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The 6 pillars of self esteem
"HSE=self respect ...assurance of my value, worthy of happiness,
comfort in my needsenjoyment and joy is my birthright,deserving of
love of othersentails the expectation of friendships,love and
happiness,the conviction of ourown value,not the delusion of us
being perfect to others,but that our fulfillment is deserving and
important enough to work for.Worthy ofrewards of our actions,
self efficacy ...basic confidence in the face of life's
challenges;self trust and self reliance, confidence in what we need
to do to to furfill our goalsconviction that we are able to think,
judge know and correct our errors,comittedto do our best to master
the challenges entailed by our valuesTrust in our
processes,confidence in what made it possible to reach success
The 6 Pillars..practice living consciously:live mindfully.. the
ability to be aware of the environment and accordingly, focusing or
mind, seeking awareness,seeking truth,seek to the best of our
ability and then behave in accordance in what we seek and know,
acting on what one sees and knows
mind that is active,not passive,concerned with actions being
aligned with purposes,being in the moment,being receptive to new
knowledge,being able to see and correct mistakes , a commitment to
grow and learn as a wayof life, a concern of the values that guide
me,a concern to know thyself
practice self acceptance:something we do, to be myself, to be on
my own sideorientations of self value and self commitment that
derives form the fact that Iam alive and conscious a natural
egoism, a birthright of every human being,do not be self rejecting,
or no treatment or significant advances can be made,I choose to
value myself, the voice of the life force,what is true is true,if
iam thinking or feeling emotions I accept them, i do not
rationalize,deny
or attempt to explain away, if i have taken actions of which i
was ashamed thefact is i have taken them, I do now trick my brain
ortry to make facts disappear what is is,accepting does not mean
liking
the idea of self acceptance: Just as when we need to approach or
correct otherswe should choose to do so in ways that do not damage
their self esteemand so we should do this to ourselveshe greatest
crime that we commit against ourselves is not that we may deny or
disown our shortcomings but that wedeny and disown our greatness
because it frightens us.......if a fully realizedself acceptance
does not evade the worst in us...neither doesit evade the best
practice of self responsibility: take responsibility for my life
and well being,I am responsible for my choices and actions,I am
responsible for mybehavior with other people,I am responsible for
my personal happiness,I am responsible for my actions, i am
responsible for raising my self esteemother human beings do not
serve or exist for the satisfaction of my needs, justas we are not
a means to theirs
practice self assertiveness: honoring my wants needs and values
respectfully and
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appropriately, authentically... the willingness to be who i
amand treat my self in respect to all human encounters,to ask
questions, to challenge authority, to think for oneself and to
stand on what ones thinkslive and express our values, a commitment
of right to exist, and I am not here on earth to look up to others
expectations,to confront the challengesof life and not evade, take
on tasks that stretch us, extend our mind across unfamiliar
places,learn to be in an intimate relationship without betrayingour
sense of self,be kind without self sacrificing,cooperate with
others withoutabandoning our our standards and convictions
practice of living purposefully:use of powers to earn the goals
of what we have selected, following your goals,your passions,
translatingyour thoughts into your reality,be concerned with theses
questions...what am i tryign to achieve, how,and why, is feedback
form the environmenttell me i am achieving it or failing, are there
new things i need to consider, do my goals need to be
rethought,cultivate a capacity for self discipline(organize our
behavior for specific tasks)think plan and live long range
4 core issues1.take responsibility for forming goals2.identify
actions to achieve goals3.monitor behavior to check for alignment
for goals
4.pay attention to outcome of ones actions to know whether they
are leading where one wants to go
personal integrity: An expression of self esteem, A moral life
requires seriousreflection...Rightly or Wrongly we experience our
choices as complex...If your motives are to spare people you care
about ..you inflict a worse pain than they would otherwise
experience. If your motives to protectyour self esteem by avoiding
your values and loyalties it will be your self esteem you will
damage...lies do not work....by trusting your mindand work..., the
more you enjoy integrity the more u enjoy self esteem, and by
enjoying self esteem it feels natural to enjoy
integrity...dishonestyis disturbing and self destructive to self
esteem, behaviors that generate selfesteem are also expressions of
good self esteem
"~The 6 pillars of self esteem Nathaniel Brandan"
