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We’re in this together!Engaging Parents & Families in CSHP!
Barbara FlisParent Action for Healthy Kids
248-538-7786barb@parentactionforhealthykids.orgwww.parentactionforhealthykids.org
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Today’s Agenda
Re-framing our perception of parents Breaking down the barriers. Tools & resources for authentic
engagement Creating a plan for engaging parents
and families
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Re-Framing our Perception of Parents
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Making lemonade out of lemons!
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The Perfect Parent?It’s an ILLUSION!!!
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Perception of Parent Support!
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Defining Success forParent Engagement What would success look like?
A success is a success no matter how small!
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Parent Paradigm
Treated asa partner
Behavesas a partner
Seen as apartner
Treated asa pain
Behavesas a pain
Seen as apain
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Understanding Parent Emotions
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System OrganizationsSchools ~ Healthcare ~ Governmental
How do we help others understand and work within the system ?
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When parents hit a brick wall within the system sometimes they become:
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Something to Ponder
For people in distress will sometimes prefer a problem that is familiar to a solution that is not.Source: Neil Postman, The End of Education
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Assumptions That Sabotage There must be a problem or parents
wouldn’t be there All that parents need is information Once parents have more information they
will be able to put it into practice Parents know the resources available to
them and how to use them There is a common language There is a shared level of education There is a common culture
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Symptoms of Conflict Judging
… who you are Characterizing
… what you do Attributing
… motives to explain why you do it Dictating
… solutions to perceived problemsSource: D.B. Moore 2004
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The Path of Meaning
Event Observation Conclusions Emotions Actions
Source: Better Than Duct Tape: Dialogue Tools for Getting Results and Getting Along. By Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler
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Breaking Down BarriersThis is what we know!
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Trust“No, I don’t understand my husband’s theory of relativity, but I know my husband, and I know he can be trusted.”
Elsa Einstein
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Choose Words Carefully
Need to
Have to
Should
Want to
Choose to
Would like to
Source: Medicine of the Cherokee by Garrett, J.T. & Garrett, M.
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What are you communicating?
3% of message is words(what you say)
7% of message is how you say it
90% of message is appearance and bodylanguage (non-verbals)
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Empathy and/or Caring
Competence&
ExpertiseHonesty
&Openness
Commitment&
Dedication
Assessed in First30 Seconds
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How you behave toward peoplewill be determined by how you view
them.This will determine how they view you
and how they behave toward you.
ACTIVITY
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Rankings of Place in the Community
Ace to 10 Live a comfortable life
9 to 6 Doing OK
5 to 2 Struggling
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Remember ….
People who are perceived to have the least amount of power are often the best
observers!
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Cup of ENERGY!
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An idea I had . . .
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Less is More!
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What do you wantparents to do?
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List what you want parents to do
Prioritize the list
Name the top three
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Healthy Behaviors
Wear a seat belt every time you drive or ride in a car.
Brush your teeth at least twice a day Eat four or more servings of fruit or
vegetables a day. Get 7-8 hours of sleep each night Never drive more than five miles an hour
over the speed limit Exercise at least three times a week Follow the schedule for age-appropriate
check-ups/physical examinations
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HealthServicesHealth
Services
HealthySchool
Environment
HealthySchool
Environment
Health Promotion
for Staff
Health Promotion
for Staff
NutritionServicesNutritionServices
Family/CommunityInvolvement
Family/CommunityInvolvement
PhysicalEducationPhysical
Education
Counseling,Psychological
& SocialServices
Counseling,Psychological
& SocialServices
HealthEducation
HealthEducation
CSH TEAM
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Think Big - Environment
Nutrition Education
Federally Regulated
School Meal ProgramBreakfast
Lunch
Competitive Foods
PeerInfluence
PhysicalActivity
•Ala Carte Sales
•School Parties
•Fundraisers
•School Stores
•Vending
•Boosters
•School Board
•Athletics
•Student Clubs
HealthyFood
Availability
HealthyFood Taste
StaffRole
Modeling
Timeto eat
OpenCampus
ParentKnowledge
FoodChoices
Tips For Working With Parents
A positive approach Simple language Sensitivity toward differences Sense of fun Relationships built on trust Don’t underestimate the power of one
parent Listen, listen, listen Be real Celebrate small steps Remember to say “thanks” and to
give credit
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An idea I had . . .
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Constructing a Plan!
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What is your Intention
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Building a Foundation
Getting to know each other
Creating an environment for open and honest dialogue
Building Trust Laying the ground work Moving to solutions
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Consider the following: Less is more Focus on one behavior Give a clear message, and
continually reinforce that message Provide basic, accurate information Include a skill based activity Ask for accountability – Mini Action
Plan
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Brainstorming
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Building an Action Plan Single best idea
Steps to getting there … who will do what?
Date to be completed
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We’ll show you the love!
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I practice what I preach!This is not a “spray & pray” training. Please feel free to
contact me with any questions, successes, or bumps in the road that you encounter!
Barbara Flis, FounderParent Action for Healthy Kids
www.parentactionforhealthykids.org
