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7 Habits of Highly Effective
People in Life
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HABIT I
Be Proactive: Individuals are
responsible for their own choicesand have the freedom to choose
Most People are REACTIVE and NOTPROACTIVE
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REACTIVE (-)
Reactive people respond to stimuli
without thinking or controlling their
reactions. They react based on their
feelings or other circumstances of the
moment. There is no space between
the stimulus and their response
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PROACTIVE (+)
Proactive people stop long enough to
allow themselves the freedom to
choose a response that agrees with
their personal values and goals.
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Comparison
Reactive
1. Get angry and say
things you regret
2. Blame others
Proactive
1. Remain calm and
think of alternatives
2. Focus on solutions to
the situation insteadof problems
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Comparison
Reactive
1. Whine and Complain
2. Feel like victims
Proactive
1. Celebrate choices
2. Take responsibility
for creating the best
environment for you
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Language
Reactive
1. If only he would
2. He makes me soangry
3. Why dont you
change?4. Theres nothing I can
do
Proactive
1. I helped cause this by
2. Ill find a solutionthat works
3. Im responsible
4. Lets look at all the
options
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Gaining Control Define your Circle of Influence and
your Circle of Concern (2 DifferentCircles)
Proactive people work within their circle of
Influence to affect things around them.
Reactive people focus on things they cant
control- things in their Circle of Concern-
which gives them less influence on thethings that are important to them.
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Concern vs Influence
CONCERN
1. A friend is getting
well.2. Increasing Healthcare
Costs
3. Your Personal
Healthcare
INFLUENCE
1. Successfully
completing yourproject
2. Committing to
understanding and
educating yourself on
insurance options
3. Choosing an apple
instead of a brownie
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Thought
Its not what people do to us that
hurts us. It is our response to whatthey do to us that hurts us
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Explore Concern
In groups of five or six, make a list of
20 items you are concerned about in
your life. Discuss these items among
your group. The concerns can be any
topic. You have 10 minutes
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Explore Your Influence
Now look back at your list of Concerns
and decide what influence you have
over the items on the list and how you
can control your actions , reactions, or
realize if it is not in your circle of
influence.. Circle just the ones you
actually can control
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Key Points to Ponder
You may not be able to choose everything
that happens to you, but you can choose
your attitude and reaction
What are your strengths?
What do you need to improve on?
How can you apply what you have learned?
Why do I want to change?
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HABIT 2
Begin with the End in Mind : Mental
creation precedes physical creation
I can choose my own future and
create a vision of it
I create results mentally beforebeginning any activity
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Habit 2 Begin w the End in Mind
Create and apply personal and
organizational mission statements as
constitutions for daily living
Envision the desired results and
important values to guide activities andbehaviors
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Habit 2
The best way to predict your future isto create it
The best way to determine your end
purpose and move in that direction isto look for answers to these questions:
What am I all about?
What makes life worth living?
What will I do with my Life?
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Habit 2
Control your own
destiny or someoneelse will
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H2 : Why is it so important to
have a Plan? The answer is simple- all things are
created twice. First, is the mental
blueprint or plan. Second, is the actual
physical creation or work. A carefully
considered plan gives you the mental
blueprint needed to create the desired
outcome.
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Mental vs Physical Mental Creation (Plan)
1. Script of a play
2. Verbal and WrittenDirections for a
Procedure
3. Knowing there is atest on Friday
Physical Creation
(Work)
1. Performance of the
Play
2. Performance of theProcedure
3. Studying for the test
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Many people gain a sense of whothey are from the opinions and
perceptions of the people around
them. They allow circumstances ,
conditioning, and the social mirror
to mold and form who they are andwhat they achieve.
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The most effective people,however, shape their own futures.
Instead of letting other people or
circumstances determine their
destinies, they mentally plan and
then physically create their ownpositive results. What they have in
their mind shapes their future.
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Script Your Future
List those things that are most important inyour life
If you were to do one thing at school what
would have the most positive impact, whatwould it be?
If you were to do one thing in your personal
life that would have the most positiveimpact, what would it be?
Who are the people who have influenced
your life the most?
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Project Your Life Forward
To help you think about what kind ofperson you would like to be, imagine
youve lived a fulfilling and rewarding
life and now it is your 90th birthday.Family, Friends, Co-Workers, and
Neighbors have gathered in your honor
to pay tribute to you.
What do you think they would say??
Lets see on the next two slides
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Tributes
Write a tribute you would like to receive
from each person on the next slide
answering the questions below:
1. What would each person say?
2. What difference have I made in each
persons life?
3. What qualities or characteristics will I be
remembered for?
4. What outstanding contribution would
each person mention?
