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Three Ages Project Final Paper
Allison Slocum
4/8/15
Webber, Education 245-50
“I have neither given nor received help on this work not am I aware of any infraction of
the Honor Code.”
Introduction
I interviewed seven-year-old Ava over Face Time video chat and I chose to
interview her because she really enjoys talking and I knew she would provide me with
responses that were complete and directly reiterated her true thoughts (Sample A). I
interviewed my twelve-year-old cousin Julie who is always very cooperative and she was
able to give me very intelligent responses as I expected (Sample B). Lastly, I interviewed
a seventeen-year-old boy in my family, which allowed me to incorporate a male
perspective within my project (Sample C). I conducted the interviews with Sample B and
Sample C in person in my own home. I recorded each of the participant’s responses with
video recordings, which allowed me to ensure that I was precise and accurate in regards
to my interview notes and since I wasn’t jotting down notes, I was able to engage in a
more active conversation with each subject. I am researching and focusing on family and
peer environment in regards to a child’s socio-emotional development. I expect that the
older the participant, the more developed relationships and social understanding they will
have. For example, I will not be surprised if seven-year-old Sample A has no answer for
questions like “Why do you like your friends?”. I am also expecting that the children
will have very different views on issues such as dishonesty, whether it concerns cheating
on tests or playing unfairly on the soccer field, based on the stage of development they
are in.
Sample A Interview
1) What is your favorite thing to do in your free time? “Playing, going fun places,
and playing with my American Girl Dolls” Who do you like to spend your free
time with? “My parents and grandparents” Would you prefer to spend this free
time alone or with others? “Sometimes I like to be alone to get things done but
sometimes I like to be with people incase they have something fun to do”
2) Do you enjoy school? “Sometimes. But sometimes like when I am tired I just
want to stay home and play” What is something you like about school? “I like
doing arts and crafts and watching videos and watching Magic School Bus” What
is something you dislike about going to school? “Well I don’t like the worksheets
and there are boring times where she keeps speaking and speaking and speaking
and speaking” Do you always get along with your classmates? “Yes I always do
unless they are bullying me
3) Do you get along with your teachers? “Yes” What happens when you don’t like
something your teacher says? “When she gives worksheets I say oh I don’t want
to do this and ask if I have to” What does your teacher do when you aren’t
following directions? “She tells us its not right”
4) What happens when you do something your parents tell you not to do? “There are
punishments and I get in trouble like I have to go to time out or have bed-time
early.” Do your parents yell at you in front of other people? “Yes sometimes they
yell at me in public because they are not proud of me” How does this make you
feel “It just makes me feel really bad because I did something wrong”
5) Who do you ask for help when you need it? “I ask a grown up like a parent or
teacher” Why? “Because I know they are smart and will know the answer and I
can’t really believe kids” Are the grown ups able to help you with your problems
most of the time? “Not all the time and if they don’t then sometimes I have to ask
a kid”
6) How do you make friends in school? “Well by being nice and just friendly” Is
making friends easy or difficult for you? “Pretty much easy but sometimes
difficult” What is something you look for in a friend? “Uh I don’t know it
depends on if it’s easy or difficult”
7) How do you react when you know a friend is being dishonest? “Well at Tae
Kwon Doe this girl wore fake sunglasses and was saying they were real and she
kept saying it but I was poking her glasses and there was nothing there and then
she said she was lying. She is in fifth grade she is old and she was lying. I told
her that if she keeps lying she’s going to end up in jail because lying is bad and
will get you in jail” Is lying ever okay? “No! Never”
8) Would you consider yourself a good friend? “Yea sometimes except when my
bully is being mean I stomp around because I just get so mad” How do you cheer
up a friend when they are feeling down” Are your friends there for you when you
need them? “Sometimes” What cheers you up when you are sad? “Well all of my
friends and family and my parents and just anyone in my family really”
9) What are some things you do that make your parents proud? “Well if I read a very
long word that they’ve taught me over and over or if I pretty much just do
something that’s unexpected” How do you feel when your parents are proud of
you? “I feel proud because I am free”
10) What is a quality you don’t like to see in a person? “Huh?” What is something
you don’t like people for, like if they are a mean person, or a dishonest person? “I
don’t like when this one girl plays with her hair all the time she is only 5 and she
always just tries to be beautiful. Also I don’t like when people are mean.” How do
you treat her even though you don’t like how she acts sometimes? “Well if people
are mean I just walk away or I say that’s mean I’m going to go tell my daddy”
11) What is your favorite game to play and how do you play it? “Scrabble!” What
happens if someone changes the rules? “I get mad when people tell me what to
do” Do you always play fair? “Sometimes no and my friends get mad at me if I
sometimes play wrong and I feel really badly” How do you feel when someone
cheats “Bad because then they will win and they don’t know how to play and they
don’t know they’re cheating but I know they are cheating”
Sample B Interview
1) What is your favorite thing to do in your free time? “I like to write” How often?
