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1. REVIEW exam 150% definitions/ 50% examples
40 questions
CHAPTER 5: NONVERBAL COMMUNICATION IS EVERYHTING YOU DO IN COMMUNICATION WITHOUT WORDS What you are doing with your appearance, gestures, time, It influences every interaction When you remove nonverbal communication, It has 5 functions1. Contradiction: often it contradicts our verbal communication2. Emphasis: ex: thats your problem, not my problem (you move your
head, and pointing) trying to getting the point across
3. Complementing: it complements our verbal communication, they gotogether it comes more natural
4. Regulates our conversations: learn through observation,5. Substitutes for non-verbal communication: through gestures you can end
a conversation without saying it,
Principles- Non-verbal communication is consider more credible than verbal
communication= we believe it more, our non-verbal communication is
more difficult to control/hard to fake
- Non-verbal is both biological based and culturally learned.+There are six universal expressions:
Happiness, fear, anger, disgust, sadness and surprise
Biological based: It is really hard to control our truth emotion, containFacial expressions there are micro-expressions
Culturally learned: every culture have different meaning for differentexpression, how you hug, how you dress, how you address someone,
- When we show nonverbal expressions that we dont want to use/show =
leakage
- Display Rules: are rules that governed our display of nonverbal
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communication and emotion
+ not dressing appropriately for an occasion
- Nonverbal communications is often ambiguous : its meaning is notclear
- It occurs at many levels- its multichannel/leveled+if you were to look at a persons nonverbal communications we would
be looking at their appearance, how they sit, what they are wearing,
their accessories/ we select what we want to pay attention to- we pay
attention to what we want (its selective)
EXAM
Self-monitoring: the degree to which we manage our public self.
Attribution theory: when you assigns reason to peoples behavior
Framing theory: no questions about it
Intercultural communication:
High text culture
Dont assume
Ethical systems (end ch.1) categorical imperative is either black and
white
Ethic of care: most recent system, develop because there was no way
of explaining how women make decision ,Significant choice: make your own decision, you dont want to impose
your judgment
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Physical appearance: hair color, symmetry, skin tone, weight, and bodyartifacts = with what we adorn our body
We make a decision about someone in 20 sec after meeting them How we use space? Proxemics: is the use of space. How close we are
close to someone and how we use the space of things we own, what doesour backpack says about us, our car,
Proxemics: is also what others spaces we occupy around: apartments,what you value what do you devote that place to. We like to take
ownership of our personal spaces.
Intimate space: 18 inches, we are really careful about who let in ourintimate space
Personal space: 18inches to 4 Social space 4 to 12 feet Public distance Expectancy violation Theory: How we use time: Americans are obsess with time Formal and Informal time: Informal time is time we use to socializing, or when we set aside a time
to do something
3 important components of Informal time : duration:(what is anappropriate time set aside for something), punctuality: we all have dif.
Expectations about it, activity: how we actually use our time Touch/ haptic:-when you hug someone (positive effect),
-playful function:
- To control behavior
- individualistic touch
Task function of touch: when a specialized person touches us Hybrid touch: hand shake turns into a hug Accidental touch: when you are in an elevator Paralanguage: is the study of a persons voice, vocal distractors have a
strong relationship with how critical a person is, when we are thinking
about what we are going to say,
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Chapter 7
Emotions: what we feel, a persons feelings Are emotions internally or externally caused Not all feelings are created equally, How we categorized emotions: Vailence
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Test 2Ch. 5, Ch. 7 and deception notes and gender
A lot of the questions come from chapter 5
-know all the definitions
-chapter 5 definitions come in the testParalanguage and vocalics= the study of the voice
Chapter 7 be familiar with 222-224
Biological emotions,
dualism = split between the mind and the body .Things are true or false,
good or bad. Changing from one emotion to the other
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Listening is relationship based we use it to improve our relationship, is askill that we can develop, we use it for understanding,
Good listener have better relationships and have more success There are 4 components of the listener
1) receiving acknowledge2) responding: is about remembering what happened before, what was
the question, we are recalling before responding.
