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What it looks like and what to do about it?

By. Sri Ovaningsih

Wed, 19th June 2013


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Did you know?

The word bully used to mean the total

opposite of what it means now.

Five hundred years ago, it meant friend, family

member or sweetheart.

The root of the word comes from the Dutchboel, meaning lover or brother.


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How does it make the kid feel?

Alone Hurt

Depressed


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Does it have to be a part of childs

growing up?

No

Each and every person has the right to feel

safe in her/his life and good about him/

herself.


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A. What is school bullying?

A situation in which one or more students ( the bullies)

single out a child ( the victim) and engage in behaviors,

intended to harm that child (Wright, 2003)

Bullying is when a stronger more powerful person hurts

or frightens a smaller or a weaker person deliberately

(on purpose) and repeatedly (Beane, 1999)

A conscious, willful and deliberate hostile activity

intended to harm, induce fear through the threat of

further aggression and create terror ( Coloroso, 2006)


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B. The types of bullying

1. Verbal Bullying : name calling, taunting, cruel

criticism, abusive phone calls, extortion of

money, etc

2. Physical Bullying: kicking, pushing, punching,slapping, hitting, etc.

3. Relational/Emotional Bullying : ignoring,

isolating, excluding, spread rumor, etc.


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C. Who is a Bully?


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All bullies have one thing in common:

Something or someone is making them feel insecure.

~Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better.

They could have something going on in their family.

They might not feel like they are getting enough

attention from parents or teachers.

They might have watched their parents or older siblingsget their way by being angry and pushy.

Maybe they are also bullied.

They might be spoiled by their parents.


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D. Who are the target of bullying?

1. The kid with special need

2. The kid who is poor or rich

3. The kid who is bright, talented or gifted

4. The kid who wear braces or glasses

5. The kid who has behaviors others find annoying

6. The kid who is fat or thin, short or tall

7. The youngest kid in the class

8. The kid may be a minority.

9. The kid may have a name that is not ordinary, etc.


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Possible reasons for being a

Target.

If the kid get anxious or upset easily.

If the kid usually is alone and doesn't have

many friends.

If the kid doesn't have a lot of confidence and

doesn't stand up for him/herself.


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E. What are the effects of

bullying?

1. Physical bullying: broken bones, broken

teeth, bruises, scratches, cuts etc.

2. Verbal : afraid, alienated, angry, ashamed,

depressed, hurt, sad, stupid, ugly, useless

3. Relational bullying: deny others company,friendship and social interaction, feel

incompetent and unattractive, stomachaches,

nightmares


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F. How to Deal with Bullying?


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What to do In the moment

Ignore them! Pretend you

didnt hear them

Dont even look

at them

Dont Cry Dont get angry Dont showthem that you

are upset

Talk about it to

someone else

Write it down so

you dont forget

to tell someone

Respond to the

Bully evenly

and firmly

Continued


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In the moment continued

Turn the

comment into

a joke.

Turn and

walk away.

Removeyourself from

the situation.

Gosomewhere

that an adult

is present.

Rememberyou are not

the one with

the problem.

The bully is.

Talk to

an

adult!


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Ways to avoid future bullying

Dont bring expensive things or money to

school.

Label your belongings with permanent marker

in case they get stolen.

Avoid unsupervised areas.

Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk with

a teacher to class.


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More ways to avoid future

bullying

Act confident. Hold

your head up, stand up

strait, and make eye

contact.

Dont walk alone, travel

with at least one other

person.

Avoid places where

bullying happens.


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G. Why do others let it happen?


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What is a bystander?

A witness


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Reasons .

The bully is someone others look up to and want

to hang out with.

They want to side with the bully because to dothat makes them feel strong.


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Reasons

Theyre entertained by the bullying.

They dont think speaking up will help.

Theyre afraid that if they say something, thebully will turn on them.


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Question for bystander...

Would you support the bullied person?

What would make you decide not to help?


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Did you know?

Bullying will stop in under 10 seconds when

peers (other children) intervene nearly 60% of

the time.

85% of bullying takes place with bystanders

present.

In playground observations, peers intervened

and stopped bullying in more instances than

adults did.


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E. If a bullying happens, what do we have

to do as a teacher?

1. Listen to the report from the victim, the witnesses or

parents

2. Pursue the victim to tell the truth

3.Talk to the perpetrator

4. Talk to the witnesses/ bystander

5. Confront the victim, witnesses and the perpetrator

about what happen.

6. Communicate with the victims parents by phone orface to face

7. Communicate with the perpetrator's parents.

8. Give consequence ( behavior contract) based on the

schools rules


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Setting up a bully-free classroom

(Source : http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php)

Hang anti-bullying posters

Talk to your students about bullying (set the tone on the first day ofclass)

Make anti-bullying part of one of your lessons Give the students a list of anti-bullying rules that you can also hangsomewhere in the classroom

Have the students sign an anti-bullying class pledge on a banner andhang that banner in the classroom

Train students on how to deal with bullying (ex: scenarios)

Do activities that promote class unity

Have an anonymous notes-to-the-teacher box

Do not allow students to pick their own groups (for group work)

Get students involved in an anti-bullying campaign

Keep your eyes and ears open at all times!

What else can be done?
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Source: http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php


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Slogans to add to posters or poems.

Get help, do not look on, do something!

Say no to bullying!

Dont just stand there, do something!


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Strategies for Teachers

Do not allow students to choose their owngroups/teams

Have assigned seating (and change seating plan ifyou see a problem arise)

Be consistent!

Take every students complaint seriously Have meetings with students to discuss bullying

issues

Get parents involved!

Be approachable

Create an open and safe environment

Provide students ways to deal with bullying

Display the Kids Help Phone number in yourclassroom (1-800-668-6868)

Others?


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A lot of people are afraid to tell the truth, to say

no. That's where toughness comes into play.

Toughness is not being a bully. It's havingbackbone.

- Robert Kiyosaki


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Resources:

1. http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teache

rs.php

2. http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php

3. Les Parsons, Bullied Teacher Bullied

Student, Grasindo: Jakarta, 2009.4. Tim Yayasan SEJIWA, Bullying,

Gramedia: Jakarta, 2008.
http://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.phphttp://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.phphttp://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.phphttp://www.bullyfree.com/resources/teachers.php


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Contact Address:

Email : [email protected] Phone no : 0813 1080 7190
mailto:[email protected]:[email protected]


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