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Change and Resilience not a Jane Austen Novel
– but a guide to coping with career change
Alan Foum
February 2017
First Surviving then Thriving in a Changing Situation
• Leaving one’s old job in an involuntary way is a tough experience
• Acknowledge what has been lost – professional bereavement• Status – Am I my Job?
• Income – how will I pay the bills?
• Community and friendships with colleagues
• Routine and structure
• Long term plans based on old career
• Identity eggs in the work basket
• Develop a way to move on to a better future• This is the end of a job – not your life
• A new chapter begins
• Navigate the tricky journey between the two• A need to plan and execute a path
• Ability to cope with challenges along the way
The Kubler-Ross Grief Curve
Shock
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Realisation
Acceptance
Adjustment & New Beginnings
Standard explanation of coping with a change in your circumstancesWe all however go through this in our own different ways
Time
Stages of Grief - Shock
• Being told that you no longer have a job is painful• Even when anticipated – writing on the wall• Worse if out of the blue• Feelings of numbness• Urge to do something – run around like
headless chicken• Fear of how will I cope
• Need to try to calm down (not an easy thing to do)
• Try to prepare for it – if you see signs that something bad is likely to happen
• Take a bit of time out if you can – when it does
Stages of Grief -Denial
• We all heard the jokes about the big river in Egypt
• BUT – Denial is real• Need to face truth of the situation
• Need to understand in order to move on to the next stage
• A large blow to self - esteem
• Need to tell facts to friends and family –yes this is scary but we need to do this
• Change social media profiles –professional society profiles etc.
• Create a new professional profile• Self employed / consultant etc.
• Show that you are looking for a new role
• Business cards. Linked in etc.
Stages of Grief - Anger
• Anger at the situation is a natural response
• What has happened is not fair – you did not deserved this
• What has happened is not nice
• BUT – deserved has nothing to do with this (Clint Eastwood)
• It is not personal – even if it feels so
• But need to manage anger in order not to damage people and things that are important to us
• Angry actions can have long term consequences
• Burning bridges is a bit of a bad idea
Stages of Grief – Bargaining / Pleading
• This is a stage many of us go through• Could I have done anything different?
• Is there anything I can do to change things?
• Why me and not them ?
• Is there an alternative?
• Need to understand that this is happening and cannot be stopped
• But – opportunity to get better terms (if possible)
• Make sure that all procedures are followed and know and safeguard your rights
Managing the Exit
• Need to leave with head held high – this is not easy
• Leaving day is an emotional day
• Comply with any severance agreement (confidentiality etc.)
• Hand over work in good way
• Get all relevant paper work (P45 etc.)
• Don’t look back in anger or try not to
Loss of Workplace Identity
• The loss of the workplace identity is one of the hardest things to bear –particularly for long serving employees
• We would spend on average 36% of our waking hours at work
• Work colleagues can become close friends• We share we share coffee breaks and lunch, discuss all manner of things, share
confidences, laugh and may have worked together for many years
• We can get defined by or jobs• By our job title
• By our team
• By our projects
• Even by our office location / desk
• This has now gone
• We need to build a new identity in order to move on to a better place
Stages of Grief – The low times
• What has happened will have an effect on all people
• Everybody will feel down for a time, good days and bad days
• Small things can set you off
• There will be setbacks
• Your behaviour may affect the people around you
• Learn to Mourn – acknowledge what is happening
• You will need to work out a way of coping positively
• We all have our own ways of doing this
• Find people to talk to – get support
• Physical or mental activity to achieve something positive
• Try to take time out
• Most people will be sympathetic to some extent
Stages of Grief – Realisation
• Realisation is not Resignation
• This is acknowledgment of the current situation and the need to change it
• The last chapter has closed – it is not coming back
• A new chapter is opening – but it is a blank page and I am a little nervous
• I need to develop a plan but don’t know where to start – confusion and a bit of anxiety
• Get help and advice – begin to develop a plan
• Get your brochure (CV and social media profile) updated
• Begin to actively network
Positioning Statements
• A positioning statement or tell me about yourself (TMAY)• Who you are?
• What key skills do you have?
• Where have you worked?
• Biggest achievements?
