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APATHY GRIEF FEAR LUST

Bored Abandoned Anxious AbandonCan’t win Abused Apprehensive AnticipationCareless Accused Cautious CallousCold Anguished Clammy Can’t waitCut-off Ashamed Cowardice CompulsiveDead Betrayed Defensive CravingDefeated Blue Distrust DemandingDepressed Cheated Doubt DeviousDemoralized Despair Dread DrivenDesolate Disappointed Embarrassed EnvyDespair Distraught Evasive ExploitativeDiscouraged Embarrassed Foreboding FixatedDisillusioned Forgotten Frantic FrenzyDoomed Guilty Hesitant FrustratedDrained Heart-broken Horrified GluttonousFailure Heartache Hysterical GreedyForgetful Heartsick Inhibited HoardingFutile Helpless Insecure HungerGiving up Hurt Irrational I wantHardened If only Nausea ImpatientHopeless Ignored Nervous LasciviousHumorless Inadequate Panic LecherousI can’t Inconsolable Paralyzed ManipulativeI don’t care It’s not fair Paranoid MiserlyI don’t count Left out Scared Must have itInattentive Longing Secretive Never enoughIndecisive Loss Melancholy Shaky Never satisfiedIndifferent Misunderstood Shy ObliviousInvisible Mourning Skeptical ObsessedIt’s too late Neglected Stage fright Over-indulgentLazy Nobody cares Superstitious PossessiveLet it wait Nobody loves me Suspicious PredatoryListless Nostalgia Terse PushyLoser Passed over Terrified RecklessLost Pity Threatened RuthlessNegative Poor me Timid SchemingNumb Regret Trapped SelfishOverwhelmed Rejected Uncertain VoraciousPowerless Remorse Uneasy WantonResigned Sadness VulnerableShock Sorrow Want to escapeSpaced out Tearful WaryStoned Tormented WorryStuck TornToo tired TorturedUnfeeling UnhappyUnfocused UnlovedUseless UnwantedVague VulnerableWasted Why me?What’s the use WoundedWhy try?Worthless

CHART OF

Wanting to be Safe, Secure, to SurviveWanting Approval Wanting Control

IMPERTURBABILITY

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EMOTIONS

ANGER PRIDE COURAGEOUSNESS ACCEPTANCE PEACE

Abrasive Above reproach Adventurous Abundance AgelessAggressive Aloof Alert Appreciative AwarenessAnnoyed Arrogant Alive Balance BeingArgumentative Bigoted Assured Beautiful BoundlessBelligerent Boastful Aware Belonging CalmBoiling Bored Centered Childlike CenteredBrooding Clever Certain Compassion CompleteCaustic Closed Cheerful Considerate EternalDefiant Complacent Clarity Delight FreeDemanding Conceited Compassion Elated FulfilledDestructive Contemptuous Competent Embracing GlowingDisgust Cool Confident Empathy LightExplosive Critical Creative Enriched OnenessFierce Disdain Daring Everything’s okay PerfectionFrustrated Dogmatic Decisive Friendly PureFuming False humility Dynamic Fullness QuietFurious False virtue Eager Gentle SerenityHarsh Gloating Enthusiastic Glowing SpaceHatred Haughty Exhilaration Gracious StillHostility Holier than thou Exploration Harmonious TimelessImpatience Hypocritical Flexible Harmony TranquilityIndignant Icy Focused Intuitive UnlimitedIrate Isolated Giving In tune WholeJealous Judgmental Happy JoyfulLivid Know-it-all Honorable LovingMad Narrow-minded Humor MagnanimousMean Never wrong I can MellowMerciless Opinionated Independent NaturalnessMurderous Overbearing Initiative Nothing to changeOutraged Patronizing Integrity OpenPetulant Pious Invincible PlayfulPushy Prejudiced Loving RadiantRebellious Presumptuous Lucid ReceptiveResentment Righteous Motivated SecureResistant Rigid Non-resistant SoftRevolted Self absorbed Open TenderRude Self satisfied Optimistic UnderstandingSavage Selfish Perspective WarmSimmering Smug Positive Well-beingSizzling Snobbish Purposeful WonderSmoldering Special ReceptiveSpiteful Spoiled ResilientSteely Stoic ResourcefulStern Stubborn ResponsiveStewing Stuck-up SecureStubborn Superior Self-sufficientSullen Uncompromising SharpVengeful Unfeeling SpontaneousVicious Unforgiving StrongViolent Unyielding SupportiveVolcanic Vain TirelessWicked VigorousWillful Visionary

WillingZest

IMPERTURBABILITYWanting to be Safe, Secure, to Survive

Wanting Approval Wanting Control

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APATHY

Results in:

Desire is dead because it’s no use. We can’t do anything and no oneelse can help. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt.

