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Bridges Out of Poverty Digging Deeper

Sarah M. Kile, BS, CPC

Sarah.m.kile@gmail.com

Payne, R. K., DeVol, P. E., & Smith, T. D. (2006). Bridges out of poverty: Strategies for professionals and communities. Highlands, TX:

Aha! Process.

No significant learning occurs

without a significant

relationship.–Dr. James Comer

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Now what?Overview

• Righting Reflex

• Encouraging Change

• Mental Models

• Assessing Importance

• Pitfalls

Choose a change you should make/will make/are making; something you would be comfortable sharing with the group.

With a partner: talk about the change for two minutes. Your partner may NOT talk –at all!

Switch!

Learning Task

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The Righting Reflex

• Everyone has a righting reflex.

• You see something that’s wrong; you fix it

• From little things (“Hang up that dish towel!”) to big things (life changes that need to be made) …

• Social services, healthcare, and other community organizations are all about change

From William Miller and Stephen Rollnick’s Motivational Interviewing

Everyone is doing the best they can with what

they have!

Remember:

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• BUILD A RELATIONSHIP

• Use mental models

• Meet people where they are.

• Help person develop THEIR goals.

• Focus on strengths.

Be a Change Cheerleader!

Source: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (1984) by Stephen Covey

Creating Relationships

From: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

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Deposits made to individuals in poverty

Withdrawals made from individuals in poverty

Appreciation for humor and entertainment provided by the individual

Put-downs or sarcasm about the humor or the individual

Acceptance of what the individual cannot say about a person or situation

Insistence and demands for full explanation of person or situation

Respect for the demands and priorities of relationships

Insistence on the middle-class view of relationships

Using the adult voice Using the parent voice

Assisting with goal setting Telling the individual his/her goals

Identifying options related to available resources

Making judgments on value and availability of resources

Understanding the importance of personal freedom, speech, and personality

Assigning negative character traits to the individual

Creating Relationships

Draw mental models for the following words:

Learning

Task

Love Religion

Celebration Divorce

Détente Concupiscence

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• Speed up learning

• Aid memory

• Save time

• Comprehend complex ideas

• Illustrate relationships and systems

• Show part to whole

• Engage and empower learners

• Quietly!

Mental Models Help…

My Life NowAdd picture of perfect life

Things that will get me from now to

then

Steps I need to take

Mental Model for Life Goals

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• Identify a concept you have a hard time helping clients/consumers/students understand.

• Regarding that concept, draw a mental model that will help with understanding.

Learning Task

• It is what they know they need.

• Make their priorities your priorities

Help People Develop THEIR Goals

It is not what I think they need

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• Everyone has strengths!

• If we focus on what they have instead of what they don’t have we move them toward success.

Focus on Strengths

How badly do you want to make this change?

•Why a 4? •Why a 4 and not a 2?

- Strength!•What would it take to get you to a 6?

- Evokes Planning!

Not at all!

Assessing Importance

0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Very Motivated

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People naturally defend their bad behaviors!

Resistance

It takes two to tango.

Consequence Driven

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/36002/

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No significant learning occurs

without a significant

relationship.–Dr. James Comer