Mothers Creed

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Mothers CreedMothers CreedMothers CreedMothers CreedAdopt these guidelines to Adopt these guidelines to

strengthen your ability to thrive strengthen your ability to thrive – –

as a mother, as a woman.as a mother, as a woman.

Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

MODEL the behavior I want to

see.

• If you want respect, respect.

• If you want understanding, understand.

• If you want happiness, be happy.

• And if you want your children to grow up to love and nurture themselves…

Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

Orient my life

around my values.

• Misalignment with values = Stress

• BIG misalignment = BIG Stress!

• Learn to notice quickly.

• Use a variety of tools to return to center.

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Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

Take care of myself.

• Get your needs met to take the pressure off.

• Honor your needs and get them met.

• Stop letting unmet needs drive all your actions!

Examples: To be encouraged, accepted, safe, recognized, free, independent, powerful, listened to, ETC.!

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Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

Help others

help me.

• Suffering and self-sacrifice ≠ Extraordinary Mom.

• Being exhausted and depleted is no badge of honor + it leads to un-happiness and poor health.

• And it sends the wrong message to your kids!

• We train people (and family) how to treat us.

• Who needs retraining??

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Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

Energize daily.

1. Build self-care skills

2. Let go of tolerations

3. Build De-Stress NOW skills

4. Let go of attachments

5. Build a crystal-clear vision

6. Let go of taking it personally

7. Build communication skills

8. Let go of your need to be right

9. Build decision-making skills

10.Let go of resistance

Your choice: Pick one to focus on, or a different one every day.

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Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

Rest when I am tired.

• Animals and kids do it, naturally. Why don’t you?

• Remember, being exhausted and depleted proves nothing and costs so much.

• Even a few minutes makes a difference.

• Make it a priority

• Help others help you do it!

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Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

To have the life I want, I will

Say it so it can be heard.

• Speak directly, with kindness, respect and a willingness to listen and understand.

• Thinking it is not saying it.

• Yelling is saying it, but it can’t be heard.

• Ditto for blaming, shaming and justifying.

• Make requests out loud.

• Sing praises out loud, and often.

Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

Patty Cook, Life by Design, LLC - 2008 all rights reserved

Will you adopt the Mothers Creed? Imagine it.Speak it.Write it.DO IT!

• Model the behavior I want to see• Orient my life around my values• Take care of myself• Help others help me• Energize daily• Rest when I am tired• Say it so it can be heard.

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Mothers CreedMothers CreedMothers CreedMothers CreedImagine it. Imagine it. Speak it. Speak it. Write it. Write it. DO IT!DO IT!

For you, for your family, for the world.For you, for your family, for the world.

To have the life I want,

I will Get Support! • Patty Cook, Executive Life Coach,

and Late-Blooming Step-Mom• www.LifeByDesign.biz • 636-861-9100 or 1-866-236-9100• Always a complimentary session.

Call now - you are worth it!

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