The Emotional Cup · 5 Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup” Pain, Hurt Anger Fear, Anxiety...

The Emotional Cup

What happens to the painful emotions that we experience?

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“Emotions that are buried, are buried alive!”

The heaviest of the emotions… the most painful… sinks to the bottom.

Symptoms of a “Full Emotional Cup”

Pain, Hurt

Fear, AnxietyGuilt, False Guilt

Condemnaton, Shame

StressStress magnifies existing emotions

Most intense emotions sink to the bottom

We have a limited capacity of emotion

Physical Affects: Sleep/appetite disturbances, headaches, stomach-aches, digestive problems

Escapes into work, drugs/alcohol, infidelity, pornography, fantasy, TV, computer, food, books, etc.

Depression, impatience,Quick temper, outbursts anger

Controlling behaviors, obsessive-compulsive “thinking-doing”

Chronic Fatigue, Lower Backaches, Headaches & Migrains

Pain, Hurt

Embarrassment, rejection, loneliness, betrayal, abandonment, neglect, etc.

Pain, Hurt

Condemnaton, Shame

Hurt feelings prompt anger

Impatience, quick temper, intolerant, passive-aggressive, sarcasm, avoidance

Pain, Hurt

Condemnaton, Shame

Fear, Anxiety

Anger is “past” oriented… Fear is “future” oriented

Fear, Anxiety

Withdrawal

Fear, Anxiety

Withdrawal

Perfectionism

Fear, Anxiety

Withdrawal

Perfectionism

Control

Fear, Anxiety

Withdrawal

Perfectionism

Control

Addictions

Pain, Hurt

Condemnaton, Shame

Guilt, False Guilt

Initially guilt is a good emotion

Guilt, False Guilt

Initially guilt is a good emotion

False guilt assumes responsibility for hurtful actions that we are not responsible for.

Pain, Hurt

Condemnaton, Shame

Condemnation, Shame

Most complicated emotion

Pain, Hurt

Condemnaton, Shame

Stress

Stress magnifies existing emotions

Pain, Hurt

Condemnaton, Shame

Spillage

Depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, low sexual desires

Escape Behaviors

Alcohol, drugs, pornography, TV, work, shopping, sports, the internet, music, hobbies, etc.

Physical symptoms

High blood pressure, lower back pain, skin rashes, migraine headaches, stomachaches, chronic fatigue, trouble sleeping, eating disorders, etc.

Results of a Full Emotional Cup

We suffer emotionally

We are unable to feel positive emotions

Our personal spillage will adversely affect all of our relationships

Our emotional cup goes with us wherever we go

Positive results of Emptying the Emotional Cup

Painful symptoms may subside

We’ll be able to enjoy positive emotions

Principles for Emptying our Emotional Cup

Discover and own your hurt

Share your hurt

Share your hurt - with the Lord

Share your hurt - with the Lord, and with a trusted friend or counselor

Receive Comfort

Receive Comfort - don’t try to “be strong”

Verbally confirm your have received comfort

Mt.5:4 says, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted”.

A little homework

What was the most severe emotion of the day?____________________________

Who, what,when,where? (describe how it happened)________________________

I shared my hurt with (name)_________ He/She responded with _____________________________________________

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