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Welcome to the California Refu- gee Healthy Marriage Project—a statewide coalition of five com- munity based non-profit organiza- tions that provides marriage en- richment educational programs and activities to strengthen refu- gee couples and families. Since becoming a grantee of the Office of Refugee Resettlement (ORR) in 2003, the CRHMP has trained thousands of refugees and asylees in communication and conflict resolution, cultural adaptation, decision-making and parenting skills. “We see our work as building a bridge between a refugee’s cul- ture and American culture as well as between family members,” explains Lao Family’s CRHMP Coordinator Samantha Miller. “Cultural conflicts can take a heavy toll on relationships at home. Our workshop facilitators are adept at providing participants with the best communication practices in this culture, in a con- text and language they can under- stand to help ease their transition to a new life and maintain stable relationships.” In creating the coalition, lead- agency Lao Family selected part- ners based on their track record as leaders in service provision as well as on the diversity and need of the populations they serve. You can read about their work in the fol- lowing pages. “I’m very proud of the work we’ve done so far and hope we can extend our services to new incoming populations in the fu- ture” Miller says. “It’s my hope that every refugee population in California can have access to the CRHMP: Building Bridges for California’s Refugees 23rd & 12th: A New Home for Our “Family” In 2008, Lao Family Community Development, Inc. acquired a 30,000 sq. ft. building down the street from its present location in Oakland to establish the San An- tonio Neighborhood Resource Center. When fully renovated, this mixed-use building will house Lao Family’s headquarter office and its nine programs, including employment, home ownership, and refugee healthy marriage. The site will also be home to the CRHMP library, a clearinghouse for refugee-specific and mainstream family and mar- riage enrichment resources. Workshop curricula, videos/ DVDs, books, research studies and articles will be available to Lao Family’s sub-grantee agen- cies, and local service providers, in an effort to increase awareness of the Healthy Marriage program and arm them with timely mate- rial on relationship topics so they can play a greater role in strengthening California’s cou- ples and families. SPRING 2009 VOLUME 1, ISSUE 1 CALIFORNIA REFUGEE HEALTHY MARRIAGE PROJECT Inside this issue: VCDI: Celebrating the Year of the Ox with Oakland’s Viet- namese 2 CAA: A Holistic Ap- proach to Hard Times 2 SAC: Babies and Bumps in the Road 3 SLFC : Up Close with Sacramento’s Hmong 3 CRHMP Crossword 4 2325 E. 12th Street (at 23rd Avenue), Oakland, CA California Refugee Healthy Marriage Project Who We Are: Lao Family Community Development RHM Project Coordinator: Samantha Miller ([email protected]); (510) 533-8850 Vietnamese Community Development, Inc. RHM Program Director: Chau Vo ([email protected]) Cambodian Association of America RHM Program Director: Dany Chea Sok Man ([email protected]) Slavic Assistance Center RHM Program Director: Roman Romaso ([email protected]) Sacramento Lao Family Community, Inc. Program Director: Seng Her ([email protected]) relationship-building tools we’re able to share through ORR’s program. California Refugee Healthy Marriage Project sites: Sacramento, Oakland and Long Beach

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Welcome to the California Refu-gee Healthy Marriage Project—a statewide coalition of five com-munity based non-profit organiza-tions that provides marriage en-richment educational programs and activities to strengthen refu-gee couples and families. Since becoming a grantee of the Office of Refugee Resettlement (ORR) in 2003, the CRHMP has trained thousands of refugees and asylees in communication and conflict resolution, cultural adaptation, decision-making and parenting skills.

“We see our work as building a bridge between a refugee’s cul-ture and American culture as well as between family members,” explains Lao Family’s CRHMP Coordinator Samantha Miller. “Cultural conflicts can take a

heavy toll on relationships at home. Our workshop facilitators are adept at providing participants with the best communication practices in this culture, in a con-text and language they can under-stand to help ease their transition to a new life and maintain stable relationships.”

In creating the coalition, lead-agency Lao Family selected part-ners based on their track record as leaders in service provision as well as on the diversity and need of the populations they serve. You can read about their work in the fol-lowing pages.

“I’m very proud of the work we’ve done so far and hope we can extend our services to new incoming populations in the fu-ture” Miller says. “It’s my hope that every refugee population in California can have access to the

CRHMP: Bui lding Br idges for Cal i for nia ’s Refugees

23rd & 12th: A New Home for Our “Family”

In 2008, Lao Family Community Development, Inc. acquired a 30,000 sq. ft. building down the street from its present location in Oakland to establish the San An-tonio Neighborhood Resource Center. When fully renovated, this mixed-use building will house Lao Family’s headquarter office and its nine programs, including employment, home ownership, and refugee healthy marriage. The site will also be

home to the CRHMP library, a clearinghouse for refugee-specific and mainstream family and mar-riage enrichment resources. Workshop curricula, videos/DVDs, books, research studies and articles will be available to Lao Family’s sub-grantee agen-cies, and local service providers, in an effort to increase awareness of the Healthy Marriage program and arm them with timely mate-rial on relationship topics so they

can play a greater role in strengthening California’s cou-ples and families.

