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Definition of Conflict Conflict is an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce rewards, and interference from the other party in achieving those goals.
Eastern Civilization
Western Civilization
Machiavellian
“It is better to be feared than loved.”
Conflict Styles
Nonassertive behavior (Avoidance)Indirect Communication (The Hint)Passive Aggression (Crazymaking) Direct Aggression (A Time to Kill)Assertion Without Aggression
(The Clear Message Format)
Clear Message Format
BehaviorInterpretationFeelingConsequence Intention
Behavior
Describe event without interpretationDescribe problem without emotive
languageAvoid judgmental languageObjective toneWHAT HAPPENED?
Interpretation
“I thought”Your interpretationSubjective toneHOW YOU SEE IT
Feeling
“I felt”Adjectives that accurately
describe your feelings.SubjectiveOwn your feelings
Consequence
What happens to you?What happens to the person you are
addressing?What happens to others?What happens to the circumstances?Objective tone
Intention
Where you stand on the issueRequests of othersDescription of how you are going
to act in the future
Win-Win Problem Solving
A Systematic Approach
Identify the problem
Identify YOUR problem and unmet needs
The problem is yours; what are the unmet needs that make you feel the way you do?
Make a Date to Meet
Describe Your Problem and Needs
Partner Checks Back
Make sure you are understood
FEEDBACK
Solicit Partner’s Needs
Check your understanding
FEEDBACK
Negotiate a Solution
Generate a number of solutionsEvaluate themDecide on the best
Follow up
Implement and check back