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Dating & Marriage
Perfect Match
• Fill out the worksheet about your perfect match. This should be done individually.
What is dating?
• Dating: Having social plans with another person An extension of friendship
• Teens are still interested in group activities (groups include both sexes)
Significance of Dating
• Provides an opportunity to learn about themselves and others
• Individuals can learn to develop and maintain successful relationships in order to prepare for more important decisions later on in life regarding commitment and marriage
Benefits of Group Dates
• Not as intimidating• Less Pressure• Get to know a group of people• Parents are more likely to approve
(especially younger teens)• Less opportunity to be pressured into sexual
activity
Dating Standards
• Teens who begin dating at a young age are more at risk for becoming sexually active.
• Early dating can interfere with development of an independent sense of identity.
6 Dating Standards
• Arrange for safe transportation• Establish a reasonable curfew• Tell parents/guardians your exact plan (BE
HONEST!)• Give parents/guardians background info on the
person you will be dating• Establish a personal code of conduct.• Establish the expected code of conduct for the
person you will date
Activity!
• Discuss with your neighbors. Appropriate answers will be shared with the class.
• What should be considered in a personal code of conduct? Alone at your date’s home? Who should pay for what? Curfew? What are the physical boundaries? How much money will you spend?
Marriage
Marriage
• Traditional Marriage: An emotional, spiritual, and legal commitment
a man and woman make to one another
• Intimacy and companionship
• Framework for the family unit
• Children
Intimacy
• A deep and meaningful sharing between 2 people
• 4 important types: Psychological Philosophical Creative Physical
Psychological Intimacy
• Shares emotions, needs, weaknesses, and strengths
• Share and rejoice in individual successes• Support when disappointed• Accept your partner’s weaknesses• Deepens through the years
Philosophical Intimacy
• Share beliefs and values
• A persons beliefs influence their decisions
• Determine day-to-day priorities Religious involvements Relationship with parents
Creative Intimacy
• Engage in cooperative efforts Learn a sport together Making a house a home Choose furniture, plant garden, select wallpaper
• Share child-raising responsibilities
Physical Intimacy
• Sharing of physical affection
• Includes a wide range of behaviors that express closeness Committed to each other Have a healthful attitude about sex
Sex & Intimacy
• Sex before marriage DOES NOT predict sexual satisfaction during marriage
• Sex before marriage does not involve commitment, there is not a feeling of security
Success of Marriage
• Age Teens have a high divorce rate
• Reasons for marriage• Length of relationship & engagement
The longer the better
• Attitudes about raising children
Success of Marriage
• Commitment to sexual fidelity Provides closeness and respect
• Good character
• Parents’ success at marriage Parents divorced or still happily married?
Self-Assessment Activity!
• Number your paper from 1-7 (leave a few lines in-between)
• For each of the following statements, rate yourself using the scale below 1 = Not at all 3 = Working on it 5 = Yes, I’m confident
• Write a sentence or two explaining the reasoning behind your rating
Self-Assessment Activity
• Develop healthy friendships with members of both sexes
• Become comfortable with one’s body• Become emotionally independent from adults• Learn skills needed later for marriage and
parenthood• Prepare for a career• Have a clear set of values to guide behavior• Understand and achieve socially responsible
behavior
Review
• What are the four important types of intimacy?
• What are some of the 6 dating standards?
• What are the benefits of group dating?
• Why is dating significant?
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