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Ten HabitsTen HabitsHighly

Healthy Homes

Highly Healthy Homes

ofof

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Habit 7

Protect Your MarriageProtect Your Marriage

Exodus 20:14Exodus 20:14

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Exodus 20:14Exodus 20:14

Do not commit

adultery.

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“Women’s magazines practically recommend adultery to their readers as a fun and healthy

activity …”- Katie Roiphe, New York Times Magazine

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“An affair can be a sexual recharging, an escape from a worn-out relation-ship, a way

into something better.”- Elle Magazine

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“[Women’s] marriages are improved by their affairs.

Because they get their fill of rapture elsewhere ...”

- Harper’s Bazaar

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The true power of mass media is the power to

REDEFINENORMAL

M E D I A

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The true power of mass media is the power to

REDEFINENORMAL

M E D I A

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Prime Time TV

65,000 sexual

references every year

7 out of 8

involve extra-marital

relations

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adultery

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adultery

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adultery

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adultery

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adultery English root

ADULTERATE

to contaminate

or make impure

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adulteryHebrew root

LO NA ’ APH

no apostatizing(to abandon

one’s principles or promises)

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Colossians 3:5Colossians 3:5

Don’t be controlled by your body. Kill every desire for the wrong kind of sex. Don’t be

immoral or indecent or have evil thoughts

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Hebrews 13:4Hebrews 13:4Give honor to marriage,

and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit

adultery.

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ways to affair-proof

your marriage

ways to affair-proof

your marriage66

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11make a commit

ment

make a commit

ment

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Psalm 119:9Psalm 119:9

How can a young person stay pure? By obeying your

word and following its rules.

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Proverbs 5:15Proverbs 5:15

Be faithful to your own wife and give your

love to her alone.

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22magnify the

consequences

magnify the

consequences

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1. You do incredible damage to your spouse.

1. You do incredible damage to your spouse.

Six Good ReasonsNot To Commit AdulterySix Good ReasonsNot To Commit Adultery

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1 Corinthians 6:161 Corinthians 6:16

And don’t you know that if a man joins

himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For

the Scriptures say, “The two are united

into one.”

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1. You do incredible damage to your spouse.

1. You do incredible damage to your spouse.

Six Good ReasonsNot To Commit AdulterySix Good ReasonsNot To Commit Adultery

2. You do incredible damage to yourself.

2. You do incredible damage to yourself.

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Proverbs 6:32Proverbs 6:32

But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his

own soul.

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1. You do incredible damage to your spouse.

2. You do incredible damage to yourself.

1. You do incredible damage to your spouse.

2. You do incredible damage to yourself.

Six Good ReasonsNot To Commit AdulterySix Good ReasonsNot To Commit Adultery

3. You do incredible damage to your children.

3. You do incredible damage to your children.

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Exodus 34:7Exodus 34:7

Even so I do not leave sin unpunished, but I

punish the children for the sins of their

parents to the third and fourth

generations.

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4. You do incredible damage to the church.

4. You do incredible damage to the church.

Six Good ReasonsNot To Commit AdulterySix Good ReasonsNot To Commit Adultery

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1 Corinthians 5:61 Corinthians 5:6

Don’t you realize that if even one

person is allowed to go on sinning, soon all will be

affected?

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4. You do incredible damage to the church.

4. You do incredible damage to the church.

Six Good ReasonsNot To Commit AdulterySix Good ReasonsNot To Commit Adultery

5. You do incredible damage to your witness.

5. You do incredible damage to your witness.

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2 Samuel 12:142 Samuel 12:14

But you have given the enemies of the

Lord great opportunity to despise and

blaspheme him …

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4. You do incredible damage to the church.

5. You do incredible damage to your witness.

4. You do incredible damage to the church.

5. You do incredible damage to your witness.

Six Good ReasonsNot To Commit AdulterySix Good ReasonsNot To Commit Adultery

6. You sin against the Lord.

6. You sin against the Lord.

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Genesis 39:9Genesis 39:9

How could I ever do such a wicked thing? It would be a great sin against

God.

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33maximize your

marriage

maximize your

marriage

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1 Corinthians 7:31 Corinthians 7:3

A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, a wife should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other’s needs.