“Well for school a lot of times we have a writing prompt that we have to do and
also sometimes I write stories with my friends” Would you prefer spending this
free time with others or alone? “With others” Why? “With my friends because
usually I will write a story and they will write one back. But sometimes I prefer
writing alone because I don’t really get distracted but I do like to share my writing
with other people afterwards”
2) Do you enjoy school? “Yes I like school (smiles)” Why? “I like all my teachers
and all of my friends are there and I just like to learn” What is something you
dislike about going to school? “Not really, just that for middle school I’m going to
be going to a different school than all of my friends” Do you get along with your
classmates? “Yes” What do you do if you don’t agree with something a classmate
says or does? “That doesn’t really happen a lot but I guess when it does, I don’t
know”
3) Do you get along with your teachers? “yes” What happens if you don’t like
something your teacher is doing? “I don’t know. Usually I just go along with it. I
mean most of my teachers are usually really understanding and they don’t do
that” What does your teacher do if you aren’t following directions? “She doesn’t
yell at us she just like sometimes says our names and tells us to pay attention. But
if it happens too much she will punish us a little”
4) What happens when you do something your parents tell you not to do? “They
don’t really punish us a lot. They mainly just tell us it was bad and then they
don’t really ground us” Do they yell at you? “Yes” In front of other people? “No,
not usually” What if they did? “Usually in public I don’t disobey them a lot
because I don’t want them to yell at me in front of other people so I guess that
would encourage me not to do it”
5) Who do you ask for help when you need it? “For certain things like homework I
will ask my mom and because she is a teacher she usually can help me” Is she
able to help you most of the time? “Yea usually, except for certain things because
the 4th and 6th grade curriculums are different so sometimes she’s not familiar with
the content. Usually she can’t help me with math” Whom do you go to if she
doesn’t know what to do? “I kind of go to myself because I usually don’t need
that much help with math”
6) How do you make friends in school? “Usually if I see someone we will usually
just both start talking and it comes pretty easily to me to make friends. One of my
friends started out because we sit together and we became best friends and two of
my other friends I met through her” What is something you look for in a friend?
