The   thing   that  makes   street   game   difficult   is   that   girls   are   in  motion   and   going   to   a  

specific  location,  so  you  have  to  make  the  decision  to  stop  the  girl  or  walk  with  her,  and  

what  you  ultimately  decide  is  based  on  the  compliance  level  of  the  set.    

 

If  you  think  you  can  stop  the  girl,  

do   it.   If   there   are  multiple   girls,  

stop  the  front  one.  If  you  choose  

to   walk   with,   then   walk   with  

either   the   front   girl   or   your  

target.  Use  your  judgment.    

 

Also,   it’s   very   important   to   find  

out  what  a  girl’s  time  constraint  

is.  It  may  be  that  you  have  thirty  

seconds  to  talk  to  a  girl,  or  she  may  have  only  thirty  seconds  to  talk  to  you—or  maybe  

she  has  all  day.  The  key  question  for  finding  out  how  much  time  you  have  is:  “What  are  

you  doing  this  exact  second?”    

 

 

These   venues   are   similar   to   the  

street,   with   the   exception   that  

people  usually  have  a   little   longer  

to  hang  out—especially  in  the  case  

of   a   mall.   That   said,   still   bear   in  

mind   stopping   vs.   walking   with,  

and   be   very   cognizant   of   what   a  

girl’s  time  constraint  is.    

 

 

 

 

 

 

And  though  it  may  make  you  uncomfortable  to  go  into  a  store  just  to  approach  a  girl,  it’s  

probably   easier   because   you   won’t   have   to   stop   her.   Just   make   sure   you   do   the  

approach   in  a  way  that  you  don’t   let  on  that  you   thought   it  was  awkward.  Also,  try  to  

catch  girls  when  they’re  not  “engaged  in  the  wheels  of  capitalism”  (so  not  when  actively  

buying   or   talking   to   a   store   clerk)   but   instead  when   they’re   browsing   or   just  walking  

around.  Interrupting  business  transactions  is  a  good  way  to  offend  people—or  even  be  

removed  from  the  premises.    

 

In  these  two  types  of  locations,  you  have  two  massive  advantages.    

 

1. Girls  will  often  be  in  a  fixed  area,  so  you  won’t  have  to  stop  them.    

2. Girls  are  almost  always  in  leisure  time,  so  you’ll  have  a  longer  window    

to  get  to  know  them  and  convey  your  personality.    

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Try  for  a  fun,  casual,  non-­‐rushed  vibe.  Join  the  girl  or  her  and  her  group,  sit  with  them,  

and  join  in  whatever  activity,  if  possible.  Find  out  the  time  frame,  but  assume  you  have  

more  time  to  work  with  than  in  other  locations.    

 

Also,  a  specific  note  for  girls  in  bikinis  or  girls  sunbathing:  if  you  are  normal  about  them  

being  half-­‐clothed,  they  will  be  normal  too.   If   it  seems  like  a  big  deal  to  you,   it  will  be  

awkward  for  them.  

 

Here   you   have   more   inherent  

advantages:   the   girl   will   almost  

always  be  sitting—or  standing  in  

line  with  you—so  you  have  easy  

logistics   for   the   approach.   The  

thing   that   can   make   this  

approach  difficult   is   that   the  girl  

will   sometimes   be   busy   doing  

something,  so  you  might   literally  be  interrupting.  Or,  what’s  maybe  more  important,  is  

most  guys  will  feel  like  they’re  interrupting,  especially  when  there  are  onlookers.    

 

You  need  to  understand  that  if  you’re  trying  to  make  an  interaction  non-­‐awkward,  you’ll  

almost   certainly  make   it   awkward.   It’s  best   to   just  assume   that  doing   the  approach   is  

normal,  and  then  calibrate   if  necessary.  Then,  if  the  social  pressure  of  onlookers  turns  

out  to  be  an  issue  for  the  girl,  it’s  okay  for  you  to  apologize  for  startling  her.  But  never  

apologize  for  yourself  or  act  like  doing  the  pickup  itself  was  wrong  in  any  way.  

Here  your  advantage,  again,   is   that   the  girl   is  not  on  “work  time”  (unless  maybe  she’s  

frantically   grabbing   books   for   a   term   paper).   So   girls   in   these   venues   do   have   a   little  

more  freedom  and,  usually,  willingness  to  hang  out.      

The  biggest  thing  working  against  you  

here   is   that   speaking   loudly   is  

considered  rude,  or  that  this  is  a  study  

time  not  to  be  interrupted.  So  think  of  

these  places  like  you  would  the  café—

but   more   so.   Do   the   approach   in   a  

way  that  you  assume  is  non-­‐awkward    

(though  don’t  be  over-­‐the-­‐top)  and  be  

willing  to  apologize  if  necessary,  but  again,  never  apologize  for  yourself  or  the  approach.  