3)Recalling: evaluate chunking, manageable sets, recall pastinformation, we are involve in the process of chunking: how we take
info that we heard and break it into manageable sets
4)Rating: feedback, opinion you talk about the whole process, When we are listening we dont always take the four components into
consideration
We need to be careful with rating because other people may not agreewith what we are saying back to them.
Barriers to listening: listening is difficult because1)noise : mainly physical noiseyou need to remove noice sometimes itcan be semantic
2)message overload: the average is 200 messages a day, we getoverload with messages and many times we dont get them all.
3)Message complexity: how complex the message is.4)Lack of trained5)Preoccupation:6)Listening gap: there is a gap between a person can quickly speak andhow much we can usderstand. So our mind can wonder we can only
understand 800 words in a minute vs says over 1050
Poor listening Habits1)selective listening: you decide what u want to hear, and to what youdont you just tune out
2) talkaholics3)pseudolistening:4)gap filler:5)defensive list:6)ambushing:
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center listener: you focus on the person how they are action center listener: interested in action, lets listen so we can move
forward, tell me what needs to be done, they second guess people
content center listener: very detail oriented, want to now every side ofthe problems, they will play devil advocate, are very goal orientedindividuals
time center listener: is someone who is focus on the message to be short,and concise, they can even tell you I just have 5 min to listening to you.
They have rapid tone of voice.
Knapps Staircase Model: up: initiating can be direct/indirect,experimenting is finding out about someone, intensifying is the
honeymoon face (the talk comes at the end), integrating is becoming
part of each others daily life, bonding is living together; differentiating
can be +/- saying mine and yours, circumscribing is spending time
away from someone, stagnating is not talking anymore just existing,
avoiding and termination can happen in either order
Bonding Integrating| |Differentiating Intensifying| |Circumscribing Experimenting| |Stagnating Initiating| |Avoiding |Termination
Convilles helical model 1) No set time periods to be in a stage 2) Takes history into account 3) Cannot be further apart than resynthesisto security
4) Always moving forward Both people are on the model but one personcan be ahead of the other
You can only be 4 steps apart at farthest Security: when we first meet someone(initiation)
Is the relationship initiating according to our expectations?
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Disintegration: when we notice that something is off You let it go but you put your guard up Alienation: you decide something is wrong and you have to figure out
what youre going to do about it
Characterized by a lack of communication Resynthesis: you figured it out and decided what youre going to do
about it
You redesigned the relationship (or changed your actions) You reframe the situation in your own mind sometimes and the other
person doesnt even realize
You become comfortable and you move through the stages again Each new stage (R2, R3) shows we are good with the redefinition We enter into a new Alienation, Resynthesis again Sometimes we jump through stages a sprint i.e. a women gives divorce papers to an unexpected husband and flings
him to resynthesis from security
Significant events in our relationship influence these stages Every relationship weve ever been in has one Social exchange theory: rewards minus costs equal outcome of
relationship
Rewards: intimacy, access rights Costs: sharing Comparison level of alternative: comparing our significant other to
different people, governed by norm of reciprocity
Conflict: interaction between interdependent people who perceiveincompatible goals and interference in obtaining those goals
Dont waste your time in conflict if there is no interdependence Perceive is the key word, our perception is our reality Interpersonal conflict is commonly defined as the interaction of
interdependent people who perceive incompatible goals and
interference from each other in achieving those goals.
Image conflict: self presentation, face work, deals with things we holdclose to ourselves, it is difficult and usually remembered
Content conflict: public is easily verified, private is dealing with an issue Value conflict: whether you think something is right or wrong in a
relationship, religion, politics, etc.
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Relational conflict: deals primarily with relational issues and viability ofthe relationship (changes that are made) I feel you dont value our
relationshiphow you are being treated in the relationship.
Serial conflict: long term relationship, something happening all thetime, neither person will bend. Have no resolutions, can be over simpleevery day tasks.
Meta conflict: conflict about the ways that you engage in conflict Defining conflict
Selective perception is a central dynamic conflict interactions peoplethought different things and attributed different motives to one another
Interdependence-people involved in the conflict are in a relationshiptogether and relay on one another. If you do not have a relationship with
that person it isnt important enough to have a conflict with.
