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The Long-Term Course of Severe Anorexia Nervosa Analysis of Recovery, Relapse, and Outcome Predictors over 10–15 years

Years Partial Full

2 10% 0%

5 55% 18%

7 74% 59%

10 84% 73%

Strober,M.,Freeman,R.,Morrell,W.(1997).Thelong-termcourseofsevereanorexianervosainadolescents:Survivalanalysisofrecovery,relapse,andoutcomepredictorsover10-15yearsinaprospectivestudy.InternationalJournalofEatingDisorders22,339-360.

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How is Recovery Measured?  Recoveryisnotjusttheabsenceofsymptoms.Itisthepresenceofafulllife,asevidencedby

theabilitytobehuman.Atrulyrecoveredlifewillreflectspontaneity,freedom,theabilityto

breathe,tohavewants,needsanddesires—knowingthatthequestforperfectionisan

unattainableillusion.It’stheabilitytoembracethefeminine,havingcloseintimate

relationships,andit’sbeingawareofthetearsinyoureyes(whetheroutofintenseorsubtle

sadness—oroutofjoy–offromaflickerofuttergratefulness)andthentoallowyourtears

toflowfreely.Itisalifeinwhichdecisionsandchoicesaremademorefromselfandlessfrom

ashame-orfear-basedprison.Itisalifewhereyoufullyexperiencepleasure,joy,andpassion

andbelieveandknowitisgoodtodesireandenjoysex.

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Eating Disorder and Axis II  DataraisesthequestionsabouttheextentofwhichAxisIIisadequatefordescribingclinicallymeaningfulpatternsofpersonalitypathology,atleastforwomenwitheatingdisorders.Patientsinthehigh-functioning/perfectionisticclustergenerallylackeddiagnosableAxisIIpathology;indeed,inourstudy(asinotherstudiesthathaveisolatedatsimilarcluster),theyweredefinedbytheabsenceofsuchpathology.Thesepatientsarearticulate,conscientiousandempathic,andtheytendtoelicitlikinginothers.Yet,theyclearlyhavepersonalitypathology,ie.,enduring,problematicpatternsofthought,feeling,motivation,andbehavior.Theyareself-critical,perfectionistic,competitive,anxiousandguilt-ridden,andtheseaspectsoftheirpersonalityrequiresclinicalattention.

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Treatment of ED Premises Philosophically 1.  Differentdevelopmentaltrajectories

2.  Symptomhasdevelopedasasurvivalstrategy

3.  Symptomislogical,rational,andadaptive

4.  Symptomremissionisdependentonunderstandingthelogicaldevelopmentandallowingforamoreoptimalsolution

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SELF-INJURY (David Calof, 1991)

§ Self-injuryisthecontainerforunmetabolizedtraumaticstressandunderlyingunresolvedtrans-generationaltraumaandloss.

§ Self-injurious,destructivebehaviorisfunctionalandisalwaysanattempttoprotecttheclient(system).

§ Expresses(communicates)underlyingdynamicsandneedsandis“trancelogical”(“hurtingreleasespain”)

§ Becausebehaviorisdissociatedfromsensation,affectandknowledge,linkagestospecificmeaning,functionorintent,willtypicallybeunclear.

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An Eating Disorder is…

1.  Awaytoprovidepredictabilityandthereforecomfort…2.  Inabilitytoexpressinternaldistresstoothers…3.  Waytoshoutforhelp…4.  Waytogetloveandattention…5.  Fearofgrowingupandassumingadulthood…6.  Nothavinganidentity,ananchor…7.  Nothavingthestructuralcapacitiestomakeitasanadult…8.  Fearoroverwhelmingterrortobe…9.  Amanifestationofunresolvedtrauma…10.  Providesconsistencyinlifetransitions…11.  Amanifestationofparent’sunfinishedbusiness…12.  Awayofseparatingfrommotherandfather…13.  Numbing…14.  Awayofstayingconnectedtomothertoprotectherfromher