“Someone who I can trust and that won’t really lie and someone that has a good
sense of humor”
7) How do you react when you know a friend is being dishonest? “Usually my
friends are pretty honest with each other, but when they aren’t usually I try to just
let it go because I don’t want to get mad at them and I don’t want them to get mad
at me” Do you sometimes think lying is okay? “If it’s trying not to hurt
someone’s feelings, it’s better than if it’s just like a lie to stay out of trouble or
something like that”
8) Would you consider yourself a good friend? “Yea I think because I try to be nice
so that they never really have a reason to be mad at me and I am always willing to
help them if they need help” How do you cheer up a friend when they are feeling
down? “I usually just try to make them laugh or smile and then they usually stop
being upset” Are your friends there for you when you need them? “Yea and it’s
good to know that if I need them they are there because they are also good
friends” How do they cheer you up? “Um, they usually do the same they make me
laugh because my friends are pretty funny”
9) What are some things you do that make your parents proud? “Usually mainly
schoolwork. I want myself to do good and also I know my parents want me to do
good and since I have been doing good I try to keep it up so I don’t disappoint
them”
10) What is a quality you don’t like to see in a person? “I don’t like people that are
apathetic and they don’t really care about other people” How do you treat these
people? “I usually don’t get mad at them I usually just try to point them in the
right direction and tell them what they should be doing. I do try to become
friends with them to make sure they are doing the right thing”
11) What is your favorite game to play with your friends? “I really like to play soccer
because all of my friends are on the same team as me” What happens if someone
changes the rules? Almost every time the team we play against is really pushy and
I don’t like it when the ref is young and they don’t pay as much attention to stuff
like that” How do you feel when someone cheats and what do you do? “It makes
kind of upset but I usually don’t point it out”
Sample C Interview
1) What is your favorite thing to do in your free time? “Playing soccer” How often
are you able to do this activity? “Almost everyday” Who do you like to spend free
time with? “Bobby and Nick, my friends” Would you rather spend this free time
alone or with others? “With others, because you can do more things with people”
2) Do you enjoy school? “Sure” What is something you enjoy about going to
school? “If I didn’t go to school I would be bored, so it gives me something to do”
What is something you enjoy about going to school? “Just being social, there are
people there to interact with” What is something you dislike about going to
school? “Anything that involves classes (laughing)” Do you get along with your
classmates? “Yes, for the most part” What do you do when you don’t agree with
something your classmate says or does? “I fry them up and I win my argument by
standing up for whatever I believe in” How does your teacher react to that?
“Usually they encourage it because it’s more than just them speaking. It means
that people are actually paying attention to what is going on in class”
3) Do you get along with your teachers? “Uh, for the most part” What happens when
you don’t like something your teacher is doing? “Nothing, I just ignore it. Theres
nothing I can do about it because they are the teacher” What does your teacher do
when you aren’t following directions” If we are falling behind there really isn’t a
punishment for it besides not knowing what’s going on in class”
4) What happens when you do something your parents tell you not to do? “There is a
punishment like I am grounded and can’t go out on the weekends” Do your
parents yell at you? “Sometimes but not that I can remember specifically” Do
they yell at you in front of other people? “No but I’m sure they would if they had
to” How does this punishment make you feel? “I think I would learn the lesson
without the punishment. I feel like punishment only works on little kids who don’t
realize what they did was wrong. After a certain age I think it’s pointless to
punish someone because the actual act is usually punishment enough”
5) Who do you ask for help when you need it? “My parents or someone who knows
more about the subject than me” Why do you go to this person for help? “Usually
they are more knowledgeable about what I am struggling with than I am” Is this
person able to help you? “Most of the time”
6) How do you make friends in school? “Usually through mutual friends” Is making
friends easy or difficult for you? “Easy. There is a way to relate to everyone and
it’s just easier for me than it is for some other people” What is something you
look for in a friend? “Someone who is laid back and has fun”
7) How do you react when you know a friend is being dishonest? “I don’t really care
anymore. I know the truth so it doesn’t really matter” Is lying okay sometimes?
“Yea, it depends. It’s okay when it’s more beneficial for everyone if you lie. Like
if the truth would hurt someone then it’s okay to lie”
8) Would you consider yourself a good friend? “Yes.” How would you cheer up a
friend when they are feeling down? “It depends on the situation. A lot of the times
they are just overreacting to whatever happened so I explain the situation how it
actually is not actually how they see it” Are your friends there for you when you
need them? “Sure.” What cheers you up when you are sad? “Nothing really I just
get over it because there’s nothing to be sad about for long periods of time”
9) What are some things you do that make your parents proud? “Everyday things
like manners and being a good person” How does this make you feel? “Um it
makes me feel good and verified”
10) What is a quality you don’t like to see in a person? “Negativity. Not being
happy” How do you treat others that aren’t as positive as you? “I’m nice to them
but I don’t ever try to become close with them” Why? “Because no one needs the
negativity”
Three Areas Of Development
The three areas of child development are physical, cognitive and socio-emotional.
A child’s physical development refers to individual’s tangible necessities of everyday life
and also one’s physical make-up of their organs, body and senses. A child’s cognitive
development refers to the way each individual thinks and focuses on how one’s growth
intellectually can impact his or her actions and behavior. Social development is the
aspect that explains the changes involved with capabilities regarding interacting with
others that occurs over time in a child’s growth (Feldman, 2012, pp.5).
