August 17 Shabbat Announcements

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Parshat Ki Teitzei August 17, 2013 11 Elul, 5773

Parshas Ki Teitzeicontains one of theTorah's more perplexingchapters -- the laws ofthe Wayward andRebellious Son (BenSorer U'Moreh). Thesituation involves a malechild between the agesof 13 and 13 and a halfwho begins to "act out"in a very dangerousmanner. He steals fromhis parents. He isgluttonous in hisconsumption of meat andwine. The Torahprescribes very severepunishment: The parentsmust bring the child intocourt and the Beis Dinwill sentence him tostoning, the most severeof the capitalpunishments mentionedin the Torah.

The Talmud in Sanhedrinasks why the Torah wasso harsh with the BenSorer U'Moreh forbehavior that certainlydoes not warrant thedeath penalty. TheGemara answers that theTorah realizes what theeventual outcome ofsuch an adolescent willbe. Eventually, he willnot be able to sustain hislifestyle financially and

will come to rob from people.He will eventually get into analtercation in which he willtake someone's life. It is betterthat he be put to death whenhe is relatively innocent thanlet him come to thievery,robbery, and eventuallymurder when he would bedeserving of the deathpenalty!

The Gemara adds at leastaccording to one opinion thatthe situation of a Ben SorerU'Moreh never actuallyoccurred and never couldoccur. The reason for this isthat the legal conditionsnecessary to execute such achild are so exacting andunlikely that it is virtuallyimpossible for them to evercome to fruition. The Gemarajustifies the fact that an"impossible" event is dealtwith at length in the Chumash

and in the Talmud with theprinciple "come expound itslessons and receive reward forthat" (drosh v'kabel sechar).

In one sense, this can beunderstood to mean that sinceit is part of the Torah, we willreceive reward for studying it,irrespective of the practicalapplication of these laws (inthe same way that we receivereward nowadays for studyingthe laws of the Temple or

Rabbi Frand on Parshat Ki Teitzeiother ritual practices that weare no longer able toobserve on a practical level.)

However, Rabbi Abraham JTwerski has a differentinsight in the expressiondrosh v'kabel sechar. Hemaintains that the Torah isteaching us a lesson herewhich should be expoundedand for which we will gain

practical insight and advice.The Torah is talking hereabout a concept which hasperhaps become in vogueover the last 15 or 20 years,but was unheard of beforethat. This is the concept of"tough love," which theTorah introduced manymillennia before anypsychologist or social workerever came up with theexpression. Rabbi AbrahamJ. Twerski is himself apracticing psychiatrist and

his area of specialization isaddictions. He deals with theproblem of drug addiction,which unfortunately, is not arare problem even in ourown community.

As a practicing psychiatristwho has dealt with this, hemakes the statement thatthe only way a person whohas an addiction is going tobe cured is through "toughlove". That "tough love"

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means the parents who have such a child must at timesact in ways that seem insensitive and cruel to the child.The parents cannot just keep providing the child withmoney to feed his habit. If it means that the child will bearrested for stealing money from others or that he willhave to spend time in jail as a result of his crimes, so beit. The eventuality and the inevitability of a person whohas an addiction problem is that the only way it is goingto be ultimately dealt with is if it is to be cured once and

for all. When the Torah records the Parsha of theWayward and Rebellious son, it is informing us of theprinciple of "tough love".

No human being is more merciful than the All MercifulOne. How then can this Torah of Kindness whose waysare the ways of pleasantness proscribe that parentsshould take their children to court to have themexecuted? The answer is that this is the ultimate mercy,because the alternative is even worse than that.

Just as if Heaven Forbid a child should have amalignancy on his leg and the only chance for survivalwould require amputation of the leg, the parents whobrought that child to the hospital to have his leg

amputated would not be viewed as cruel parents but asmerciful parents, so too this idea applies to the(theoretical) case of parents who have to bring theirWayward and Rebellious son to Beis Din to undergo thepunishment proscribed for a Ben Sorer U'Moreh. This isthe only way, under those circumstances, to save atleast the "World to Come"- of this child. The "Droshv'kabel Sechar" of this chapter is that sometimes "toughlove" must be applied.

I always say never to pasken halacha (act in practice)based on ideas and opinions presented in my lectures.Certainly, regarding interacting with children andapplying "tough love" to children acting out, no oneshould pasken from a lecture. But the concept is a valid

one in certain situations of child rearing and it is a primelesson which we should be aware of in studying the lawsof Ben Sorer U'Moreh: Sometimes what appears to becruel, is the biggest salvation for a child.

