Bridges Out of Poverty Sarah M. Kile, BS, CPC Ten Sixteen Recovery Network [email protected] creating a ripple of hope

Bridges Out of Poverty Sarah M. Kile, BS, CPC

Ten Sixteen Recovery Ten Sixteen Recovery NetworkNetwork

[email protected]@1016.org

creating a ripple of hope

No significant learning occurs

without a significant

relationship. –Dr. James Comer

Mental Model for Poverty

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Mental Model for Middle Class


Mental Model for Wealth


Survival, relationships, entertainment

Work, achievement

Financial, political, social connections

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

DRIVING FORCES


POVERTY

People

MIDDLE CLASS

Things

WEALTH

One-of-a-kind objects, legacies, pedigrees

POSSESSIONS


Present most important

Decisions made for the moment based on feelings or survival

Traditions and history most important

Decisions made partially on basis of tradition/decorum

Future most important

Decisions made against future ramifications

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

TIME


To be used, spent

To be managed

To be conserved, invested

MONEY

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

MONEY


Was it presented well? Presentation important

Did you have enough? Quantity important

Did you like it? Quality important

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

FOOD


Believes in fate Cannot do much to mitigate chance

Noblesse oblige

Believes in choiceCan change future with good choices now

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

DESTINY


Valued and revered as abstract but not as reality

Necessary tradition - making and maintaining connections

Crucial for climbing success ladder and making money

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

EDUCATION

About people and sex

About social faux pas

About situations

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

HUMOR


Tends to be matriarchal

Depends on who has the money

Tends to be patriarchal

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

FAMILY STRUCTURE


Sees world in terms of local setting

Sees world in terms of international view

Sees world in terms of national setting

POVERTY

MIDDLE CLASS

WEALTH

WORLD VIEW


FROZEN

FORMAL

CONSULTATIVE

CASUAL

INTIMATE

Registers of Language

School and BusinessSchool and Business

PovertyPoverty

Adapted from the work of Martin Joos

Source: Meaningful Differences in the Everyday Experience of Young American Children (1995) by Betty Hart & Todd R. Risley

Number of words exposed to

Economic group Affirmations (strokes)

Prohibitions (discounts)

10 million words

Welfare 1 for every 2

20 million words

Working class 2 for every 1

30 million words

Professional 5 for every 1

Research About Language in Children, Ages 1 to 3, in Stable Households by Economic

Group

My Life Now

Add picture of perfect life

Things that will get me from now to

then

Steps I need to take

Mental Model for Life Goals

Deposits

Withdrawals Seeking first to understand

Seeking first to be understood

Keeping promises Breaking promises

Kindness, courtesies

Unkindness, discourtesies

Clarifying expectations

Violating expectations

Loyalty to the absent

Disloyalty, duplicity

Apologies Pride, conceit, arrogance

Open to feedback Rejecting feedback

Source: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People (1984) by Stephen Covey

Creating Relationships

Non-judgmental, free of negative non-verbal, factual, often in question format, attitude of win-win

• In what ways able to resolve?• What are choices in this situation?

Authoritative, directive, judgmental, evaluative, win-lose mentality, demanding, punitive, sometimes threatening

• You shouldn’t do that.• Life’s not fair. Get busy.

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tDefensive, victimized, emotional, whining, losing attitude, strongly negative non-verbal

• Quit picking on me.• You made me do it.• I hate you.

Tones / Voices


Consequence Driven

Resistance

It takes two to tango.Give up power trip.

Help with future oriented thought and behavior.

From a desire to be the expert to a desire to find the expert!

To leave poverty a person must trade relationship for achievement

Respectful

No significant learning occurs

without a significant

relationship. –Dr. James Comer

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