A variety of environmental and biological factors influence the course in which
each child develops physically, cognitively, and socially. It is inevitable that children
will mature at different rates and it is reasonable to assume that a child’s accelerated
physical growth has a notable impact on his or her progression both cognitively and
socially. For example, the timing of puberty in adolescent boys has noticeably affected
one’s understanding of self-concept. Early matured boys are more likely to get heavily
involved with drugs and alcohol, while late-maturing girls are generally more confident
and have lesser reports of emotional issues and disorders (Feldman, 2012, pp.358). Each
aspect of development affects the other. A child who finds social interactions to be
troubling and who are maybe considered neglected adolescents, are more likely to
experience continued sadness and even depression associated with feelings of failure to
belong or fit in, which could very likely lead one to develop different cognitive processes
or even to develop an overweight and physically unhealthy body (Feldman, 2012,
pp.422).
Discussion
Throughout the interview process, I began to notice huge socio-emotional
differences among the children from each age group based on the variation in their
responses, or sometimes lack thereof, of each specific question I asked. After reviewing
the major developmental theorists, I came to the conclusion that the majority of my
findings were mostly consistent with Erikson’s theory and stages of psychosocial
development. However, I also noticed huge similarities in relation to Damon’s Three
Stages of Friendship as I was exploring each child’s social competence and overall
comfortability around others.
The first question I asked regarding friend relationships was “How do you make
friends in school? Is making friends easy or difficult for you? What is something that you
look for in a friend?” Delilah said that she tries to make friends by being nice and
friendly and that making friends is “pretty much easy, but sometimes difficult.” However,
when I asked what she looks for in a friend, she had a very puzzled look on her face and
was thinking for a long time before she said, “Uh, I don’t know it depends on if it’s easy
or difficult.” This somewhat illogical and incomplete response is very typical, according
to Damon, of children still in the First Stage of Friendship. In this stage, children often
report having very many friends, but they fail to understand why they are friends with
these other children (Feldman, 2012, pp. 334). I know Delilah on a very personal level
and she normally is very talkative and always has a relevant opinion or comment to give
in social settings. Her delayed and confusing response directly reflects her confusion
with the question of what she likes about her friends.
Jillian said, “Usually if I see someone we will both start talking and it comes
pretty easily.” This is proof that she probably has a pretty high social competence and is
consequently pretty successful in social settings and also explains why she has lots of
friends (Feldman, 2012, pp.335). “My friends are people who I can trust and that won’t
really like and someone that has a good sense of humor.” This is validation that she is
most likely in the Second Stage of Damon’s Theory of Friendship, which is defined as
“basing friendship on trust” (Feldman, 2012, pp.334). She very heavily stressed the
importance of trust as kids in this stage begin to take violations of trust very seriously.
However, her comment that she enjoys other children who are humorous suggests that
she is moving into the Third Stage of Friendship, in which children begin to find friends
who can provide them some sort of “psychological benefit” (Feldman, 2012, pp.335).
Samuel said, “I usually meet people through mutual friends. Making friends is
easy because there is a way to relate to everyone and it’s just easier for me than it is for
some other people.” He says that he looks for friends who are laid back like he is and
who know how to have fun. This shows clear evidence that while clearly in the Third
stage of Friendship, like other children in this stage Samuel is able to “develop clear ideas
about which behaviors they seek in their friends and which they dislike” (Feldman, 2012,
pp.335).
The next question I asked was “What is a quality you don’t like to see in a
person? Why? How do you treat others that act and think differently than you do?” I was
not surprised to see that I had to provide further explanation for seven-year-old Delilah to
provide a response to this question. She ended up describing a scenario instead of
pinpointing a characteristic she didn’t enjoy about other children. She said “I don’t like
when this one girl plays with her hair all of the time she is only five and she always just
tries to be so beautiful.” I could infer that she was upset with this child’s egocentrism and
conceited habits. She did later on mention that she doesn’t like mean children. She says
that if a child is being mean she will get up and not play with them anymore and
sometimes threatens the child with the common expression “I’m going to tell my daddy!”