Although peoples need of others is a basic, fundamental human desire.People rank conflicts with others one of the most critical stressors they
experience.
Interdependence is the main reason that conflicts is a natural andinevitable part of life. The most we relay on each other the more potential
there is for observing differences and being affected by them
Perception- psychological process involved in sensing meaning,interdependent people have perceive that they have incompatible goals
People judge themselves and their conversational partners based on howwell they communicate and how successful they are in reaching their
conversational goal.
Incompatible goals-people goal differ, they think others stand in the wayof the achievement of personal goals. Conflict is goal oriented.
Types of Conflict Image conflict- concerns self presentation. Conflict with another about
ones sense of oneself. Mom sees own child as baby even thought is 30,
child is an adult.
Content conflict-substantive revolve around issue. I hate bowling.Friends like bowling
Content can be subdivided. Public issue- issue outside relationship Personal issue- relate more closely to the relationship. Dont like
president- public. Dont like new girlfriend of friend- private.
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Value conflict- content is specifically and question of right and wrong.Feelings about abortion
Relational Conflicts- relationship between two people. Serial Conflicts- conflicts that recur over time in peoples everyday lives,
without a resolution. Husband leaving clothes on floor. Meta-conflicts conflicts about the way you conduct conflict. Private content conflict: you are always late, you are at a slow speed,
etc.
Four part (conflict) process model: in any conflict there are 4 partsme, you, context (emotions), subject (the argument), at any point we
can take one of these out of the equation
Placating: taking the me out of the situation, taking care of your needsunderstanding others
Pouncing: taking the you out of the situation, discounting the you. Imgoing to tell you just as it is I wont be nice with your needs
Computing: taking the emotion out of the situation, what you are leftwith are facts, many times the facts dont add up, what is important is
the emotional part. You make the argument seem reasonable but there is
problems with the emotional part of it.
Distracting: taking the subject out of the situation, it might be you beginto talk about the dishes but your roommates tells you a story and younever actually get the time to talk about the dishes
Explanatory process model: context and outcomes in terms of distaloutcomes (background) and proximal outcomes (here and now) : what
we are doing right then .
Four part model of elements of a conflict as occurringsimultaneously within a conflict interaction
Distal context background that frames the specific conflict. Containsthe history between the two parties and the areas of disagreement they
have discussed in the past.
Proximal context refers to the rules emotions and beliefs of theindividual involved in the conflict. Agree to keep place clean.
Conflict interaction- difference between the partners become a problemand one or both people begin to address the issue
Proximal outcomes- immediate results after the conflict interaction
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Distal outcome- conflicts are never completely over, residue of havingengaged in the conflict and the feelings that both the participants have
about their interaction.
Direct use of power: no doubt that you are exercising control Virtual power: essentially a threat (blackmail) Indirect use of power: having someone else suggest something,
withholding something, can be passive aggressive (can be unintentional)
Hidden use of power: exercising power that someone didnt know youhad
Fileys conflict grid: our conflict style, we havemore than one, often one for public and one within
private self. Illustrate the different conflict styles
you can use in dealing with conflicts.
Avoidance: buring our head in the sand, oftenbecause we have exhausted our other options, use it
if dealing with someone who is not rational. characterized for a low
concerns for you and others. By not doing anything we dont really care a
bout, good strategy for a little while= dealing with someone who is not
rational.
Accommodation: giving in a lot, naturally nice people who dont likeconflict, sometimes used to fit in, sometimes used to manipulate or get
ahead (brown-noser), at some point there is a place for this in every
relationship. High concern for other low concern for yourself. Good thing:
usually really popular, bad thing: can be taken advantage of people walk
over them. There are times we need to accommodate (remember) is
important to build up a relationship it shows that you care about them in
a lovingly way.