ownemptiness…15.  Asubstituteforlove…16.  Awaytofunctionwithoutfeeling…

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1.  Agoodgirl'swaytorebellion…2.  Amanifestationofcravingsduetoinneremptiness…3.  Arelieffordepression…4.  Awayofcopingwithloneliness–asubstituterelationship…5.  Asolutiontointernaldoublebinds–Imustbe,Ican’t…6.  Anescapefromrequiringperfection…7.  Aneedtocareforaparentandsimultaneouslytoescape…8.  Awaytobeoutofcontrolwithoutappearingso…9.  Asusceptibilitytoinfluenceandneedingtopleasepeople,whilepeoplereject

youandareneverpleased…10.  AnObsessive-CompulsiveDisorder…11.  Themanifestationofaninsolubledouble-bind…12.  Havingsomethingthatisone’sownthatnooneelsecantouch…13.  Aprotectionfromfeelingoutofcontrol…14.  Aneedforfathers'presence…15.  Maintainachildbody…16.  Asacrificeofauthenticneedsanddesiresinordertoseekillusionofideal…17.  Awaytocopewithorcoverupotherhorrificintrusivethoughtsor

memories…18.  Anattempttowasteaway…19.  Anattemptatacquiringperfection…

An Eating Disorder is…

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Eating Disorder as a Disorder of Attachment and Intimacy

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TWO YEARS — Part 2  Themotheroftheanxiouslyattachedchildren,bycontrast,seemedunwillingorunabletomaintainanappropriatedistance.Somebecameintrusiveandmadeitimpossibleforthechildtohavehisownexperience.“Theycouldn’ttoleratethechildhavinganyfrustration,”Albersheimsays.“Theywouldjustgetinthereandalmostsolvetheproblemforhim,becauseitwastoopainfulforthemtowatchthechildstruggle.Butifchildrendon’tgettostrugglealittlebit–andbeabletoseethateithertheycanaccomplishitorthattheyneedalittlehelp,andtobeabletofigurethatoutontheirown.Ifthat’sinterferedwith,it’sareallossforthechild.”

Karen,R.(1994).BecomingAttached.NewYork:WarnerBooks

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Stern’s Work — Part 1  Mollysmotherwascontrollinginadifferentway.SheconstantlytoldMollyhowtoplaywithtoys(“Shakeitupanddown–don’ttollitonthefloor”),andineffect,roderough-shodoverMolly’snaturalrhythmsofinterestandexcitement.HerexertionofpoweroverthebabywassuchthatSternandhiscolleaguesoftenexperiencedatighteningknotofragintheirstomachsastheywatchedthetapes.Molly’ssolutionwascompliance:“Insteadofactivelyavoidingoropposingtheseintuitions,”Sternwrote,“shebecameonofthoseenigmaticgazersintospace.Shecouldstarethroughyou,hereyesfocusedsomewhereatinfinityandherfacialexpressionsopaqueenoughtobejustuninterpretableand,atthesametime..Byandlarge,dowhatshewasinvitedortoldtodo.Watchingheroverthemonthswaslikewatchingherself-regulationofexcitementslipaway.”

Karen,R.(1994).BecomingAttached.NewYork:WarnerBooks

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STERN’S WORK – Part 2  Suchmanipulativemisattunementstakemanyformsandare,Sternargued,thelikelyoriginoflaterlying,evasions,andsecrets.Thechild,andlatertheadult,comestofeelthatifpeopleareallowedaccesstohistrueinnerexperience,theywillbeabletomanipulateit,distortit,orundoit.Onlybyfreezingthemoutcanhekeephisinnerexperienceunspoiled.

◦  Karen,R.(1994).BecomingAttached.NewYork:WarnerBooks

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 Constantmisattunement,neglectandabuseatthehandsoffamilymemberscausethechildtosplitoffexperiences,relegatingthemtoinaccessiblepartsofself.Theperson’ssenseofselfbecomescorrodedwithinnerbadnessandishidden.

