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Improve Your Communication
Improve Your Life!Looking at the way we communicate
A little bit about the 13 Factories Our gracious host This is home cooking
like John grew up with They let us use their
restaurant for free Since we can be here
for free we don’t charge Please help support
them tonight and in the future
Welcome to the Year of the Rabbit!
This is the 3rd year for South China NLP!
Some milestone’s for this year will include: At least six sharing sessions at the regular
time (the 3rd or 4th Wednesday of the month)
More guest speakers Our first NLP Practitioner Certification
Our regular events “The way we communicate with others
and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives”
Anthony Robbins
Our theme this year is communication More events like Asking Powerful Questions Presentation skills Building rapport when networking etc..
New! NLP Reading Circle Jun’s excellent idea to pick and read an
NLP book together and discuss key points
For more serious NLPers who want to explore some of the ideas and techniques written about by published experts
Need to pick a date and a first book. Stick around to discuss more after the session
Our First Practitioner Certification
Planned for April 7-10 & April 14-17 here in Guangzhou
Thursday and Friday sessions in the evening and all day Saturday and Sunday.
There is a special rate for regular attendees to the NLP sharing sessions for more details talk to John
Outcomes from NLP Practitioner Certification Training
o Making better decisionso Charisma: Connecting with people easily
and elegantlyo Creating and setting compelling goalso Enjoying richer more fulfilling and
rewarding relationshipso Able to better manage your emotional
state and having access to your very best you
o And so much more…
An opportunity for leaders who want to…
Communicate more effectively with different kinds of people and across different backgrounds
Be more effective coaches to their team members Lead effective change projects and change teams Have a better balance between their professional
and personal work lives Have better emotional stability at home and at
work
Influencing Others Building Rapport: How to connect with others,
increase interpersonal influence and read people’s reactions and emotional states
Negotiation Strategies: How to better handle internal and external conflicts of interest
The Verbal Communication Package: How to cut through the “fluff” and communicate with impact and precision
Conversational Hypnosis: How to entrance your listeners through being deliberately vague
Building Self-Awareness
Improving Perception: Methods to see things from different perspectives and build new behaviors, thoughts and attitudes
Representational systems: Understand and shift how you experience the world and understand how others experience their world
The four-step New Code NLP Change Format: an elegant method to create personal change
New Code Games: Build a better mental state and create personal change
Timelines: Create your future and resolve your past through mastering your time
Taking Control of Your Mind and Emotions
State: How to use your state to get what you want rather than being a slave to your emotions
Attention: How to harness and direct your conscious and unconscious mind
Anchoring: Set up triggers for us to get into great emotional states, and eliminate those triggers that drag us into bad emotional states
Well-Formed Outcomes: Set yourself up to get what you really want and set powerful goals to get there
Interested?
Walking
Taking the bus
Taking a taxi
Getting on the Magnetic Levitation Train
Alright! Let’s get started! Who doesn’t need to communicate?
What makes a good communicator?
What would you like tochange about how you communicate?
Useful Presuppositions for Today’s Sharing Session About Questions
You cannot not communicate The map is not the territory. The words
we use are NOT the event or the item the represent.
The meaning of communication is the Response you get
There is no failure only feedback
The Unconscious Mind & Deep Structure
Some numbers on information 4,000,000,000 bits if information
2,000 or 0.00005%
7 or .0035%
NLP Communication Model2. Filters
Delete, Distort & GeneralizeLanguageMemoryCultureHistoryValues & Beliefs
Internal Representation
Emotional State
Physiology
Step 4. Respond
Step 1. Key
Message or External Action
3. Internalizatio
n
Let’s Talk about Filters: Beliefs Finish the following three sentences:
Women drivers are …
My best quality is …
________ is something I can never do because ________
Now imagine you’re this guy… You believe you could never be faster
than Liu Xiang, but today you ran faster than ever before
Your girlfriend says: “wow, today you could beat
Liu Xiang!”
Do you believe her? Who would you believe? Who wouldn’t you believe?
Language (Words) Last month we talked about “Love”
which was a timely topic for February
Strategies Frames Rituals
Convenient ways to express complex ideas
The problem with language (words)
How many of you remember the “Meta-Model?”
Hint: Our topic in December was “Asking powerful questions.”
How many of you found it difficult to get your significant other to discuss their love strategy or frame last month?
Decisions (Generalizations) What is your best friends cell phone
number?
Opening a Door
Results
Adults: “The Door is Locked.”
Young Children: “This door is funny it opens on the wrong
side.”
Decisions are Communication? Decisions here are our mental short cuts,
like opening a door or finding our friend’s number
When we are told about something that is routine or familiar our brain processes it according to these generalizations or automatic decisions
Take a break – get desert…
Think about breakfast…
Internal Representations
Breakfast isn’t controversial…
Movie Discussion Have you ever watched the exact same
movie with a friend but had a very different reaction?
What was the movie? What were the reactions you and your
friend had? Why did you react that way? Why do
you think they reacted that way?
Internal Representations and Behaviors
1. Think about a time you were truly happy…
2. Smile and feel sad
3. Think about a person who you find to be truly annoying and dislike having to talk to them
Conclusion Based on our previous experiences we filter information
about the world around us
In psychology seeing the world around us and filtering it in our own way is called projection
(The map is not the territory, right?)
Because our perceptions define our reality we often reinforce that our perception is the “right” perception
The first step is to identify our filters then we can begin to modify or remove the ones that are not helpful for us
What about Step 1 & 4??? We will save these for later sessions
including:
Building rapport for networking “Mind reading” More of the meta-model (more powerful
questions) The Milton Model (conversational hypnosis
by being vague)
Any topics you are interested in hearing?
Contact Us:
Email:john.dorris@sino-associates.
com
Website: www.chinanlp.org
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