) "Things That Make Me Happy in theMorning"; (3) "The People Who Love Me"; (4) "Trust and Trusting"; (5)
"Feeling Sad and Feeling Better"; (6) "Wishing and Wishing for Things"; (7)
"Big Numbers and How Old Is Old?"; (8) "What Grandmas and Grandpas Do Best";
(9) "Giving Grown-Ups (and Adults) Advice"; (10) "Helping Other Children WhoAre Going to Live with Their Grandparents"; (11) "Being Special"; (12)
"Living Other Places...Not Living with Your Grandparents"; and (13) "Specialfor Grandma or Grandpa." (EV)
********************************************************************************
Reproductions supplied by EDRS are the best that can be madefrom the original document.
********************************************************************************
Lr)
44
4e.
\
U.S
. DE
PA
RT
ME
NT
OF
ED
UC
AT
ION
Offi
ce o
f Edu
catio
nal R
esea
rch
and
Impr
ovem
ent
ED
UC
AT
ION
AL
RE
SO
UR
CE
S IN
FO
RM
AT
ION
CE
NT
ER
(E
RIC
)T
his
docu
men
t has
bee
n re
prod
uced
as
rece
ived
from
the
pers
on o
r or
gani
zatio
nor
igin
atin
g it.
0 M
inor
cha
nges
hav
e be
en m
ade
toim
prov
e re
prod
uctio
n qu
ality
.
Poi
nts
of v
iew
or
opin
ions
sta
ted
in th
isdo
cum
ent d
o no
t nec
essa
rily
repr
esen
tof
ficia
l OE
RI p
ositi
on o
r po
licy. zoo,
\S
afe
PE
RM
ISS
ION
TO
RE
PR
OD
UC
E A
ND
DIS
SE
MIN
AT
E T
HIS
MA
TE
RIA
L H
AS
BE
EN
GR
AN
TE
D B
Y
CA
Lcz
nAxm
cio,
{Yle
.,c_k
RA
TO
TH
E E
DU
CA
TIO
NA
L R
ES
OU
RC
ES
INF
OR
MA
TIO
N C
EN
TE
R (
ER
IC)
1
onW
ords
and
Pic
ture
s on
Life
with
Gra
ndm
a an
d G
rand
pa fr
om C
hild
ren
Bei
ng R
aise
d by
The
ir 6r
andp
aren
ts
My
Gra
ndm
a A
lway
s S
ays.
..If
I Tak
e C
are
Of M
y P
lant
... It
Will
Gro
w L
ike
Me.
Saf
eW
ords
and
Pic
ture
s on
Life
with
Gra
ndm
a an
d G
rand
pafr
om C
hild
ren
Bei
ng R
aise
d by
The
ir G
rand
pare
nts
Com
pile
d by
Ren
ee S
. VV
oodw
orth
Mar
y F
ron
A p
ublic
atio
n of
the
AA
RP
Gra
ndpa
rent
Info
rmat
ion
Cen
ter
A.A
.R.P
. Fou
ndat
ion
601
E S
tree
t NW
Was
hing
ton,
DC
200
49
AA
RP
500n
rog.
sosu
lso.
900.
Sup
port
ed in
par
t by
a gr
ant f
rom
the
Fre
ddie
Mac
Fou
ndat
ion.
0199
6, A
mer
ican
Ass
ocia
tion
of R
etire
d P
erso
ns. R
eprin
ting
with
per
mis
sion
onl
y.
45
Nea
rly o
ne a
nd o
ne h
alf m
illio
n ch
ildre
n ar
e liv
ing
with
and
bei
ng r
aise
d by
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts. T
hey
are
not l
ivin
g w
ith th
eir
birt
h pa
rent
s an
d m
any
have
no c
onta
ct w
ith th
em. L
ife fo
r th
ese
child
ren
is a
t the
sam
e tim
e ve
ry d
iffer
ent
and
just
the
sam
e as
for
othe
r ch
ildre
n. T
he A
AR
P G
rand
pare
nt In
form
atio
nC
ente
r of
the
A.A
.R.P
. Fou
ndat
ion
wan
ts to
giv
eth
ese
gran
dchi
ldre
n an
opp
ortu
nity
to s
peak
to y
ou a
nd a
lso
expr
ess
thei
r vi
sion
s of
life
.
The
AA
RP
Gra
ndpa
rent
Info
rmat
ion
Cen
ter,
wor
king
with
Mar
y F
ron
(a c
onsu
ltant
), to
ok o
n th
e ta
sk o
f pul
ling
toge
ther
a b
ook
of q
uota
tions
abou
t life
with
gra
ndm
a an
d gr
andp
a fr
om g
rand
child
ren
bein
g ra
ised
by
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts. T
his
proj
ect w
as s
uppo
rted
, in
part
, by
a gr
ant f
rom
the
Fre
ddie
Mac
Fou
ndat
ion,
with
out w
hich
it w
ould
not
hav
e be
en p
ossi
-bl
e. W
e th
ank
the
Fre
ddie
Mac
Fou
ndat
ion
for
help
ing
us g
ive
thes
e gr
andc
hild
ren
a vo
ice!
It w
as o
ur p
leas
ure
to m
eet w
ith fi
ve g
roup
s of
chi
ldre
n, n
early
fifty
(50)
gra
ndch
ildre
n in
tota
l, du
ring
the
sprin
g of
199
6. T
hese
gro
upse
ssio
ns w
ere
held
in: L
inco
ln, N
ebra
ska;
Kan
sas
City
, Mis
sour
i; G
rand
Rap
ids,
Mic
higa
n; H
ibbi
ng, M
inne
sota
; and
Phi
lade
lphi
a, P
enns
ylva
nia.
The
site
s w
ere
chos
en
for
thei
r di
vers
ity o
f loc
atio
n an
d po
pula
tions
. The
y pr
ovid
ed u
s w
ith b
oth
rura
l and
urb
anse
tting
s an
d a
varie
ty o
f fam
ily b
ackg
roun
ds.
We
expl
aine
d to
the
child
ren
that
mor
e th
an o
ne m
illio
n ch
ildre
n ar
e be
ing
rais
ed b
y th
eir
gran
dpar
ents
and
that
this
num
ber
is in
crea
sing
eve
ry d
ay. W
e fu
rthe
r ex
plai
ned
that
this
6w
as th
eir
oppo
rtun
ity to
tell
Am
eric
a w
hat i
t fee
ls li
ke to
live
with
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts; w
hat
they
like
d ab
out i
t and
wha
t the
ir ho
pes
for
the
futu
re in
clud
e.
Eac
h gr
andc
hild
's c
omm
ent i
s id
entif
ied
by th
eir
first
nam
e an
d ag
e. T
he g
rand
child
ren
wer
eco
mpl
etel
y fr
ee to
par
ticip
ate
or to
rem
ain
a no
n-pa
rtic
ipan
t in
the
grou
p se
ssio
ns. T
heir
gran
dpar
ents
and
rel
ativ
es w
ere
advi
sed
of th
e ty
pe o
f que
stio
ns w
e w
ould
be
aski
ng th
ech
ildre
n an
d of
thei
r rig
ht to
priv
acy.
The
coo
pera
tion
of th
e gr
andp
aren
ts, g
roup
lead
ers
and
espe
cial
ly th
e gr
andc
hild
ren,
mad
e th
is p
ublic
atio
n po
ssib
le. T
he g
rand
child
ren
wro
te th
is
book
let;
we
only
col
lect
ed th
eir
thou
ghts
on
tape
and
tran
scrib
ed th
em o
nto
pape
r.