 Thisleadstoanattempttopresentasociallyacceptablepersonawithcompulsiveeffortsforachievementandanidealizedbody.

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DISSOCIATION

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 Casereportsofdissociativesymptomsandhighlevelsof

‘hypnotizability’inpatientswitheatingdisordersledDemitrack

et.Al(1990)toinvestigatedissociationlevelsinanorexicaswell

asbulimicsubjects.Theyfoundthatbothgroupsproduced

substantiallyhigheroverallDESscorescomparedwithagroup

ofage-and-sex-matchedcontrolsubjects.

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 Foodisnotsimplyasymptomtobegottenridof,butratherholdsdissociatedpartsofthepatient'sselfandrelationalhistory.Foodisthemostsignificantrelationshipinaneatingdisorderindividual'slife.Thesymptomshavelostconnectiontotheproblems,andvulnerabilitiesthatstimulatedtheironsetandhavetakenonalifeoftheirown.Theyarenowingrainedhabitswiththeirownrhythmsandexpression–ie.valuedfriend/secretcompanion.Thislessonsanxiety,becomesastricttask-masterorabusivetyrantthatpunishestransgressions.TheTherapistcultivatescuriosity,findingandconnectingpartsofthepatientthathavebeendisconnectedsolong.

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DISSOCIATION and FOOD

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 Repetitionoftraumaislessacompulsion

torepeatwhatisunresolvedandmorea

needtomakesenseoutofdisparate

elementsofexperienceusingtheonly

meansavailable,whenthinkingand

feelingsareblockedbydissociativeprocess

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REPETITION

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§ Earlydyadicprocessesleadtoa“primarybreakdown”orlackofintegrationofacoherentsenseofself,ie.Unintegratedinternalworkingmodels.

§ DisorganizedAttachmentistheinitialstepinthedevelopmentaltrajectorythatleavesanindividualvulnerabletodevelopingdissociationinresponsetotrauma.

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REPETITION

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PATHOLOGICAL DISSOCIATION

Fourcharacteristicsdistinguishpathologicalfromnormativedissociation:Onlyinpathologicaldissociationdoweencounterlossofexecutivecontrol,changeinself-representation,amnesticbarriers,andlossofownershipoverbehavior.

Kluft,1993

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Denyingtheclient’ssubjectiveexperienceofsplit-off-partsorselves,sometherapistsinsistthereisonetrueselfandanyotherpresentationoftheclientisuntrue.Thisinsistenceiscounter-transferentialandpreventsempatheticconnectionwiththeclient,andthusblockstherapeuticaction.

Saakvitne,K.(1995).Therapistsresponsestodissociativeclients:Countertransferenceandvicarioustraumatization.InL.Choen,J.Berzoff&M.Elin,(Eds.),DissociativeIdentityDisorder,Northvale,NJ:JasonAronson,Inc.

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Consensus Proposed Criteria for Developmental § SelfandRelationalDysregulation.Thechildexhibitsimpairednormativedevelopmentalcompetenciesintheirsenseofpersonalidentityandinvolvementinrelationships,includingatleastthreeofthefollowing:

1.  Intensepreoccupationwithsafetyofthecaregiverorotherlovedones(includingprecociouscaregiving)ordifficultytoleratingreunionwiththemafterseparation.

2.  Persistentnegativesenseofself,includingself-loathing,helplessness,worthlessness,ineffectivenessordefectiveness.

3.  Extremeandpersistentdistrust,defianceorlackofreciprocalbehaviorincloserelationshipswithadultsandpeers.

4.  Reactivephysicalorverbalaggressiontowardspeers,caregivers,orotheradults.

5.  Inappropriate(excessiveorpromiscuous)attemptstogetintimatecontact(includingbutnotlimitedtosexualorphysicalintimacy)orexcessiverelianceonpeersoradultsforsafetyandreassurance.