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Tributes Using the 4 questions from the
previous slide, answer them according
to what you would like the following
people in your life to say:
Spouse
Son
Daughter Co-Worker
Best Friend
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Forming a Mission Statement
What are my greatest moments of happiness
and fulfillment?
What are the activities of most worth to me
in my personal life?
What are my natural gifts, talents, strengths,
and abilities?
What am I motivated by, fascinated with,
and passionate about?
How can I best contribute to mankind?
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Mission Statement
A mission statement is a powerfuldocument that expresses your personal
sense of purpose and meaning in life. It
acts as a governing constitution by which
you evaluate your decisions and choose
your behavior.
To create your mission statement, think
about the people you admire, how youd
like to be in a years time, and what kinds of
things in your life you value most.
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Examples
Our Family is great- as a family we want to
love, laugh, teach, and learn. The Hubbert
family is a TEAM.
I want to be the kind of person my dog
thinks I am.
My mission is to live with integrity and to
make a difference in the lives of others.
I want my life to be about.. I am ..
I will..
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Habit Review
HABIT I: Be Proactive
Goals
HABIT II: Start with the End in Mind
Mission Statement and Questions for
Others
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Habit 3: Put First Things First
Effectiveness requires balancing important
relationships, roles, and activities
Things which matter most must never be
at the mercy of things which matter least I focus on importance instead of urgency
I fulfill my mission by achieving
important goals in my key roles
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H 3: Put First Things First
Focus on the truly important and sayno to the unimportant
Plan weekly and implement daily
based on mission, roles, goals, andpriorities
The key is not to prioritize your
schedule, but to schedule your
priorities
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H3: Put First Things First
Habit 3 helps you identify and act on thepriorities in your life, including your
relationships and the things that are most
important to you Which activities support what matters most
to you?
How do I stay focused on what mattersmost?
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Time management is really a
misnomerthe challenge is not to
manage time, but to manage
ourselves
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Urgent vs Not Urgent
List 20 things that have come up or
you had to do since you woke up this
morning that you have had to deal
with.
Then identify them as Urgent or Not
Urgent. Can you tell the difference ??
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The main thing is to keep
the main thing the main
thing
What lies behind us and
what lies ahead of us are but
tiny matters compared towhat lies within us.
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How do You Stay Focused?
Planning how you will spend your time
helps you put first things first. If you
plan with sincere effort, you will
benefit from more inner peace, greater
balance, and increased personal and
professional productivity
A tool such as your agenda remindsyou to schedule your time around
what is most important to you
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To Do Lists
Schedule and write To Do Lists inyour agenda. Make sure you keep
first things first. Check off as you
go and whatever you may miss, itbecomes the first thing first the
next day. Start using what works for you
now
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Review
Habit I: Be PROACTIVE
Habit II: Begin With the End InMind
Habit III: Put First Things First
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Habit 4: Think Win-Win Effective, long-term relationships require
mutual benefit
I seek the benefit of others as well as my
own
I get better results in my relationships by
cooperating interdependently than by
competing independently
What do we live for, if it is not to make
life less difficult for others?
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Habit 4 W/W Balance courage and consideration in seeking
mutual benefit
Persist in looking for Win-Win outcomes
despite past Win-Lose conditioning
The Public Victory begins when you cooperate
so that everyone wins. Habit 4 encourages
cooperation by seeking mutual benefit-solutionsthat benefit everyone involved.
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Questions for Habit 4
How do I balance my needs against
someone elses needs?
What choices help me create Win-Winsituations?
With a Win-Win solution, all parties feel
good about the decision and feel committedto the action plan. Win-Win sees life as a
cooperative, not a competitive arena.
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Balance
Win-Lose(I Win, You Lose) = Thinking
Win-lose is thinking competitively. A win
means putting others down. Many people
go into situations thinking , if I win, you
lose.
Lose-Win (A Doormat) = Thinking Lose-
Win is allowing others to win even when it
means you lose. You say, I lose; you win.Go ahead, walk all over me. Step on me
again, everyone else does. I probably
deserve it.
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Balance
Lose-Lose (The Downward Spiral) = Lose-
Lose thinking is believing that if you go
down, others must go down with you
(revenge, self-justification, etc)
Win-Win (Everyone Wins) = Thinking
Win-Win is when your frame of mind and
heart seeks the benefit of all. It is an
attitude that says, I can win and so canyou. Its not me or you; its all of us WE.
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Balance
No Deal ( Agree to Disagree) = No Deal is
an outcome where the people involved
agree to disagree. They decide to move onwithout agreement. In some cases, they try
Win-Win another time.
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What is Your Mentality?
Abundance Mentality: People with an Abundance
Mentality generally think theres a way for everyone
to win. A losing perspective is based on scarcity. It
takes courage to believe theres enough for
everyone.
Scarcity Mentality: Believing that there is not
enough to go around. Less means less for me.