To
trul
y m
ake
the
book
let a
ref
lect
ion
of th
e gr
andc
hild
ren'
s vi
sion
, the
Cen
ter
held
an
art c
onte
st in
the
sprin
g of
199
6, a
skin
g gr
andc
hild
ren
who
wer
e be
ing
rais
ed b
y th
eir
gran
d-pa
rent
s to
sub
mit
draw
ings
dep
ictin
g lif
e w
ith g
rand
ma
and
gran
dpa.
Nin
ety-
five
gran
dchi
l-dr
en s
ubm
itted
pic
ture
s. T
he y
oung
est e
ntra
nt w
as th
ree
year
s ol
d an
d th
eol
dest
was
thirt
een
year
s of
age
.
Fift
een
draw
ings
wer
e se
lect
ed fo
r in
clus
ion
in th
e bo
okle
t, in
clud
ing
the
cove
r ar
t. (S
ee th
ene
xt s
ectio
n fo
r m
ore
info
rmat
ion
abou
t the
cov
er a
rtis
t.) T
he s
elec
tions
wer
e ba
sed
on th
eor
igin
ality
of t
he a
rtw
ork,
age
-app
ropr
iate
qua
lity,
rep
rodu
ctio
n ca
pabi
lity,
and
rel
evan
ce to
livin
g w
ith g
rand
ma
and
gran
dpa.
Tho
se d
raw
ings
not
incl
uded
in th
is b
ookl
et w
ill b
e us
ed,
whe
n ap
prop
riate
, in
futu
re C
ente
r pu
blic
atio
ns.
Man
y of
the
gran
dchi
ldre
n in
clud
ed s
tate
men
ts o
r st
orie
s w
ith th
eir
draw
ings
. The
se m
es-
sage
s or
exp
lana
tions
wer
e co
nsid
ered
par
t of t
he a
rtw
ork
and,
whi
le n
ot r
epro
duce
d in
thei
row
n ha
ndw
ritin
g, h
ave
been
prin
ted
with
the
artw
ork,
with
no
chan
ges
in g
ram
mar
or
spel
ling.
In fa
ct, t
he b
ookl
et's
title
, "M
y G
rand
ma
Alw
ays
Say
s...l
f I T
ake
Car
e O
f My
Pla
nt...
lt W
ill G
row
Lik
e M
e.I L
ike
Bei
ng S
afe
and
Love
d,"w
as p
arap
hras
ed fr
om th
e ar
twor
k
subm
itted
by
Dal
ana,
age
7. D
alan
a's
draw
ing
can
be fo
und
in th
e se
ctio
n on
"B
eing
Spe
ciaL
"
Cen
ter
staf
f and
our
des
ign
team
foun
d it
very
diff
icul
t to
sele
ct o
nly
fifte
en d
raw
ings
for
the
book
let.
Eve
ryon
e di
d a
grea
t job
and
we
wis
h th
at a
ll of
the
artw
ork
coul
d ha
ve b
een
incl
uded
.It
was
obv
ious
that
all
the
gran
dchi
ldre
n ar
e ve
ry ta
lent
ed a
nd h
ave
a ke
en s
ense
of li
fe a
nd li
ving
.
Eac
h an
d ev
ery
one
of th
e ch
ildre
n w
ho s
ubm
itted
a d
raw
ing
(or
part
icip
ated
in th
e gr
oup
sess
ions
) w
ill g
et a
cop
y of
this
boo
klet
and
a le
tter
of a
ppre
ciat
ion
from
the
Cen
ter.
Cen
ter
staf
f wou
ld a
lso
like
to p
erso
nally
than
k th
e gr
andc
hild
ren
for
shar
ing
thei
r vi
sion
s an
d th
ank
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts fo
r en
cour
agin
g an
d al
low
ing
thei
r pa
rtic
ipat
ion
in th
e ar
t con
test
and
the
grou
p se
ssio
ns.
3
8
Tab
leof
Con
tent
s
Intr
oduc
tion
2
Abo
ut th
e C
over
Art
ist
4
Pre
face
5
Wha
t Gra
ndch
ildre
n H
ave
To
Say
Abo
ut
Livi
ng W
ith M
y G
rand
pare
nts
6
Thi
ngs
Tha
t Mak
e M
e H
appy
in th
e M
orni
ng9
The
Peo
ple
Who
Lov
e M
e10
Tru
st a
nd T
rust
ing
12
Fee
ling
Sad
and
Fee
ling
Bet
ter
14
Wis
hing
and
Wis
hing
for
Thi
ngs
16
Big
Num
bers
and
How
Old
is O
ld?
18
Wha
t Gra
ndm
as a
nd G
rand
pas
Do
Bes
t 20
Giv
ing
Gro
wn-
Ups
(an
d A
dults
) A
dvic
e22
Hel
ping
Oth
er C
hild
ren
Who
Are
Goi
ngto
Liv
e w
ith T
heir
Gra
ndpa
rent
s24
Bei
ng S
peci
al26
Livi
ng O
ther
Pla
ces.
.. N
ot L
ivin
g w
ithY
our
Gra
ndpa
rent
s28
Spe
cial
for
Gra
ndm
a or
Gra
ndpa
30
Abo
ut th
e G
rand
child
ren
32
9
1 0
4
Abo
ut th
e C
omr
Art
ist_
_
Chr
istin
a M
aria
Maz
za is
our
cov
er a
rtis
t. S
he li
ves
in M
aryl
and
and
was
four
and
a h
alf y
ears
old
whe
n sh
e su
bmitt
ed h
er d
raw
ing,
turn
ing
five
onJu
ne 1
5th.
Thi
s is
how
her
Aun
t Gui
lia d
escr
ibes
Chr
istin
a:
"Chr
istin
a is
a b
right
, exp
ress
ive
and
inqu
isiti
ve c
hild
. She
enj
oys
life
and
is fu
n-lo
ving
and
free
-spi
rited
. Chr
istin
a ha
s liv
ed w
ith h
er m
ater
nal
gran
dpar
ents
sin
ce s
he w
as b
orn.
Alth
ough
her
birt
h pa
rent
s ar
e no
tin
volv
ed in
her
life
dire
ctly
, Chr
istin
a ha
s be
en s
urro
unde
d w
ith a
gre
atde
al o
f ext
ende
d fa
mily
.
As
she
appr
oach
es h
er fi
fth b
irthd
ay in
a c
oupl
e of
wee
ks, C
hris
tina
isan
xiou
sly
awai
ting
her
spec
ial d
ay. O
n th
at d
ay, C
hris
tina
will
cel
ebra
te w
ithcl
ose
fam
ily a
nd fr
iend
s in
a tr
aditi
onal
"Ita
lian
dinn
er"
at N
onno
and
Non
na's
(gra
ndpa
and
gra
ndm
a's)
hou
se.
Chr
istin
a ad
ores
her
non
na, a
nd id
oliz
es h
er n
onno
. She
is g
race
d by
thei
rpr
esen
ce o
n a
daily
bas
is, a
nd th
eir
love
for
her
is u
nmea
sure
able
.
Chr
istin
a's
pict
ure
depi
cts
a ty
pica
l Sun
day
afte
rnoo
n at
Non
no a
nd N
onna
'sho
usep
layi
ng o
utdo
ors
with
her
cou
sins
, and
exp
erie
ncin
g lif
e ve
ry in
noce
ntly
.C
hris
tina
is a
n in
spira
tion
to u
s al
l. S
he h
as b
roug
ht lo
ts o
f lov
e an
d la
ught
er to
her
fam
ily. A
new
-beg
inni
ng fo
r us
all,
esp
ecia
lly m
y m
om a
nd d
ad.