Cut offDeadDefeatedDejectedDepressedDespairingDiscouragedDisillusioned

DowncastDrainedExhaustedFatiguedFutileHelplessHopelessLow

NegativeNumbOverwhelmedPessimisticPowerlessnessResignedTiredWeak

Feeling

I can’t.I can’t win.I don’t care.I don’t count.I don’t know how.I don’t matter.I give up.I’m doomed

I’m useless.I’m worthless.It’ll never work.It’s a dead end.It’s not use.It’s too late.It’s too hard.Let it wait.

No matter what I do, it doesn’tmake a difference.

No use, why try.No way, forget about it.No way out.Tomorrow.What’s the use.Why bother.

Thinking

CarelessCatatonicDisassociatedDefeatedForgetfulGiving up

InattentiveIndecisiveIndifferentLazyListlessNegative

PassiveSpaced OutStuckUnfocusedUnresponsiveWithdrawn

Acting

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GRIEF

Results in:

The desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything but wethink maybe someone else can—we cry out for that someone to do it.

AbandonedAbusedAccusedAshamedBetrayedBlueCheatedDespairDisappointedDistraughtForgottenGuiltyHeartbrokenHeartacheHeartsickHelplessHurt

If onlyIgnoredInadequateInconsolableIt’s not fairLeft outLongingLossMelancholyMisunderstoodMourningNeglectedNobody caresNobody loves meNostalgiaPassed over

PityPoor meRejectedRemorseSadnessSorrowTearfulTormentedTornTorturedUnhappyUnlovedUnwantedVulnerableWhy me?Wounded

Feeling

Do it for me, I can’t do it myself.I can’t do anything about it.I can’t do it right.They’re taking advantage of me.I’ll never get it right.They’re doing it to me.

I’m less than.If only.It’s all my fault.It’s not fair.I’ll never recover.It’s not my fault.

Nobody wants me.Poor me.I’m the victim.Why me?Nobody loves me.Woe is me.

Thinking

Acting helplessAttention seekingComplainingCryingDramatizingFlusteredHelping others at your ownexpense.

HystericalMartyrMelancholyMopingMoroseNeedyNeglecting self and othersNostalgia: “the good old days”

PoutingSeeking comfortSelf-consciousSobbingSufferingWailingWeeping

Acting

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FEAR

Results in:

The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit usharder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt.

AnxiousApprehensiveCagedCautiousCowardlyDistrustingDisturbedDoubtDread

EngulfedExposedFaintFidgetyFranticInsecureNervousPanicSkepticalSheepish

StrainedTenseTerrifiedThreatenedTimorousTrappedUncertainUnsafeVulnerableWary

Feeling

Crisis after crisis.Disaster’s looming and I’ve got tohide.

I can’t let them find me out.I don’t want anything to change.I have to get it right or they’ll killme.

I have to get them before they getme.

I’m not OK.

I’m confused and don’t know whatto do, so I can’t do anything.

I’m not enough.I’m not safe.I’m trapped, there is no way out.It’s closing in around me.It’s so confusing that I just can’tmove.

It’s not safe.

It is safer to stay still and not takeany chances.

They’re out to get me.What if I fail?What if I get fired?What if I get into trouble?What if I make a mistake?What if they don’t like me?What if…?What will they think?

Thinking

AgitatedAmbivalentApologeticChaoticConfusedCoweringCringingDefensiveDisorderlyDistraughtDistrustfulDisturbedEmbarrassedEvasiveFrenziedFrozenHesitant

HyperactiveHyper-focusedHyper-vigilantHystericalIndecisiveInhibitedIrrationalLack of clarityMeekMistrustfulNervousNo actionNot trustingOverwhelmedPanickyParalyzedParanoid

ProcrastinationQuakingScaredSecretiveSelf-sabotageShadySheepishShockShySuperstitiousSuspiciousTimidTraumatizedTrembleTunnel visionWishy-washy

Acting

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LUST

Results in:

The desire for possession–Wanting. The hunger for money–things–people, but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out.There is an underlying sense that we cannot, should not have.

