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DATE NIGHTDISCOVERY CARDS
DATE NIGHT DISCOVERY CARDSOne of the complaints we regularly hear from couples is having toolittle quality time together. Once we get to know these couples better, we often learn thatthey do spend time together, but it's not positive and intentional. We've designed these Date Night Discovery Cards to help you stayconnected and know each other's inner worlds, whether you have 5minutes or 5 hours. You can keep these cards by your bedside for mini dates before fallingasleep, store them in your car for when you are driving around towntogether, or use them for longer romantic evenings. The Date Night Discovery Cards offer you an opportunity to practiceasking each other open-ended questions. These are different from: - yes and no questions (ex: "Do you want to stay in or go out to eat?") - leading questions (ex: "Do you feel happy about...?") - challenging questions (ex: "Why won't you just..."). We are enthusiasts of genuinely curious and open-ended questions inorder to really know and understand one another. We are also big fans of finding ways to stay deeply connected, nomatter how busy life gets. May this deck of cards help you both feelmuch more a part of each other's life.
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INSTRUCTIONS + SUGGESTIONS
FOLLOW THESE SIMPLE INSTRUCTIONS:
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OUR LOVING SUGGESTIONS:
1. Print pages 5-16 double-sided, ideally on cardstock.
2. Cut out the cards. You will have a total of 72 discovery questions.
3. Shuffle the deck of cards (optional).
4. Place the cards, face-down, in front of both you. Take turns asking each
other the questions. You can either both answer the same question, or you
can pick a new one when it is your turn. If a question is irrelevant, skip it.
5. Have fun learning about each other!
1. When you ask a question, be sure you don't answer for your partner. If you
have a habit of answering for each other, this is a wonderful opportunity to
shift that pattern.
2. Ask the discovery questions with genuine curiosity and interest in one
another.
3. Offer only positive feedback when your partner has responded. Don't judge,
disagree with, or challenge their responses.
4. If your partner takes longer to respond than you'd like, practice patience.
Sit back, relax, breathe, accept their processing speed, and just have fun.
5. Let go of distractions.
6. If you are typically the less-verbal partner, stretch yourself to give your
beloved descriptive responses (rather than one-worders).
7. Remember the intentions from which these were born: to enjoy and feel
connected to one another.
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