At this stage in friendship, Delilah doesn’t understand how to appropriately handle
people that think differently than her or don’t play with her in such a way she would
expect. Instead, she walks away and may decide not to play with this child in the future.
Jillian was very quick to reply “I don’t like people that are apathetic and don’t
really care about other people.” This response surprised me because it shows a much
deeper association with a child in Stage Three of Friendship as Damon explains an
individual in this stage of development can clearly explain and support behaviors in
which they dislike. She goes on to explain that she tries to point other children in the
right direction when it comes to being empathetic and putting others first, instead of
belittling them or neglecting their existence. This characteristic Jillian possesses, this
understanding of others, probably has contributed to her popularity in middle childhood.
According to Feldman (2012), “generally popular children are friendly, open, and
cooperative.” At twelve-years-old, Jillian has demonstrated a clear shift from Stage One
of Friendship to the earlier Stage Three of Friendship according to developmental theorist
Damon.
Although Samuel and Jillian are probably experiencing the same stages of
friendship, they seemed to have very different approaches to people that think differently
than themselves. Sam responded that if people are negative all of the time he is nice to
them, but he doesn’t at all make an effort to be friends with someone who doesn’t think
or act as optimistically as he does. This shows that Jillian is still experiencing Stage Two
of Friendship according to Damon because he relationships with other children are not so
heavily focused on psychological benefits, as Samuels actions portray otherwise. If
Samuel doesn’t receive satisfaction from someone, he does not spend time with this
person. Jillian may not relate to another child psychologically, but she always makes the
effort to make friends with another person and even feels so strongly that she can
influence a person’s way of thinking that she is willing to actually spending more time
with this person who she may not always see eye-to-eye with.
The theorist I most related to my findings was Erikson, specifically in regards to
his Theory of Psychosocial Development. This theory suggested that there are 8 stages
an individual goes through in their lifetime and it “considers how individuals come to
understand themselves and the meaning of others’-and their own-behavior” (Feldman,
2012, pp.185). I can clearly identify seven-year-old Delilah in the stage of initiative-
versus-guilt in which a child begins to notice themselves as an individual and starts to
develop their own sense of self and in this stage children also begin to make decisions on
their own. Jillian seemed to fit within the later portion of the industry-versus inferiority
stage, which mostly encompasses children between ages six and twelve years old.
Samuel seem to refer to behaviors associated with children in the identity-versus-identity-
confusion stage in which he has evidently become pretty confident in who he is as an
individual and is aware of the logic behind his behaviors in social settings. Each child,
probably mostly because of their differences in age, I found to be closely related to one or
another of Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial development. I really didn’t observe any
inconsistencies within his theory in comparison to my findings throughout the three
interviews.
I later asked Delilah, “How do you react when you know a friend is being
dishonest? Is lying ever okay?” She explained a situation in which a friend from her Tae
Kwon Doe class was lying and she told her “if you keep lying you’re going to end up in
jail.” Delilah acted according to her own decisions regarding her feelings on dishonesty
and made it very apparent that she would not tolerate it. She said that she doesn’t think
lying is ever okay that it is always bad. This independent decision-making shows that
Delilah is experiencing Erikson’s initiative-versus-guilt stage. She explained that she
used to get punished when she used to lie when she was little and she said, “yes I made a
lot of mistakes when I was younger. It made me feel really bad.” Freud’s Theory of
Psychoanalytic Personality Development suggests that young children’s “attempt to
avoid experiencing negative emotions sometimes lead them to act in more moral, helpful
ways” (Feldman, 2012, pp.263). Delilah, probably heavily influenced by negative
consequences from her parents, doesn’t think it is ever okay to lie. She has probably
been told that such behaviors are not morally or socially acceptable and the punishment
she receives encourages her to against such actions of dishonesty.
