Dealing with Male Dealing with Male ViolenceViolence

Check-inCheck-in

What are any male behaviors that you What are any male behaviors that you noticed since the last session that fit into noticed since the last session that fit into the Act-Like-a-Man Box.the Act-Like-a-Man Box.

Role PlayRole Play

With your partner, think of incidents in With your partner, think of incidents in which you saw or heard about a man which you saw or heard about a man hitting a woman, or experience being hit hitting a woman, or experience being hit by a man.by a man.

DON’T ACTUALLY HIT YOUR PARTNER DON’T ACTUALLY HIT YOUR PARTNER IS ONLY ACTINGIS ONLY ACTING

RegroupRegroup

Have you seen a scene Have you seen a scene like this before?like this before?

How did it feel to watch How did it feel to watch this scene?this scene?

How do you think the How do you think the girlfriend feels?girlfriend feels?

How do you think the How do you think the boyfriend feels?boyfriend feels?

How is he in the Act-Like-How is he in the Act-Like-a-Man Box?a-Man Box?

What does he expect What does he expect from her?from her?

How is he trying to keep How is he trying to keep her in the Good-Girl Box?her in the Good-Girl Box?

What could he do instead What could he do instead if he really loved her?if he really loved her?

What should she do if he What should she do if he apologizes and promises apologizes and promises never to do it again?never to do it again?

What if he buys her What if he buys her something nice and something nice and expensive?expensive?

Discussion QuestionsDiscussion Questions

Knowing how dangerous such a situation Knowing how dangerous such a situation can be, what do you think a woman who is can be, what do you think a woman who is abused needs from those around her?abused needs from those around her?

She needs to know it’s dangerousShe needs to know it’s dangerous She is not to blame for the violenceShe is not to blame for the violence Take actions to be safeTake actions to be safe Needs resources, options and supportNeeds resources, options and support

Women Getting BlamedWomen Getting Blamed

What are some feelings that a woman who What are some feelings that a woman who is being abused by a man have?is being abused by a man have?

How might she be blamed by other How might she be blamed by other people?people?

How might she blame herself?How might she blame herself?

Discussion QuestionsDiscussion Questions What are some things people say about women What are some things people say about women

who are in abusive relationships?who are in abusive relationships? What are some ways you might blame a woman What are some ways you might blame a woman

in such a relationship, or separate yourself from in such a relationship, or separate yourself from her if she were a friend of yours?her if she were a friend of yours?

What are the reasons you might give for not What are the reasons you might give for not getting involved?getting involved?

What would be hard about being there for her What would be hard about being there for her over the long haul?over the long haul?

What might she need from you to stop the What might she need from you to stop the violence?violence?

Women Helping WomenWomen Helping Women

What are the women-helping-women projects What are the women-helping-women projects that are going on in your community?that are going on in your community?

Where could you find out more about them?Where could you find out more about them? Can you describe a time when you noticed a Can you describe a time when you noticed a

woman reaching out to another woman who was woman reaching out to another woman who was in trouble? What did she do?in trouble? What did she do?

Do you think you could be that kind of ally to Do you think you could be that kind of ally to another woman? What might get in your way? another woman? What might get in your way? What might you gain? What difference might it What might you gain? What difference might it make?make?

CheckoutCheckout

Describe ways you know of in which men Describe ways you know of in which men can be abusive to women without actually can be abusive to women without actually hitting them.hitting them.

How can you be in ally to a woman in such How can you be in ally to a woman in such situations?situations?