Competition: winning, is problematic when you are willing to break therules, not always a bad thing, is a necessary thing, both people perform
better. High concern for self and low for others. My way or the high way,
we do whatever it takes to win. The two people competing results in both
of them doing better-working harder. Competition hurts self-esteem and
prepares you for the real world. S about standing up for your self
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Collaboration: everyone knows where everyone stands, a good strategyif the issue is important. Is when you have high concerns for self and
others. You compromise, together you work a plan on how something is
going to work. Not every issue has to be about collaboration it sometimes
just makes you lose time if the conflict s small. Compromise: no one is truly happy, everyone gets a little, it may be the
best solution or it may not be. Works best is you have limited resources
and the stakes are not high. Is always a lose lose situation. Is the easy
solution. `
Pursuit withdrawal: someone brings something up and you saw wewill do it later
Withdrawal pursuit: when the other person doesnt except something Distal context: the background that frames a specific conflict Proximal context: rules, emotions, beliefs of the individuals involved in
a conflict
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|Termination Convilles helical model 1) No set time periods to be in a stage 2) Takes history into account 3) Cannot be further apart than resynthesisto security
4) Always moving forward Both people are on the model but one personcan be ahead of the other
You can only be 4 steps apart at farthest Security: when we first meet someone(initiation)
Is the relationship initiating according to our expectations? Disintegration: when we notice that something is off You let it go but you put your guard up Alienation: you decide something is wrong and you have to figure out
what youre going to do about it
Characterized by a lack of communication Resynthesis: you figured it out and decided what youre going to do
about it
You redesigned the relationship (or changed your actions) You reframe the situation in your own mind sometimes and the other
person doesnt even realize
You become comfortable and you move through the stages again Each new stage (R2, R3) shows we are good with the redefinition We enter into a new Alienation, Resynthesis again Sometimes we jump through stages a sprint i.e. a women gives divorce papers to an unexpected husband and flings
him to resynthesis from security
Significant events in our relationship influence these stages Every relationship weve ever been in has one Metahelics can prepare us for bigger hellics
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Personality: relatively stable set of characteristics that guide yourbehavior
Personality some aspects can be highlighted and shaped based on ourenvironment.
Kiersey-bates comes from the Meyers-briggs
Myers-Briggs Personality test
o Extroversion Introversion (E-I) Where do you get energy from? Extroversion
Get energy from other people Profound need to be around others Sometimes communicate without thinking Like meeting new people/wide range of relationships Outgoing Comfortable in variety of environments Strong desire to be around people Talk first think second
Introversion Get energy from within/ solitarie activities. Enjoy solidary activities (Ex. Reading a book) Think before speaking about relational consequences Analytical Cautious with other individuals Stressed when around lots of people or in chaotic situations Are really reflective/ analyze relationships The relationships they have are usually very closed. Territorials
o Sensing Intuition (S-N) how you gather data Sensing
show me state Like to use the 5 senses to gather information
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Will notice changes in their environments Someone will notice traffic signs/ speed limit changes Detail oriented because they like to see what and how they will do it. Like to follow Instructions/plans are important Highly organized good work habits Like to figure out the best way to do something >>>>follow plans Technical feeling Detailed oriented people
Intuition big picture Very creative Think globally Think outside the box Overall connections Very attracted to theories and things that can be interpreted
differently
Very comfortable with personal experiences They trust theyre instinct
o Thinking Feeling (T-F) how you solve a problem/what guides your decisions ? Thinking
Relies on rationale and logic Will follow or create the rules Creates more rules for everyone to be on the same page
Feeling Governed by their feelings Will fight the rules Doing what you feel What your think is right
o Judging Perceiving (J-P) how you live your daily life Judging
Quick decisions (Ex. Purchases, people, TV shows)
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Overall planners Ex. Things to Do Likes for things to be closed Risk takers Impulsive Jump in with both feet If they want to do something they have to figure out everything Annoyed by indecisiveness make prompt decisions
Perceiving Doesnt like to make decision quickly Will often get pushed back into a corner Gets stressed out when things are closed to quickly Going to test to see if water is cold before jumping in Hard time making decisions, because they want to make sure they
make the best decisions.
Take so much time that they end up boxing themselves They question theyre decisions
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