SPRING 2009

VOLUME 1, ISSUE 1

C A L I F O R N I A R E F U G E E H E A L T H Y M A R R I A G E P R O J E C T

Inside this issue:

VCDI: Celebrat ing the Year of the Ox with Oakland’s Viet-namese

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CAA: A Hol is t ic Ap-proach to Hard Times

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SAC: Babies and Bumps in the Road

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SLFC : Up Close with Sacramento’s Hmong

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CRHMP Crossword 4

2325 E. 12th Street (at 23rd Avenue), Oakland, CA

California Refugee Healthy Marriage Project

Who We Are: Lao Family Community Development RHM Project Coordinator: Samantha Miller ([email protected]); (510) 533-8850

• Vietnamese Community Development, Inc. RHM Program Director: Chau Vo

([email protected]) • Cambodian Association of America RHM Program Director: Dany Chea

Sok Man ([email protected]) • Slavic Assistance Center RHM Program Director: Roman

Romaso ([email protected]) • Sacramento Lao Family Community, Inc. Program Director: Seng Her

([email protected])

relationship-building tools we’re able to share through ORR’s program.

California Refugee Healthy Marriage Project sites: Sacramento, Oakland and

Long Beach

For the Vietnamese, its Christ-mas, Thanksgiving and the 4th of July rolled into one. It’s Tet, the Vietnamese New Year, and VCDI knows how to celebrate it. On January 17th, VCDI opened its doors to 125 guests from the San Francisco Bay Area, including newly arrived refugees anxious to spend their most important holi-day in a comfortable setting. “It’s our biggest event of the year, and every year it gets bigger!” said Trung Nguyen, VCDI’s founder, noting that the occasion provided the opportunity to introduce those new to the center about the Healthy Marriage program. Chau Vo, VCDI’s Healthy Marriage Program Director signed up 30 new refugees for her February workshops but found the cultural holiday more than just an effec-tive recruitment tool.

“Tet is a time for family reunions, seeing friends and letting go of the previous year’s troubles. And just like Americans, Vietnamese make New Year’s resolutions: stop smoking, help my spouse more, be a better listener, etc.” Chau Vo found Tet to be the per-fect backdrop for lessons im-parted in her Healthy Marriage workshops. “The conversations in those workshops were very cen-tered on what participants could do to put their resolutions into practice. Anyone can make a resolution to be a better spouse, but if you don’t have the tools for better communication or how to handle conflicts that come up in your marriage, then it doesn’t matter. Now they have the tools to succeed.”

Chau Vo plans to check back with her workshop participants in a few months to see how they are doing with their resolutions. “My goal was to help refugees use our own customs to start conversa-tions about making lasting com-mitments to building healthy fam-ily relationships and ensuring this attitude remains throughout the year.” Judging from early feed-back from spouses, this year the resolutions have a chance of stick-ing.

VCDI has been serving Vietnamese refugees and immigrants in Oak-land for 15 years. In addition to their Healthy Marriage program, they have partnered with local agencies on health education ini-tiatives and have an active seniors program.

Vietnamese Community Development , Inc . : Celebrat ing the Year of the Ox with

Oakland’s Vietna mese

Cambodian Associat ion of America : A Holis t ic Approach to Hard Times

Over the last several months, Man has seen workshop conversations turn increasingly from general family disagreements to stresses over financial issues. But no matter what the causes are, the reactions are the same: spouses fight, say hurtful things and feel more and more alienated from each other. “My words of advice to Cambodians at this time is: stay calm, listen to each other and understand the situation before attacking one another” Man adds.

One solution CAA has developed to help clients in the most com-prehensive way possible is to use their programs to support each other. Man takes advantage of CAA’s other programs to help those hardest hit. If she can

guide clients to other services that can help with their physical needs, she can support the emo-tional ones. “Agency-wide events, which we started last year, have been very successful,” Man re-marks. “We had a great turn-out for our Fall event and it also al-lowed me to find many recruits for the Refugee Healthy Marriage program. Now more than ever the extensive services of our organi-zations are important, and we're happy to meet the demand!”

Incorporated as a non-profit in 1975, CAA is the oldest and largest Cambodian organization in the United States. It provides direct services through 17 programs to the Hispanic, African-American, Asian and Caucasian communities.

The stories are familiar now. People losing homes, their jobs, their savings. On top of these hardships, one thing Refugee Healthy Marriage Program Direc-tor Dany Chea Sok Man doesn’t want Cambodians to lose is their relationships.

“Cambodians have some of the lowest average household in-comes in Long Beach, and fear of losing what little they have can be especially frightening,” Man re-marks. “These material losses can negatively affect emotional states, fast. My job is to make sure cou-ples are able to keep their conver-sations on low heat throughout their relationships so that when times of crisis come, their emo-tions won’t boil over.” PAGE 2

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Program Director and facilitator Dany Man leads a role-play

Since launching their Healthy Marriage program in 2003, Slavic Assistance Center has built lasting partnerships with local agencies that have an aligned mission to build strong families. Their collaboration with the Christian clergy and the crisis intervention provider WEAVE has allowed them increased ac-cess to the Slavic refugee popula-tion of over 150,000. But no partnership is more valuable to new and expecting refugee moth-ers than that with Birth & Be-yond, a family resource center that provides support to parents through classes, family activities and home visitations. As part of the Birth & Beyond program, SAC has been able to extend their lessons to a vulnerable

population – young adults facing the dual stress of acculturation and having a child in a new coun-try. The need is obvious: class attendance is rarely under 30.