AmbitiousAnticipationAppetiteCravingDemandingDesireEnviousExcitedFrustrated

GluttonousGreedyHeedlessHornyHotHungerInsatiableJealousLess than

LongingRavenousRecklessSensuousSexyVoraciousWantingWanton

Feeling

I want…Do it my way.Don’t stop.How can I get it?I can’t wait.I have to…I like it this way.I must do it my way.I must have it.

I need you.I need them.I need…I want excitement.I want it all.I want it now!I want more.I want to know.I want to figure it out.

I want to understand.I’m not satisfied.I’m starving.It feels so good.Look at me.Me, me, me.My way is the only way.There won’t be enough for me.There isn’t enough.

Thinking

AddictiveAttention seekingChaoticCompulsiveCovertDesperateDeviousDevouringDrivenExcessiveExploitiveExtravagantFixatedFranticFrenzied

HoardingImpatientInconsiderateIndecentLasciviousLavishLecherousLewdLicentiousManicManipulativeMiserlyObsessiveOut-of-controlOver indulgent

Over-eatingPantingPredatoryPushyRisquéRuthlessSeductiveSelf-centeredSelfishUncooperativeUnrulyVulgarWildWith abandon

Acting

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ANGER

Results in:

The desire to strike out, to hurt and stop the other one, but withhesitation. We might or might not strike out.

AgitatedAnnoyedBoilingDisgustedDisturbedExplosiveFierceFrustratedHatefulIrritated

JealousLividMadMaliciousOutragedPerturbedRagefulResentfulSizzlingSmoldering

SteelySternStewingSullenUpsetVengefulViolentVolcanicWickedWillful

Feeling

Do it my way or else.Don’t even think of it.Don’t push me around.Don’t tell me what to do!Drop dead!F… off!F… you!Fat chance.

Get out of my way.I’ll get even!I’ll get them.I’ll kill you!I’ll never give in.I’m not doing anything.If they don’t listen to me, I’ll letthem go down the tube.

Me do it your way–not on yourlife.

Not a chance.Not on your life.Now you’ll pay.Out of my way.Who do they think they are?You better do it my way, or else!

Thinking

AbrasiveAbruptAbusiveAggressiveAttackingBarbarousBelligerentBitingBlindedBloodthirstyBroodingBrusqueBrutalCallousCausticCold

CrazedCruelCurtDefiantDemandingDerangedDestructiveDiscourteousDisrespectfulExactingFerociousFierceGruffHarshHeadstrongHeartless

InstigatingIntimidatingInflexibleInvasiveMalevolentManiacalMercilessNastyObstinateOffensivePassive-aggressivePetulantPigheadedProfaneProvokingPunishing

PushyRavagingRebelliousResistantRudeRuthlessSarcasticSavageSpitefulStrifeStubbornTalking about othersUncooperativeUnyieldingVengefulVicious

Acting

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Feeling

PRIDE

Results in:

The wish to maintain the status quo. Unwilling to change ormove–therefore, the wish to stop others from movement as theymight pass us up.

Above it allAloofArrogantBetter thanComplacentConceitedCondescendingContemptuous

CoolDisdainHaughtyHolier than thouIcyIrreverentJudgmentalPious

RejectingRighteousRigidSmugSpecialSuperiorUncompromisingUnfeelingVain

I’ll just reject!How dare you!I knew that.I know everything.I know.I won’t associate with “those kind”of people.

I’ll look like I’m agreeing and doit my way.

I’m better than all of them.I’m better than you.

I’m in a better place than all ofyou.

I’m not like them.I’m right.I’m smarter than everyone else.I’m the only one who can do itright.

I’m the only one who can get itdone.

I’m the savior/hero.I’m too busy with importantmatters to have time for you.

It’s your fault.Maybe I’ll do it and maybe Iwon’t.

My way is the only way.What do they know?What’s wrong with you?Who do they think they are?Who do you think you are?Why is everyone so incompetent?You don’t belong.You need me to get it done.

Thinking

AloofArrogantBigotedBlaming othersBoastfulBoredClosedComplacentConceitedDetachedDisrespectful

DistantDogmaticEgotisticalFalse HumilityGloatingHypocriticalIndifferentKnow it allNarrow mindedNever wrongOpinionated

PatronizingPompousPutting others downRemoteSabotageSanctimoniousSelf-absorbedSelf-centeredSelf-importantSnobbishSpoiled

StoicStubbornStuck-upTalking against othersUnforgivingImpenetrableUnreadableUnyieldingWithdrawnWalk away

Acting

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Feeling

COURAGEOUSNESS

Results in:

The willingness to move out without fear or hesitation–todo–to correct–to change wherever needed. The willingness tolet go–to move on.