6.  Impairedcapacitytoregulateempathicarousalasevidencedbylackofempathyfor,orintoleranceof,expressionsofdistressofothers,orexcessiveresponsivenesstothedistressofothers.

TheNationalChildTraumaticStressNetwork(NCTSN)

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Therapy: Self Integration

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 Ifegostatesaresplitoff,projected,rejected,indulgedorotherwiseunassimilated,theybecomeblackholesthatabsorbfearandcreate

thedefensivepostureoftheisolatedself–unabletomakesatisfying

contactwithone’sselforother.Whensplit-offegostatesaremade

conscious—acceptedandtoleratedorintegrated,theselfcanbeat

one,andcompassionbereleased.

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 Therapyinvolveshelpingtheclientreclaimpartsofselfthatweresacrificedtogainsafety.

 Intherapy,wecreateacontextandrelationshipswherepain,angeranddifficultycanbesafelyacknowledgedwhilemaintainaconnection.

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RECOVERY PART § Capable§ Creative§ Compassionate§ SelfLove!§ Connected§ Clear§ Courage

§ Curiosity§ Tolerant§ Acceptance§ Strength§ Confidence§ Trust

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KOHUT  Self-cohesionrequiresthepresenceofothers(self-objects).Therelationshipbetweenthepersonandtheotheristhe“source”andthetransitionalobjectallowsforsymbolicrepresentation. Theneedfortheexperienceofself-objectsisneverending. Aweakselfisthereforetheresultoffaultyself-objectexperiences.

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Structural Deficits  Thereisgoodreasontobelievethatlargesegmentsofthepopulationlackmaycriticalcapacities,suchasself-observingabilities,necessaryformentalhealth,andthatevenpatientswhohavethem,havethemonlyinpart.Thesecapacitieswhichcanbecalled“structuralcapacities”(Greenspan,1989)havetodowithcriticalabilitiessuchasself-regulation,relating,presymbolic-affectivecommunicating,representinganddifferentializingexperience,representinginternalexperiencesandselfobservation.

  FromGreenspan,S.(1997).DevelopmentallyBasedPsychotherapy,Madison:InternationalUniversitiesPress,Inc.

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Eating Disorder as a Trauma-Bond

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 Everydeepdesire,everypowerfulemotion,givesatrailintotheunconscious.Usuallythereisonlyone-waytraffic:outbound,towardtheworldofsensationandaction.Butwecanfollowthetrailtoitssourcebygoingagainstthecurrent.Withthisdesiretogoagainstdesire,tobuckthedemandsofbiologicalconditioning,thejourneyofself-realizationbeingsinearnest.

MeditationinAction EknathEaswaran

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Re-Framing the Meaning of Symptoms § Startwiththeassumptionthateverysymptomisavaluablepieceofdata!

§ Usepsychoeducationalmaterialtomakeeducatedguessesaboutthemeaningofsymptoms,asasymptom-memoryoravaliantattempttocope.

§ Askher“Howwouldthis____havehelpedyoutosurviveinanunsafeworld?”“Helpedyoufeellessoverwhelmed?Lesshelpless?Morehopeful?”

§ Lookforwhatthesymptomisstilltryingtoaccomplish:i.e.,chronicsuicidalfeelingsmightoffercomfortora“bail-outplan;”cuttingmighthelpmodulatearousal;socialavoidancecouldbeanattempttoavoid“danger.”

§ Onceitisclearwhatthesymptomistryingtoaccomplish,thenthetherapistandthepatientcanlookforotherwaystoaccomplishthesamegoalinacontextthatdescribesthepatientasaningeniousandresourcefulsurvivor,ratherthanasadamagedvictim.

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Failed Protectors  Wherethe‘part’gottheideathatithadtocoerceandshameherintodieting,working,beingnice?Perhapsaparentmonitoringandscorning,ora‘part’likeasingleparent...Theseareinnercensorsandtyrantsthatcontrolus,keepournosestothegrindstone,andwillnotriskanybehaviorthatbringsustheslightestembarrassment.

