217. dont be close injunction

Don’t Be Close injunction

Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar

School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114

Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com

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Don’t Be Close

This injunction Don’t Be

Close may imply a ban on

physical closeness. In this

form, it is often modeled

by parents who seldom

touch each other or the

child.

Don’t Be Close

Alternatively, it may signify

“ Don’t be emotionally

close”. This form of

message may be passed

down through the

generations in families

who never talk to each

other about their feelings.

Don’t Be CloseA child may give herself Don’t Be close as a response to continual physical distancing by the parent. The child may reach out time and again, only to get no response. Eventually, she may decide that her seeking for closeness is not worth the pain of rejection.

Don’t Be Close

A variant of Don’t be close is “Don’t trust”. This message is sometimes read by the young child when a parent abruptly goes away or dies. Unable to understand the true reason for the parent’s disappearance, the infant may conclude “Never again will I trust anyone to be here when I want them. “

Don’t Be Close

“Don’t trust” can also be

picked up if the parent is

abusive or tries to trick or

take advantage of the child.

The decision is “I will stay

away from you in order to

protect myself.”

Don’t Be CloseCarrying decisions like these in adult life, the person may be continually suspicious of others he relates to. Even when they warmly accept him, he may have his feelers out for signs of rejection. If the other person refuses to reject him, he may “test the relationship to destruction” and then say” I told you so.”

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