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Dale Polakoff, RabbiIan Lichter, Assistant Rabbi

Dr. Ephraim Wolf ,zl, Rabbi EmeritusZeev Kron, Cantor

Eleazer Schulman, zl, Cantor EmeritusRabbi Sholom Jensen, Youth Director

Zehava & Michael Atlas, Youth DirectorsMark Twersky, Executive Director

Rabbi Avraham Bronstein, Program DirectorDr. Scott Danoff, President

Harold Domnitch, Chairman of the BoardDena Block, Yoetzet Halacha

Shabbat Announcements Parshat Ki Seitzei 5773

Great Neck Synagogue 2013Summer Learning Program

Tuesday, August 20Dinner 7:30pm/Mincha 8:00pm

Maariv following lecture

DR. MARC SHAPIRO

Weinberg Chair in Judaic Studies,

University of Scranton

Are We Really One?

Orthodox Separatisim From Rabbi Samson

Raphael Hirshs Germany Until Today

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GNS 6TH ANNUAL ROSH HASHANAPASS IT FORWARD HUNGER INITIATIVE

MONDAY SEPTEMBER 2, 2013BRING THE SWEETNESS OF ROSH HASHANA TO THOSE IN NEED!

Now in its 6th year, the PASS IT FORWARD program of the GNS Hunger Initiative provides food to fami-lies for Yom Tov. Last year, volunteers packed and delivered o v e r 1 0 0 0 m e a ls to needy individuals,families, kosher food pantries and North Shore Hospital Bikur Cholim.

HERES HOW YOU CAN HELP ! Donate Food: If you have a kosher kitchen (separate meat and dairy utensils and kosher certification onall processed foods), make extra food (soup, main, side or dessert) and pack it in containers serving4-8 (no bags please!) Deliver it to GNSCOAT ROOM LOBBY on MONDAY SEPTEMBER 2NDbetween 11 and 1 pm.Donate $$: Purchase a special meal for a $18 contribution from Mazurs, Great Neck Glatt or Everfresh,which will be delivered on your behalf. Or make a donation directly to the GNS Hunger Initiative.Donate Time: We need packers (from 10:30 am to 3 pm) and drivers for about 25 different routes,starting from 2:00 pm TO 5:00 PM on MONDAY SEPTEMBER 2ND starting at GNS Coat Lobby.Donate Creativity: Have your child create a specialhandmade Rosh HaShana card to be enclosed in the fooddelivery. Drop them by Synagogue Office.ALL VOLUNTEERS PLEASE EMAIL:

MICHELLE BERMAN: [email protected]

CINDY HODKIN: [email protected]

Do A Mitzvah... Make Life Meaningful. Rosh HaShana is coming.

GREAT NECK SYNAGOGUE MENS CLUB

SUNDAY, AUGUST 25 at 1:10 pm

JEWISH HERITAGE DAY AT CITIFIELDAlso: Tom Seaver All-Star bobblehead Day

Mets vs Tigers

Discounted Price of $30 - Seats are Field Level

For Tickets Please ContactJack Lipsky (516) [email protected] Hilly Milun (516) 448-4890 [email protected]

Yes! We will be joining you at the Ball Game!

Name ______________________________________________ Phone # __________________

Number of tickets __________ at $30 each $ _____________________

Please make checks to GNS Mens Club and send to Synagogue office


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ANNOUNCEMENTS

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SPONSORSHIPSTo sponsor a Kiddush, Seudah Shlishit, Sunday Breakfast, YouthEvent, Bima Flowers or a leaf on the Tree of Life in honor or in

memory of a loved one, please call Mark Twersky in theSynagogue office 487-6100 or email [email protected].

Saturday, 11 ElulGloria Faizakoff for Rose Cohen

Felix Glaubach for Ethel GlaubachJerome Goodman for Florence Goodman

Larry Horn for Irene HornJacqueline Hott for Morris Rose

Sunday, 12 ElulJeffrey Friedman for Ettie Friedman

Sharon Goldwyn for Solomon GoldwynElaine Miller for Harry GrantEllen Siegel for Anna Givner

Monday, 13 ElulEsther Ambalu for Babajan Yoav VardiMeredith Bachrach for Maureen Shapiro