AlertAliveAssuredAwareCenteredCheerfulClearConfidentCooperative

DelightedEagerEnergeticExhilaratedFocusedGroundedGustoHappyHeartiness

HopefulIndependentInvincibleLovingLucidNon-resistantOpenOptimisticPassionate

PurposefulReceptiveResilientSafeSecureStableWillingZealousZest

I canI can get it done.I can listen.I can respond appropriately.I do what’s needed and it works.I know we can.

I’ll do what it takes to make itwork.

I’m willing.I’m willing to take risks.It can be easy and effortless.It is as easy as it was hard.

It’s possible.Let’s work together.We can do it.We’ll find a way.Yes!

Thinking

AbleAboveboardAdaptiveAdventurousBoldBraveCandidCollaborationCommitmentCompassionateCompetentCooperationCreativeDaring

DecisiveDedicatedDynamicEnjoymentExplorationFlexibleFocusedForthrightGallantGenerosityGivingGoodnessGratificationHonesty

HumorousInitiativeInquiryInsightfulIntegrityInventiveMotivatedPartneringPerceptivePerseveringPersistentPlayfulPleasureResourceful

Risk-takingRobustSelf-sufficientSharpSolution focusedSpontaneousStrongSupportiveTirelessUnpretentiousValiantVigorous

Acting

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ACCEPTANCE

Results in:

No need to change anything. No judgements of good or bad. It just isand it’s OK. It is beautiful as it is. I have and enjoy everything as it is.

AcceptingAllowingAttunedBeautifulChildlikeCompassionateContentedDelightedElated

EnrichedFlowingFulfillmentGlowingHappyHarmoniousInnocentJoyfulLoving

MellowOpenPlayfulRadiantReceptiveSatisfiedSecureSoftWell-being

Feeling

All is well.Everything is beautiful.Everything is OK.Everything is unfolding as it should.I accept you.

I have what I need as I need it.I love you just as you are.It’s all coming together.We all have a contribution to make.

Thinking

AbundantAcceptingAppreciativeBalanceBenevolentCaringClear-sightedCo-creativeCompassionate

DevotionalEmbracingEmpathyFriendlyGentlenessGraciousInsightfulIntuitiveMagnanimous

NaturalnessNon-judgmentalOrderlyReceptiveSatisfiedTendernessUnderstandingWarmWonder

Acting

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PEACE

Results in:

I am–I am whole, complete, total unto my Self. Everyone andeverything is part of my Self. It is all perfect.

Awareness

Boundless

Calm

Centered

Complete

Eternal

Free

Fulfilled

Glowing

Light

Pure

Quiet

Serene

Oneness

United

Feeling

All is well.

Everything is unfolding as it should.

I am.

It’s just perfect.

We are one.

Thinking

Actionless

Balanced

Centered

Composed

Connection

Flawless

Imperturbable

In equilibrium

Infinite

Limitless

Perfection

Poised

Quiet

Self-possessed

Serenity

Spacious

Stillness

Tranquil

Unlimited

Whole

Witnessing

Acting

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SCALE OF ACTION

Peace I am—I am whole, complete, total unto my Self. Everyone andeverything is part of my Self. It is all perfect.

Acceptance No need to change anything. No judgments of good or bad. It just isand it’s OK. It is beautiful as it is. I have and enjoy everything as it is.

Courageousness The willingness to move out without fear or hesitation—to do—tocorrect—to change wherever needed. The willingness to let go—tomove on.

Pride The wish to maintain the status quo. Unwilling to change or move—therefore, the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass usup.

Anger The desire to strike out to hurt and stop the other one, but withhesitation. We might or might not strike out.

Lust The desire for possession—Wanting. The hunger for money—things—people, but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out. There is anunderlying sense that we cannot, should not have.

Fear The desire to strike out but not doing it because we think they will hitus harder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we thinkwe’ll get hurt.

Grief The desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything, butwe think maybe someone else can—we cry for that someone to do it.

Apathy Desire is dead because it’s no use. We can’t do anything and no oneelse can help. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt.