Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) compiled by Jeni...
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Victims of prolonged Narcissistic Abuse from someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) find it extremely difficult to move on with their lives. This powerpoint explores several reasons for this (childhood wounds, sensitive personality, chemical addiction, ideologies) and offers suggestions to help a victim accept and move on from their abusive relationship(s).
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- Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse Due to Narcissistic
Personality Disorder (NPD) By Jeni Mawter
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- Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your
Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37 If you are a giving,
supportive person who avoids center stage and thrives on taking
care of others you are at risk for Narcissistic Love
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- Whether you were born into a NPD family
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- Chose a relationship with an NPD person
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- Or met your NPD in some other place
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- You have experienced Narcissistic Abuse
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- In the beginning you dont recognize it as Narcissistic Abuse
You just know something is wrong
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- It takes a long time to see the cycle or repeated patterns of
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- So the abuse goes on and on
http://www.caring.com/blogs/caring-currents/prolonged-grief
- You wonder if youre going crazy ?
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- You lose your sense of self
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- You lose your trust in others
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- You lose your trust in your own judgements and perceptions
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- You no longer believe your past It is built on lies and deceit
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- People you considered important, no longer count
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- You lose your dreams for your future
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- You lose your belief in human decency
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- You must acknowledge and grieve these losses
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- You may have signs of Complex Post Traumatic Stress
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- You are often exhausted
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- Remember Knowledge is Power
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- With power you can change
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- Change Your Thinking http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-
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- Stop trying to change the NPD into something theyre not
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- Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship
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- You cant cure a NPD with love or attention
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- Stop feeling sorry for the NPD
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- Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Then youre a likely source
for Narcissistic Supply
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- Are you a Codependent?
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- Are you hoping for Happily Ever After ?
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- Still believe in super heroes?
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- And that the good guy always wins?
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- Think again
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- Take back your control
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- Change your mindset
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- Realize you fell for an illusion
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- Grieve the relationship you never had http://thelovenotebook.
tumblr.com/page/55
- Why did you fall for an NPD?
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- The NPD identified your inner wounds
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- The NPD told your wounded inner child exactly what it wanted to
hear and you felt great
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- Feeling Great becomes your Chemical Addiction
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- www.teens.drugabuse.gov http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com
- To move on from Narcissistic Abuse You must work on your wounds
and chemical addiction
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- Why were you drawn to the NPDs charisma ?
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- Beware The Halo Effect It clouds our judgement
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- NPDs are A soul with no footprints Caution: Quote by Invicta
Ma, 28 Jan 2009
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- No empathy, sympathy, remorse.
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- You are a soul with your own thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit,
future, dreams
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- The NPD must feed off your soul You are the strawberry
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- You ask Should I let them go?
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- Let them go
- Letting go means gaining control
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- Why give the abuser control of your power, your energy, your
life?
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- Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to make sense
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es/2012/01/thomas-paine-arguing-600x305.jpg Do not expect:
validation from an NPD
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you.html
- Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to take the
blame
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ithewolf-d4iggs6.png Do not expect: an NPD to compromise
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- Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to be
responsible http://rlv.zcache.com/its_not_my_fault_post_card-
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expect: an NPD to apologize
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- Set boundaries
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- Limit contact, set clear boundaries or use a mediator
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- Apply the No Contact rule
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- No Contact means
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emails No phones No letters No instant messaging No communication
via a 3rd party
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- The NPD keeps coming back because of an insatiable need for
Narcissistic Supply
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- An NPD person wont let you go no matter how hard you fight
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- Stop the Cycle of Abuse Stop being the source of Narc Supply
Attention Adulation Compliments Admiration Subservience Showing
fear Liking them Being manipulated Being deceived
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- Reclaim your Inner peace
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- or suffer the consequences Is this what you truly want?
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- The NPD abuser always returns It is part of the cycleand need
for Supply
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- Ignore NPD tools of manipulation Guilt Fear Pity Threats
Violence Blackmail Financial abuse Character Assassination
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- Build and educate your support network
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- Arm and educate yourself/others about High Conflict Divorce
Protect your Assets
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- Stop blaming yourself The Narcissistic Abuse has happened!
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- Prepare for a Marathon Effort
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- http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/55
- Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality
Disorder
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic-
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http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim-
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