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5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

Sexual Fulfillment

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

Sexual Fulfillment

Recreational Companionship

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

Sexual Fulfillment

Recreational Companionship

An Attractive Spouse

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

Sexual Fulfillment

Recreational Companionship

An Attractive Spouse

Domestic Support

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

Sexual Fulfillment

Recreational Companionship

An Attractive Spouse

Domestic Support

Admiration

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

Sexual Fulfillment

Recreational Companionship

An Attractive Spouse

Domestic Support

Admiration

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

Sexual Fulfillment Affection

Recreational Companionship

An Attractive Spouse

Domestic Support

Admiration

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

Sexual Fulfillment Affection

Recreational Companionship

Conversation

An Attractive Spouse

Domestic Support

Admiration

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

Sexual Fulfillment Affection

Recreational Companionship

Conversation

An Attractive Spouse

Honesty And Openness

Domestic Support

Admiration

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

Sexual Fulfillment Affection

Recreational Companionship

Conversation

An Attractive Spouse

Honesty And Openness

Domestic Support Financial Support

Admiration

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5 Basic Needs Of A Man

5 Basic Needs Of A Woman

Sexual Fulfillment Affection

Recreational Companionship

Conversation

An Attractive Spouse

Honesty And Openness

Domestic Support Financial Support

Admiration Family Commitment

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A person’s five basic

emotional needs are so demanding that, if

any of them go unmet at home, that spouse

becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an

affair.

A person’s five basic

emotional needs are so demanding that, if

any of them go unmet at home, that spouse

becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an

affair.

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That tragic result is almost

certain if someone outside the marriage

begins to fulfill the need that is not

being met within the marriage.

That tragic result is almost

certain if someone outside the marriage

begins to fulfill the need that is not

being met within the marriage.

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SEXVS.

AFFECTION

SEXVS.

AFFECTION

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1 Corinthians 7:2-51 Corinthians 7:2-52 But because there is

so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own

wife, and each woman should have her own

husband.

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1 Corinthians 7:2-51 Corinthians 7:2-53 The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which

is her right as a married woman, nor

should the wife deprive her husband.

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1 Corinthians 7:2-51 Corinthians 7:2-54 The wife gives

authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife.

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1 Corinthians 7:2-51 Corinthians 7:2-55 So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this

rule would be the agreement of both

husband and wife to refrain from sexual

intimacy for a limited time,

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1 Corinthians 7:2-51 Corinthians 7:2-5so they can give themselves more

completely to prayer. Afterward they should

come together again so that Satan won’t be able

to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.

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• Due to sexual immorality, each person should MARRY

• Married partners are to fulfill their SEXUAL DUTIES

• God commands you to stop depriving each other of SEX

• Due to sexual immorality, each person should MARRY

• Married partners are to fulfill their SEXUAL DUTIES

• God commands you to stop depriving each other of SEX

God’s primary provision for SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS

God’s primary provision for SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS

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Affection is the

environment, sex is the

event.

Affection is the

environment, sex is the

event.

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It’s real easy to leave your

spouse. It’s not easy to leave

your best friend.

~ Mary Alda

It’s real easy to leave your

spouse. It’s not easy to leave

your best friend.

~ Mary Alda

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1 Corinthians 7:31 Corinthians 7:3

The husband must give his wife what

she has the right to expect, and so too

the wife to the husband.

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44manage your

mind

manage your

mind

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1. Accepting sinful thoughts in your mind

2. Emotional non-physical involvement

3. Physical involvement

4. Rationalizing the affair

1. Accepting sinful thoughts in your mind

2. Emotional non-physical involvement

3. Physical involvement

4. Rationalizing the affair

Four Steps To An AffairFour Steps To An Affair

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James 1:14-15James 1:14-15

Temptation is the pull of a person’s own evil thoughts and wishes. These evil thoughts

lead to evil actions and afterwards to death.

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Romans 16:19Romans 16:19

I want you to be wise about what

is good and innocent in what

is evil.

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55maintain proper

relationships

maintain proper

relationships

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1. Don’t listen to someone else’s marriage problems.

2. Don’t go fishing for compliments.

3. Beware of a sense of “electricity.”

4. Avoid a prolonged stare or a lingering touch.

1. Don’t listen to someone else’s marriage problems.

2. Don’t go fishing for compliments.

3. Beware of a sense of “electricity.”

4. Avoid a prolonged stare or a lingering touch.

Proper RelationshipsProper Relationships

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Ephesians 5:3Ephesians 5:3

But among you there must not be

even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of

impurity …

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66minimize the

opportunity

minimize the

opportunity

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1 Corinthians 10:121 Corinthians 10:12

So be careful! If you are thinking, “Oh, I

would never behave like that” – let this be a

warning to you. For you too may fall into

sin.

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1 Corinthians 15:331 Corinthians 15:33

Don’t be fooled by those who say such

things, for “bad company corrupts good character.”

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Malachi 2:15Malachi 2:15

Guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break

faith with your wife.

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The Pathway Back To

PURITY

The Pathway Back To

PURITY

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11acknowledge the

sin

acknowledge the

sin

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22end the relations

hip immedia

tely

end the relations

hip immedia

tely

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33avoid all contact

with that

person

avoid all contact

with that

person

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John 8:11John 8:11Neither do I

condemn thee: go, and sin no

more.

Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no

more.

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Habit 7:

Protect Your

Marriage

Habit 7:

Protect Your

Marriage

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