Jillian has been successful in the industry-versus-inferiority stage; she has
experienced great academic and social success. I asked her “What is something you do
that makes your parents proud? How does this make you feel?” She said, “Mainly
schoolwork. I want myself to do good and I also know my parents want me to do good
so I try to keep it up so I don’t disappoint them.” Jillian clearly successfully met the goal
of this stage, which is coping with the “challenges presented by parents, peers, school,
and other complexities” (Feldman, 2012, pp.328). She is also aware of her success and
her potential as an individual, which suggests that she may be entering the next
developmental stage. She even has goals for the future to maintain her responsible
behaviors. When asked, “Is lying ever okay?” Jillian understands her feelings enough to
produce a highly intelligent response that suggest that lying is okay under certain
conditions. This mindset, the idea that nothing is concrete, shows that she has
successfully coped with balancing the various complexities of everyday life.
Samuel clearly is in the identity-versus-identity stage. When I asked him about
lying he said “I don’t care if I find my friends are lying anymore because I know the truth
so it doesn’t really matter.” This is proof that Samuel has developed a confidence in his
beliefs and he feels he knows exactly who he is and can justify his feelings and behaviors
with his own definition of morality. He doesn’t respect a dishonest person, but he does
believe that lying is sometimes okay if the truth is going to hurt someone else. Erikson
states that children who are successful in this stage “learn their unique capabilities and
believe in them, and they develop an accurate sense of who they are” (Feldman, 2012,
pp.408).
Recommendation
Delilah, although she is very good at communicating her thoughts with others, I
was surprised at some of her social habits. What alarmed me the most was how often she
mentioned “bullies” and talked about children being mean to her when I asked her
questions about her behaviors and feelings in social settings. I am not sure if she has had
some experience in the recent past that exaggerated her response. However, I don’t think
this should go ignored. I think that Delilah definitely has problems making friends
sometimes, and whether or not its due to her own behavior, I still would recommend that
she see a therapist or a school counselor that would be able to assess the situation.
Bullying can lead victims into anger, depression, and to adopt methods of self-harm
while their confidence has been destroyed. In fact, a recent study has proven that “bullied
children had lower and longer-lasting cortisol response to stress than the comparison
group, suggesting that bullying invokes biological changes in victims with potential long-
lasting impacts” (Mundbjerg, 2014). Kids are mean, but clearly the actions of other
children that Delilah interacts with are affecting the way she thinks and acts and that is
what concerns me the most, especially because she is so young. Delilah responded that
she likes school sometimes, but other times she would rather stay at home and play by
herself. A recent study confirmed that experiencing peer rejection does in fact lead to
“less favorable attitudes toward school, greater school avoidance, and lower levels of
academic performance” (Lindsey).
Conclusion
I was able to identify theories of development in each of the children I
interviewed. These became apparent to me not only by the responses of the children, but
there also by there body language and even by their tone related to each subject. For
example, the children that seemed to be more socially competent were more excited
about questions related to school and were more eager to talk about and elaborate social
situations with their peers and friends. Almost all of my findings were completely on
track with the ideas of the theorists I related to. However, I was very shocked, even
though Erikson explained normalcy in such findings, that the seven-year-old I
interviewed really didn’t have an understanding of why she liked her friends.
Overall, my interviews went very smoothly. I only had to explain a few questions
for Delilah, but once I elaborated or gave an example she was able to give her own
individual response quite intelligently for her age. The older kids, Samuel and Jillian,
were a little less engaged with the questions than was Delilah who was very excited that I
was interviewing her. Sometimes I was forced to ask them more questions when they
were giving me one-word responses. Other than that, I was able to conduct my research
very fluidly.
If I had the opportunity to follow-up and spend more time on this project I
wouldn’t necessarily ask different or additional questions. I think it would be interesting
to have had time to interview a boy and a girl from each age group. I did interview a
seven-year-old boy informally as well and I was very shocked at the differences I
noticed. The girl was way more engaged and elaborated her responses quicker. The boy
often had to think about the questions for a longer period of time. The boy seemed to
remember less about their childhood, but was more eager to talk about his social life and
time spent with friends while the girl seemed to enjoy family time spent with her parents.
Obviously there could be other factors that affected these differences besides gender, but
I think it is reasonable to assume that it does play a role in childhood development.
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