• Summarise what do you have to offer?
• Exit statement – why did you leave your last job?• This is a key question at any interview and needs a positive and clear answer
• Only give this if asked
• Do not slag off your past employer – it looks bad
• Offer statement• What are you looking for – staff role, contract work, consultancy?
Positioning Statementsmy personal example
• Positioning Statement
• I am a geophysicist with extensive experience gained at BG Group, a major oil & gas company. I have a record of delivering geological guidance on complex projects to tight deadlines across the full spectrum of E&P from basin scale exploration to brown field development, including new ventures acquisitions and disposals. I have delivered projects worldwide in both operated and Joint Venture settings, having planned and executed over 40 wells. Having worked successfully in multi discipline teams, I have a thorough understanding of all aspects of the E&P industry, including geology, reservoir modelling, petroleum engineering and economics. I have taught internal courses on both technical and non technical subjects. My greatest achievement was the integration of BG India where I trained up and mentored a highly successful sub-surface team. I have a strong commitment to HSSE. I am a fluent Russian speaker with technical translation experience.
• Exit Statement
• Following the takeover of BG Group by Royal Dutch Shell and subsequent closure of the Reading office my position was made redundant in October 2016
• Offer Statement
• I am available for staff roles or temporary contract assignments and look forward to delivering for your organisation
Stages of Grief – Acceptance
• Acceptance is not Resignation
• Begin to feel more confident
• Regaining and retaining self belief
• Capable of coping with the setbacks that will inevitably come
• But relishing each success however small
• Fully developed brochure and sales pitch
• Growing mutually supporting network
• Confidence to approach people with a proposition
• Supporting fellow job seekers
Interviews
• An interview is a two way discussion
The hiring organisation needs an employee and the candidate needs a job
• What are interviewers looking for?• Can you do the job effectively?
• Can you demonstrate the skills which you say you have?
• Will you be able to fit into our organisation ?
• Do you have the capacity and flexibility to grow and develop?
• Are there any gaps, inconsistencies or red flags?
• What do you need to know?• Is this place right for me?
• Is the job as advertised ?
• Will this job give me what I need / want?
• How will I fit in here?
• Are there any red flags for me?
Interviews - Preparation
• Research the role and organisation• Prepare a crib sheet if necessary
• Study job description in detail
• Work out answers to likely key questions and practice them
• Deliver a consistent, coherent and positive message
• Prepare a set of questions that you need to have answers for
• Engage positively with all people who you contact
• Arrive early to easy own nerves
• Try to be calm
• The more you practice the better you get
Dealing with – no thanks
• The majority of the time you will be declined
• This is not pleasant and repeated rejections can get you down
• The reasons could be :• There was a more suitable candidate
• You were not the right fit for the role
• You were not the right fit for the organisation
• All sorts of intangible reasons
• A few people provide feedback but most won't
• Need to dust yourself down and move on to the next opportunity
• Need to learn from any personal mistakes in the application. but don’t dwell on them
• Somebody will say yes please eventually
Robert the Bruce and the Spider
• In the middle ages, during the Scottish war of independence, King Robert the Bruce was on the run from the English after being defeated
• As he hid in a cave on Rathlin Island, dejected and thinking of escaping into exile he watched a spider build a web
• The spider kept falling, but each time it got up and started building the web again until it finished
• Robert realised that the spider did not give up despite repeated setbacks, but picked itself up and eventually succeeded
• Robert went back and rallied his troops and eventually freed Scotland by winning the battle of Bannockburn
Networking –Key to getting the hidden openings
• About 80 % of job openings are not advertised but are accessed through a network
• Opportunities at:• Conferences & events
• Professional bodies
• Through former colleagues, customers, suppliers and other associates
• Social gatherings, clubs societies, religious groups, schools
• Online world
• Need to• Get circulating = professional exposure
• Have a clear message
• Have something to offer
• Be prepared for setbacks
Adjustment and New Beginnings
• You are now at a more peaceful place
• You have a sense of purpose, confidence and self belief
• You can deal with the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune
• You can and do achieve
• You have plenty to offer the world and the world accepts
• It is morning again
• Sounds great doesn’t it