I wis
h he
r lu
ck."
Aun
t Gui
lia
1 1
Pref
ace_
Va.
0
As
my
intr
oduc
tion
to th
is b
ookl
et, I
wou
ld li
ke to
sha
re a
sto
ry a
bout
our
firs
t gro
up s
essi
on w
ithth
e gr
andc
hild
ren.
We
had
prep
ared
all
the
mat
eria
l (th
e m
oder
ator
's g
uide
, the
con
sent
form
s, th
e ta
pe r
ecor
ders
) an
d ob
tain
ed th
e
nece
ssar
y su
ppor
t fro
m th
e gr
andp
aren
ts to
mak
e th
ese
conv
ersa
tions
pos
sibl
e. B
ut a
s w
ithal
l gre
at a
nd s
mal
l pla
ns
the
unex
pect
ed o
ften
prov
ides
the
best
insi
ght.
And
in th
at fi
rst s
essi
on...
it be
gan
with
a to
ngue
. As
anyo
ne w
ho h
as s
pent
som
e tim
e ar
ound
chi
ldre
n w
ill te
ll yo
u, s
ticki
ng
thei
r to
ngue
s ou
t at a
dults
is a
gre
at p
astim
e fo
r m
any
youn
g ch
ildre
n.It
can
be a
n ac
t of d
efia
nce.
., on
e th
at c
hild
ren
som
etim
es g
et a
way
with
. Whe
n th
e lit
tle g
irl in
the
fron
t of t
he c
ircle
stu
ck h
er to
ngue
out
at M
ary;
Mar
y as
ked
her
wha
t tha
tw
as. S
he r
espo
nded
, "M
y to
ngue
." M
ary
then
ask
ed, a
nd "
How
man
y of
thos
e do
you
have
?" T
he li
ttle
girl
said
, "O
ne,"
whi
ch
seem
ed to
be
the
right
ans
wer
. Wha
t sur
pris
ed b
oth
of u
s, h
owev
er, w
as th
e re
actio
n of
ano
ther
littl
e gi
rl w
ho s
impl
y st
ated
that
this
was
not
the
right
ans
wer
. The
rig
ht a
nsw
er...
"was
thre
e."
And
with
out m
issi
ng a
bea
t thi
s lit
tle g
irl c
ount
ed h
er th
ree
tong
ues
by p
oint
ing
to th
e to
ngue
in h
er m
outh
and
the
tong
ues
in e
ach
of h
er s
neak
ers.
Bot
h lit
tle g
irls
wer
e rig
ht. N
eith
er w
ere
wro
ng. T
heir
appr
oach
to a
nd u
nder
stan
ding
of t
he q
uest
ion
was
bas
ed o
n w
hat t
hey
knew
to b
e tr
ue. T
hey
sim
ply
saw
thin
gs d
iffer
ently
.It
was
a g
reat
way
to s
tart
our
con
vers
atio
ns w
ith th
e ch
ildre
n.It
rem
inde
d
us, a
nd I
hope
it w
ill r
emin
d th
e re
ader
of t
his
book
let,
that
it is
not
wis
e to
ass
ume
we
know
all t
he a
nsw
ers,
or
that
our
rea
lity
is
the
only
val
id a
ppro
ach
to li
fe. W
e do
not
indi
vidu
ally
or
colle
ctiv
ely
hold
the
only
trut
h. T
here
is u
sual
ly m
ore
than
one
way
to
look
at a
nd u
nder
stan
d an
y si
tuat
ion,
incl
udin
g gr
andp
aren
t-he
aded
fam
ilies
.
And
this
boo
klet
ask
s th
at y
ou li
sten
to th
e ch
ildre
n an
d lo
ok a
t the
ir w
orld
as
they
see
it...
in th
eir
pict
ures
.
12
Ren
ee S
. Woo
dwor
th
Pro
ject
Coo
rdin
ator
AA
RP
Gra
ndpa
rent
Info
rmat
ion
Cen
ter
513
14
Win
gW
ithM
yG
irand
patie
nts.
..
"She
(G
rand
ma)
mak
es m
eha
ppy.
Whe
n I'm
sic
k sh
em
akes
me
happ
y."
(Ash
ley,
7)
"She
(G
rand
ma)
take
sca
re o
f us
and
prov
ides
food
for
us."
(Dom
iniq
ue, 9
)
"The
y gi
ve m
e ca
ndy.
"(F
abia
nna,
6)
"She
rea
ds m
e a
stor
yw
hen
I go
to b
ed.
She
kis
ses
us g
ood
nigh
t,th
en th
e lig
hts
go o
ut."
(Ash
ely,
7)
"Bec
ause
I w
ante
dto
(liv
e w
ith h
er).
"(L
a T
om 1
2)
"I g
et to
sta
y ou
t lat
er."
(Sha
reen
a, 1
3)
"She
is n
ice
to m
e.S
he c
ooks
me
nood
les,
they
are
my
favo
rite.
"(B
ritte
ny, 7
)
6
"She
feed
s m
e oo
dles
and
oodl
es, a
nd s
he c
ooks
me
chic
ken
pie.
"
(Che
rrel
l, 5)
"I li
ke m
y gr
andm
a be
caus
e sh
e
buys
me
lots
of n
ice
thin
gs a
ndit'
s fu
n to
live
with
her
whe
n's
real
ly n
ice
to m
e. I'
veliv
ed w
ith h
er fo
r a
long
tim
e,fo
ur o
r fiv
e ye
ars.
Joh
nny
lives
with
us.
I'm
the
olde
st.
My
sist
er is
thre
e. M
y gr
andp
aliv
es w
ith u
s, to
o."
(Cor
ey, 8
)
"I li
ke it
bec
ause
it's
lots
of fu
n."
(Joh
nny,
5)
"I h
ave
thre
e si
ster
s th
at a
ll liv
ew
ith m
e an
d gr
andm
a.I h
ave
a bi
ke. (
Whe
n as
ked
whe
re th
ebi
ke c
ame
from
, Mar
issa
answ
ered
, "T
he g
arag
e.")
Iki
ss
gran
dma.
I pla
y ga
mes
with
gran
dma
espe
cial
ly, M
icke
y
Mou
se g
ames
."
(Mar
issa
, 3)
15
"I lo
ve li
ving
with
Gra
mm
a an
d G
rapa
. Hov
e th
em.
I lik
e th
em a
lot.
I lik
e liv
ing
with
Gam
ma
and
Gra
pa.
I will
allw
ays
love
them
.I w
ill ta
ke c
ar o
f the
m.
Why
I ca
me
and
livd
with
Gra
mm
a an
d G
rapp
a.I c
ame
and
livd
with
Gra
mm
a an
d G
rapa
beco
us m
y m
om a
nd d
ad b
rok
up a
nd lo
s th
a m
one
but t
aey
stil
love
cho
thr.
I stil
love
mom
and
dad.
Hov
e th
em a
nd G
ram
ma
and
Gra
pa. t
he e
nd"
Art
ist:
Nat
asha
, 6 y
ears
old
.
"I li
ve w
ith g
rand
ma
and
gran
dpa
was
in ja
il an
d I d
on't
wan
t him
to g
o to
jail
and
it m
ade
me
sad.
And
gra
ndpa
got o
ut a
nd w
ent b
ack
in a
nd w
ill g
et o
ut in
a c
oupl
e of
day
s.I c
an ta
ke s
how
ers
by m
ysel
f, an
d I g
o to
sch
ool."
(Li
nze,
5)
'!.. t
hat I
hav
e be
en m
ade
to fe
el s
peci
al a
ll m
y lif
e."
