A healthy self image antidote to bullying

A Healthy Self-image: Antidote to BULLYING

Presented by: Jayson S. Hernandez, RGC

Objectives:

•At the end of the session, participants will be able to:

Understand and discuss bullying, its forms and effects.

Develop and implement preventive measures to address bullying

CASE ANALYSIS

• Case 1:

Nicole is a 18 year old young lady. Her classmate Sheila always pulls her long and shiny hair. Nicole told Sheila to stop but the latter continues to do it. As a result, Nicole got upset and does not want to go to school anymore because of embarrassment.

CASE ANALYSIS

• Case 2:

Samantha has a purely dark skin because of her complexion her classmates teased her, that people with dark skin has bad odor and usually possess some virus. She cried because she’s helpless and nobody helped her. She feels weaker and anxious.

CASE ANALYSIS

• Case 3:

Joshua always hears bad remarks because of his old style of dressing. His clothes are out of fashion because of poverty. His classmates give him some funny name calling. Other classmates would laugh at it most of the time. He feels more rejected and humiliated every time this happens.

CASE ANALYSIS

•Case 4:

As Darlene is getting on the hallway. Amy sticks out her foot and trips her. Darlene stumbles and almost falls while Amy is heard saying loudly to a friend, “Darlene is so fat she can’t fit down the aisle.” Darlene is still standing in the aisle and its clear that she’s about to cry. As Amy and her friends are doubled up with laughter.

ANALYSIS

1. What were common in the cases presented?

2. What were your insights and realization from the given cases?

DEFINITION OF BULLYING

Refers to willful aggressive behavior that is directed, often, repeatedly, towards a particular victim who may be:

out-numbered

younger

differently abled

less psychologically confident

or otherwise vulnerable

DEFINITION OF BULLYING

A form of violence defined as repeated and systematic harassment and attacks on others

Is essentially intimidating people perceived as weak or weaker, than the bully, which is characterized by a pattern of behavior rather than an isolated event which makes it distinct from other forms of violence

FORMS OF BULLYING

•Physical Bullying

- Any unwanted, hurtful and sudden physical contact between the bully and the victim, with the victim having no means to defend themselves.

FORMS OF BULLYING

•Sexual Bullying

- The act that embarrass, annoy, irritate, threat and torment the mind of the victim, which results in an intimidating, hostile or offensive environment for the victim.

FORMS OF BULLYING

•Emotional Bullying

- An act that causes the victim undue emotional distress like directing foul language or profanity at the target.

FORMS OF BULLYING

•Cyber Bullying

- any conduct resulting in harassment, intimidation or humiliation through electronic means or other technology such as, but not limited to texting, email, instant messaging, chatting, internet, social networking website or other platforms or format.

FORMS OF BULLYING

•Social Bullying

- any deliberate, repetitive and aggressive social behavior intended to hurt others or to belittle another individual or group.

FORMS OF BULLYING

•Gender-based Bullying

- any act that humiliates or excludes a person on the basis of perceived or actual sexual orientation and gender identity (SOGI).

EFFECTS OF BULLYING

•Harmful to social, physical, psychological, and academic impact on the bullies, the victims, and the bystanders.

For example:

oVictims of bullying may suffer depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, and feelings of isolation, as well as school absenteeism and low academic achievement.

oVictims may develop risk factors for violent acts.

EFFECTS OF BULLYING

•Bullying incidents may create a negative school climate impacting the learning environment of all students.

ROOT CAUSE OF BULLYING

•POOR SELF-IMAGE CAUSING POOR SOCIAL SKILLS

DEFINITION OF SELF-IMAGE

• SELF-IMAGE

-is the mental picture about ourselves. It is made up of many self-perceptions we have acquired growing-up, especially in our formative years. It is a composite of all past relationships and experiences. The attitudes that make up a person's self-image continually reinforce themselves. "Nothing is more important to emotional health than a wonderful feeling of self-worth."