A driving force behind the work-shops’ popularity is Ivan Lesh-chuk, a facilitator uniquely quali-fied for the job. A reverend pas-tor and former consultant for the Slavic Mental Health Project, Ivan has years of experience counseling community members on marriage and divorce, depres-sion, and intergenerational issues and is greatly respected in the Slavic community.

But it’s Leshchuk’s personal journey that makes him most accessible to workshop attendees. A refugee from the Ukraine in

2002, Leshchuk and his wife had the last of their three children in the U.S. He shares the lessons he learned as a first time father in discussions on How to Help your Marriage Survive a New Baby. “Refugee couples need each other more than ever when ad-justing to a new country. But when a new child comes along, attention can shift from a hus-band to a child, and that’s hard to take” Leshchuk states. “I help couples realize that the distance they feel is temporary and share what my wife once said to me: ‘I love you with all my heart, but I’m a little distracted right now. Don’t worry – I’ll be back.’ Open communication has been the key to our happy marriage. I literally practice what I preach!”

S lavic Ass i s tance Center : Babies and Bumps in the Road

Sacr amento Lao Family Community, Inc . Up Close with Sacramento’s Hmong

A: When we first arrived, every-thing was difficult. Our family had been divided, and our teen-agers were already adapting to the American way of life and resisting our Hmong traditions. We felt we were losing control of them. This lead to misunder-standings and conflicts between us. I got very stressed and my health started to deteriorate.

Q: How did you hear about the Healthy Marriage workshops?

A: I went to SLFC for help in getting a doctor’s appointment and met you. You told me about how the workshops could help me improve my relationships with my children as well as my mental and physical health.

Q: Did they help?

A: Yes. Adjusting to this new culture is still very difficult, but we are working on it. But since the class, stress between family members has decreased about 40% and we are much more sen-sitive to each other’s feelings and opinions. The tools we’ve learned, especially learning to speak up instead of hinting when you have a problem, and learning to listen have been very helpful. This is a new way of communi-cating for our culture since we usually don’t like to discuss negative topics. But in this coun-try, people are more open about discussing their feelings — both good and bad — and that helps relieve rather than build up ten-sion. It’s worked for us and we’re grateful.”

In 2005 Wang Seng Her and his wife Phoua Xiong moved to the U.S. from a Thai refugee camp. Seng Her, Program Director for the Refugee Healthy Marriage program at SLFC sat down with Wang to discuss his challenges to building a new life here and how the “Power of Two” marriage workshops have helped keep his family together.

Q: How long have you been married?

A: We don’t know exactly how many years, but we have nine children together. But only two of our children — both teenagers — came with us to the U.S.

Q: What have been the greatest difficulties in living in the U.S.?

For seven years, SAC has filled critical gaps in access to services for low-income Slavic immigrants and refugees in Sacramento and works closely with a network of 35 local churches.

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Goings-on in Sacramento . . .

Facilitator Ivan Leshchuk working with Birth & Beyond

SLFC is one of only two Mutual Assistance Associations in Sacra-mento catering specifically to the Hmong population. For the last 26 years, they have been providing Southeast Asian as well as Rus-sian refugees with English lan-guage, employment and citizen-ship services.

Wang Seng Her and wife Phoua Xiong

CRHMP Crossword: Test your knowledge of Healthy Marriage and Refugee topics in California! Be the first entrant to submit all the correct answers to: Samantha Miller, Lao Family Community Development, 2325 East 12th Street, Oakland, CA 94601, and win a prize.

ACROSS: 1. The number of languages spoken by staff at CAA 5. According to the 2008 The State of California’s Un-ions survey, the two most common reasons for divorce are lack of commitment and lack of this important skill 7. This Southeast Asian population comprised one of the largest groups of refugees to California in 2008 8. In 2007, the largest % of refugees (behind Califor-nia) were settled in this Southern state DOWN: 2. According to the 2008 The State of California’s Un-ions survey, the majority of Californians agree in sup-port of teaching relationship skills to this age group as part of their high school education 3. SLFC is the only agency providing all Healthy Mar-riage workshops in this language 4. SAC provides its services through a network of 35 of these religious institutions 6. The word for LOVE in Vietnamese

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2325 East 12th Street, Oakland, CA 94601

Sources: Department of Homeland Security Office of Immigration Statistics, Annual Flow Report: July 2008; The State of California’s Unions — Copyright 2008 by California Healthy Marriages Coalition; Department of Social Services, Alameda County

The California Refugee Healthy Marriage Project is funded in large part with federal funds through the Office of Refugee Resettlement, Administration of Children & Families, U.S. Department of Health & Human Services (Grant No. 90ZF0048). All content expressed herein

is solely derived from program staff and does not necessarily reflect the views of any federal agency