(Den
ise,
15)
"The
y ta
ke m
e ro
ller
skat
ing
and
out f
or d
inne
r, to
the
mal
l and
the
mov
ies.
" (A
ndre
a, 6
)
"The
y're
nic
e to
me
and
they
don
't do
ver
y m
uch
span
king
and
they
're n
ot m
ean
and
they
don
't do
bad
thin
gs. M
y M
om a
nd D
ad d
id lo
ts o
f mea
n th
ings
." (
Kat
ie, 8
)
"Bec
ause
Ilik
e it,
it's
fun.
" (B
ryan
,.3)
"She
doe
sn't
span
k an
d sh
e's
nice
. Gra
ndpa
doe
s ni
ce th
ings
for
me.
" (A
shle
y, 6
)
"Bec
ause
they
're n
ice
to m
e an
d th
ey lo
ve m
e."
(Nat
han,
7)
16
"We'
re a
reg
ular
fam
ily ju
st li
ke e
very
body
els
e."
(Sha
rron
, 15)
"I li
ke li
ving
with
my
gran
dma
beca
use
we
go p
lace
s lik
e G
reat
Am
eric
a. M
y pi
ctur
e (T
inis
ah s
ubm
itted
adr
awin
g an
d it
was
not
incl
uded
in th
e bo
okle
t but
we
are
able
to in
clud
e he
r th
ough
ts a
bout
livi
ng w
ithgr
andm
a) is
abo
ut m
e an
d m
y gr
andm
a pi
ckin
g ap
ples
off
Mrs
. Gila
rd's
app
le tr
ee. B
ut I
love
my
gran
dmot
her
even
thou
gh I
do g
et m
ad a
t her
. She
's a
lway
s lo
okin
g ou
t for
me
and
I loo
k ou
t for
her
som
etim
es. B
ut s
omet
imes
I'm
at s
choo
l get
ting
my
educ
atio
n.S
he's
the
grea
test
pac
k th
ey c
ome
in s
o I l
ove
her
a lo
t."(T
inis
ha, 9
)
7
17
8
18A
rtis
t: Je
nnife
r, 4
year
s ol
d19
Mim
sT
hat
Hap
pyin
tile
Mor
ning
___
"Sun
light
." (
Lane
isha
, 11)
"I'm
hap
py in
the
mor
ning
bec
ause
my
clot
hes
are
set o
ut fo
r m
e."
(Ash
ley,
6)
"I li
ke g
oing
to s
choo
l.I g
et m
y ow
n cl
othe
s ou
t and
on
in th
e m
orni
ng,
I'm g
oing
to b
e an
art
ist w
hen
I gro
w u
p."
(Dom
iniq
ue, 9
)
"I li
ke th
e su
n."
(Che
rrel
l,
"I'm
gla
d th
at I'
m a
wak
e."
(Jes
sica
, 7)
"I g
etup
and
get
dre
ssed
and
cat
ch th
e bu
s at
7:0
5.I g
et u
p at
6 o
'clo
ck.
I'm g
lad
whe
n I g
et u
p an
d m
ake
my
bed
and
do e
very
thin
g th
at I'
m s
uppo
sed
to d
o.Ilik
e m
orni
ng b
ette
r th
an m
idni
ght."
(K
atie
, 8)
"The
rea
son
Ilik
e to
get
up
in th
e m
orni
ng is
my
dad
(gra
ndpa
) m
akes
me
waf
fles
with
syr
up."
(K
yle,
8)
"I a
m b
less
ed w
ith a
nic
e ho
me,
car
ing
gran
dpar
ents
and
peop
le w
ho lo
ve m
e."
(Den
ise,
15)
"Pla
ying
out
side
." (
Mas
on, 4
)
"Tha
t it's
a s
unny
day
." (
Ste
ven,
10)
"The
sun
shi
ning
and
the
mus
ic fr
om th
e bi
rds.
"
(Nat
han,
7)
2021
9
10
The
Pe°P
le T
hat i
i3ve
"My
mom
and
dad
(gr
andm
a an
d gr
andp
a)."
(K
yle,
8)
"My
gran
dma
and
gran
dpa
love
me
very
muc
h an
d I l
ove
them
, too
." (
Kat
ie, 8
)
"And
rew
doe
sn't
love
me.
Ife
ll of
f the
doc
k an
d he
wat
ched
me
drow
ning
and
just
laug
hed.
I don
't lo
ve A
ndre
w. M
y si
ster
wen
t and
got
my
mom
to h
elp
me.
And
rew
is te
n ye
ars
old
and
is m
y co
usin
." (
Kyl
e, 8
)
"My
gran
dma
and
pop-
pop
love
me,
and
my
dadd
y."
(Bah
iyya
h,
"My
gran
dma
and
gran
dpa
and
my
brot
her
love
me
but h
e liv
es in
a d
iffer
ent p
lace
and
I m
iss
him
." (
Jam
ie, 5
)
"My
mom
and
dad
; my
dad
lives
far
away
and
I m
iss
him
." (
Erin
, 5)
"My
mom
and
dad
and
my
gran
dpa
and
gran
dma.
" (A
shle
y, 6
)
"My
mom
love
s m
e."
(Alle
n, 4
)
"My
gran
dma,
my
mom
, my
gran
dpa
and
all t
he p
eopl
e re
late
d to
me.
" (J
osep
h, 7
)
"My
fam
ily lo
ves
me.
" (J
essi
ca, 7
)
"My
cous
ins
and
my
gran
dpa
and
my
dad
and
my
mom
and
my
sist
er lo
ve m
e."
(Sun
nybr
ooke
, 9)
"My
gran
dpar
ents
and
clo
se fa
mily
and
frie
nds.
" (D
enis
e, 1
5)
"Rya
n; h
e's
my
frie
nd. H
e's
a bo
y. O
ther
peo
ple
love
me,
too.
" (M
ason
, 4)
"My
teac
her
and
my
brot
her
love
s m
e."
(Fab
iann
a, 6
)
"My
gran
dma
love
s m
e."
(Lan
eish
a, 1
1)
23
2 4
11B
ES
T C
OP
Y A
VA
ILA
BLE
Art
ist:
Dom
iniq
ue,
9 ye
ars
old
(and
one
of g
rand
child
ren
inte
rvie
wed
for
this
boo
klet
)
25
"Tru
st is
whe
n yo
ur m
om o
r da
d
tell
you
to d
o so
met
hing
and
they
know
you
'll d
o it.
I don
't tr
ust
stra
nger
s or
a b
oy n
amed
Cam
eo.
And
I do
n't t
rust
mys
elf."
(Dom
iniq
ue, 9
)
[Not
e: W
hen
aske
d w
hy h
e do
esn'
ttr
ust h
imse
lf, h
e an
swer
ed,
"Bec
ause
I do
n't k
eep
my
wor
d."
Whe
n as
ked
if he
lies
, he
said
, "N
o, I
just
don
't ke
ep m
yw
ord.
1
"I tr
ust g
rand
ma
and
she
says
she'
ll gi
ve m
e th
ings
and
she
does
. She
giv
es m
e hu
gs a
nd I
give
her
hug
s w
hen
she
give
s
me
thin
gs a
nd k
eeps
her
prom
ises
.I t
rust
my
cous
inan
d m
y gr
andp
as b
ecau
se th
ey
let b
orro
w G
oose
bum
ps b
ooks
.
Ilik
e th
em b
ecau
se th
ey're
kind
a sc
ary.
I don
't tr
ust b
adki
ds.