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Compassionate Witnessing  ThisoccurswhentheSelfoftheclientisabletowitnessthestoriesofpartsfromacompassionateposition.Asktheclienttoidentifyanactivatedpart(usuallyassociatedwithextremebehaviors,thoughtorfeelings).Asktheclientwhereinthebodythe‘part’is,(positionofSelf),thisindicatesthatanother‘part’isblendedwiththeSelf.Asktheblendedparttoplease

stepasideandlettheSelfworkwiththe‘activatedpart’.(Thismayincludeaskingmorethanone‘part’tostepaside).

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RECOVERY

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“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

—MartinLutherKing,Jr.

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Eating Disorder Takes Away… ü Abilitytobehuman(stayoutofyourbody!)ü Voiceü Abilitytobeinyourbodyü Breatheü Pleasureü Joy

ü Spontaneityü Allowancetohaveneeds,wants,anddesiresü Passionandvibrancyü Balanceü Intimacywithselfandothers…ü Resultinginthelossofself,lossofthesoulandspirit

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Writing | Journaling

1.  Yourworsteating-disorderday

2.  Usingajournalentryorintensesituation,followthethoughtsandmapoutthefeelingsandtriggeringevent

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It Is About the Food! ü Deconstructingthemeaningoffood

ü Write,indetail,adescriptionofyouraddictivebehaviors

ü Haveamealwithyourclient

ü Explorewaysofallowingselftotaste,enjoy,desirefood.

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WRITING ASSIGNMENTS § Dialoguewith“fat”§ Havefamilymemberswritewhytheybelieveclienthasaneatingdisorder

§ Letters:toED,tothebody,fromthebody

§ Howdoesthewayyourelatetofoodresemblehowyourelatetopeople?

§ Havetheeatingdisorderwriteandintroduceitself:likes,dislikes,values,fears,hopes,andgoals

§ Whatwillyourlifelooklikein5years…?

§ Whatdidyoulearninyourfamilyaboutfood,bodysize,femininity,andfeelings?

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Eating Disorder Patients Experience of Recovery § Realisticappraisalofmedicaldangers

§ Improvementinthecareofself(e.g.eatinghabits,useofleisuretime)

§ Newwaystoself-soothe,self-regulate§ Abilitytoaccesssocialsupportfromfamily,friends,andfellowpatients

§ Enhancedproblem-solvingskills

§ Improvedcapacitytoinvestinandworkoninterpersonalrelationships

§ GradualrelinquishmentofEDidentityandeatingdisorderthoughts(e.g.“thisfoodwillmakemefat,”“I’llfeelbetterafterIeatthispackageofcookies,etc.)

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Eating Disorder Patients Experience of Recover § Abilitytotakeresponsibilityforselfandeschewvictimmentality§ Establishmentofasenseof“trueself,”“realme,”or“knowingwhoIam.”§ Capacitytoformulategoals,toleratesetbacks,yetmaintainpositivemotivationtogetbetter§ Reclamationofthesenseofone'spersonalpower§ Decreaseemphasisonperfectionism§ FirmerInterpersonalboundaries;enhancedcapacitiestosetappropriateboundaries§ Cultivationofsenseofpurpose,ofmeaninginlife

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Earned Secure Attachment and Eating Disorders

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EXPERIENCE SCALES (1-9) 1.  LOVING—◦  Memoriesofspecialandtenderconcernandsoothingwhenill◦  Memoriesofhavingdonesomethingbad,expectingtobepunished,parent's

