Attitudes that affect others

Negative attitudes

Selfishness• One who thinks of himself first.

Often he hoards and doesn’t share

• Luke 15:25-32, the prodigal’s brother

•Galatians 5:20, work of the flesh

•Philippians 2:3-4, 1 Corinthians 13:5

Causes one to neglect othersViews others with improper

perspectiveCan lead to ungodly conduct

Pride and arrogance• Pride – thinks more highly of

himself than he ought to• Arrogance – an attitude of

superiority toward others• Naaman 2 Kn. 5:11-13,

Haman – Esther, Nebuchadnezzar, Pharisee – Luke 18:11

•Proverbs 8:13, 16:18•1 Cor. 13:4, Rom. 12:3, Phil. 2:3 – lowliness of mind

Causes one to talk down to others

Hinders opportunities to teach

Can cause avoidanceUnattractive

Bitterness• An attitude that is sharp, harsh

and antagonistic, resentment, etc.• Can cause great damage• Cain Genesis 4:5-8

Simon the magician Acts 8:23Jonah Jonah 4

•Ephesians 4:31, James 3:14

Causes one to act harshly toward others

Look at others with jaded perspective

An unpleasant demeanorProverbs 22:24

Envy and Jealousy• A feeling of discontent or covetousness

toward the advantages of others. Resentful

• Sarah and Hagar, Rachel and Leah, Joseph’s brothersKing Saul and David 1 Sam. 18-19Matthew 27:18

•Galatians 5:21, James 3:14-16 •1 Peter 2:1, Romans 13:13

Damages relationships and trust

Can cause one to turn against others

Can consume you

Contentious• One seeking or causing strife or

conflict resulting in rivalry or discord

• “ Content” Jude 3• While we are to contend, we do

not need to be contentious•Proverbs 18:6, 1 Cor. 1:11Galatians 5:20

•Galatians 5:26, 15

Affects our brethrenAffects those outside – continually finding fault

A disposition that causes you to be avoided

Proverbs 18:19

Overly critical• One constantly looking for what is

wrong with others• There is a place for “legitimate”

criticism by one who is QUALIFIED!• Proper experience, attitude and

motives• Jesus was criticized often – Matt.

12:2, John 9:14-16Moses criticized – Num. 16, 12:1-2

•1 Corinthians 13:6, Eph. 4:31James 1:19

He sows discordCan cause others to not seek answers or discuss

thingsOften makes others

uncomfortable!

Calloused• Hardened, uncaring in words

and demeanor• Hardened heart – Luke 8:12, Hebrews 3:13, 1 Tim. 4:2

• Pharaoh an example Exodus 8:15, 4:21

• Christians are to care - 1 Cor. 13:4-5, 1 Peter 3:8

Will do little good with othersLeads to many of previous

attitudesMore likely to turn others

away than win them

Grumpiness, ill-willed• Bad tempered, sulky, surly. • While not directly mentioned in the

Bible, it is contrary to attitudes we ought to have

• Examples: Nabal (Abigail) 1 Sam. 25:3, 17, 24-25King Saul and his distressing spirit 1 Sam. 16:14, 19:9

• Does this portray Jesus favorably?Does this demonstrate joy?James 5:9, Phil. 2:14-15, 1 Pet. 3:8

Describes one that is unpleasant to be around.Often he is not kind with

others

Christians ought to live so that others are at ease around us (as a

rule)We all face

difficulties at times, but even then, we CAN

STILL control our attitude around others

How do you act around others?