I use
d to
trus
t my
mom
and
my
dad
but m
y m
om s
aid
she'
d ge
t me
a 'T
alkb
oys,
but
she
hasn
't go
tten
it fo
r m
e ye
t,bu
t she
sai
d sh
e w
ould
."
(Joh
nny,
5)
12
"The
eye
rep
rese
nts
me
look
ing
at L
ongs
now
.T
he h
eart
mea
ns 1
love
y gr
andm
a an
d gr
and-
pa. A
nd n
othi
ng is
goi
ngI
happ
enca
ns th
atno
thi
n ha
ppen
that
is b
ad c
ause
wer
e no
tin
that
situ
atio
n an
ymor
e.e
visi
t Day
is w
hen
y M
OM
and
DA
D c
ome
on d
iffe
rent
Day
s. A
ndth
e ph
one
is f
or w
hen
I ta
lk to
MO
M a
nd D
AD
.A
nde
bed
is b
ecau
se I
hav
e so
ew
here
saf
e to
stay
. And
the
tear
rep
rese
nts
how
thin
gs w
ere
befo
re.
e he
art
,ean
s I
still
love
my
hom
e.e
smok
e an
d th
e th
ings
in it
mea
nba
d th
ings
that
hap
pene
d."
"I tr
ust m
y gr
andm
a be
caus
e sh
e do
es th
ings
for
me
and
she'
s m
y be
st fr
iend
.I t
rust
my
sist
ers,
too.
" (S
teve
n, 1
0)
Art
ist:
Bec
ky, 1
3 ye
ars
old
27
"I tr
ust m
y pa
pa a
nd m
y gr
andm
abu
t not
my
mom
my
and
not m
y ki
tty e
ither
. Her
beg
s fo
r fo
od.
I hav
e a
dog,
too.
" (M
ason
, 4)
"I d
on't
trus
t nob
ody
but m
ysel
f." (
Tyr
ea, 1
7)
"I d
on't
trus
t nob
ody
but m
y bo
yfrie
nd."
(S
harr
on, 1
5)
"I tr
ust m
y fa
mily
." (
Yol
anda
, 10)
"I tr
ust m
y gr
andm
a, m
y fr
iend
s, m
y re
lativ
es, m
y si
ster
s, m
y be
st fr
iend
s, a
nd M
alco
m X
and
Mar
tin L
uthe
r K
ing
beca
use
they
are
my
hero
es."
(D
omin
ique
, 9)
"I tr
ust p
eopl
e, b
ut n
ot s
tran
gers
or
anyb
ody
I don
't kn
ow."
(Y
olan
da, 1
0)
"I tr
ust m
y U
ncle
Ed.
" [D
omin
ique
tells
Ash
ley
she
shou
ldn'
t tru
st U
ncle
Edl
" (A
shle
y, 7
)
"I tr
ust m
y gr
andp
aren
ts b
ecau
se th
ey lo
ve m
e an
d ca
re fo
r m
e. T
hey
wou
ld n
ever
hur
t me.
" (D
enis
e, 1
5)
"God
." (
Sun
nybr
ooke
,
"Whe
n yo
u tr
ust s
omeb
ody
and
tell
som
ebod
y to
hol
d so
met
hing
, tha
t the
y'll
give
it b
ack
toyo
u w
hen
you
wan
t it."
(Yol
anda
, 10)
"I th
ink
trus
t is
whe
n pe
ople
say
they
're g
oing
to d
o so
met
hing
and
they
do
it rig
ht a
way
And
they
don
't lie
to y
ou. T
hey
tell
you
the
trut
h an
d ar
e ho
nest
.I d
on't
trus
t my
'real
' mom
and
dad
and
the
peop
le o
n th
e bu
s, b
ecau
se th
ey te
ll st
orie
s."
(Kat
ie, 8
)
"The
re a
re k
ids
on th
e bu
s th
at I
don'
t tru
st e
ither
.I d
on't
trus
t my
sist
er e
ither
.S
he's
mea
n. A
nd I
don'
t tru
st d
ogs
I don
't kn
ow."
(K
yle,
8)
"I d
on't
trus
t str
ange
rs."
(Je
ssic
a, 7
)
28
"I d
on't
trus
t str
ange
rs e
ither
. And
I do
n't w
ant s
tran
gers
in m
y ho
use.
" (A
ndre
a, 6
)
13
29
3 0
1
'feel
ing
Sad
and
Fed
i-re
CA
CI,
V:a
"Yea
h. [I
feel
sad
.] W
hen
I sta
rt th
inki
ngab
out m
y m
om. S
he d
ied
on M
arch
12,
1995
in a
car
acc
iden
t.I c
an h
ear
my
mom
's v
oice
in th
e w
ind
chim
e.I a
sked
her
if sh
e go
t my
note
that
I w
rote
her
with
my
coun
selo
r, th
en w
e bu
rned
it,
and
she
answ
ered
me
in th
e w
ind
chim
e
in o
ur y
ard.
I ask
ed h
er if
she
like
d liv
ing
in h
eave
n an
d sh
e sa
id, y
es."
(Ste
ven,
10)
"I ta
lk to
my
gran
dma
and
then
I fe
el31
bette
r."
(Jam
es, 5
)
"WH
EN
I A
M S
AD
!!
The
rea
son
I don
't lik
e liv
ing
here
is b
ecau
se I
don'
t get
to s
ee m
y m
omm
y
at a
ll, a
nd I
have
n't s
een
her
sinc
e I w
as 3
.I a
m n
ow q
.I r
eally
mis
s he
r
alot
and
I am
sad
abo
ut it
."
"WH
EN
I A
ll H
AP
PY
!
I lik
e liv
ing
here
bec
ause
I ha
ve a
roo
f ove
r m
y he
ad, a
nd c
loth
ing,
my
own
bedr
oom
, lov
ing,
and
car
ing,
and
lots
mor
e!I a
lso
have
a n
ice
nann
a. W
e
have
alo
t of t
hing
s to
do
thro
ugh
the
sum
mer
, lik
e go
to c
amps
, go
swim
-
min
g, a
nd g
o to
trip
s, a
nd o
ther
thin
gs. M
omm
y sa
id if
I liv
ed w
ith h
er, I
prob
ably
wou
ldn'
t hav
e th
ese
thin
gs to
do
in th
e su
mm
er"
Art
ist:
Tar
essa
, 9 y
ears
old
.
"I ta
lk to
Jes
us a
nd th
at h
elps
a lo
t."
(Ash
ley,
6)
"I p
ray
at n
ight
and
tell
God
how
I fee
l whe
n I'm
sad
." (
Kyl
e, 8
)
"I h
ave
a co
unse
lor
and
som
ethi
ngs
she
mak
es m
e fe
el b
ette
r.I d
on't
like
itw
hen
mom
and
dad
[gra
ndm
a an
dgr
andp
a] s
tart
yel
ling
at e
ach
othe
r.It
hurt
s m
y ea
rs.
(Tiff
any,
7)
"Yel
ling
hurt
s m
y he
ars
real
ly b
ad."
(And
rea,
6)
"Whe
n m
y gr
andp
a di
ed tw
o ye
ars
ago.
" (D
omin
ique
, 9)
3233
15
c)\
"My
uncl
e sa
id h
e w
ould
brin
g m
e m
y do
g.I w
ish
he'd
hur
ry."
(E
rin, 5
)
"I ju
st w
ish
for
mor
e fo
od fo
r m
y ki
tty c
at s
o he
won
't ge
t hun
gry.
Spu
nky
eats
dry
food
and
then
he
thro
ws
it up
whe
n he
goe
s up
stai
rs. A
nd I
wis
h fo
r a
lase
r lig
ht.
It's
a m
agic
light
and
it w
ould
be
fun.