caringandforgiven◦  Memoriesofhavingdonesomethingperceivedbadbyteachers,etc.and

supportedbyparents◦  Memoriesofchildhoodfearsandbeingcomforted

2.  UNLOVING–(3)Instrumentalattention(5)Presentoccasionally(7)Good-enoughparenting

WHATISLOVE?TURNCHILDTOOBJECT

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EXPERIENCE SCALES (1-9) REJECTION—§  Turningbackonchild'sdependence,affection,attention,needandattachment§  Speakeravoidsdiscussingrelationshipwithparentonemotionalterms§  Speakerreportsrejectionofsiblings§  Speakerrecallsfavoritetowardssiblings§  Speakerdescribesbeing“spoiledrotten”byparent§  Speakerdescribedselfasfavoriteandothersrejected§  Fearparentwouldleave§  Overturestoparentrejected(3)Mildlyrejectingofattachment,aloof,“differentiallyshowingmelove”(5)Childseldomgivenencouragement(7)Parentmadwhenchildsickmisses'graduation(9)Wisheschildwasnotborn

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WHATTOLOOKFORiNANINTERVIEW

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EXPERIENCE SCALES (1-9)  INVOLVING|ROLEREVERSAL

§  Makingitclearthatthechild'spresenceisnecessaryformaintenanceofownsenseofselforwellbeing

§  (1)Parentlookingtochildforparenting§  (5)Parentislookingtochildassubstitutespouse§  (7)Parentdependsonchild’sattentionforsafety§  Takingcareofchildrenseemsabittoomuch§  Parentconfusedorhelpless;parentnotarealadult§  Parentcomplainschildrenaretoomuch§  Parentafraidtostand-uptoanotherperson§  Childadvisesparentonhowtobehaveasaparent§  Parentover-protective§  Parentmartyr,guilt-inducing“childnotlovingenough”forparent§  Childisfocusedonpleasingparent§  Childfeltguiltyforbadgrade,etc.“hurting”parent§  Childsays,“Iwasmymother’s”wholelife§  Childremembersdesiretoprotectparent§  Parenttreatschildasafriendorspouse

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SOIMPORTANTFORINTERVIEW

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EXPERIENCE SCALES (1-9)  NEGLECTING◦  Parentinattentiveandpreoccupied,uninvolvedorinaccessible

◦  (Distinguishneglectfromrejection:“Heneverhadtimeforus”wouldbeneglect)

◦  (Distinguishneglectfromrole-reversal:“Parentwasill”canbeneglect)

◦  Parentpreoccupiedwithwork,family,household

◦  Parentunabletospendtime,becausekidsaretoomuchforthem

◦  Childrememberscryingatnight

◦  Parentalwaysbusythinkingofsomeoneelse

◦  Parentalwayswithfriends,atbar,etc.

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EXPERIENCE SCALES (1-9)  Pressuredtoachieveduringchildhood◦  Statusorpositionoveremphasized

◦ Over-concernwithschoolperformancewithanemphasisonhowitlooks“regardingthefamily”

◦ Highratingswhenparentswithdrawaffection,whenchildfailstoperform

◦  Childveryanxiousregardingreportcard◦  Parent“pushed”childtocareforself,andparentunloving◦  Earlyexcessiveexcellencestressed◦  Childpushedtodoadultsworkwhenyoung

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Deconstructing Attachment  IMPLICATIONSOFPSYCHOTHERAPY1.  Idealization2.  Dismissingderogation3.  Lackofmemory4.  Responseappearsabstractandremotefrommemoriesorfeeling5.  Regardselfasstrong,independent,normal6.  Littlearticulationofhurt,distress,orneeding7.  Endorsementofnegativeaspectsofparent’sbehavior8.  Minimizingordownplayingnegativeexperiences9.  Positivewrap-up10. Nonegativeeffects11. Madememoreindependent

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Therapist Job with Attachment Trauma 1.  Transformationoftheselfthroughrelationship

2.  Provideasecurebaseforexploitation,development,andchange

3.  Provideattunementinhelpingtheclienttolerate,modulate,andcommunicatedifficultfeelings

4.  Affect-regulatinginteractionsforaccessingdisavowedordissociatedexperiences,strengtheningnarrativecompetence

5.  Deconstructtheattachmentpatternsofthepasttoconstructnewonesinthepresent

SeeDavidWallin,AttachmentinPsychotherapy,GuilfordPress,2007)

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