 

 

 For   all   public   transit,   realize  

that   the  easiest  way   to  start  

the   interaction   is  before  you  

get   on   the   bus,   train,   or  

airplane—whether   you’re   at  

the   bus   station,   on   the  

subway   platform,   or   in   the  

terminal.   It’s   obviously   key  

to   sit/stand   next   to   or   near   the   object   of   your   affection   and,   ideally,   start   talking  

immediately  when  you  sit  (or  stand).  The  longer  you’re  next  to  a  girl  in  awkward  silence,  

the  more  difficult  the  entire  interaction  will  be.    

 

One  special  note  on  airplanes  is  that  you  have  less  direct  communication  because  there  

are  assigned  seats,  so  unless  you  hope  to  get   lucky  and  sit  next  to  the  hot  girl  at  your  

gate,  start   the   interaction   in   the  terminal  and  then  make  the  suggestion  to  sit  next   to  

her  on  the  plane.  It  helps  if  you  have  an  aisle  or  window  seat,  because  most  people  will  

readily  switch  seats  with  you.    

 

Also,  in  all  three  cases,  adjust  to  the  time  commitment.  Gaming  on  a  sixteen-­‐hour  flight  

is  obviously  different  from  gaming  on  a  thirty-­‐second  subway  ride.  And,  of  course,  find  

out  what  travel  plans  you’re  dealing  with.  

 

 

The   gym   is   great   because   attractive   girls   usually  

go  to  gyms;  what’s  not  great  is  that  girls  in  gyms  

are   pretty   much   always   in   the   middle   of  

something.  So,  if  possible,  you  want  to  approach  

them   in   a   non-­‐annoying   way.   Open   when   they  

are   between   sets   or   exercises,   and   use   a   time  

constraint.   Do   not   make   them   feel   like   you’re  

going  to  be  there  all  day.    

 

 

 

 

Also,  most  people  go  to  the  same  gym  over  and  over,  so  if  that’s  the  case,  it  helps  to  end  

your  interactions  on  a  positive  note.  Because  one,  you  may  see  the  girl  again,  and  two,  if  

you  become  an  approach  machine  at  the  gym,  you  might  earn  a  reputation.  So  you  want  

to  approach  in  a  fun,  friendly  way—not  a  polarizing,  burn-­‐it-­‐to-­‐the-­‐ground  kind  of  way.  

 This  is  the  ultimate  casual,  friendly  situation  in  which  girls  have  time,  which  is  obviously  

to   your   benefit.   The   secret   here   is   not   to   treat   your   interaction   like   a   pure   cold  

approach.  Assume   the  girls  will  be   friendly.   Talk  and  mingle  with  a   lot  of  people,   and  

build  a  social  vibe  instead  of  trying  to  be  a  sniper.    

   

The  same  concept  goes  on  a  more  macro  scale   for  campuses,  where  you’re  building  a  

vibe  and  reputation  over  an  extended  period  of  time,  as  opposed  to  just  one  event.  

 

These  girls  can  be  difficult,  but  they  can  

also   be   some   of   the   most   rewarding  

because  they’re  often  by  definition  hot.  

The  key  thing  to  understand  here  is  that  

they   are  working,   and   they   can   get   in  

trouble   if   talking   to   you   interferes  with  

that.   Most   girls   probably   aren’t   willing  

to  lose  their  jobs  to  talk  to  a  stranger.  

 

However,  you  do  have  an  advantage,  which  is  that  they  are  almost  obligated  to  talk  to  

you  and  be  friendly.  So  the  plan  of  action  here  is  to  time  constrain  yourself  and  run  the  

set  more  quickly.  You  probably  won’t  have  an  hour  to  build  a  deep  connection  with  a  

girl,  but  if  you  grab  her  attention  quickly  and  close  on  a  high  note,  you  can  continue  the  

interaction  later  on  in  a  positive  way.    

 

It’s  also  important  in  many  instances  to  avoid  the  “customer”  frame*;  you  want  to  make  

it  clear  that  you’re  not  there  looking  to  buy  something,  but  that  you’re  being  social  and  

fun.   Some   girls   have   specific   rules   about   not   dating   customers   and  may  not   go   along  

with  this,  but  that’s   just  part  of  the  game  and  something  you’ll  have  accommodate.   In  

most  cases,  if  your  vibe  is  excellent,  you  can  overcome  this.  

 

*Although,  sometimes  you  can  fake  the  customer  frame  in  front  of  a  girl’s  manager  to  

1).  buy  yourself  time,  2).  avoid  getting  her  in  trouble,  and  3).  create  an  us  vs.  the  world  

frame.