CHARACTERISTICS OF A PERSON WITH A GOOD SELF-IMAGE

A person with a good self-image will display these characteristics:

• He/She feels comfortable about himself/herself

• He/She feels right about other people

• He/She is able to meet the demands of life

MANIFISTATIONS OF A POOR SELF-IMAGE

• Reveal themselves by their critical and jealous nature

• The way a person reacts to criticism and laughter

• Uncomfortable when alone or inactive

• Breakdown of motivation

• Too much emphasis on material things

15 STEPS TO A HEALTHY SELF-IMAGE

STEP 1

•Take inventory. No one on the face of this earth can make you feel inferior without your permission. You should like yourself as you are – 3 reasons: common sense demands it, science explains it and the Bible verifies it.


STEP 2

•When you make up and dress up, you look up. Both men and women feel more confident when they know their appearance is good.


STEP 3

•Regular read inspirational books. You will be inspired to be more and do more. We read about others succeeding, we visualize ourselves doing the same thing.


STEP 4

•Listen to speakers, teachers, and preachers who build mankind. You are safe to assume that any book, speaker, movie, TV program, individual or recording that builds mankind will build you and your self-image.


STEP 5

•Build a healthy self-image with a series of short steps. Start a new venture with a phase or portion you are confident you can handle, then transfer that initial accomplishment from one area of success to another.


STEP 6Join the smile and compliment club. When you smile at people and they smile back, you automatically feel better (and it definitely increase your face value). Even if they don't smile back, you will feel better because you know the most destitute person in the world is the one without a smile. When you sincerely compliment a person or extend him/her a courtesy, he/she going to receive a direct benefit and like himself/herself better. One of the best ways to make anyone else better is to spread optimism and good cheer.


STEP 7

• Do something for someone else. If you will do something for someone who is unable to return the favor, you will get a lot more than you can possibly give. In so many cases, what you give will mean much to the recipient, but the feeling you get when you do something for someone who cannot do for himself/herself is indescribable. You will realize that you are truly fortunate, that you do have a lot to be thankful for, that, you can make a contribution, and that you are, in fact, somebody. In short, you will stand tall in your own eyes, which is the bonus you get because you look what you had and unselfishly used it for someone else's good.


STEP 8

• Be careful of your associates. Deliberately associate with people of a high moral character who look on the bright side of life, and the benefits will be enormous. Pick out those people who are optimistic and enthusiastic about life and some of it will "rub off" on you. Remember, you acquire much of the thinking, mannerism, and characteristics of the people you are around.


STEP 9

•Make a list of your positive qualities on a card and keep it handy for your reference. Ask your friends to list the things they like about you and keep that list handy.


STEP 10

•Make a victory list to remind you of your past successes. The list should include those things that gave you the most satisfaction and confidence. This list should extend from childhood to the present time. As you make your list, please remember of the qualities so vital for the balanced success. Think in terms of your dependability, stickability, and availability for service. Accept as fact that you can be just as honest as anyone, just as conscientious, and just dedicated.


STEP 11

• Avoid pornography. Literally everything that goes into your mind has an effect and is permanently recorded. It either builds and prepares you to the future or it tears down and reduces your accomplishment possibilities for that future.


STEP 12

•Learn from the successful failures. The major difference between the big shot and the little shot is this: the big shot is just a little shot who kept on shooting.


STEP 13

• Join to an organization with worthwhile goals that requires you to participate by speaking.


STEP 14

•Look yourself –and them- in the eye.


STEP 15

•Alter your physical appearance when possible practical, and desirable.

KEY POINTS

• All of these steps are designed to help you accept yourself. Once you accept yourself, it will no longer be a matter of life or death for others to accept you. At that point you will not only be accepted, but you will be welcomed wherever you go. The reason is simple. They will be accepting the real you and the real you is much nicer than the phony conformist who tries so desperately hard to become somebody he/she isn't.

KEY POINTS

•When the real you is accepted, a lot of things happen. Your conduct changes for the better and your morals improve. Much of your tensions disappears because you are secure within yourself, and the little things that formerly bugged you will be put in perspective. Your bank account in self-confidence will grow, communication barriers will be removed, and your family relationships will improve.

KEY POINTS

• Once you have accepted yourself, it's so much easier to accept other people and their points of view. Accept doesn't necessarily mean you agree with them. It does mean you can accept and even understand why they feel the way they do. When that happens, you will find it easier to get along with others, regardless of race, creed, color, ethnic background, or occupational interest. Therefore, there's no room for bullying or peer abuse.

THANK YOU & GOD BLESS!

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