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Betrayal Trauma

"I propose that the core issue is betrayal -- a betrayal of trust that produces conflict between external reality and a

necessary system of social dependence." Jennifer J. Freyd

Betrayal Blindness is the unawareness, not-knowing,

and forgetting exhibited by people towards betrayal.

This blindness may extend to betrayals that are not

traditionally considered "traumas," such as adultery,

inequities in the workplace and society, etc. 1 Dr.

Jennifer J. Freyd, who is author of the terms "BetrayalTrauma" and "Betrayal Trauma Theory," wrote in

1999 "We now have a much clearer picture of the

conditions that make human memory vulnerable to

suggestion and distortion. We are beginning to

understand the relevance of factors such as event plausibility and social

authority." 2 As we go deeper we learn that victims, perpetrators, and

witnesses may exhibit Betrayal Blindness in an effort to maintain

relationships, institutions, and social systems upon which they depend.

This is part five (5) of a seven (7) part series examining why Black Leadership

rejects the Pro-Life movement, is helping to perpetrate the genocide of their own

people and what can be done to reverse this horrific reality.

Betrayal Trauma: Turning A Blind Eye

"You're not supposed to be so blind with patriotism that you can't face reality. Wrong is wrong, no matter who does it or

says it." MALCOLM X, speech, Thursday, January 7th, 1965. Just six (6) weeks before he was assassinated

Sunday, February 21st, 1965 in Manhattan's Audubon Ballroom.


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The Number Four Reason Black

leadership rejects the Pro-Life

movement is that he or she is: Un-

Informed. According to the Alan

Guttmacher Institute (AGI), the

former research arm of Planned

Parenthood, 30% Of All Abortions

Are Performed On BlackWomen. 3 According to the

National Vital Statistics Reports

of 2009, in 2005 there were 587,000

Live Black Births, 452,000

Induced Black Abortions and 292,808 Black Deaths from all causes,

excluding induced abortion. 4 If we do the math we have 587,000Live Black

Births against 744,808 Black Deaths (i.e., 452,000 Induced Black

Abortions + 292,808Black Deaths from all other causes) which equates to a

Black Life Deficit of a Negative 157,808. 5 Abortion, which has taken the

lives of more Black Americans than heart disease, cancer, strokes,

accidents, diabetes, homicide, and chronic lower respiratory diseases

combined, is the number one (1) cause of death in Black America. 6 In the

last thirty-eight (38) years Black Americans have suffered the loss of over

twenty (20) million lives to abortion alone. 7 Still further, these numbers do not

include those aborted by abortifacients such as ellaOne 8 or by "private

physicians' procedures." How is it

possible for Black Leadership to

miss this? Is simply being Un-

Informed a plausible explanation?Could the depth of our responsibility

for the death of our own children be

so deep, that we can no longer

fathom right from wrong? Could the

blood on our hands be so rich and

red, that we blind ourselves to the

truth? Could the pain from helping

to perpetrate the genocide of our own people have left us blind, deaf and

dumb? Could the cost of the silence in our pulpits have left us morally

bankrupt? Could the results ofour own betrayal of our cherished Christian

values be so traumatic that in order to maintain relationships with

institutions, and social authorities, we deliberately turned a "Blind Eye" to the

realities of abortion all around us and in plain sight?

Betrayal Trauma: Was Blind, But Now I See

"Amazing grace, how sweet the sound, that sav'd a wretch like me! I once was lost, but now am found, was blind, but now

I see." Christian hymn written by English poet and clergyman John Newton, (17251807)


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I was not always aware of the

creeping culture of death in my own

community. Like many I relied on

others (Black Leadership) to keep

me informed. If I did not hear a

biblical perspective from the pulpit,

it was not relevant to my world.Yes,

I was wrong. While our Pastors

and leaders bear the responsibility of being watchmen on the wall (Ezekiel

33:1-6), as a member of the Body of Christ, I have a personal responsibility to

my Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ to apply His Word to my life at all times. For

years, I was guilty of living out my Christianity through others. Finally, God

used the pre-mature birth of my son and the immediate possibility of his death

to open my eyes. It was not until I knew better that I was available to God that

I might do better. With more death than life in Black America, the clock is

ticking and our survival is what's running out of time. IfJude 229 is right, then

all we need to do is strengthen our performance of compassionate acts.

Surely, more of this is needed. However, in light of the Apostle Paul's 2nd

Timothy 4:310 warning, Jude 2311 is what must be done today to reach my

people.

!THE QUESTION IS: Who among us is willing to risk it all by going into a

house on fire to wrestle with those who are burning in the fires of betrayal

trauma?

! THE ANSWER IS: Only those who have already suffered the burns of

betrayal trauma and bear in their body the marks of the Lord Jesus Christ

(Galatians 6:17), can rescue those who are blind to the fires of betrayal.

This is why I sing "AMAZING GRACE, how sweet the sound, that sav'd a

wretch like me! I once was lost, but now am found, was blind, but now I see."

Brothers, we really need to talk.

Reference(s):

01. Freyd, J.J. Memory repression, dissociative states, and other cognitive control processes involved in adult sequelae of

childhood trauma. Invited paper given at the Second Annual Conference on A Psychodynamics - Cognitive Science

Interface, Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute, University of California, San Francisco, August 21-22, 1991.

02. Freyd, J.J. (2009). What is a Betrayal Trauma? What is Betrayal Trauma Theory? Retrieved Friday, August 26th,

2011 from: http://bit.ly/q0Uuop.

03. Alan Guttmacher Institute, State Facts About Abortion: California (http://bit.ly/hPeqLo).

04. National Vital Statistics Report: Vol. 58, No. 4 - Oct. 14, 2009 (http://bit.ly/d5K3jk).

05. National Vital Statistics Report: Vol. 58, No. 8 - Dec. 23, 2009 (http://bit.ly/hjtsxt). (http://bit.ly/hjtsxt)

06. "Abortion kills more black Americans than seven leading causes of death combined, says Centers for Disease Control

data" (http://bit.ly/dMDHJshttp://bit.ly/dMDHJshttp://bit.ly/dMDHJs).

07. "Over Twenty (20) Million Aborted: Why Planned Parenthood Targets The Inner-City", February 11th, 2010

(http://bit.ly/ewh67w)).

08. "Abortifacients", Life Issues Connector, February 2010 edition (http://bit.ly/gQwyqM).

09. Jude 22, "And of some have compassion, making a difference." (KJV)

10. 2nd Timothy 4:3, "For the time will come when they will not listen to the sound doctrine, but, having itching ears, will

heap up for themselves teachers after their own lusts." (KJV)

11. Jude 23, "And others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire; hating even the garment spotted by the flesh." (KJV)


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