Serge Fischler for Abraham FischlerEbrahim Gabbaizadeh for Tova Gabbaizadeh

Leslie Kahn for Fanny EismanTuesday, 14 Elul

Harriet Frederick for Erwin SillemEdith Lubin for Harry Feigenbaum

Elaine Wolf for Sydney MillerWednesday, 15 Elul

Lillian Leiderman for Rebecca TillemThursday, 16 Elul

Al Leiderman for Hyman PlotkinMichail Litvin for Elik Litvin

Susan Mindick for Rose KaufmanFriday, 17 Elul

Claire Behar for Bella WinstonMarilyn Freedman for Ivan Cohen

Leo R. Mindick for Gertrude Mindick

GNS UPCOMING EVENTS

MENS CLUB UPCOMING EVENTSSUN., AUG 25, 1:00PM: Join us for "Jewish Heritage Day" at

CitiField, where the NY Mets will be playing the Detroit Tigers.Tickets (behind 1st base) are $30 each. Please e-mail Jack Lipskyat [email protected] or call Hilly Milun at 504-0320.

SUN., OCT 13: Semi-Annual Blood Drive.

SUN., OCT 27, 10:00 am: The diplomatic correspondent for The

Jerusalem Post, Herb Keinon, will be talking on the political and

diplomatic situation in Israel, and present his view on the currentPeace talks.

SUN., NOV 10, 10:00am: We are thrilled that ReverendKenneth Meshoe, an elected member of the South Africanparliament and a staunch supporter of Israel will be speaking atour breakfast that morning.

SUN., NOV 17, 2:00PM : A trip to NYC, together with Dos YiddishVort, to the Yiddish Theater to see " Lies My Father Told Me ",

a musical in English with Yiddish. Cost is $65 per person, whichincludes the bus, theater tickets and a light dinner. Please contactRos Wagner 487-9795.

SUMMER LEARNING PROGRAM

The next learning program will take place on August 20.Sponsors are welcome. To sponsor or dedicate a day of learningat $180 please contact Rabbi Lichter at [email protected] [email protected]. General sponsorships are available at $100per family.

HIGH HOLIDAYSWith the High Holidays taking place right after Labor Day, we are

asking that all members take care of their outstanding financialobligations in a timely manner to insure that seats for the holidayswill be able to be sent out. Those in arrears will not be able to obtaintheir seats unless arrangements for payment have been made.If you have any questions, please speak to Mark Twersky orElie Cohen our Treasurer.

BAKE BROWNIES FOR PASS IT FORWARDOnce again, we have Brownie mix for you to bake for Pass ItForward! Its a great activity to do with your children or

grandchildren; and a wonderful way to participate in this mitzvah.

Bake them, place them in the freezer, well wrapped, and then dropthem off on September 2, between 11 1, at the Great NeckSynagogue. Mixes and pans can be picked up from the front porchof 11 Margaret Court. Call Michelle Berman (516)697-0522with any questions.

Mazal Tov to Ellen & Rabbi Dale Polakoffon the birthof a granddaughter Gila Yaffa/Gail Ava, born to theirchildren Ilana & Dr. Shlomo Barry.

HASHKAMA MINYANKiddush is sponsored by Mel Fox in honor of his birthday andby Marilyn & Jeff Freedman in memory of his mother

Ettie Freedman, zl.

INTERGENERATIONAL MITZVAH OPPORTUNITY FOR

ROSH HASHANAThe GNS HUNGER INITIATIVE sponsors a program known asPASS IT FORWARD, in which deliveries of food for the holidays aremade to needy individuals and families. Be a part of this mitzvah!Spend some time on LABOR DAY, MONDAY SEPTEMBER 2nd withus, either packing and/or delivering food for the Yom Tov.Packing will be at the GNS Coat Lobby, from 10:30- 2:30 pm,

with two hour shifts possible (10:30-12:30 or 12:30 - 2:30).Deliveries begin at 3:00 pm to communities in Long Island orQueens. For the deliveries, ALL AGES are invited! Parents, bringyour kids! It's an amazing experience. For the packing, wewelcome adults and children ages 12 and up. Please let us know if

you are interested. We need drivers, packers, bakers, cooks anddonors. Full instructions on page three. This year, we especiallyneed drivers on Labor Day, Monday Sept 2nd, to deliver food tothose in need.

Contact Cindy Hodkin [email protected] Michelle Berman [email protected]

FYIDr. Paul Brody will be receiving The Israel Leadership Award atChazaqsInaugural Dinner, to be held at Leonards on Monday,August 26th. For further information call Yaniv at 917-617-3636.

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