Abundance Mentality: Believing that there is more
than enough for everyone. More creates more.
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Examples of More Creates More
Smiling
Providing courtesy and services
Recognizing and rewarding others Treating patients and others with kindness
and respect
Listening sincerely to co-workers Proactively suggesting improvements to
policies and procedures
Wh Ch i H l C Wi
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What Choices Help Create Win
Win? Competition is healthy when it results in a greater
good. However, in most cases in your personal lives
and at work, choosing to compete lessens your
motivation to cooperate to achieve solutions thateach person can agree on fully.
You must be courageous and considerate- you must
be willing to speak up for yourself and be willing tolisten to other points of view.
How Does Win-Win correlate with your Circle of
Influence?
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EBA (Emotional Bank Account)
Is a concept that encourages you to think
about and evaluate the amount of trust that
exists in your personal and work
relationships. Every interaction with
another person may be a deposit or awithdrawal from your EBA or the EBAs of
others. When you have a Win-Win attitude,
you are making deposits in the EBAs ofothers and increasing TRUST in your
relationship
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Deposit vs Withdrawal
Deposit::
1 Listening w/o
interrupting
2 Being kind and
courteous
3 Keeping Promises
4 Apologizing
Withdrawals:
1 Interrupting a
conversation
2 Being Rude and
Discourteous
3 Lying
4 Showing
Disrespect
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Deposits: Deposits build and
repair trust in relationships.
Withdrawals: Withdrawalsreduce and damage trust in the
relationships.
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What are you doing to make
deposits into your emotional bank
account and in the account of
others?????
What are you doing that makes youfeel like you are overdrawn?????
S
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Summary
Habit I: BE PROACTIVE Habit II: BEGIN WITH THE END IN
MIND
Habit III: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
Habit IV: THINK WIN-WIN
Next will be to Habit V: Seek First to
Understand, Then be Understood!!!
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Habit 5 Seek First to Understand
Diagnosis must precede prescription.
Understanding comes through listening.
I assume I dont fully understand, and I
need to listen.
If I listen first to understand, then I will be
better understood.
Before I walk in another persons shoes, I
must first remove my own.
H bi 5
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Habit 5
By developing an attitude for seeking
to understand others first before trying
to express your views, you become a
person whom others trust. When
people believe you care about their
needs, they are more willing to care
about yours, opening the way for Win-
Win.(H4)
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Review How You Communicate
Becoming a more effective, empathic
listener requires developing both the
desire and skill to do so. To listeneffectively, you must live by key
principles of communication. One of
these key principles is to understand
the way meaning is conveyed from
speaker to listener.
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Communication experts estimate thatonly 7 percent of your communication
is represented by words you say,
another 38 percent by your sounds andhow you say words, and 55 percent by
your nonverbals and body language.
The one who listens does the mostwork, not the one who speaks.
C i ti B i
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Communication Barriers
It is hard to listen IF:
Youre worried about problems
You Listen faster than people speak
Youre sometimes tired or bored Youre thinking about what youre going to
say back to the other person
Youre distracted
What are your barriers????
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People do not care how
much you know until theyknow how much you care.
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Empathic Listening
Empathy means seeing things the
way another person sees them.
Empathic listening is listening to
completely understand the other
persons viewpoint
L l f Li t i
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Levels of Listening
Ignoring: Putting Forth No Effort
Pretend Listening: Appearing to Listen
Selective Listening: Hearing only what
interests you Attentive Listening: Paying more
attention. Being focused. Being Polite
Empathic Listening: Listening with youreyes, heart, and mind to hear the entire
message
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Review Empathic Listening
You are not sure you understand
You are not sure the other person feels
understood
The interaction has a strong emotional
component There is low trust in the relationship
Respond to Acknowledge
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p w gUnderstanding
When you practice empathy, you do not judgeor offer solutions prematurely. You seek to
clarify for what you heard. Use phrases from
the list below to acknowledge that youunderstand:
As I get it, you felt that
You must have felt You place high value on.
You seem frustrated about..
How would the following rate
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gyou as a listener? (1-5)
Your Best Friend 1 2 3 4 5 Your Teacher
A Co-Worker
Your Mom Your Dad
Your Brother/Sister
How do your scores affect your Emotional Bankaccount balances with these people? Are you
making enough DEPOSITS?
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Barriers to Success
Over the Long weekend, I want you to
list all the past events and any guilt that
you are currently faced with and be
thorough. No one will see these but
you. Bring it in with you on Tuesday.
You will then burn it and forget it and
never let it hold you back again..
