Catching the Core Value Virus

i-Parent Series, Part 4Dr. Dave Currie

How do you know your kids will “catch the bug” of what is really essential in life?

Analyze what core principles are the most important for you to teach and model to your kids.

Will your children catch your core value virus?

Definition: Core Values are what is most important to us. They are the foundational beliefs that determine our daily operating principles of life. They are the written and unwritten morals and standards that we live by. Core values are what we base our decisions on.

A. Build Your Foundation for Life.

Determine your life presuppositions.

B. Re-engage Your Faith as Being Critical to Developing Your Worldview.

Wise is the parent who places God in the center his core values.

Deuteronomy 6:1-9; 12a

1 These are the commands, decrees and laws the LORD your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, 2 so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the LORD your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. 3 Hear, Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the LORD, the God of your ancestors, promised you.

Deuteronomy 6:1-9; 12a

4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

Deuteronomy 6:1-9; 12a

12Be careful that you do not forget the LORD, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.

C. Understand the Core Values Credibility Gap

What we say our values are and what they truly are may be different.

D. Realize a Child’s Insatiable Appetite for the Acquisition of Knowledge Learning by created default Learning by innate curiosityLearning by inferenceLearning by observation Learning by mimicking

E. Grasp the Immeasurable Influence of Integrity

Your life as the platform upon which your words can be heard.

Daily influence trumps intention – when you are not in teaching mode they are still in learning mode.

You are a 24/7 example of how to do life.

F. Appreciate the Incredible Impact of Intentionality

Choosing to parent well makes an unbelievable difference in the outcome.

The context is as critical as the content.You influence by nature. Your life shapes

their life. Your values shape their values. Heredity vs. Environment

G. Common Less Intentional Approaches to Parenting

Parenting by Default Parenting by Assumption Parenting by Neglect Parenting by Accident Parenting by Intention

H. Know the Process of the Transference of Core Values

Clarify your Over-arching Goal: Shape your children to become responsible and caring, committed Christians who will live life in a God-honouring way – The Transference of your Core Values.

Delineate your Personal Core Values of Life Find Consensus on your Family Core Values

H. Know the Process of the Transference of Core Values

Write Out your Core Values Embody your Core Values Teach your Core Values to your Children Review your Core Values Deepen your Core Values over the Years

I. How Do You Transfer Your Core Values Effectively?

Use Consistency Bring Clarity In Unity With Reasons In Relationship Reinforcement by Significant Others

I. How Do You Transfer Your Core Values Effectively?

Vary the approaches Perseverance Maintain a gracious application of the

truth. Schedule a meeting to start talking in

the next week.

J. List of Topics for Your Core Value Discussion