I wou
ld s
hine
it o
utsi
de."
(Ja
mes
, 5)
"I w
ish
for
a lit
tle r
oost
er."
(Kat
ie, 8
)
"Um
mm
mm
...co
lorin
g cr
ayon
s."
(Bry
an, 3
)
"I w
ish
I was
big
and
gro
wn
up. G
row
n up
is w
hen
you'
re 3
5. O
ne o
f my
gran
dpar
ents
is 3
5 an
dth
e ot
her
is 2
0. G
rand
ma'
s th
e on
e th
at's
20.
" (A
shle
y, 6
)
"I w
ish
for
M's
can
dy a
nd fo
r a
cray
on."
(M
aris
sa,
"To
see
my
mom
my
agai
n."
(Ste
ven,
10)
"I'm
not
telli
ng! C
uz th
en th
ey w
on't
com
e tr
ue!"
(A
ndre
a, 6
)
"I d
on't
have
any
wis
hes.
" (J
essi
ca, 7
)
36
"She
has
wis
hes,
but
she
won
't te
ll an
yone
, cuz
they
wou
ldn'
t com
e tr
ue."
(And
rea,
6)
"Wha
t I w
ish
for
is to
alw
ays
stay
you
ng.
I don
't ev
er w
ant t
o ge
t old
er.
I don
't ev
er w
ant
to g
et o
lder
than
I am
now
. I'd
rat
her
go b
ackw
ards
.G
row
n-U
ps d
on't
have
fun.
I don
't kn
ow w
hat t
hey'
d do
for
fun,
but
they
don
't ha
ve fu
n.I d
on't
wan
t to
grow
up.
"
(Kyl
e, 8
)
17
37
Big
18
and
How
Old
Is
"1,3
80."
(S
unny
broo
ke,
"Inf
inity
." (
Jose
ph, 7
)
"Inf
inity
and
one
." (
Jess
ica,
7)
1,00
0 ch
ildre
n in
my
scho
ol a
re li
ving
with
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts."
(M
ary
who
sai
d th
is I
thin
k it
was
inM
N)
Thi
s co
nver
satio
n th
en m
oved
into
get
ting
old
....
Ove
rall
the
child
ren
did
not t
hink
of t
heir
gran
dpar
ents
as
old,
not a
ny o
lder
than
oth
er g
row
-ups
.
"One
Hun
dred
yea
rs o
ld is
'old
."(S
teve
n, 1
0)
"My
gran
dma
is 2
7."
(Sun
nybr
ooke
, 9)
"No,
she
isn'
t; sh
e is
56.
" (J
osep
h, 7
)
"My
gran
dma
is 3
and
a h
alf."
(M
aris
sa,
3839
4 0
Art
ist:
Chr
isty
10 y
ears
old
.
19B
EST
CO
PYA
VM
AB
LE
4 1
Wha
t6r
andr
nas
arvi
6ran
dpas
Do
Bes
t.--
Art
ist:
Sar
ah,
11 y
ears
old
.
20
4 3
"Tak
ing
care
of m
e."
(Lin
ze, 5
)
"Sew
ing;
she
mak
es c
uddl
y be
ars.
" (M
aris
sa, 3
)
"My
gran
dma
take
s a
lot o
f nap
s."
(Jes
sica
, 7)
"Tea
ch k
ids
wha
t the
y ne
ed to
be
taug
ht."
(K
yle,
8)
"Tak
e ca
re o
f me.
" (E
rin, 5
)
"Gra
ndm
a's
best
at s
acrif
icin
g fo
r m
y be
st in
tere
sts.
" (D
enis
e, 1
5)
"The
y cu
ddle
chi
ldre
n, a
nd d
on't
drin
k so
the
kids
don
't ha
ve a
rou
gh ti
me,
and
take
car
e of
them
and
hol
d th
em ti
ght."
(Kat
ie, 8
)
"Gra
ndpa
's b
est a
t bei
ng a
ble
to s
tand
up
for
me
whe
n I c
an't
do it
."(D
enis
e, 1
5)
"Mom
's [g
rand
ma]
bes
t at t
akin
g ca
re o
f me
cuz
she'
s a
nurs
e, to
o.
My
dad'
s [g
rand
pa] b
est a
t fix
ing
thin
gs th
at I
brea
k."
(Nat
han,
7)
"My
gran
dpa'
s be
st a
t wat
chin
g T
V.
He
like
spor
ts, m
ostly
foot
ball.
" (J
osep
h, 7
)
44S
4521
4 n
22
GrO
WT
Hip
s
"Pay
atte
ntio
n to
the
kids
." (
Sun
nybr
ooke
, 9)
(and
Adu
lts)
"Don
't dr
ink.
" (T
iffan
y, 7
)
"Tak
e ki
ds o
ut to
eat
." (
And
rea,
6)
"The
y sh
ould
n't g
et d
runk
." (
Kyl
e, 8
)
"Sto
p sm
okin
g be
caus
e I a
m a
llerg
ic to
it."
(Ash
ley,
6)
"I to
ld th
em to
sto
p be
atin
g m
e an
d th
ey d
id."
(Ja
mes
,-5)
"To
stop
drin
king
and
to s
top
bein
g so
mea
n to
chi
ldre
n."
(Kat
ie, 8
)
"Whe
n pe
ople
hav
e gu
ns a
nd s
tuff
and
they
sho
ot p
eopl
e an
d th
ey d
on't
have
a r
easo
n to
sho
ot th
em I
thin
k th
ey s
houl
dst
op th
e vi
olen
ce a
nd p
ut th
e gu
ns d
own.
" (D
omin
ique
, 9)
"I w
ould
tell
Gro
wn-
Ups
to s
top
doin
g dr
ugs
and
care
abo
ut th
eir
child
ren.
" (N
yjee
ah, 8
)
"Sta
rt c
arin
g ab
out k
ids
and
stop
car
ing
abou
t jus
t you
rsel
ves.
" (T
yesh
a, 1
1)
"Not
to fi
ght."
(C
orey
, 8)
"Don
't ye
ll at
chi
ldre
n.It
hurt
s m
y ea
rs."
(Jes
sica
, 7)
"Sto
p fig
htin
g."
(Joh
nny,
5)
"The
y sh
ould
cud
dle
thei
r ch
ildre
n, a
nd d
on't
drin
k so
the
kids
don
't ha
ve a
rou
gh ti
me,
and
take
car
e of
them
and
hol
d th
em ti
ght."
(Kat
ie, 8
)4
7
4823
Art
ist:
Ste
phan
ie,
8 ye
ars
old. 49
24
lido*
Oile
rChi
ldre
n
Who
Are
'bei
ngljv
ew
sth
The
ir 6
rand
pare
nts
"I w
ould
tell
them
wha
tyo
ur p
aren
ts d
o is
not
your
faul
t. Y
ou d
on't
have
to fe
el g
uilty
or
that
you
ow
e th
eman
ythi
ng. C
hild
ren
have
right
s. T
hey
shou
ldbe
abl
e to
cal
l som
eone
and
be h
eard
if th
eyar
e un
happ
y an
dm
iser
able
."
(Den
ise,
15)
ptor
O!''
''''''
A-o
e"7-
S:;..
::-'''4
2::.4
,SJ-
',.-7
.t-i..
-*,-
'----
--;-
-,..-
-,-.
---
'''''--
=""
---"
-..._
,,;.,,
,,,.
'.....
'---
-4'.'
.;-'.`
"'--
,---
'" "
.' -"
`".
."*.
v,,,,
i/IN,..
,,..,
,...*
.m.e
.,,,,.
..4...
.....,
N,,,
,_
i Art
ist:
Tan
eish
a, 5
yea
rs o
ld.
"Don
't ex
pect
to g
et a
s m
uch
livin
g [w
ith y
our
gran
dpar
ents
or
guar
dian
s]; b
ecau
se th
ey c
an't
buy
you
the
sam
e th
ings
par
ents
can
."(F
atim
a, 1
7)
"Go
easy
on
gran
dma;
she
mig
ht g
et a
str
oke.
" (B
ahiy
yah,
"I w
ould
tell
them
to b
e su
re to
wat
ch w
here
they
rid
e th
eir
bike
s.I w
ould
tell
them
to b
esu
re to
talk
to th
e gr
andm
a an
d gr
andp
a, a
nd te
ll th
em w
hat's
goi
ng o
n."
(Kat
ie, 8
)
"To
mak
e su
re th
at th
ey r
eally
like
livi
ng w
ith th
eir
gran
dmas
and
gra
ndpa
s."
(Kyl
e, 8
)
"I w
ould
tell
them
if th
ey d
on't
like
livin
g w
ith g
rand
ma,
go
back
and
live
with
thei
r pa
rent
s."
(Ash
ley,
6)
"I w
ould
tell
them
I'm
sad
, too
, bec
ause
my
mom
my
died
." (
Ste
ven,
10)
"I w
ould
wan
t the
m to
kno
w h
ow im
port
ant i
t is
to k
eep
safe
.I f
eel s
afe
now
. I'v
e liv
ed w
ith g
rand
ma
for
a bi
g tim
e."
(Ash
ley,
6)
"Tre
at th
em r
ight
. Don
't ac
t bad
. Lis
ten
to th
em a
nd b
e ha
ppy
that
they
love
you
and
take
car
e of
you
." (
Dom
iniq
ue, 9
)
"Tre
at th
em th
e w
ay y
ou w
ant t
o be
trea
ted.
" (L
anei
sha,
11)
"I th
ink
your
gra
ndm
as a
re n
ice
pers
ons
and
you
shou
ld b
e ni
ce to
them
." (
Ash
ley,
7)
"Try
not
to c
ry.
It's
real
ly n
ice
to li
ve w
ith g
rand
pa a
nd g
rand
ma.
" (J
essi
ca, 7
)
"It's
oka
y be
caus
e yo
u m
ight
be
in tr
oubl
e an
d th
ey c
an h
elp
you.
" (S
unny
broo
ke, 9
)
"You
'll g
et to
wat
ch c
arto
ons.
" (M
aria
, 4)
5253
25
26
Bei
rkg
Spec
ial_
_
46'
7
ftL.
,
frx
3ES
1C
OP
YA
VA
ILA
BLE
5 4
"I li
ke to
pan
t (pl
ant)
flow
ers
and
wat
ch th
em
grow
. My
gran
d a
alw
ays
says
If
you
Lov
ean
d C
are
for
your
pal
ant
(pla
nt)
it w
ill g
row
like
e.I
like
bein
g Sa
fe
and
Lov
ed."
Art
ist:
Dal
ana,
7 ye
ars
old.
"Bec
ause
I'm
diff
eren
t tha
n ev
eryb
ody
else
." (
Sun
nybr
ooke
, 9)
"My
nam
e is
Jes
sica
and
wha
t mak
es m
e sp
ecia
l is
noon
e ha
s m
y ey
es, a
nd n
o on
e el
se h
as m
y na
me.
" (J
essi
ca, 7
)
"Bec
ause
I ha
ve a
nam
e fr
om th
e B
ible
." (
Jose
ph, 7
)
"Bec
ause
Ilik
e pi
zza
with
pep
pero
ni."
(M
aria
, 4)
"Tha
t I'v
e go
t som
eone
to ta
ke c
are
of m
e. G
od g
ave
me
a gr
andm
a to
love
." (
Ash
ley,
7)
"The
thin
g th
at's
spe
cial
abo
ut m
e is
that
whe
n I'm
15
or 1
6 I'm
goi
ng to
get
mys
elf
a G
rand
Am
and
sel
l som
e pi
ctur
es
so w
e ca
n bu
y m
y gr
andm
a a
new
hou
se."
(D
omin
ique
, 9)
"I th
ink
God
is a
lway
s in
my
hear
t. H
e ta
kes
care
of m
ean
d m
ade
me
spec
ial."
(F
abia
nna,
"Tha
t my
mom
my
love
s m
e."
(Ste
ven,
10)
"I ju
mpe
d ou
t of a
win
dow
rig
ht in
to m
y ho
op,
but I
did
n't g
et h
urt."
(M
ason
, 4)
BE
ST
CO
PY
AV
AIL
AB
LE
275
657
Liv
ing
Oth
erPl
aces
...
Art
ist:
Kar
en,
9 ye
ars
old.
5 8
28
otliv
ing
with
You
rO
rand
pare
nts_
__B
ES
T C
OP
YA
VM
LAB
LE
5 9
"Now
here
!I w
ould
n't g
o no
whe
re b
ut s
tay
with
them
.I w
ould
n't g
et o
ut o
f the
ir ho
use
beca
use
I lov
e th
emso
muc
h.B
ecau
se I
don'
t wan
t to
grow
up!
" (K
yle,
8)
"I'd
live
far
and
far
in th
e co
untr
y rig
ht n
ext t
o he
r in
my
hous
e. I'
d bu
ild a
hou
se r
ight
nex
t to
them
." (
Kat
ie, 8
)
"Pro
babl
y in
a fo
ster
hom
e."
(Sun
nybr
ooke
,
"I'v
e. li
ved
in fo
ster
car
e. T
hey
put m
e in
hot
wat
er a
nd h
urt m
e.
I wou
ld li
ve w
ith m
y au
nt."
(C
herr
ell,
60
"Pro
babl
y in
the
tree
t." (
Ste
ven,
10)
Man
y of
the
child
ren
answ
ered
, "I d
on't
know
"
2961
Spe
cial
for
6ran
drna
or6r
andp
a___
"I lo
ve y
ou a
nd I'
ll ta
ke c
are
of y
ouan
d I'l
l alw
ays
be th
ere
for
you
whe
n yo
uha
ve n
eeds
and
I w
on't
let n
obod
y hu
rtyo
u; th
at s
he's
[gra
ndm
a] v
ery
spec
ial t
om
e an
d w
hen
she
dies
, she
'll a
lway
s be
in m
y he
art."
(D
omin
ique
, 9)
"Tha
t I lo
ve h
er a
nd w
hen
she
dies
, she
'll a
lway
s be
in m
y
hear
t." (
Yol
anda
, 10)
"I w
ant t
o th
ank
her
for
the
stuf
f she
gave
me
(like
the
Poc
ahon
tas
unde
r-w
ear)
whe
n sh
e di
es, s
he'll
alw
ays
be in
my
life.
" (F
abia
nna,
6)
62A
rtis
t: Je
ssic
a, 1
0 ye
ars
old
63
I wan
t to
grow
up
and
be th
e be
st I
can
be."
(D
enis
e, 1
5)
"I w
ould
like
to g
ive
my
aunt
a p
arty
for
givi
ng m
eal
l the
thin
gs I
need
."(T
yesh
a, 1
7)
"I w
ould
like
to s
top
givi
ng m
y gr
andm
aa
hard
tim
e."
(Nyj
eeah
, 11)
All
the
child
ren
wan
ted
thei
r ca
regi
vers
to k
now
how
muc
h th
ey lo
ved
them
.
Art
ist:
Dyl
an, 7
yea
rs o
ld.
(Spe
cial
not
e fr
om th
e gr
andm
othe
r:
"The
chi
ldre
n in
my
gran
dson
's c
lass
wer
e to
ld a
Ukr
aini
an fo
lk ta
le e
ntitl
ed "
My
Mot
her
is th
e.M
ost B
eaut
iful W
oman
in th
e W
orld
." M
y gr
ands
on c
hang
edth
e tit
le o
f his
illu
stra
tion
of th
e st
ory
to"M
y G
rand
mot
her"
It br
ough
t tea
rs to
my
eyes
and
isin
deed
, som
ethi
ng I
shal
l tre
asur
e fo
reve
r"
6 4
VN
1
'Cbe
su-\
.\0\A
uman
316
5
Abo
ut th
e Gra
ndch
ildre
n_
Tni
e
child
ren
who
con
trib
uted
to th
isbo
okle
t liv
e w
ith th
eir
gran
dpar
ents
for
reas
ons
such
as
pare
nts'
dru
g or
alco
hol a
buse
, une
mpl
oym
ent,
egle
ct, i
ncar
cera
tion
or e
duca
tiona
lop
port
uniti
es.
Che
lsea
, age
2 y
ears
, has
live
d w
ith h
ergr
andp
aren
ts fo
r le
ss th
an o
ne y
ear
and
they
have
lega
l cus
tody
of h
er.
Por
sha
and
Bra
nden
, age
3 a
nd 2
yea
rsre
spec
tivel
y, h
ave
lived
with
thei
r gr
andp
ar-
ents
for
less
than
two
year
s.T
he g
rand
pare
nts
have
an
info
rmal
arr
ange
men
t (no
lega
lar
rang
emen
t).
Chr
isto
pher
, age
4, a
nd h
is b
roth
er, L
ogan
who
is 2
, liv
e w
ith th
eir
gran
dmot
her,
who
has
lega
l cus
tody
. The
y ha
ve b
een
with
her
for
over
two
year
s.
Jess
ica
and
And
ra, a
ges
7 an
d 6,
hav
e be
enw
ith th
eir
gran
dpar
ents
, who
hav
e le
gal
guar
dian
ship
of t
hem
, for
ove
r fiv
e ye
ars.
Jess
ica
part
icip
ated
from
a d
ista
nce
at fi
rst,
whi
le A
ndre
a w
as in
the
fron
t row
. And
rea
look
ed fo
r Je
ssic
a's
supp
ort a
nd g
uida
nce
thro
ugho
ut th
e vi
sit,
and
late
r Je
ssic
a jo
ined
us
in th
e fr
ont a
s w
ell.
66
32
Tiff
any,
age
7, p
artic
ipat
ed e
ager
ly. S
he h
asliv
ed w
ith h
er g
rand
pare
nts,
who
hav
e te
mpo
-ra
ry c
usto
dy, f
or m
ore
than
two
year
s.
Sun
nybr
ooke
, Jos
eph
and
Mar
ia, a
ges
9, 7
,an
d 4
year
s re
spec
tivel
y, h
ave
lived
with
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts fo
r le
ss th
an o
ne y
ear.
Sun
nybr
ooke
and
Jos
eph
are
espe
cial
ly h
appy
to b
e at
tend
ing
scho
ol a
nd m
akin
g fr
iend
s.
John
ny a
nd C
orey
, 5 a
nd 8
yea
rs r
espe
c-tiv
ely,
hav
e liv
ed w
ith th
eir
gran
dpar
ents
for
less
than
one
yea
r. T
hey
have
lega
l gua
rdia
n-sh
ip o
f the
boy
s.
Ste
ven,
age
10,
has
live
d w
ith h
is g
rand
par-
ents
for
abou
t 18
mon
ths.
He
has
thre
e si
ster
sw
ho a
lso
live
with
thei
r gr
andp
aren
ts a
nd th
ear
rang
emen
t is
info
rmal
, yet
per
man
ent.
Mas
on, a
ge 4
, has
live
d w
ith h
is y
oung
erbr
othe
r an
d gr
andm
othe
r on
and
off
for
the
last
few
yea
rs. T
he a
rran
gem
ent i
s in
form
al.
Linz
e, a
ge, 5
, liv
es w
ith h
er g
rand
mot
her
and
two
sibl
ings
. Gra
ndm
a ha
s le
gal g
uard
ians
hip
of th
e ch
ildre
n.
Mar
issa
, age
3 1
/2, l
ives
with
her
gra
ndpa
r-en
ts, w
ho h
ave
lega
l gua
rdia
nshi
p.
Lane
isha
, age
11,
live
s w
ith h
er g
rand
mot
her,
who
has
lega
l gua
rdia
nshi
p. L
anei
sha
clai
ms
her
best
sub
ject
in s
choo
l is
mat
h. H
er c
ousi
n,Y
olan
da, a
ge 1
0, a
lso
lives
with
them
.
Dom
iniq
ue, A
shle
y, a
nd F
abia
nna,
age
s 9,
7 an
d 6
year
s re
spec
tivel
y, a
ll liv
e w
ith th
eir
grea
t-gr
andm
othe
r w
ho h
as le
gal g
uard
ians
hip
of th
em. D
omin
ique
see
s hi
mse
lf as
the
pers
onre
spon
sibl
e fo
r hi
s si
ster
s, a
nd n
ow a
lso
his
grea
t-gr
andm
othe
r fo
llow
ing
the
deat
h of
his
grea
t-gr
andf
athe
r tw
o ye
ars
ago.
Ash
ley
and
Bry
an, a
ges
6 an
d 4
year
sre
spec
tivel
y, li
ve w
ith th
eir
gran
dmot
her,
who
lega
lly a
dopt
ed th
e ch
ildre
n on
e ye
ar a
go.
Alle
n, a
ge 4
, liv
es w
ith h
is g
rand
pare
nts,
who
have
lega
lly a
dopt
ed h
im.
Jam
es, a
ge 5
, liv
es w
ith h
is g
rand
pare
nts,
who
lega
lly a
dopt
ed h
im tw
o ye
ars
ago.
Kat
ie a
nd K
yle,
twin
8 y
ear
olds
, hav
e liv
edw
ith th
eir
gran
dpar
ents
sin
ce b
irth.
The
irgr
andf
athe
r/da
d is
a s
peci
al m
an, h
avin
g m
ar-
ried
thei
r gr
andm
othe
r af
ter
she
took
on
the
care
of t
he c
hild
ren.
Nat
han,
7, h
as li
ved
with
his
gra
ndpa
rent
ssi
nce
birt
h. T
hey
lega
lly a
dopt
ed h
im th
ree
year
s ag
o.
4
,
I CI
AA
RP
Gra
ndpa
rent
Info
rmat
ion
Cen
ter
A.A
.R.P
. Fou
ndat
ion
601 E Street, NW
Washington, DC 20049
AA
RP
0011
1/"1
1/1°
0000
5000
1600
1
PF 5417 (696)
D16260
ui
U.S. Department of EducationOffice of Educational Research and Improvement (0ERI)
National Library of Education (NLE)Educational Resources Information Center (ERIC)
NOTICE
REPRODUCTION BASIS
®
ERIC
This document is covered by a signed "Reproduction Release(Blanket) form (on file within the ERIC system), encompassing allor classes of documents from its source organization and, therefore,does not require a "Specific Document" Release form.
This document is Federally-funded, or carries its own permission toreproduce, or is otherwise in the public domain and, therefore, maybe reproduced by ERIC without a signed Reproduction Release form(either "Specific Document" or "Blanket").
EFF-089 (9/97)
S oaLk 8-\ \