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Habit Review
Habit I: BE PROACTIVE
Habit II: Begin With the End In Mind
Habit III: Put First Things First
Habit IV: Think Win-Win
Habit V: Seek First To Understand, Then
Be Understood
Habit VI: SYNERGIZE
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZE
The Whole is Greater than the Sum of
Its Parts
I value the differences in others and
seek the Third Alternative
Working together cooperatively takestime but produces better long-term
results
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Habit 6
Apply Win-Win thinking and
Empathic Communication to seek
synergistic outcomes, including theThird Alternative
Use Synergy ground rules to discover
the Third Avenue
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Purpose of Habit 6
Every day you must interrelate and
work with others- at home and on the
job. Habit 6 will help you realize thebenefits of working with others using
creative cooperation, even when
people act differently or believedifferent things.
What Does Synergy Mean
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What Does Synergy Mean
Synergy is when two or more people
produce more together than the sum of
what they could produce separately.
They use their differences to produce
something that neither one could have
produced alone.
Synergy means building teamwork andtrust by recognizing the contributions
of others and cooperating creatively.
Synergy IS vs Synergy IS NOT
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Synergy IS vs Synergy IS NOT
Celebrating
Differences
Working
Interdependently
Being Open-Minded
Finding New and
Better Ways
Tolerating Differences
Working
Independently
Thinking Youre
Always Right
Compromising
Synergy Map
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Synergy Map
Define the Problem or Opportunity
Their Way- seek first to understand the
ideas of others
My Wayseek to be understood bysharing your ideas
Brainstormcreate new options and
ideas High Wayfind the best solution
Advantages of Valuing
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Advantages of Valuing
Differences People who value and celebrate differences in
others are people who:
Act as role models
Do not prejudge others based on characteristics orbelief systems
Discuss conflicts privately with the others involved
Desire success for othersShow respect through words and actions
Recognize other viewpoints, even if they conflict
with their own
TRUST SurveyR 1 5 ( P A O di )
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Rate 1-5 ( Poor Average Outstanding ) I do what I say Ill do
I listen to people
I can be trusted with confidential info
I give credit where credit is due
I solve problems instead of wasting time blaming
others
I give honest feedback
I share decision making w the people most important to
me I share my opinions while respecting others opinions
I share information w the appropriate people
I respect other peoples ideas
Totals
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Totals 0-29 You may have a problem trusting others.
Because of that, you may appear lesstrustworthy. Look at those items where you
scored yourself 3 or lower. What could you do
to increase those scores? How can you
demonstrate you are more trust-worthy and will
keep your word?
30-44 You have a high level of trust, but should
keep challenging yourself to increase yourscore. Where could you improve?
45-50 You are the model of trustworthiness
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Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw
Production (results) requires
development of production capability
(resources)
I increase my effectiveness through
personal renewal in each of the four
dimensions of my life
I continually improve
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Key Process
Constantly develop and renew personal
resources to create better production
and production capability
Set and achieve goals for renewal in
the physical, mental, spiritual, and
social/emotional dimensions
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By taking time out to enhance yourphysical, mental, social/emotional,
and spiritual well-being, you
become more effective in all other
habits
To keep the lamp burning, wehave to keep putting oil in it
Understand This
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Understand This
YOU are YOUR most important resource. To
take care of yourself, you need to consciouslyplan time for renewal. Effectively planning
your production and your production
capability. This is known as the P/PC Balance
Production Production Capability
Golden Eggs The Goose
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Highly effective people balance their
production capability (themselves,
their work, their skills, and their co-
workers) and their resulting production
( being responsible for their work,
earning the respect of co-workers and
patients, and becoming indispensable
to the department).
Defining the Saw
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Defining the Saw
Everybody needs and wants to feel energetic
and peaceful. When you take time for the rest,relaxation, and renewal you need, you are
sharpening your saw. Renewal allows you to
take on the challenges of daily living and tomaintain your production capability.
Your saw consists of your body, mind, spirit,
and relationships with others. It is vital tosharpen the saw completely by focusing on all
four aspects of renewal.
PHYSICAL: You build physical wellness through
i i i d
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proper nutrition, exercise, rest, and stress
management.
MENTAL: You increase mental capacity byreading, writing, thinking, and discussing your
ideas.
SPIRITUAL: You develop spirituality by readinginspirational literature, meditating, performing
service, and spending time in nature
SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL: You mature socially andemotionally by making consistent daily deposits
into the EBA of your key relationships and
yourself.
Wh C D Sh h
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What Can you Do to Sharpen the
Saw? Physical- To Live (5 Things)
MentalTo Learn (5 Things)
SpiritualTo Leave a Legacy (5
Things)
Social/EmotionalTo Love (5
Things)
Review
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Review
Habit I: BE PROACTIVE
Habit II: Begin With the End In Mind
Habit III: Put First Things First
Habit IV: Think Win-Win
Habit V: Seek First To Understand, Then
Be Understood
Habit VI: SYNERGIZE
Habit VII: Sharpen the Saw